My name is Melanie, and I'm 14 years old. I live in MA. I love to play soccer, and have been playing since I was little. I like to play other sports as well. I love hanging out with my friends, of course.
Lately I've been going through a lot of crap so I wanted to make one of these, so I could help other people if they needed it. Some people may not like my advice, but I can't please everyone. I'll try to help you as much as I can. If you'd like to talk to me on IM for some reason, my s/n is lostxinside87. My e-mail is SoccerChick62591@aol.com if you want to e-mail me, if you do, make sure you put advice in the subject, otherwise it will be deleted.
P.S feedback is always welcomed =). And thanks for those of you who give me awesome feedback, it's greatly appreciated, and I'm glad I helped!
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my grandma wont let me have a boyfriend and all of these guys like me and i like one of them but i cant have a boyfriend but the thing is i have gone behind her back and dated like 3 guys (not at the same time) and she didnt find out so should i just go out with him or not and how would i convince her to say yes bc my mom did alot of bad things with guys when she was my age and my grandma thinks i will turn in to her but i wont so can you help i rate 5's (link)
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I would talk to her. Try to explain to her why you deserve to have a boyfriend. Tell her you ARE NOT your mom! Tell her you feel you are responsible enough to have a boyfriend. But I wouldn't go behind her back, because if she finds out she could be really hurt. She might feel like you betrayed her, and lose all her trust in you. At 13 I wouln't be too worried about dating, but I think it's a good age parents/grandparents should let kids start dating.
Hope I helped!
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Hey I was just wandering what you thought about this one. Sorry it might be kinda long but I really need your advice.
-Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 3 weeks exactly today. He is like really stupid and kinda weird so I dont know what I want to do. Half of me wants to dump him and the other half doesn't. I know that he really really likes me and that if I break up with him he might even cry. Today on our field trip some of his friends were like joking around and told me that he dumped me (and I knew he didnt). He was like what?!? I would never dump her. And yesterday he bought me this really cute stuffed animal (dolphin) because he knows that I love dolphins.
-Please someone help me I really need it!! (link)
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I, personally, think you should dump him. But maybe you could wait just a LITTLE longer to see how things get. You're feelings could change, either for the better or worse. But you shouldn't go out with him if you don't like him.. I think you should tell the truth. You could tell him you still want to be friends, and you care a lot about him still, but feel like you should move on.
-Hope I helped!
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there are these girls..Paty and jessica. okay well paty and jessica ALWAYS get mad at me for no reason. Dude, and im on these girls basketball team and I fouled one time and i said.."oh i dont rlly care." you no just because it was my first one. and paty goes to me "WELL WHAT THE FREAK...YOU SHOULD CARE." and she wouldnt pass me the ball at all. But this one time at school, i didnt get such a good grade on my socical studies test...(if was a D) & the est was on the whole book *well the stuff we covered* and Jessica comes up to me and goes " (my name) wat did you get? & paty butts in and goes I got an A+ and Jessica goes Me to"...and then they ask me again and i said "no" and then when our teacher wasnt looking they grab my paper and started making fun of me. Please helped
SOrry its so long BUT PLEASE HELP ME *
Sincerly,
crushed/MAD
Ps: there is a ton of more stuff that they have done to make my life miserable (link)
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Try to stand up for yourself and tell them off. Tell them you're sick of how they've been treating you like crap lately. You seem like a very nice girl! Try to ignore them, they don't deserve a good friend like you. You can find much better friend than them!
Hope I helped!
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i have this friend that talks about me to my best friend nd my best friend tells me everything she says..my friend isnt the nicest person and she really hurts me but im afraid to confront her wat should i do? thanx a bunch! (link)
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Hmm, maybe you could try to confront her through IM or something. Just say I've heard you've been talking about me behind my back. And see what she says. If she denies it, you can figure out she's not the best friend if she's lying to you. It depends on exactly what she's saying too..
-Hope I helped.
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Ever since my best friend started going out with this one guy, she has been starting to be mean to me like not talking to me durring school and stuff like that. She has also gone a lot of places with her boyfriend's friends (her new friends) and haven't even asked me to go.. I'm worried about loosing her as my friend becuase.. well.. we only have 6 girls in our class and to tell you the truth I don't like the other 4 girls in my class. Oh, and she has turned into a MAJOR slut! What do I do? What should I say when I talk to her??
