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i have to lose like 3 lbs for modeling and other stuff, whats the best way to lose the weight and keep it off? (it does not matter how old i am...)
Instead of weighing yourself, use a measuring tape. Muscle outweighs fat.
Walk at least 10 minutes every day. You can switch between jogging and walking every other minute if you feel like a little more of a challenge.
Having a strong core will help keep excess fat from accumulating. Situps, etc. can help you develop fat-burning muscles and will prevent fat deposits in the future.
Drink plenty of water. Staying hydrated will help you maintain a healthy weight.
Skipping meals is deadly and can make your weight gain and loss unstable. Not eating will not make you lose weight. You need to eat. Eat six light meals a day instead of three heavy ones.
Hi, 18/m. ( live in the uk if it helps)
Basically, here's my situation. I live with my mother, my parents have been separated for years as my father was an alcoholic and I don't see him, nor do I want to. Recently, my sister and her boyfriend have moved in with us so that they could save some money for a deposit for a house, and so they will be moving out.
I just finished college (so I guess high school as an equivalent) and before I go to university, I'm taking a year out to save some money. My mum wants me to go to university in the city that we live in. We have 2 universities- one which is in the top 10 best universities, and the other which isn't great at all. I would ideally like to go to a university somewhere in the middle I.e. Out of the city, but my mother really wants me to stay at home as she is I'll with arthritis, as well as other problems. I understand where she is coming from as she will be living alone etc.
So my question, am I selfish for wanting to leave the city? My grades are not good enough to go to the good uni, but the bad university isn't much respected. Any help?
Go to the bad university and become the top student there.
Your desire to leave town is not selfish, but it would be very honorable and selfless of you to stay in town and take care of your mom. She took care of you for 18 years, didn't she?
Does baby oil help you tan
Yes.
Baby oil makes your skin shiny, which attracts and concentrates the sun's rays.
Ok im sorry if this is long but idk!!! so i go to highschool but the one i'm at right now im not like so crazy about it ...i know everyone there my bestfriends are there, but i'm thinking maybe moving to the school in the next area just to meet new people...plus one of my bestfriends goes there...but i'm just so scared what if i dont make new friends becuase i'm not that confident and it's not block schedule...i'm used to that but my mom said it might be better because i might not procrasnate as much ..i'm just really nervous ...should I go? I just really want to change and let people see who I really am. I would love to find new friends i'm just nervous? Helpp! thankyou! 14/f
High school is not about meeting new people and having fun. High school is preparation for the work you'll be doing the rest of your life. If you have friends already at the high school you are at now, stay there. You're anxious about whether you will make friends at a new school when you already have friends and you're used to the schedule there. Unless you have perfect grades, there's no need to worry yourself with superficial problems such as these. You'll have the rest of your life to meet new people, but you have only one chance to be successul in life.
Success or friendship?
I leave the choice to you.
Hi!
OK, about a month ago in class I started talking to this guy. Ok for the whole Spring Semester (from January until May) I never spoke to him and then one day while we were waiting for a student to get done speaking to our teacher he just started speaking to me. The same night I was trying to pick classes to register for Fall and I just Facebook Messaged him and he gave me a response and asked about my weekend and then after corresponding he stopped but added me to FB. About a week later we went to a concert unbeknownst to each other and the next day we talked about it and he walked me to work. So after IMing he gave me a few songs from the band's album. we exchanged numbers and then it came out on his end that he was interested. Ok, we started texting even after school ended and he went 6 hours away. I always was the one to text or call first. So I just felt that it was getting tedious for me to always initiate everything and for three weeks I quit texting him and then I called last nite around 12 and left a message. He still hasn't texted or called and the question is:
How long should I wait to get a response from him and if he doesn't respond doesn it mean he isn't interested and why would he not be after our history together?
