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I'm Sarah
I cheer (it's my life)
I model
I will be attending Yale, Wharton, or Brown in 2010.
I'm not a bad kid.
But i'm definatly not perfect.
I've been through my fair share of delinquency.
so i know how to deal with it.
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Okay. I kind of need a quick reply, please...

My best friend went out with a boy (we'll call him Shawn) for 7 months. She was head over heels for him. But then while she was on vacation he called and broke up with her through a VOICE MAIL.

Well, her best friend (we'll call him Mike) was there for her through it all. Now, being a bystander in this, I could tell mike had feelings for her. And recently he asked her out. Mike and Shawn were best friends...and as soon as shawn found out he began calling my friend wanting her back. It's been 4 months since they broke up, and I think he just doesnt want her with Mike...what should she do?

i totally know the type of guy... ive dated them. the reality is that he probably doesnt respect her or any other girl, i mean he did break up with her through a VOICE MAIL. shawn doesnt care about her, hes just realizing now that his best friend wants her that maybe she was a good girl that he should have kept around. she deserves better than that. Mike was there for her through all of it and if she likes him, thats who she should be with. This other jerk is obviously just possessive. they look at girls as a challenge and not actual people that they could have a relationship with. please tell her not to go running back to shawn for me, because that would just be feeding to the egotystical ways of dumb guys. she needs to go for the one that will treat her right.

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i'm 4'll'' [really short, i know!] i'm 13, and weigh 110, and am not happy about it! my hips are HUGE! and i have a LOT of stomach, i want to know how to STOP eating, i can't stop, when i'm homealone its the worst! idk, if i have a prblem, because all i do is think about what i can eat next! last year i got so depressed i wanted to become bilimic, but i can't stop eating, or throw it up, i enjoy it too much! PLEASE HELP FAST! i need to know, as i type i'm eating icecream and next i'm going to eat bread! i CAN'T STOP! i'm sorry to be a pain, i just can't stop! what do i do?????? thanks :D

well first of all dont feel bad about your height. im almost sixteen and im done growing at 5'1.

in order to stop eating, it helps a lot to stay active. not even neccesarily running or lifting weights. when your home by yourself, take a walk around your neighborhood or make up a dance routine. you can also do things around the house like clean up.


this might sound kind of weird but it worked for me. i got a snow cone maker and i would always make them and put diet soda or orange juice in it. i ate those all day long so i still had something to munch on but it didnt have many calories and it was filling. buy water bottles to keep in the refridgerator and always try to have one with you that you are drinking. it helps a lot. when you do feel like you need to eat something extra, try to cook it yourself and stay away from carbs (breads, pastas, ect...)

excercising makes you not feel like eating too. so talk to your mom about signing up for dance classes or tumbling classes. they are fun and you get great excercise too.

get some gum that you really like and chew that if you start to get cravings, toothpicks help too. you can actually buy tea-leave ones that taste really good and are fun to chew on at health food stores.

110 lbs is not very much at all. dont be too hard on yourself, your body is going through a lot of changes right now and its natural to crave the nutrients from foods. just try to stay active and eat the right kind of foods in stead of filling up on junk

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could you please click on the link below and tell me (without being harsh, please) how fat I am?

like would you classify me as super obese fat chick, fat, average, sexy, etc. (or whatever words you choose)

http://i113.photobucket.com/albums/n210/LovelyBoylan/howfat.jpg

you arent fat... i agree that you may be a tad over average, but that could just me the clothes that your wearing.

the hoizontal stripes in your shirt always make you look wider. i plain, solid, dark-colored shirt thats not so fitted would be way more flattering with some khaki capris or a black knee length skirt. try bottoms that come down lower and dont show as much leg.

i think with the right outfit, you could look really hot! so dont beat yourself up, respect your body and work what youve got =)

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16/f

How could I get into modeling? I live in the Dallas/Ft. Worth area.

I was at one of my Mom's Avon dinners and the regional director told me that I should be the "new face" of their teen line, Mark. We tried sending a letter and e-mail into Mark, but they said they weren't looking for a "new face" and to keep waiting. I would really like to start modeling (just my face-maybe a make up model?), but I don't know what to do?

