Ask me anything, but I prefer questions about menstruation, spirituality, feminism, and history.
However, since there are so many confuzzled, "shy," young women out there, I usually end up answering questions about dating.
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All you girls out there...
I am kind of shy, but am trying to be more outgoing, which I am finding easier and easier. Usually when I like a guy, they have no clue, but I would like to change that. What are the best ways to flirt? If you could tell me some of your favorite flirting moves I would appreciate it. Any little flirty gesture or something that always works for you?
And for you guys out there, what kind of things do you love when a girl does? What is the best ways for a girl to flirt in you opinion? How do you like a girl letting you know she is interested in you?
Please keep in mind that I am kind of reserved, so please don't tell me to go up and grab his butt or something, thats not really my style. Thank you so much in advance for your advice! (link)
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Since I don't know your specific situation, I'll tell you what I did to snatch my boyfriend. There's a Borders Cafe & Bookstore a block away from my high school. One Friday, I flirted by jokingly whining, "Oh no, I'm going to Borders after school and I'll be all alone by my poor lonesome self. What am I going to do?" He got the hint and agreed to come with me and that was our first date.
You could also poke him to see if he's ticklish. Ask him his sign and then say, "Oh man, I'm so sorry!" If he tells a joke, laugh normally and casually, then snort like Erkel (from Family Matters, remember?).
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I am 14 years old, and i like a guy that goes to my school. He is going out with the biggist slut ever.. & I like him alot! Everyone thinks they are wrong for each other. I need a way to win him over. I donno what to do cuz me and the girl hate each other. He won't listen to any of his friends and i know he wont listen to me. We would be the best couple ever! So if you have any advice please feel free to give it!! (link)
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Firstly, there is no such things as the "best" couple.
If they're so "wrong" for each other, then they won't last long. Irregardless, find yourself a single guy to ask out.
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13/middle school
I don't know how to talk or start a convo with a boy (mainly a boy I like). Can someone please tell me ways to talk or start a convo without sounding like I like them? I am always so shy nd nervous so I really need help. (link)
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Ask him if he's seen some recent movie, like Shaun of the Dead or Ray. From there, move on to talking about some similar movie. Start complaining about an actor that you mutually hate and there you go.
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I am absolutely positively crazy in love with this guy at my school. We flirt like crazy, but i am so not good at making the first move, and i want to be his girlfriend because i think about him all the time and we are perfect for each other. Is there any mild way of hinting you want to go out with someone without actually asking them? Please help!
Signed- Lovesick puppy (link)
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Firstly, there is no such thing as "perfect."
Ask him out. You could either do that or wait around for him to ask you out. And, if you wait, nothing will happen.
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well my friend Ill call her *Kara* is like obsessed with a guy ill call him *Curt*. *Kara* doesnt think he likes her. So *Kara* is all depressed and stuff and thinks she doesnt deserve to live, all cuz she thinks *Curt* doesnt like her. *Kara* has asked *Curt* out numerous times, he said yes once but that only lasted a few days, all the rest of the times, *Curt* said no. Now to get to the point...*Kara* wants to kill her self and all she listens to is music about death. I dont want her to kill herself and i talk to her about if all the time. what should i do? Thanks a bunch!! (link)
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You need to tell a counselor. She should not depend on "Curt" and be so upset that he doesn't want to go out with her. She's blowing it way out of proportion and is endangering herself.
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My boy is really nice to me only some days. Like one day he'll be all nice and smile at me and talk to me. Sometimes massages my shoulders for no reason, but it's cool. But then like the next day, he'll be all quiet, won't say nothin to me. I mean, I get that guys don't like to talk to you all the time, but this is my homeboy. What's up with him talking to me one day and then ignoring me the next. Cause I think I'm falling for him. (link)
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Maybe he's waiting for you to act the same way to him.
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Ok i have been dating my boyfriend for about 2 months now and in the beginning of the realtionship my bestfriend thought we were perfect for eachother... well about 2 weeks ago he fractured his ankle and was really upset about becuz he couldn't play baseball and baseball is his life!! so he got really angry and took it all out on me! well now were both over it and we couldn't be any happier with each other... well the problem is i always told my bestfriend wat was happening and she kept telling me to break up with him and that she doesn't like him... how can i prove to her that my bf and i are perfect for each other and everybody has their fights!? (link)
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Firstly, two points:
1) There is no such thing as "perfect"
2) If he hit you or insulted you, you should dump him, that's abusive behavior
Just keep going happily along and your friend will see that everything is fine. If she doesn't, tell her that her nagging is making you rethink your friendship.
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is it normal to every so often not have your period for a month? i have never had sex and im 14 thanks.. (link)
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It's very normal. One way to get it started is to buy some new, white panties and wear them without pads. Aunt Flo LOVES to mess up new, white panties.
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I have piano lessons and I love it. My mom says that im probably going to quit because I dont practice. But i do practice! She just never listens! I really really really dont want to quit Piano! Music is my life! I have an absolute passion for it! I LOVE music!
Ana (link)
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How about you tell her when you're practicing? Right before you sit down and practice, go up to her and tell her, "Mom, I'm going to practice the piano now."