Sorry It's so long (link)
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Try confronting her. Tell her how you feel. And maybe you can call her to make plans, or talk to her online or whatever. Just tell her you think she's changing, and you feel your friendship is fading, and you don't want that to happen.
-Hope I helped.
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hey, i need some help. i'm a 16-yr-old girl, 110 lbs, and 5'6. i'm really skinny. i guess there's some good from that, like not worrying about eating something yummy with a huge amount of calories in it. but still, i want to gain some weight before i go to college next semester (i'm graduating early). the thing is, i will probably be one of the yongest people there and i'll look very small among all those 18-20-something-yr-olds. what can eat that's healthy and rich in calories at the same time? and how can i make myself look a little older without being fake? i know, its silly but i already feel like a baby in my senior class, i don't want to feel like that in college. (link)
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Try going to a nutritionist to see what foods you should eat to gain a little weight, healthfully.
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Okay, well I am in 6th grade. Me and my best friend have been soo close through elementary school and are families are so close and we even own a beach house togehter. Well, see Through out this month we have started to grow apart. She is trying to be like her older sister (preppiesh) and like that but before she started wanting to be like her older sister she hated the way preps were and that they were retarted and stuff. Well, now she has become a prep and is being someone she isn't. She used to hate this one prep and now she is like trying to be her closet friend. I hate the way she is being. I am hopeing it is just a phase but if it isn't I think we will be spilt up and stuff. I wish I could tell her this but since we are growing apart I don't know what to do. I used do everything to be her best friend because she wanted to end the friendship but now it's different I don't know if I would really care to not be her best friend. I have a boyfriend and since this one night I haven't told her really much about him. I don't know why I want to but then there is something stopping me. I need help. She thinks I don't trust her anymore but I don't know if that is true or not?? Please help! (link)
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At your age you'll be going through many changes. People are going to change, whether it be for the better or for the worse, regardless, they will. It sucks, but we all go through it. The teenage years are some of the hardest of your life. You're trying to find yourself.
I would confront your friend. If you're really worried about losing her, you should speak up. Maybe she thinks you're changing. I would go with your gut though. Do you think you want her to remain your friend? Or do you think you can move on, and find better friends than her? Is she treating you bad? Like, does she ignore you when she's around the 'popular' ones? I know how you feel, I'm going through the same thing.
-Hope I helped.
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ok me and my boyfriend hve been together a while. and we hve done most everything but, sex. alot of my friends hve already had sex. i know some people might say im too young but me and my boyfriend love each other and i know we are both physically and emotionally ready. well he comes over often but everytime im on my period [ kinda wierd? ] but we both hve tlked about this.. and sometimes i want to and others im jus like idk.. but i think i am ready but im so scared i might get pregnant but most people i know of hve had sex and used a condom and hve not got pregnant. seriously what are the chances. do you think im ready? and how would i let him know while we are together that i want to..? PLEASE DONT SAY IM NASTY OR NETHING IM REALLY NOT! please answer asap (link)
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I recently had a 'chastity talk' at my school. It was an awesome talk. They didn't say "NO DON'T HAVE SEX OR YOU'LL DIE" or anything, they basically just told everything as it is. This was also a Catholic guy, someone who believes you should wait until marriage. I, personally, believe it's up to the person. But he was saying if you really loved each other you could wait until marriage. And I believe it's true. I don't know how old you are or anything. But think about it, do you want to lose your virginity to someone now, or wait until you're sure you have the right one, and know he'll be there forever?
He has a website, www.pureloveclub.com if you want to go to it. It has a bunch of stuff, about birth control, STDs, waiting until marriage.. and more.
Hope I helped.
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okay this is semi long so i am sorry but i really want advice: my mom died when i was 3 and i went to SO MUCH counseling. family,alone you name it. i stopped around the end of 3rd grade. but now that i am a teenager i realize how much i want/need a mother figure. i have my grandmother and i love her dearly but its not the same. i try to talk to my friends but they cant really relate and i feel bad making my problems their problems. i sort of want to go back to counseling but it costs SO MUCH and i am not sure i need it....
help me please? (link)
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Hello there. I know you =).