Thanks
If you text him and he doesn't answer, give him a day before you text him again. If he doesn't respond within a week after the second text, he's not interested.
ok so i was just wondering without being a slut becuase i like to flirt!! How can you get guys to like flirt with you and hug you alot but not just ine ALL OF THEM..ehe i know sounds bad but i like flirting...is that bad? and im not usually the one to do this ..ive always been like the saint of my group ive never done anything bad or even had a bf but i love to like be touch with guysss...helppp
You can't trick guys into flirting with you and hugging you.
It's natural to enjoy flirting, but you can't expect every guy on earth to reciprocate. If a guy wants to flirt with you, he can do it on his own terms.
okay im female 16 and have only had boyfriends
but lately ive been looking at lesbian porn :S i enjoy it .. does this mean im bi???
If you have sexual feelings for both guys and girls in real life, you are bisexual. However, being turned on by lesbian porn doesn't make you bisexual or a lesbian. Lots of lesbians like gay male porn and straight porn, but that doesn't mean they are attracted to men.
Ok im 14 female.i have this hat that all my friends love and it has alot of memoires with it.I let this guy that i sorta like borrow it untill we were goin to a lock in.when the lock in was over he wouldnt give it back so i was like watever.i just found out that he let it get shreded from a dog.idk what to do because im really mad at him
If this guy doesn't care about something that is valuable to you when you trusted him, that could only be the tip of the iceberg. Later down the line, he might let you down in other ways. He doesn't care and he's not worth your time.
Okay.. I used to not believe in love. I loved someone before, and they died in a car accident. I'm 15 years old and a girl.. and there is this guy that I used to abhor. I don't know why, exactly, but we hated each other for the longest time. Well, the other day he told my friend Kim that he was going to be crazy nice to me so I would like him. Kim told him good luck and that it is his death.. since she knows I dislike him and would think he is up too something. I concluded not to long ago that he is a nice enough person and I don't hate him. Last night, I was thinking about it and everything reminds me of him. EVERYTHING. I also came to the conclusion that.. I love him. I've had crushes before and it's nothing like that. It feels like if I don't have him here with me I'm going to explode and every time I see him smile, no matter how sad or angry I am I can't help but smile like a goofy girl. I love him and actually want to spend forever with him. I've never felt like this before and I'm angry. I'm angry that I love HIM. I don't know if he likes me or hates me, but I can't believe this would happen. I'm not exactly sure what I am asking. I just need some kind of advice!!!!!!!!! Help!!!!!!
I'm not sure what you're asking either.
Sounds like you both like each other. What are you waiting for? Go for it.
19/f
Okay so this guy from school I graduated high school with texted me like 6 months ago (we never talked in school) we talked on the phone and texted each other almost everyday when we hung out that one time he told me to call him when i got home so i got home safe which i thought was cute and didnt even try to kiss me or anything i just hugged him then we texted each other then it got to every 2 or 3 days we talked then we just stopped talking nothing happened bad or anything we just stopped talking well 6 months later he texts me out of the blue and says hey long time no talk that was two days ago first day we talked the whole day the second day he told me to text him but he texted me first right away instead and we talked all day then he asked if we could meet up in the middle of the night but I had work early the next day so i couldnt then he texted me the next day all day and said i could meet at his house the was drinking and i didnt want our second time hanging out to be with him drinking you know and let alone by ourselves ( he had the house to himself all weekend) but i said i couldnt come over but since the next day was 4th of july we could go in the city and see the fireworks and he didnt answer me until the next day at like 3 to say when im going down then he said he couldnt get down there he wqas working and couldnt go he said he was sorry but after we could meet up like around midnight but i was stuck in traffic in the city so i didnt get home until 1 in the morning then yesterday he didnt text me until the afternoon saying sorry i lost my phone i said its okay then he sid hows work i said fine you and he never answered me back now today i havent heard from him so i dont know if he thinks hes texted me too much or hes tired of trying to hang out or thinks im annoyed by him the thing is i dont answer texts back until like a hour or 2 after they text me its nothing personal all my friends and family know i dont get back to them right away i know im weird lol i wanted to hang out with him tomorrow possibly but im scared to text him..should i text him?