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my parents are divorced and it seems that all my friends have a very happy family. i cant help but feel theres something wrong with me...why cant i have a perfect family and perfect life like everyone else? what have i done wrong!??! (link)
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You have done nothing wrong.
My parents are divorced too. Growing up, it always seemed as though my friends who had both parents were happy and perfect. Trust me, they're not. One of my friends had an abusive, alcoholic father who never worked. Another friend had a father who constantly put down her mom and her sister has an anger disorder. Another friend gets blamed for absolutely everything her brothers do. Another friend's mom is an alcoholic. It goes on and on. The older you get, the more you see the problems in others' families. Sad, but true. The only perfect families are those on tv and in movies.
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ok i have had this boyfriend for 3 months almost 4 months now. and you see everyone is like at 5 or 6th months you should have sex. but i dont want to. i mean i'm only 14. i love him alot. alot. alot. but i mean all we do now is really is talk and make out which is enough for me but i mean should i do other stuff? and everyone says that me and my boyfriend are gunna get married. we barly knew each other before we started going out and now were like best friends and always over each others houses. its great. but latly everyone is asking why we dont do stuff. hes kinda shy and i've never done anything like "that" before. sorry its soo long. but please what should i do? (link)
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The same thing happened to me when my boyfriend and I had been going out for 5-6 months. Stop hanging out with the people who tell you to have sex. Ignore them completely and make friends with people who respect you and your choices. It's completely normal to not want to have sex so soon. Go at your own pace and be glad you're with a guy who doesn't pressure you to have sex with him.
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OKay...i am 15....I had my first period in Nov of 2004....and i started my period yesterday...this has never happend to me before...but...When i go pee...i bleed too....why is that???? like...i bleed more than i pee...and the blood is all gooey and chunky...i hope non of u think im weird...im just really nervous...because this has never happend to me before..
thanks girls (link)
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There's nothing to catch the blood (no pad), so it goes into the toilet.
Your period is made up of uterine lining. In order to cushion the egg and then the baby (of the egg is fertilized), your uterus lines itself with partially coagulated blood. Your period occurs when the uterus sheds its lining when the egg has not been fertilized. That's why it's "gooey" and "chunky". It's completely normal and nothing to worry about.
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Im 17 and this is really embarassing but, I havent had my period yet. I feel ashamed and worried that something is wrong ! Im a virgin, if that matters that much. Im so worried & i feel bad because I tell my friends I have it, and I even use pads hoping it will come. Whats wrong with me? I need to know what to do! (link)
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You should see a gynecologist as soon as possible, there might be something wrong with your fertility.
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I love my b/f but i dont know if he loves me. because we are a secret to everyone because of his friends. what should i do? (link)
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If he values his friends more than he values you, forget about him. Tell him that either you two are together to everyone or not at all.
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my best friend is mad at me because i wont break up with my boyfriend because moves really slow and weve been going out for a really long time and weve only kissed once and he is the type of guy who gets nervous to do those types of things. i like him alot so im willing to wait for him to be ready to do whatever. she doesnt think he is the right guy for me. he is a great guy and the only bad part about him is that it takes him forever to give one single kiss. do i break up with him if we dont even kiss? or do i just deal with it and stay with him? and ive already talked to him about it a few times and he says hes trying his best. (link)
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Why don't you put the moves on him rather than waiting around for him?
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There is this annoying girl in the dorms that annoys me so much I just want to hurt her :) What should I do (link)
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Why are you putting a smiley face after suggesting you hurt someone who, as I am led to believe by the vagueness of your question, is just "annoying" by nature?
If she just has a weird laugh or bad hygeine, just ignore her. If she intentionally tries to irritate you, ask her nicely to stop; if she ignores your plea, talk to your RA.
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i like to wear my hair up in a bun or pony tail but my mom is soooo annoying about it. she says that i hav beautiful hair and i should wear it down. i keep telling her wen i wear my hair down i get really hot (like today i got out of the shower and i felt sick i was so hot). any suggetions?
please help. i rate! (link)
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You could get it cut really short - that way you could stay cool and she couldn't keep bugging you about it.
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is it normal to have ur pierod for only a day?? (link)
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It depends. If your period started within 3 years ago, it's pretty normal for it to be very brief or very long. If you've had it longer than that, wait until your next period. If it's so light again, you should probably see a doctor. If it's back to normal or very heavy, you're fine.
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I'm a 15 year old female who has liked a guy for about half a year now. I'm too shy to tell him that I like him or to ask him out, but I really want to do something about it! What do I do? (link)
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There are three options you have:
1) Ask him out.
2) Wait for him to do something, which he probably won't.
3) Let him go.
Go with #1.
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Okay, well i need help with my room. I'm 13 by the way. Okay, so I'm not allowd to paint my walls, and I just got $6000, custommade furniture. But, the thing is, my walls look really empty...I need somthing coolin my room, im a guy. does anyone hae any ideas (link)
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Since you're not allowed to paint your walls, go to an art supply store and get the biggest canvas they have. Either paint it yourself or commission an artist. Hey, you could hire me to do it!
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