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what should she do about her dad
My friend told me that her dad keep trying to feel on her....and she hasn't told her mother...she says he has even tried to finger her....she says she doesn't want to tell her mom until its the right time....what should she really do? Should I tell someone even though she asked me not to? I'm really scared for her!
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That is definitely illegal abuse ... you should take her to a counsellor or teacher.
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Call the police and report this immediately. You aren't helping this girl by keeping what her father does to her a secret.
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the thing is if she does tell her mom as horrible as it is her mom might not do anything. if she doesnt do something it is going to get worse. the worse it gets the more she is going to be messed up later.
you need to convince her to call a hot line. even YOU can do it. if your concerned enough and you think she is telling the truth call the police tell your parents. maybe your parents will call hers and give her mom a heads up. either way she will be going into foster care if her mom doesnt act.
and just think about how scared she must be, it is hard to talk about that. sometimes it take YEARS for people to talk about that kinda stuff.
her talking to you was her crying out for help.
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That is illegal he could be arrested tell her to tell him to back off, what's the "right time" to tell her mom? You should make her tell someone, call the cops, she need to tell her mother, if it goes on too long and gets anymore serious you should tell her mother she will be grateful if this problem stops. My dad says "I would never do anything to make you or your sisters feel uncomfortable ever." It's important she get that vow from her father too, someone needs to talk to him.
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you need to talk to her and tell her she needs to let her mother know. it can get alot worse than him just trying to mess around. even though she's scared, it's better than her getting raped later on.
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Shes reluctant because she doesn't want her mom and dad to hate her. She feels that telling someone would cause more damage than anything but the truth is it could get much worse. I would suggest telling the police or someone about this. He maybe just feeling her now, but what happens if he rapes her? You would feel the guilt of knowing, not saying anything while you could have prevented the incident. It is much like suicide, you tell someone about it only because you want them to stop you. If didn't want people to find out, she wouldn't have told you.
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I agree wih rainbowcherrie. I feel that you need to go to the authorities but being that I am someone who has dealt with having a close family friend touch her in an inapprpriate way I can see the reluctance of your friend not wanting to tell. This is her father and this is the man whom has raised her all her life and whom she believes she should be trusting. Involving other people outside that close trust dynamic of the family could really make things even worse and scary and harder for her. I would truly try my hardest to coax her into telling her Mom first and if she doesn't then you should tell her Mom but get across to the Mom that your friend is really scared and doesn't need to be bashed for what is going on but needs a hand. But I honestly think that your friend should be the one to tell anybody.
I hope I helped.
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If she won't tell anyone then you need to. This is a serious matter which needs to be dealt with. If she refuses to tell her mother then you need to contact the appropriate authorities.
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