I am a recent College Freshman In Illinois and I am from Oak Park-Chicago. I am 19 years old and a growing into my own every single day. I strongly beleive that if youmeet God half way he will do His part to the fullest. I admit that I have so much to learn still but nonetheless I am learning every single day. I am extremley goofy and I am learning to be happy in my own skin!
Gender: Female
Location: Illinois
Age: 19
Member Since: June 29, 2010
Answers: 3
Last Update: June 29, 2010
Visitors: 466
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I'm 22/F and for the most part, have my life in order and know what I'm doing and where I'm going (college, work, future). Recently, I got involved with a guy my age, and to be utterly honest, he's not like me. He's got some big flaws, is a little lost in life, unambitious, isn't financially stable, but he admits these weaknesses. I don't fall easily and I'm smart when it comes to guys, but he's a sweet, caring guy who makes me laugh until I cry and I'm having the best time of my life with him. The problem lies in what everyone else is thinking & saying, that I'm "slumming it this summer". My family and friends think I'm too good for him and that basically he's trash. I just thought I'd have a good time with a good guy and see where it goes, but now they've gotten into my head and I don't know what to think or feel. Will this guy bring me down eventually? Is it a losing battle? Am I too good for him? This never entered my mind before, but being surrounded by all this doubt/concern from the people closest to me is tearing at me. What's my next move? How do I navigate this situation? (link)
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Yeah, like every guy his age..he fits the bill. He is extremly young and realizing that most guys mature a little slower than us girls, it's going to take him time to figure out where he wants to go in life but eventuall he will get there. I feel that theonly issue you have to worry about is if he is willing to change this for himself. I think if you support him into doing more and not make it extremely easy but don't nag him then eventually he will get on his toes because most men want to be providers for the women they love.
I feel that this is YOUR relationship and that ultimately you are dating him and as long as you are happy then that is the only thing that matters at this point. In my relationships I barely discuss m business with anyone but a close friend because too many mouths on your sandwich leaves you bitter and hungry. Telling too many people whats going on is only going to make you unhappy and who knows one day he may be a great guy. Just give it a little time.
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my friend wont talk 2 me anymore, she has been spending more time with her other friend, what do i do???? :( (link)
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I agree with the previous answer. I don't know the bigger details but I feel that you should talk to her about it deeply. Say that you value what you guys have and if there is anything you did to hurt her to let you know so you can both work on it. Communication is KEY!!! Also, I don't know the age of you all but friendships don't always last forever and sometimes your lives take different paths. It has happened to me a few times and it will continue to happen but you will always gn a great friend for everyone that you lose. If it is that time to move on then you develop more of yourself and make other friends. Life doesn't end because one friend doesn't want to take sail with you. TRUST ME! LOL
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My friend told me that her dad keep trying to feel on her....and she hasn't told her mother...she says he has even tried to finger her....she says she doesn't want to tell her mom until its the right time....what should she really do? Should I tell someone even though she asked me not to? I'm really scared for her! (link)
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I agree wih rainbowcherrie. I feel that you need to go to the authorities but being that I am someone who has dealt with having a close family friend touch her in an inapprpriate way I can see the reluctance of your friend not wanting to tell. This is her father and this is the man whom has raised her all her life and whom she believes she should be trusting. Involving other people outside that close trust dynamic of the family could really make things even worse and scary and harder for her. I would truly try my hardest to coax her into telling her Mom first and if she doesn't then you should tell her Mom but get across to the Mom that your friend is really scared and doesn't need to be bashed for what is going on but needs a hand. But I honestly think that your friend should be the one to tell anybody.
I hope I helped.
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