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hi.
okay.
im 16.
im 5 months pregnant.
my boyfriends family and mine want us to keep it.
im very scared.
okay my first question is.
1. can i take the baby to school? or should i leave it at home? cause i really dont wanna leave her.
2. My boyfriend wants me to move in with him. (hes 18) and he wants to get married as soon as the babys born. Should i do it?
3. Im really strating to "pop" do you guys have nay good stores for me to go get cute prenancy clothes?!


thankss.

Hey hun,
1) I really think you shouldnt take the baby to school. Its more appropriate to have a family member, your bf, your parents, his parents, a babysitter to watch the child. I understand you dont want to be away from your baby, so just make time after school to be around the child.

2) I dont think you should marry him so soon..there is no need to rush at all. Stay together for now, and after you go to school and get a solid job so you can support yourself and the baby, and if you and your bf are still in love way down the road, then consider marriage.

3) I think a babyshower is an excellent idea first of all. I recently went to a friends babyshower (shes 18/f) and she got so0o0o0 much stuff for the baby! You can invite your family, his family, and friends from school..

as for the cute clothing stores for babies..heres what i got:

Gymboree
Carters
Macys (a little pricy)
Walmart/Target (babies grow out of clothes so fast, sometimes saving some money is a good idea)
Babies R Us
JcPenny


hope i helped! :)

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i feel like my shyness is getting in the way of my life. i've always been shy, but during the start of soph year, i decided to start talking to people more. but it's been a few months and i've still got the same small group of friends, plus a few. i constantly feel left out b/c all my friends seem to have so many more friends than i do, and when one of them is chatting with her other friends, they kind of just look at me like "who is she..?" i've been trying to come out of my shell, and i guess i've improved, but i still feel so friendless and unlikable sometimes. at the most extreme times, i go as far as cutting myself. i just hate how much my shyness and low self-esteem have interfered with my life emotionally. i guess when people get to know me well, like my friends, they do like me, but if i try talking to new people, it usually goes nowhere. i don't know; if i'm really that unlikable, i guess i just have to deal with it. but back in middle school, i had a lot of friends. maybe i'm just not maturing and socializing as quickly as my friends are. but i always end up feeling guilty when i have thoughts like "i hate myself and my life", b/c i know that my life is great, i've got an awesome family and so much i could ask for. it's just the whole issue with friends that brings me down. i don't know what i can do to change. any advice would truly help; thanks.

First thing is first hun, NEVER hate yourself..and never cause harm to your body! Think about your great family and friends. A few good friends is better than a bunch of fake or distant ones. I only hang out with a group of 5 or so, and that doesnt bother me. A couple of my friends who are in college have a million friends, but i dont need that..im happy with my few close friends. i know you want to make new friends and socialize, which is totally normal..so here are a few tips to branch out:

-join a sport or club. i played tennis and softball all through high school and it really helped to get to know girls older and younger than me. it will give you opportunity to get to know other people...and once you meet new people simply ask if they want to do something over the weekend like go to a movie.
i have my 5 best friends from the start of high school but i had to take the step of hanging out with them for a first time..and if you want to make new friends, you need to do that also. as you get talking to new people ask for them to go to the mall or movies one weekend or have a sleepover

- you can also try talking to your friends that yyou have now. you can explain to your friend that you want to branch out and make new friends..tell them you feel left out when their friends talk to them and dont acknowledge you. have your friend introduce you to their friends, and even plan a movie night or sleepover so you can connect with them too.

the biggest thing to keep in mind is to not stay so closed up! talk, laugh, socialize and you will make new friends.

it isnt essential to have 20 good friends..you have a few good friends, and thats what i have and i am perfectly happy. just remember do NOT hate yourself! open up to people, start talking, and you will make new friends! i dont know how old you are, but if you go away to college you can make tons of friends because everyone will be away from home and their old friends. my best friend has a million new friends at college..so keep in mind that college is also a perfect opportunity to open up and gain a lot of friends.

i hope this helped..if you need any more advice please inbox me again

thanks for the inbox! :)

-melissa-

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18/f
What are some signs that your boyfriend either is cheating or has recently cheated on you?(Even when he claims to be completely in love with you..etc etc etc)

To my knowledge I have never been cheated on, but here are a few i can think of:


- his cell phone is always off when you two are together. test this out by calling his phone while you are with him...if you dont hear it rining, and its constantly off, something could be up

- along with the cell phone thing..does he keep his phone extremely private? if you are around him and he always has it at his side, and never laying on the counter, etc,something miiight be up.

