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ok i have had this boyfriend for 3 months almost 4 months now. and you see everyone is like at 5 or 6th months you should have sex. but i dont want to. i mean i'm only 14. i love him alot. alot. alot. but i mean all we do now is really is talk and make out which is enough for me but i mean should i do other stuff? and everyone says that me and my boyfriend are gunna get married. we barly knew each other before we started going out and now were like best friends and always over each others houses. its great. but latly everyone is asking why we dont do stuff. hes kinda shy and i've never done anything like "that" before. sorry its soo long. but please what should i do?
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Ok, you should seriously consider what could come of sex.
one of the results can even be bleeding pussing warts on that one area.. if he has that std. he could not even know. You can get pregnant as well because condoms are ALWAYS a safe bet.
you shouldn't let the peer pressure get to you because it sounds like he's respectful and mostly a good guy. 14 in my opinion is WAY too young to be doing stuff like that and you need to wait. if you two really are meant to be then you will make it to your wedding night to share something special like that.
good luck and giv'em hell kid.
if you need ANY more advice.. I'm always around.
~Sarah
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Don't let anyone push you to have sex, your too young. Save yourself for your husband and I promise it will be worth it.
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Trust me on this one, don't do it if you're not ready! Completely apart from the risks of STDs and pregnancy (contraception isn't effective 100% of the time!), you're probably not mentally or emotionally ready for this, and you don't want to screw up your first time. It's PERFECTLY fine to have not done anything else yet! I mean...you're 14. You have years ahead of you for this stuff. DON'T be pressured into having sex just because your friends have - you should do what's right for YOU. And you know, chances are, they've all lost their virginity and want to make themselves feel better about it by making you do the same.
All I can say is be grateful that you have such a great boyfriend who isn't pressuring you into sex! Plus, there is loads of other 'sexual' stuff you can do without actually having sex. There is some stuff you can do in between making out and sleeping with people! So don't rush it. You've got it right - you're not ready; don't do it. Simple as. Keep being so sensible and you'll get a long way :)
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
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The same thing happened to me when my boyfriend and I had been going out for 5-6 months. Stop hanging out with the people who tell you to have sex. Ignore them completely and make friends with people who respect you and your choices. It's completely normal to not want to have sex so soon. Go at your own pace and be glad you're with a guy who doesn't pressure you to have sex with him.
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Please, please, please don't do anything you don't feel ready to do. Don't base what you and your boyfriend do on what everyone else says. Let your relationship develop at it's own pace. Based on what you wrote, it does not seem like you are ready for it, and besides if you are both satisfied with how the relationship is right now, then why change it? You are very young, and a relationship of such intimacy can get very complicated, and could even ruin the great relationship you seem to be having currently. From what you wrote, it is not your boyfriend who is pressuring you, it is your friends. That's ridiculous. Don't let your friends control your relationship with your boyfriend, that's something that should be between you and him - NOT them. Next time the subject comes up, say something like, 'Listen, I appreciate your concern and interest in our relationship, but I really don't want to discuss the private parts of our relationship anymore. We will do what we think is best, and do what we are ready for.' This should get the point across that you don't want them pressuring you. And for what you said about everyone saying you should do it at 5 or 6 months, that's not true. It is different for every couple, and plenty of couples wait until they are married to have sex, which is great. It's a big decision, and one you shouldn't take lightly. In my opinion you are too young, and it would just complicate the relationship. If you both are happy taking things slow, then let it be. Also, the majority of high school relationships don't last, so don't base your decision on the idea that you two are going to get married. Again, I can't stress enough that you shouldn't do ANYTHING you don't feel ready for or don't want to do. I think its great you are hesitant, there is nothing wrong with that. I would hold on to your virginity, if I were you. There is no getting it back once you lose it. Hope that helps. Please feel free to leave me a message in my inbox if you need more advice, I'm more than glad to help. Take care!
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If you don't want to do anything with this boy, that's alright. I can tell your not ready for "the next" step because you wouldn't be asking for this advice. When you really are ready, you'll know. But for now, keep going at your own rate and don't rush into things. You're only 14 and you got your hole life ahead of you to have sex. If this boy really does care about you and you're going to be together for a long time, you guys can wait till your 100% to have sex. As for the people that are saying you should have sex on the 5th or 6th month of being together, they're wrong. Every person and relationship is different. If they keep bugging you about going futher with this boy, tell them you aren't ready and you don't want to rush into things. If they are true friends, they will stop bugging you about it.
♥ Krissy
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What you should do is keep it up with your bf. A relationship with just talking..closness..and making out is great. No need for sex and that other junk..right now . You have sex when your ready..and tell all these people to mind their business! I hate those people who butt into others relationships and give their opinions and tell you what to do. That annoyed me..i would think it annoys you too right? Well people said (and a couple ppl still say im going to marry this one guy but we are history..) so i know the feeling you have for your guy. Dont listen to what the others are saying. Go at your pace. 6 months doesnt mean sex..neither does 1 year.
sex= when your ready.
Your so lucky your in a relationship thats special..enjoy every moment like i did with my special someone..because you never know when it will be over
-meliss
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I wouldn't have sex with him if I were you. You're only 14 and you have your whole life ahead of you! And yeah , maybe you two will get married, but what happens if you don't and you guys break up but you already had sex? It will leave you so heartbroken for the rest of your life! Sex means giving yourself to that person completely and totally! It's a huge step in a relationship!
♥ Always,
Maria
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