Help?

i started modeling for a local agency that did a lot of promotional stuff, and then worked my way into bigger things.

anyone can model if they are determined to get jobs and willing to work for it. you need to google local modeling agencies in your area. some will ask you to send in pictures of yourself and maybe go in for an interview. if you are accepted into the agency, you will most likely be asked to get pictures done, DONT PAY FOR PRICY PORTFOLIOS! at least not at first, if you start getting a lot of jobs and it is needed to further pursue your career, then look into it. if an agency promises you jobs if you pay for training than it is a scam because the clients choose you. you will need to have some pictures made professionally when you are accepted so they can be shown to clients. some agencies will pay for them if you are accepted, but it is unlikely. its likely that you willl start off doing promotional things like handing out flyers for companies and stuff like that. this IS NOT a waste of your time. it is important to get your name out. you need to be very sweet and personable when communicating with anyone involved in the industry, this is very inportant. act mature and present your self as if you have class. if you want to increase your chances of getting accepted into agencies and getting jobs, take acting classes, sign up for community theatre, or get involved with pagaents (this definatly helps your resume, and you meet contacts in the process)

if you dont get accepted into the first agency you come by, dont sweat it, its very rare that you would. just be sweet about it and ask what you can do to better your chances of getting into an agency. dont act upset or mean because you dont want to get on bad terms with ANYONE in the industry. agencies talk.

some will have height and weight requirements, but you dont have to meet these for all types of modeling. im only 5'1 and im a lifestyle and print model. so dont get discouraged if they arent nice to you because of your appearance (i was laughed at by agencies when i told them how tall i was)

if you are determined to get into modeling, you can. just be prepared to take criticism and dont let it get to you. if you have any other questions feel free to ask =)

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My boyfriend and i have been seeing each other almost every day, and i still really really like him, i just need a day without him. It's come to the point where even the little things he does that wouldn't/shouldn't bother me normally and are just little pet peeves are having me question our relationship, even though i know i'm being stupid and blowing this out of proportion. The only problem is that he sent me this really long email last night about how he misses me already even though it's only been like an hour since he saw me and how much he wants to see me today, etc, etc. I don't want to lie to him about why i can't see him today, but i would really like to let him down easily. any suggestions?

just be honest with him. tell him its nothing personal but you really just need a day to spend with your girls and catch up on some stuff. tell him that you love the fact that you spend so much time together, but you really dont want your girlfriends to think that your bowing them off and you want to keep their friendship as well. then make plans with him to do something the next day, or the day after that. if hes a good boyfriend, he will understand. you could also maybe suggest that he take the day to spend time with his guy friends

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HELP!!!! i think im becoming anorexic cauz im about 5ft 5" and only 130lbs and when i look in the mirror i instantly think im fat, and people tell me im not! but i havnt gone completely anorexic cauz i still eat one or two meals a day, so my parents wont suspect ne thing, but ive lost 10lbs in... well a little over a month, and i still think im fat! what should i do?!

well i would firstly like to say that anyone who is your height and weights 130 lbs. is NOT fat in any way shape of form. but if you want to feel better about your body, excercise daily and eat the right kind of foods. its ok to cut back a little bit if it makes you feel more confident, but cutting down to one or two meals a day is not healthy. cutting back on carbs will make you feel skinnier. but really excercising is the best way to make you feel good about yourself.

trust me, ive been there. im 5'1 (and im dont growing... yes your situation could be worse lol) and i barely weigh 100 pounds. i used to think about my weight constantly and i weighed myself probably a dozen times in a day until i got down to 92 pounds. it was not healthy, and i didnt feel any better about myself. when i started getting really into excersize and i started to notice my muscles toning up, i felt good about myself and i stopped obsessing about my weight.

i know that its hard to get into the habit of, but if you force yourself to do it for long enough, you will start craving it.

hope this helped =)

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okay well i straighten my hair a lot, there's no other choice. i use a heat protecting spray but my hair still gets damaged. what's some good shampoo & conditioner that will 'restore' my hair? yesterday i just bought Suave Humectant and i didn't use it yet and it says it restores dry/damaged hair and gives moisture if this helps at all.

i had the same problem. i have really curly hair and it was always damaged from straightening it.

i found this hair mask from sleek look that you put on your hair for five minutes and wash it out. it really works. you can buy it at cvs, its called sleek look and it comes in an orange container.

it also really helps if before you srtaigten it, you dry it as straight as possible with a round brush with cold air. and try to be really gentle with it when you brush it and straighten it.

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I need a faster roundoff back handspring. I'm taking gymnastics for my cheerleading team, and my tumbling all seems very slowww. This is going to be a problem, once I start trying to learn a roundoff tuck.
So, what can I do to make my tumbling faster/my roundoffs faster? I have been taking running starts, too..

oo girl... i can definatly help you with this one. when i started cheering i had the same problem, but now i have a double full.

you really need to focus on putting as much power as you can into running and your roundoff. run as hard as you can and lean into your roundoff as if your looking to faceplant onto the floor. really try to snap your feet down behind you and KEEP EVERYTHING AS TIGHT AS POSSIBLE! when snapping out of your backhandspring, try to think as if your pulling your stomach in towards your hands while keeping your legs straight. snap your feet as close to your hands as possible while keeping a hollow body position. so basically if you go into it with a lot of power and keep everything AS TIGHT AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN, you will definatly notice a difference.

