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Grrr..
13/female
my grandma wont let me have a boyfriend and all of these guys like me and i like one of them but i cant have a boyfriend but the thing is i have gone behind her back and dated like 3 guys (not at the same time) and she didnt find out so should i just go out with him or not and how would i convince her to say yes bc my mom did alot of bad things with guys when she was my age and my grandma thinks i will turn in to her but i wont so can you help i rate 5's
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hmmmmm...talk to your grandma... if she doesn't allow it that's just how it is if you go behind her back you could risk future dates ((that she would allow)) to be eliminated(( that means she won't let you date for even longer)) but i have a feeling you aren't gunna listen to this so i guess you'll do what you do but i gave my opinion!
hope that helped <3
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Well if I were you I would try both but try to convince her 1st and explain to her how you're from your mom but you're not her and you promise you wont mess up.Liek my grandma could care less whether I have a boyfriend or not.Then if your grandma says no SNEAK!!!I think think sneaking kinda makes it more exciting!
-HOPE I HELPED!!!:)
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Just talk to your grandma and then see if the guy can come over and meet her sometime. then maybe she will let you go out wtih him. But dont go behind her back because if she finds out about it, she will never let you go again! Just be straight foward with her. Hope this helped. tell me how thigns go!
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Tell your gma that you are not your mom your you . Your not gonna get into things your mom got into and that you can handle a boyfriend.
if that doesnt work hehe then just go behind her back :) If guys like you you cant help it.
* anytime ASKAWAY
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This lady let her 16 year old daughter to go everywhere and date guys since she was 16 and she decided to get married at the age of 16 to a 19 year old drug and alcohol addict. Now she is 17 years old, a dropout, she doesn't work, and well her husband wont let her talk to or see her mom. This girl regreted what she did and because she calls her mother secretly her abuses her. Maybe your grandma doesn't want something like that happening to you but I say you should go out with this guy but just don't do anything stupid that you will regret because he might abuse you if you make a stupid choice. Trust me I thought my mom hated me when she didn't let me get a boyfriend turns out she was just being a mom and looking out for me because she didnt want me to get hurt.
WeLL HoPe I HeLpED!
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Try to tell her that you afraid to do those things and you like your life right now and you dont want to mess it up like the things your mom did. Tell her she can trust you with this and it isnt a big deal to hav a boy friend and you are picky when it comes to guys. I hope you can talk to her and tell her how you really feel<< lol follow your heart! jk but you do need to convince her that you should hav a bf. hope this helps! xoxo BLONDE911
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I probably won't be much help but i'll give it a try.
13 is a little young for dating to me too.One guy one girl dating anyway.Maybe if it was a chaperoned thing.Maybe she will take you both out to do something for instance.If she got to know the guy she may be ok with him.
It will be hard to forget the bad things your mom did in the past.If you have a good relationship with her she will learn to trust you. You won't get it sneaking around though.That is probably what your mom did.If you get caught you will be in worse shape.Better to try and talk to her about it.Let her meet boyfriends, get them to hang out with you and grandma until she gets used to the idea.
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I would talk to her. Try to explain to her why you deserve to have a boyfriend. Tell her you ARE NOT your mom! Tell her you feel you are responsible enough to have a boyfriend. But I wouldn't go behind her back, because if she finds out she could be really hurt. She might feel like you betrayed her, and lose all her trust in you. At 13 I wouln't be too worried about dating, but I think it's a good age parents/grandparents should let kids start dating.
Hope I helped!
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well if it worked the first 2 times its bound to work again.. and tell her u wont turn out like your mom
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your grandma is wiered
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Im in the same situation. My dad wont let me date any guys because my older sister got pregnet at the age of 16 and now she has ruined mine adn my other sisters dating life. But i talked to him, and told him i am not like my sister and i saw what happened to her, and i dont want my life to be like that. And i let him meet the guy and the guy came over to my house and hung out there with me and my family a little. Then after 2 weeks, he let us go out on a date by ourself. So i think you should talk to you grandma and then see if the guy can come over for a little and let your grandma see how he acts and all .. then maybe she will let yall go out! hope this helped. lemme know how thigns go!
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try to talk to her, and have the guy meet her, and then maybe she will see that he is good! try and set some guide lines! THings like that!
But when you talk to her, try to be nice, and calm! try to compremize!!
Hope I Helped!
-*KeLs*-
P.S.= I hope everything works out!!! If you ever need anything drop one in my inbox!
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Talk to your grandma and explain why you want to go out with this guy. Say that it's just a date you won't do anything and keep your word and also say you aren't your mom. Beg her to listen and even if she still says no. I would go out with him but keep it as a sercret relationship until she does say you can have one and then you come home the next day and tell her you just got with the guy you were with but pretend like you just go the boyfriend today. That might have been a little confusing but I hope I helped and I am always here and I can explain it to you more if you like just leave me a message in my inbox. Hope I was a help!
>3~Chrissie
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talk to your grandma about it. Don't yell, just talk to her. I wouldn't go behind her back again, even though you didn't get caught the first time, because if she does find out you'll break her trust and then she probably won't even consider the matter at all. Anyway, talk to her. Sit down and set rules with her, that way it's a compromise. Be mature, stand your ground, but, again, don't yell or wine, that will probably just make her think that you're not old enough to have a boyfriend at all. Good luck!
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your *grandma* wont let you???? ok then lol well, i say just do it again but be very careful not to get caught. and i think it would be her choice. it should be your parents. well, if you are 12 or younger maybe you just shouldnt have a bf and if you are 16 and up i say its your choice.
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your *grandma* wont let you???? ok then lol well, i say just do it again but be very careful not to get caught. and i think it would be her choice. it should be your parents. well, if you are 12 or younger maybe you just shouldnt have a bf and if you are 16 and up i say its your choice.
♥~Carrie~♥
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