First off, DO NOT HESITATE TO MAKE YOUR PROBLEMS MINE. I LOOVE helping you! I want you to trust me, and be able to vent on me without hesitation. I want you to be happy! Don't hold things in like me! You are more open than me, but I know you don't tell me everything. Which is fine, cause I don't want to force you to tell me stuff! But honestly, when I help you I help myself. You always say you feel bad for not being there for me. Even though you ALWAYS are, whether or not you realize it. Knowing I help you makes me happy. I love knowing I helped you, and made you happier. AND it makes me feel worth something.
If I were you, I would probably need counseling. But that's me. If you think you need it, then speak up and tell your dad. Even though I can't relate, I'd love to help you, and you BETTER know that! Like a few others said, maybe even your guidance counselor.... or another mom you trust (which I can't see you going to another mom..).
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okay to start off i know i am not FAT. but i am 4 foot 11 inches and weight about 105. and i dont care what the scale says i care about the way i look. being so short for my age and having a regular appetite for my age doesnt help. i play 2-3 sports but i know i dont eat very healthy. i just dont like the way my stomach looks...my friends all say i am fine but really they are my friends what are they going to say?....
please tell me if you think i am just exaggerating or i should eat healthier/exercise more but PLEASE do it nicely...(i.e: dont swear and call me an idiot) (link)
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I know you! lol... yeah so I honestly wouldn't worry. You don't wanna end up like me. And people see you from a TOTALLY different view than you see yourself. You honestly look fine.
Now, I know your not the healthiest person. Just try eating more fruits and veggies, be like me :D. You're just a picky eater lol. Hmm.. what about granola bars? I think those are pretty good for you.. rice cakes? idk lol
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ok i get my perdiod very irregularly. i have had it for like a year and a little more and every time my period comes later than the last month. is it just because i have a long cycle or should if balance out soon? thanx i rate high (link)
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I think that's fine. I'm pretty sure between your first 1-3 years it'll be irregular. It all depends on the person. But if you're worried about it, you can tell your mom or somebody, or go to the doctors.
Hope I helped.
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I got my ears pierced at Claires 8 weeks ago. My left ear lobe started hurting and bleeding a teeny bit and shedding skin from the back when i changed into my second pair of sensitive earrings. What's wrong with my ear?? Is it infected?? It's a teeny bit red withthat white thingy and when you squeeze it it hurts a teeny bit. What should I do? I RATE 5'S (link)
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It SOUNDS like they could be infected, but I'm not sure. Tell someone in your family. You may need to wear good earrings, like 14k gold or something, that's what I need to do.
Hope I helped.
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On Friday, I had asked (in an msn message) my friend Christine if she and my friend Jenn were going to a concert that night, because I wanted to go with them. She replied with a big long msn message (summarized) saying she and Jenn are better friends with each other than with me, they just wanted to hang out with each other this weekend. Also, Christine said she feels like I don't listen when she talks to me and that I don't care, so it's hard to want to be around me. Basically, I've been dumped as a friend. She said she didn't mean to put this all out on msn, and I could call her if I want to talk about it. So my question is, should I call her? What do I say? Is it worth repairing the friendship? Should I bother? (note- I did email her Friday thanking her for being honest with me, instead of just ditching me w/o reason, which they've done before) (link)
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It sounds like you want to be friends with her. I would suggest calling her. It SOUNDS like she's a good friend. What would you rather have, a truthful friend, or a lying friend? At least she was being honest with you, and to me that's much better than lying to you. I think you guys could work things out. Ask them what you can do to be a better friend, and vise versa. And even if Christine and Jenn are closer, it doesn't mean you can't be friends with them. But go with your gut. If you feel they are bad friends and it isn't worth the hasle to make up, then don't. Do what YOU feel is best.
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Okay so I went to this party last night and this guy that was there was like "why the hell are YOU here?" because I'm straight edge and I don't do drugs and stuff.. And he kept insulting me and saying crap and it really pissed me off because we have mutual friends and he thinks I'm a "loser" because I don't do drugs and drink and have sex and stuff.. So what should I do to keep myself from kicking his ass? because he's really really starting to piss me off.. And I'm going to have to deal with him for a really long time.. So yeah.. Sorry if this is long. (link)
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I have to say, good for you. What's so cool about drugs and stuff? That's right, nothing. I guess you could try writing your feelings down, or venting to someone whenever you get mad about those things. Or try screaming/punching your pillow.
-Hope I helped.