Sorry i sound so paranoid its just guys never want me as a girlfriend im always like the "make out" person so i always become catious when i like a guy because i dont want to get hurt I protect my heart. But this guy has a record of having long term relationships so i feel like something could happen here and maybe my luck will change i mean there is a reason why he thought to text me after all these months not talking right? lol sorry this is so long. But what should i do? should i text him to hang out tomorrow? should i wait for him to text me? im so confused! why do you think he contacted me? thanks so much! :)
He sounds desperate. Don't text him until he texts you back. He might be bored of all the texting. A rule of thumb for texting: less is more. Texts should be short and sweet or it gets tiring. Save the lengthy converations for face-to-face interaction.
If you must text him, text something simple, like hi.
Don't ask if he got your last text or why he hasn't answered you. Don't make a big deal about him not answering you.
my girlfriend dumped me cause she found out i wear womens underwear, they were not even very girly , yes the were pink but she said real men dont wear them type of things and giggled and walked off, whta shud i do ?
Women are turned off by men who wear women's clothing. Sometimes women can look sexy in boxers, but women don't find men in women's underwear appealing AT ALL.
I don't know ANY women who find cross-dressing attractive.
I also can't imagine why you would want to wear women's underwear. Honestly, if you want success with women, particularly with this woman who laughed at you, lose the panties.
Men and women have different underwear for a reason.
16/f
hi so i have minor acne. just some really small bumps on my forehead and cheeks and some blackheads on my nose and chin that never seem to go away no matter what i do. what's a good acne product that i can use to help get rid of these tiny bumps and blackheads but not irritate or dry out my skin? help! thank you:)
Honey is great for blackheads, and is also anti microbial.
Proactiv is a fantastic product to use if you want to clear stubborn acne fast.
With Skin ID you can customize your own acne products for your specific acne and skin type.
17/f I've been dating this guy since March 25th and last night i had a dream (nightmare) that he cheated on me. i wont go in to too many details but it was with my sister in the dream *i dont have a sister in real life* and one of her friends. i walked in and i started crying and he didn't think he did anything wrong. their shirts were off and i had to try and explain that it would be the same thing if i was there with his brother but he said it wasnt...why would i dream about him cheating on me? it's freaking me out and i don't want to sleep again let alone kiss my boyfriend... anything you can tell me about this would be great......please don't tell me to use dreammoods. :/
This dream is telling you that you are insecure about how your boyfriend views some hidden aspect of yourself.
Your boyfriend's inability to take responsibility for what he did in the dream reflects his inability to take responsiblity for his actions in real life. He is hurting an aspect of you that you don't normally show people, but he doesn't know it.
My husband has 3 children from his previous marriage and has full-custody. We've had custody of them for 3 years now in Texas. Their mother lives in California. She has been unemployed since she moved out there 5 years ago. She makes no efforts to be a "real" part of the kids' lives. She hasn't come to visit, her cell is continuously shut off so calls are limited (once a week or every two weeks). And the children are currently 11, 8, and 6.
The other day the 8 year old asked if I knew why she didn't correct someone when they call me her mom. She then told me she didn't want them to know I was her step-mom. I asked her if she believed it was a bad thing and she told me no, she thinks I am a mom. I told her it was fine if she does that in front of people. She took it the wrong way and now wants desperately to call me mom 24/7.
My question is if both myself and the child are comfortable with mom is it alright for her to call me that? Her real mom's jealousy is not an issue because her presence is absent. Most people I ask tell me not to encourage her but she is the one asking not me.
It's a great thing that she wants to call you mom. Being a mom to someone is more than just giving birth to them. If she wants to call you mom and you're okay with that, let her.
I have been casually seeing this guy for around a year now. For the first 6 months it was just a laugh like nothing serious but now we are getting quite serious like he tells me his feelings are soo strong for me and stuff. We're always out, tell each other everything and like plans for the future and stuff. But he is geniunely scared of relationships. He was in one for 2 years and he's still best friends with the girl but they constantly argue and stuff and he says he doens't want me and him to ruin what we've got by a relationship. He's never seen a steady one seen as his parents split up, he had been cheated on when he was younger and alot of his friends parents have split up. i think he has alot of trust issues.
