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I've been dumped
On Friday, I had asked (in an msn message) my friend Christine if she and my friend Jenn were going to a concert that night, because I wanted to go with them. She replied with a big long msn message (summarized) saying she and Jenn are better friends with each other than with me, they just wanted to hang out with each other this weekend. Also, Christine said she feels like I don't listen when she talks to me and that I don't care, so it's hard to want to be around me. Basically, I've been dumped as a friend. She said she didn't mean to put this all out on msn, and I could call her if I want to talk about it. So my question is, should I call her? What do I say? Is it worth repairing the friendship? Should I bother? (note- I did email her Friday thanking her for being honest with me, instead of just ditching me w/o reason, which they've done before)
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Yes, call her and see whats going on.
Ask why she feels this way.Friendships are always worth re[airing if anyway possible.
I think you should talk to her.You will feel better if you do.If she no longer wants to be friends fine.But you will know you did all you could do.
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I do applaud her, it sounds like she was as polite as possible about it. I applaud you for recognizing this and not just getting comepletely pissed off.
You have two options. Try and repair, or let it go. Either way, you should call her. Either to talk about how you could be a better friend or just for some closure for yourself.
If you want to salvage the relationship, listen to her, care about what she says, and be there.
If not, tell her thanks again for being straightforward and get on with your life.
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try to repair the realationship, tell her that ws mean and stuff and that u can do any thing to prevent that
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This must be hurting you, they've just decided to drop you and leave, and they aren't even going to take you back, they are just going to go and not feel bad. You should call her, and tell her, "I'm sorry I'm not what you want me to be, I know that you feel like I'm not listening, but I am here to tell you that I have always listened, I am thinking that maybe you want me to give you advice, but I'm not good at that. What is it that you need me to do? You don't want me at the concert with you guys, so I guess I'm not going, what more are you asking for? Because, I think that you guys want me out of the picture, and knowing that this has happened previously, I think I should just decide for myself and get out of your lives." Don't let them stomp all over you like that, you need to get them to tell the truth, maybe its not just, "you don't listen" its probably more than that, and you should do whateve it takes to know, or just ditch them by not hanging out with them.
-TheTeenGirl
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It sounds like you want to be friends with her. I would suggest calling her. It SOUNDS like she's a good friend. What would you rather have, a truthful friend, or a lying friend? At least she was being honest with you, and to me that's much better than lying to you. I think you guys could work things out. Ask them what you can do to be a better friend, and vise versa. And even if Christine and Jenn are closer, it doesn't mean you can't be friends with them. But go with your gut. If you feel they are bad friends and it isn't worth the hasle to make up, then don't. Do what YOU feel is best.
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Okay this sitation all depends on one big thing: how good a friend do YOU think she is?
if she is a good friend call her and ask how you could be a better friend and ask if she would please hang out with you one day so you could just talk or do something fun. it sounds like she was trying to be honest with you which shows she cares about you enough to not lie.
if shes not a good friend you could still call her just to say you will always be there for her but you think you should both go your seperate ways...
i hope that helped =]
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i wouldnt call if she really wanted to be your friend she'd give you a call if she dont it ain't worth having her as friend.i hope i helped you.~
kim~
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Honestly, talking with your friend Christine may not resolve anything, but if it did, wouldn't it be worth it? I think calling her would be a good idea--what's the worse that could happen? If they've already dumped you, then what are you losing? If they aren't, then you could be taking a vital step toward restoring a friendship.
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well if you think you dont listen or take her seriously, you might consider taking her seriously and listening. if you dont think this you can just leave her as a friend i guess. but if you dont think so, i say call her, ask her how you can and her can make things better. its really up to you if you thinks it worth the time to repair. i hope i helped.
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anonymous -
Simply your answer relies in how you feel. How much do these people mean to you? If you value their friendship, give it a shot. Compared to if you don't give a crap, just drop it and find new friends.
They were being honest with you, but I don't think it was right of them to dump you as a friend. The least they could've done was continue being friends with you even after the confrontation.
I've been through the same scenario except I wasn't in your position. I was the one who did the dropping. Why I did it was because I confronted my "friends" about their behavior before, and when they didn't acknowledge the effect that it had on my feelings, I didn't give them a second chance.
Now if you were to go and try to repair this friendship, really listen to them and what they have to say. If they mean that much to you, realize the pain or hurt you've caused them and make a difference. Make it up to them.
As for what to say, tell them how you feel. Tell them that their friendship means a lot to you and explain to them how you'll make it up to them.
Good luck!
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