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Hey..I just want to lose weight..i'm 5 foot 5 inches tall and weigh 126 pounds..i participate in sports all year round..and I just want a way to lose some fat..mostly in the hips..and just asking if anyone knows how.. (link)
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I would suggest NOT losing weight. That was basically me not too long ago, then WOOO things turned around =\. Maybe you could just do some crunches or sit-ups (god I hate those things lol). Not to sound rude, but do big hips run in your family? Because some girls have bigger hips than others because of genes...
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i have been going out with my boyfriend for alomst a month. I'm 15 and were really close. We always makeout and cuddle a lot. Do you think it would be too early to go down his pants? (link)
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I, personally, think it's too early. If you really liked each other you could wait. I recently had a "chastity talk" at my school, it was actually very good. If you care, they have a site, www.pureloveclub.com .. It has some useful information.
-Hope I helped.
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i used to cut and i've stopped but every once in a while i feel the urge again. my b/g knows this but hes the only one and it scares him. i tell him the truth b/c we're 100% honest but i dont know how to tell him its not his fault. he wont believe me. he thinks hes not making me happy enough (link)
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Well, I'm glad you stopped first of all. I know how tempting it can be, and it takes a lot of effort to stop, so I'm proud you managed to.
I guess there really is no way of telling your b/f (I'm asuming you meant that, not b/g). You're telling him the truth, but he just doesn't believe you. Have you ever tried telling him why you cut? Maybe you could tell him he helped you stop (if that's the truth..). Or try telling him how happy he makes you, maybe you could write a poem or something.
-Hope I helped.
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ok there is this guy name josh and we went out over the summer then broke up a day before school started. I still like him. we havent tlaked in a while but the other day we did a little bit. Last week my friend asked him would he ever go back out with me, and he just smiled. but he has a girlfriend. Also, alst week someone asked him would he ever go out wth this girl name brooke nad he said nnooo .. but he didnt say yes or no when someone asked about me. Then wed. at church, he sat near me but not right next to me .. it went me, his friend murphy(murphy likes me) and then josh and we talked in a group for a little bit. Do you think he still likes me? what should i do? im 14 and female and i need the truth .. please dont just tell me what i want to hear .. i need to hear the truth!
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Well, it sounds like he could still like you. But I would'nt interfere with him and his girlfriend. I would definately wait to see what happens with him and his girlfriend though. Maybe you could hang out with him to get to know him better, and who knows what could happen!
-Hope I helped.
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I feel as if my friend and I are drifting apart but I dont want to! She is like my sister. She quit dance and now we hardley ever see eachother. She means so much to me but i feel as f we are drifting apart. What do I do? (link)
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Try calling her more often to make plans. Even though you don't see her as often, you can still stay great friends! Me and my friends are like that. We see each other maybe once a month. But when we get together we have the best times! Just try to keep in touch through phone, e-mail, or mail or something.
Hope I helped.
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alright. for about two years i have been cutting myself. and at first it was very innocent (little scratches with saftey pins... butter knifes, things like that) then one day i ginaed access to a really sharp razor blade and cut extremely deep. and for a year and a half thats how i have been doing it, because it is so addictive. more than once a day, and so i can go to sleep at night. most of my friends found out, one way or another and eventually my best friend got me to tell the guidance counselor. my dad now knows, and so does my psychiatrist (whom i have been seeing since I was 8 and my mom died). but i know he doesnt want me doing it, and niether do my friends. so latelyt i havent. but things got worse. im always pissed off at everyone, and lash out. also, i have been thinking about suicide more and more. i always considered it before but never like this. but when i talk to my friends, all the do is beg and pleed with me to stop. I CANT. when i was on the bus, i started tasting blood in my mouth, and noticed I had been bitting a chunk of my lip off as a pain reliever involuntarily. last night, I cut again and felt SOOO much better. but im so afraid someone will find out and be angry. im on medicine, and everything, it just sux. snapping rubberbands, and all that doesnt help. I know this is long, but im so upset with myself, I just dont know.
I rate 5s.
Manda. (link)
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Cutting is very serious, and can get really extreme and dangerous. I understand why you do it, it's your way of coping with pain. You feel there's no other way. You're the only one who can stop it. Has your phycaratrist (sp?) told you any other ways of coping with things? Try writing in a journal, punching/or screaming your pillow.. I really hope everything works out. Just remember how many people love and care about you!
Hope I helped.
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