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counseling or not?
okay this is semi long so i am sorry but i really want advice: my mom died when i was 3 and i went to SO MUCH counseling. family,alone you name it. i stopped around the end of 3rd grade. but now that i am a teenager i realize how much i want/need a mother figure. i have my grandmother and i love her dearly but its not the same. i try to talk to my friends but they cant really relate and i feel bad making my problems their problems. i sort of want to go back to counseling but it costs SO MUCH and i am not sure i need it....
help me please?
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hey. I am really sorry about your mom. but i think you should see a conseler. Hope i helped X O Michelle *
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I don't think a little counseling would hurt you at all. I know it costs but your feelings are worth something right? Talk to dad or grandmother and see what they think.
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oh wow i am so sorry about your mom...maybe you should talk to your counselors at school or something..just know that you're not alone with this and if people truly care, they will do anything to make you feel better..sorry for the bad advice
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I lost my mom to cancer when I was 10, and I remember feeling what you're feeling as a teenager with no mom. I understand what the other columnists are saying about building a relationship with your friends' moms, but the danger there is attaching yourself to someone who's only in your life for as long as you remain friends with their child. Then some people are saying just go see the school counselor, which is actually a good (FREE) option, if that's really what you feel you need. What are you trying to accomplish in counseling over this matter? I can tell you from experience that no amount of counseling will ever make that void you feel go away. I'm 28 years old and still wish I had my mom to go to for things that come up in my life. However, I do have an aunt. She's always been there for me, and she has become that surrogate mother for me. She's not tied to some friendship; so I can get mad at her kids, and she's still my aunt and loves me. I think you should lean on your grandmother for that motherly love and support (or reach out to an aunt if you have one). Any type of advice that you may need that she cannot relate to, can come from other women in your life; the kind of relationship it seems you're searching for isn't one you should gamble on with a stranger or someone who could come and go as easily as a friend. See what your school counselor says about the issue. Also, visit my column anytime to talk to someone who can relate!
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you want to go back to counseling, but think of your friends for a sec. are there any of your firends that you are REALLY close too? if you have a close friend, there mom could be a mother figure to you. i still have my mother with me, but i still have a lot of cergit mothers. only two or three, but they help a lot. try that, and if it doesn't work, look into going back to counseling.
hope i helped.
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If you need counceling that yo can't aford then go to a school councelor they know what they are talking about and are very good. I would incourage you to start a journal it helps me when I feel sad or just need someone to talk to. Also you should try to get involved in church once you experience GOD your whole life becomes lighter and happier I remember a few weeks ago when I trully experienced the love of GOD.
I hope your life turns out great!
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Try and talk to your friends
if they are really your firneds the will understand and help you out as much as possible
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Go to school counseling. The counselor at your school will probably help you out pretty well.
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Hello there. I know you =).
First off, DO NOT HESITATE TO MAKE YOUR PROBLEMS MINE. I LOOVE helping you! I want you to trust me, and be able to vent on me without hesitation. I want you to be happy! Don't hold things in like me! You are more open than me, but I know you don't tell me everything. Which is fine, cause I don't want to force you to tell me stuff! But honestly, when I help you I help myself. You always say you feel bad for not being there for me. Even though you ALWAYS are, whether or not you realize it. Knowing I help you makes me happy. I love knowing I helped you, and made you happier. AND it makes me feel worth something.
If I were you, I would probably need counseling. But that's me. If you think you need it, then speak up and tell your dad. Even though I can't relate, I'd love to help you, and you BETTER know that! Like a few others said, maybe even your guidance counselor.... or another mom you trust (which I can't see you going to another mom..).
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I know how you feel. I never had a mother figure around and my dad tries so hard but sometimes you just need a woman to talk too. I recommend talking to a close friend's mother you trust or maybe a counseler?
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ask us, email me and we can talk,
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Well i know consuleing costs alot of money.. But theres always a school consuler .. Im sure they would help and talk to you for free.. and do you have any aunts or sibleings that you can talk to.. I think you should go to consuleing so then you dont feel like your making your probelms your friends poblems ....
hope i helped!
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Yes, you need it. It is even important that you go if you want it. You should definetly go, and try getting yourself a female counselor to help you. I really really recommend it.
-TheTeenGirl
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Well, counseling or not, you need a confidant. You need someone you can confide in, an adult figure, a mother-figure, you can lean on. I can see how seeing a counselor has a stigma on it, and they're paid to hear you, so it just isn't the same... but is there someone, a teacher, a friend's mom, an aunt... someone? It isn't so much them becoming the mother you lost, but someone you can trust, someone you have strong ties to, someone that you feel comfortable with.
No matter what, though, I wish you luck in your search.
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