this is my specialty, so if you ever have any other questions about anything to do with cheerleading, i can help you. ive cheered my whole life =)

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what are some good excuses to say i dont want a boyfriend
cuz i like this guy and he asked me out two weeks ago, and i said ask me later, but now he did again this morning.
so what are some nice ways to say no? because i like this guy a LOT, i just really, truly dont want a boyfriend
kaaayyy thanks!

i would be like, "listen i really like you and i want to be with you, but im not ready for a relationship right now. i think you deserve someone who is looking to really be in a relationship and treat you like a boyfriend." tell him that you want to hang out with him and if hes willing to be in that kind of situation then you would love to keep seeing him, but if not then you understand and just let him know that your always there if he needs anything.

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Ok. Me and this guy talk alot on the computer and we laugh and hes says Im the only one who ever laughs to his joke and none of his friends do and he will talk like 30 or 1hr extra with me when hes not suppose too. But When Im around him we never talk!! And Im too shy to ask him stuff and I dont know if he like me or not! Does that mean he likes me. Because along ime ago he said I was pretty and asked me if I consider hm as a friend...becuase we were playing to questuon game. So Does he like me?

Help.

it sounds like hes into you. if a guy is willing to give up his extra time to talk on the computer with a girl, hes not just looking for a friendship. that extra time he spends on the computer is probably making up for him not talking to you in person because he is too shy. dont be afraid to approach him because the reality of it is, he is probably hoping that you will. when you see him, flirt with him a little bit, ask him when your going to hang out, compliment him. it sounds like he isnt confident enough around you to pursue anything, so build up his confidence, and soon you guys will be talking like youve known each other for years. oo and when you see him, try playing games to initiate conversation. like the question game, truth or dare, or the abc game (you have to say your name, your husbands name, what you sell and where you live for every letter of the alphabet)

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ok well i'm going to my brothers graduation today and i was wondering what you're supposed to wear to a high school graduation, any help would be appreciated and i kind of need it asap , thanks a ton

i wore a really cute white sundress to my boyfriends graduation. it doesnt have to be dressy, just make sure it looks classy. stay away from jeans. khaki capris or black capris are always cute with a semi-dressy shirt. also, classic but not to high heels make an outfit look more dressy and more appropriate for a graduation. think what you would wear to a casual beach wedding.

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ok, so im 15/m and I like one of my friends (lets call her Brandi) that Ive been talking to for like a month or so and Ive gotten to know her a little bit and I have alot of fun talkign to her on the computer. well last week we decided we needed to hang out sometime and this weekend we are supposed to go see fantastic four: rise of the silver surfer. she says she likes me, but thinks her and I need to get to know each other a little bit better before she decides if she wants to be in a relationship with me. one of my ex's and closest friends is also pretty good frineds with me and thinks that Brandi and I would make a good couple so thats good. well on myspace Brandi posted a bulletin about kissing and u had to respond saying whether you would kiss the person posting it or pass and I said I would kiss her and she just repied with a smiley and typical flirting stuff. now I havent kissed anyone in close to a year because Ive been too busy to have a real relationship. Im afraid to make a move during the movie and rush things, so should I just let her make all the moves and stuff? any other helpful advice would be greatly appreciatated.

take your time and dont push things. i would say dont try and make out with her during the movie, but maybe try to hold her hand or pull her a little bit closer to you. i would wait until after the movie when you guys have the oppourtunity to talk and be focused on each other to flirt around a little bit more and then if things are going well, kiss her. but wait until she gives you a sign that she wants you to make a move on her. you'll get a bad vibe if she doesnt want you too... girls are usually pretty good at that. i cant stand it when im not interested in a guy and he just doesnt get it, so letting her give you some kind of hint is usually better.

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hi...do all girls play hard to get couse theres this girl and i dont no if she likes me or not she knows i like her but shes like ok then he likes me or is she jus playing hard to get and if a girl is playing hard to get what do you do.

well if she completely blows you off and doesnt respond to any of your calls or requests to hang out, then shes probably not into you. but if she does and it just seems like shes not as into you as your into her, then she may just be playing hard to get. i am the queen of that game. and i only play it with guys that im interested in. if i know a guy likes me, then i act like that. its so intriquing to me though when a guy plays it back. if a guy suddenly stops texting me or calling to hang out so much, it makes me respect him and be really into him. so with that being said i think you should just give her a dose of her own medicine and if she still wants to talk or hang out with you, then shes definatly interested :)

