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growing apart....
Okay, well I am in 6th grade. Me and my best friend have been soo close through elementary school and are families are so close and we even own a beach house togehter. Well, see Through out this month we have started to grow apart. She is trying to be like her older sister (preppiesh) and like that but before she started wanting to be like her older sister she hated the way preps were and that they were retarted and stuff. Well, now she has become a prep and is being someone she isn't. She used to hate this one prep and now she is like trying to be her closet friend. I hate the way she is being. I am hopeing it is just a phase but if it isn't I think we will be spilt up and stuff. I wish I could tell her this but since we are growing apart I don't know what to do. I used do everything to be her best friend because she wanted to end the friendship but now it's different I don't know if I would really care to not be her best friend. I have a boyfriend and since this one night I haven't told her really much about him. I don't know why I want to but then there is something stopping me. I need help. She thinks I don't trust her anymore but I don't know if that is true or not?? Please help!
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ok this is what i would do i would straight up tell her that if she is going to be a poser that its just not going to work with yall anymore and then if she says whatever she wasn't ever a really ever a good friend in the first place
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You need to sit her down and have a serious talk. Maybe something else is bothering her to make her want to change who she is. Does she get made fun of for not being a "prep"? (P.S. i hate labels...) Even so, you need to explain to her that you love her for who she is and that's all that should matter. In a perfect world, no one would care how anyone else dressed. OK, so it's not perfect world, but you shouldn't be split just because of that. Let her know you're worried that you two will not be friends anymore because of how you're growing apart. If she snubs you or acts like she doesn't know what you're talking about or blames the whole thing on you, she's not worth it.
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okay first off i dont like labels like "prep, punk, goth, nerd" but i want to help you cause i went through something semi like this. friends grow apart. its a huge part of life. you dont have to decide right away if you want to still be her friend or not. but the way you put it, it sounds like she has changed and it is getting harder for you to get along. do you have any other close friends you can talk to about this?...if in the end you decide you will be friends thats great but if not try not to end it on a sour note. let her know that if she needs you you will be there for her. but ultimately this is your decision
i hope i helped and please rate. thank you
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Well this happens you grow up and change. Me and my friend used to be best friends and were in sixth grade now that i'm in seventh i still talk here and thee but its like it used to be. Thats ok except that your friend is noticing it and she obviously doesn't like the change either.
You can tell because she still wants to know about your life and she missess you. I would just envite her over to spend the night or somthing just you two and you can talk and watch movies and hang out. Tell her about your boyfriend and maybe she'll open up to you about her new found prepiness. If you two grow apart it's ok it happens. Just find another friend i know it will take time to grow as close as you were with this friend to a new one. but you don't want to miss out. so just go with the flow and take it step by step day by day.
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wow youre in sixth grade and you have better writting skills than most of the people on here. i find capitals to be oppressing, but the correct sentence structure is a very nice touch. anyways jsut because shes prep, stay with her wether its a phase or not.
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It sounds like your friendship has a few problems.People do change as they get older and it could be her changes just don't include you anymore.You need to talk to her and let her know that if you guys are going to remain friends you need to communicate more.
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Okay.. you have to talk to her about it even if you are scared. This is exactly why you are growing apart because you arent talking to eachother. Talk to her tell her you trust her.
Always there..
Donna
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ok to start out with you really shouldnt care if shes a prep or not i have alot of punk prep goth ect types of friends and trust me IT DOESNT MATTER
you should talk to your friend and get every thing strightend out with her and every thing should be okay!
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At your age you'll be going through many changes. People are going to change, whether it be for the better or for the worse, regardless, they will. It sucks, but we all go through it. The teenage years are some of the hardest of your life. You're trying to find yourself.
I would confront your friend. If you're really worried about losing her, you should speak up. Maybe she thinks you're changing. I would go with your gut though. Do you think you want her to remain your friend? Or do you think you can move on, and find better friends than her? Is she treating you bad? Like, does she ignore you when she's around the 'popular' ones? I know how you feel, I'm going through the same thing.
-Hope I helped.
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Dear growing,
You sound like a very intelligent girl and your first line says it best. Growing apart....
People come into your life to help you to grow. When that purpose is served, sometimes you or the other person may move on. Do not be sad about this. This is a good thing. As you get older, you will try all sorts of things and try to be all different ways. This is to help you decide what you like and help you to be comfortable with who you are. Your friend is probably going through this 'phase' right now because she is testing it out. She's trying something different. And that's okay. Believe me, you'll do it too. Think of it as an opportunity to get to know yourself better. In school, begin smiling and being friendlier to others. You will begin to make all sorts of new friends. Act confident and you will eventually feel confident. Fake it until you make it. Please don't be mad at your friend or judge her for trying something different. Be the bigger person and enjoy the fact that you have helped someone else to grow just as she has helped you to grow. You'll do fine!
Good luck!
Lindacht
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It sounds like a phase to me. But like you said you never know. I would try talkin to her. But start out with.. Hey I just wanted to ask you if you think that you have changed at all... if she says no then start askin her who she thinks is her best friend, and have her stores that she buys her clothes at changed. Try to show her that things are not right. Also, just wait til next year in midde school everything changes. litterally EVERYTHING.. people split off into so amny groups and other schools come together. Just keep a place for her there and if she ever comes cryin back make sure that you tell her you arent goin to be there for her unless she can say she wont walk out on you like she did here. Good luck
If she says anything just tell her " some people come into your life and walk back out with no effect; others come into your life and leave footprints on your heart" Ask her what she thinks your shoe size is because most likely you left footprints.
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