Thing is i have really fallen for him, we've been through alot together and alothough we're not actually in a relationship he always txts me random things like "my feelings for you are so strong" or "your an amazing person and i'm so glad with where we are" Last night i told him i love him and he seemed a bit taken aback by it, he said that they are really strong words but i just said thats how i feel i'm not expecting you to say anything back, maybe i shouldn't have said anything, then he said he was glad i did and nothing will change between us.
Does it matter he didn't say it back?
What do you think of our whole situation of not been fully committed?
Sorry it's long
Don't force him into something he doesn't want. It's hard to turn a friendship into a relationship if he just wants to be friends. Accept it. If he's ready to be in a relationship with you, he'll let you know.
My friend told me that her dad keep trying to feel on her....and she hasn't told her mother...she says he has even tried to finger her....she says she doesn't want to tell her mom until its the right time....what should she really do? Should I tell someone even though she asked me not to? I'm really scared for her!
Call the police and report this immediately. You aren't helping this girl by keeping what her father does to her a secret.
Well im 13 years old and im pretty overweight. Im starting 8th grade the end of august and i wanna show everyone that i can lose weight. How can i lose weight before school starts? Thanks (:
Drink plenty of water to stay hydrated during the day. Skipping meals can make you gain weight. Eat six smaller meals throughout the day instead of three large meals.
Use a measuring tape rather than a scale to chart your progress; muscle weighs more than fat.
Walk for fifteen minutes every day. Switch from walking to sprinting every other minute for maximum fat burning.
Doing lots of abdominal exercises such as situps will help you develop fat burning muscles and prevent weight gain in the future.
ok so my bf and i r going out and i went to his house yesterday we started making out and one thing lead to another and he took off my shirt and bra.we continued making out but i eventually put my clothes back on after like 3 minutes. I'm only 14 and a female and i feel like I'm a slut because we've only been going out for 3 weeks. he said that he loved me and he always talks about the future in like years but i don't know what to think. am i slut?
No.
I really need to get out of this relationship before I hurt my boyfriend and do somthing to him ill regret we don't even talk soo this is wierd for me how do I tell him its over but without beeing harsh
im a 13 year-old girl
Tell him flat out you don't want to continue with your relationship. Don't try to be friends with him, but don't go out of your way to ignore him and be unnecessarily rude either.
Be honest about why you're breaking up with him when he asks, just don't get confrontational.
a guy i like asked me to go to the movies with him and always picks me up and is so sweet, i do really like him hes perfect, but hes ben a druggie for a few years and finally sobering up. my friends dont like him around, my best friend gravely hates him, and we dodge my mom because hes always smelt of smoke. yet two of my girls who see me with him like him cuz theyv seen his sweet side.
that sounds very harsh but hes sobering up for me, and hes so protective of me so i dont get into drugs and from other guys. he is a pure gentleman, picks me up, tries to pay, holds me like im his world. i always told him i wont kiss a smoker when hed ask tho, iv never kissed him.
yet he picked me up n we went with his friends out to eat one day a while back, he got high and wouldnt drive me home he left to party, i had one of his friends drive me home and we got lost. il never forget that. hes the sweetest guy in the world now though, idc that he was a druggie, but then i look back at it.. i do really like him but should i try and move on? does the good outweigh the bad? does the past matter? am i over reacting? any advice on this topic. 16/f
I used to date a girl with a drug problem. She reeked of smoke all the time, kissing her was like kissing an ashtray, and she wasn't the same person. She stopped taking care of herself, and she was out of it all the time. It wasn't worth it to stay with her just because I loved her before she took up smoking. Smoking made her dull and slow and stupid. I wanted to have a real conversation with her, but she turned into a vapid, empty shell of a human being. Dump this guy. No matter how great he is, wait until after he's sober to pursue anything.