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16/f. Never had a real boyfriend or real kiss. Yeah, I feel pretty good about myself. Not. The worst part is, though, that everyone always tells me "Oh you're so pretty and nice" or whatever and yet, guys don't even look at me in any way that says "more than friends." I have this guy friend that I have sooo much in common with, and I've liked him for almost two years and I just don't understand why he doesn't like me back; I've been obsessing over it for days now and it's just an enigma to me. I mean, I'm literally the ONLY person I know who has no one who likes them; all of my friends have multiple guys that like them, and since I've started high school, not one guy has been interested in me. I'm not kidding. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. ANy ideas on what I could do to actually make guys want to be more than friends? Or at least any ideas to make me stop constantly thinking about this and feeling so upset; I just feel like I'm missing something important.

guys are into girls that are outgoing and sweet. try to get involved with more groups of people and start doing more things outside of school. dont send off the "friend" vibe. start off flirty with guys. when you meet a cute guy that you could be intested in, speak clearly and loudly, look them in the eye and shake their hand with confidence, and maybe smile at them a little bit. also... guys HATE drama. so dont talk badly about other people or complain about things. just play it cool and ask him questions about what he likes to do and his family, where hes from, ect. kill them with kindness. after you meet enough guys and act like that, one will sure to fall for you. good luck :)

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When he comes over, we just watch TV or do something else just as boring. Well.. I'm sure he gets bored of it. He's coming over again Thursday.

And I want to do something else. But I'm not sure. He really seems to want to play a game with me.

But I don't have any playstation/gameboy/xbox games he likes.

So any other games? Card? Board? ...Something?

And after that, I'd like to go out somewhere. To the mall, out to dinner, ice skating?

Something like that. But I don't really have any money. D:

Help please..? Any ideas?

well me and this guy that i used to date learned how to play risk together. it was a good game to play because its competitive and it lasts a long time between two people... learning something together is a good bonding experience and at least for me and my guy, it helps you become closer. monopoly is good to play too. maybe leave the game and go to dinner and then come back and finish it. its ok to get competitve with him, because thats the purpose of a game and then you can do something more serious. i built a house of cards with a guy once. it was soo cute!


oo and we also used to play checkers and chinese checkers... they are always good because you can have a conversation while playing.

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if a boy says he likes you and wants to be with you does he usually mean it?

guys are usually pretty simple. they dont think things out as much as girls do and they usually dont beat around the bush as much. they also dont just come out and say how they feel as easily as girls tend to do. with that being said, if the guy just comes out and says that he likes you and he wants to be with you, then he more than likely means it. if he said it because you asked him, then he might just feel pressured to give you the right answer and he might not actually mean it.

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does anyone know where i could get some hair dye like maybe blue,red,pink, or any other color?

spencers and hot topic will definatly have them, but if your looking for something a little better quality, sallys has a line too

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when you ask out a girl what's a good way to do it, how do i ask her out, and when should i know i'm ready

wit always works for me. dont be too serious like "i think we have a real connection and i think we would be so good together..." thats freaky. just play around with her and be like "so i think its about time that we went on a date" or if your wanting her to be your girlfriend then you should do something sweet for her and ask her how she feels about starting a relationship, and if she says she wants one, say that you were really looking for her to be your girlfriend. you'll know when your ready, if your always together or talking and you feel comfortable with one another, then you should probably ask her. with most of the guys i date, we act like we are dating before we actually start going out. taking things slow usually better prepares you for the relationship =)

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hey!how do I get a guy whos looking just for a one time thing to want more???can u guys give me some tips?plzzzz im not looking forward to commitment just not a one time thing more likely if it could last all summer..since hes leaving after anyway
help plzzz
tips would mostly help..
thx in advance

yes, i definatly agree that you need to be very flirty. dont push it too much, but maybe send him a cute txt message saying: i had fun with you the other night, we should do it again soon :) or something to that extend... then when you do see him, if its just a hook up thing your looking for, dont make it too serious (ie: avoid serious convos and sharing personal information) just make it fun and play around a lot. also let him know suddelly that your just looking to have fun. dont make it seem like your talking about your relationship with him, just generally.

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hey!how do I get a guy whos looking just for a one time thing to want more???can u guys give me some tips?plzzzz im not looking forward to commitment just not a one time thing more likely if it could last all summer..since hes leaving after anyway
help plzzz
tips would mostly help..
thx in advance

yes, i definatly agree that you need to be very flirty. dont push it too much, but maybe send him a cute txt message saying: i had fun with you the other night, we should do it again soon :) or something to that extend... then when you do see him, if its just a hook up thing your looking for, dont make it too serious (ie: avoid serious convos and sharing personal information) just make it fun and play around a lot. also let him know suddelly that your just looking to have fun. dont make it seem like your talking about your relationship with him, just generally.

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