- does he sometimes seem to make excuses why he didnt see you one day ? if he does this often, check up on his alibi. if he claims hes with his dad, or his friend jake for example, call them casually and ask if your bf is there. if he isnt, ask if he was supposed to hang out with them. if they say no, then he may be cheating

-is his home phone line busy for a long time or when you call him does he ignore you sometimes? it could be because hes on the phone with someone else.


here is something i got from seventeen.com some of their points are similar to mine

1. He's acting distant. If he's calling less frequently or has cancelled on plans repeatedly, he may be trying to pull away from you--because he's getting close to someone else.

2. You can't get in touch with him. If you try to call your boyfriend and no one--not even his family or best friends--can get a hold of him, you've got to ask yourself where's he hiding out and why?

3. He's suddenly insensitive, like he totally forgets plans and then shrugs it off. He may not be considering your feelings because he's thinking about another girl's.

4. His interests--or looks--have changed. If he's developed a new taste in music or clothes, it may be to impress another girl--or because of her influence.

5. He's stopped inviting you to join him in his favorite activities or at his usual hangouts. If you're not going with him, who is?

good luck, remember dont jump to conclusions..first be a little suspicious, if he says he will be with his dad or his buddy, call them. call his cell while your together, see if it rings...and raise questions

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ok here's the thing imm really sad right now :(
please dont get mad at me but could you actually give a real answer that you would do if you were in this position

ok since i was like 4 i was friends with this girl named britney. wen my family moved away from them we grew further apart

but wen i was like 12 and she was like 14 she started getting more friends then she stopped hanging out with me


but she still thinks everything is ok
i dont know why but its almost like i hate her

she just i guess wants to act mature and she always hangs out with my sister and doesnt even say anything to me

wenever we do talk she just asks about my sister and doesnt really care about me

please ive cried every night because of it and i really need advice!!!

people change. im 18 and i have lived through it all. you might be close to a friend for a couple years, then you drift apart. it is part of life, but you can try talking to her about your feelings. you can let her know you have been upset about everything and you want to get the friendship back.
if you dont want to talk to her right away, you can try just askign her to hang out and maybe the friendship will get the spark back on its own. good luck with everything, and eventually let her know how your feeling because i know the worst feeling ever is crying and being so sad/angry without telling the person

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A girl considers me her bff, but I haven't talked to her face to face in like 4 months. I use her for my own personal gain when i need her, because she doesn't like her current friends and tries to get in with my friends so she thinks it'll help but she's getting way too annoying and I would keep using her but I cant because she is seriously always there and too annoying, how do i get through to her?

Well, you must stop using her. Maybe tellign the truth will be the best idea if the silent treatment doesnt work. Maybe you should openly tell her you used her and you dont really feel the way she does about the friendship. Sometimes, teh truth hurts but its the only way..especially for someone who is always around and annoying as you described. good luck with everything

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There is this friend,and he now knows that I like him. He was shocked to hear that but we still talk. One day he randomly came up to me saying "You are going to do me aren't you, just letting you know you can do me anytime" I gave him like a look but he was smiling then just walked off. Then in class the next day I was "sleeping" and I overheard him say this " I'd pound on her s--- like bam I'd f--- the ish out of her" we still talk. But what am I supposed to do or to say to that? I like him but I'm confused. What should I do?

he sounds pretty disgusting, talking like that. he finds out you like him so now he is talking dirty like that about what he wants to do to you? thats a form of sexual harrassment. He is making it seem like he doesnt like you and just wants action from you. I would definitely confrot him and let him know the way he is talking is disgusting and maybe you are wrong for liking someone like him. hopefully the outcome involves something like him apologizing and for the inappropriate comments to stop. dont let someone make those comments about you, you have to let him know he needs to respect you and you most certainly wont stand for talk like that because you respect yourself

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I was at a party last night....
There was this kid there that I didnt actually talk to but I was talking to his friend. The reason I didnt talk to him because I guess I was shy or whatever, I dont know but man I dont know If I should add him on myspace or not. Because the thing is, I havent ever spoken to him before... and maybe he'll think like "who is this girl?" but then again... what's the wrong thing that could happen, right? I keep trying to tell myself that but I can't seem to get the courage to do so. He goes to my school and he's older and stuff, and I definately don't talk to him there because one, I barely see him and two, Im shy :/

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I am so happy he accepted! OK, now just message him. Like i said before, make small talk, hopefully if he is interested he will be talkative too and maybe after a couple messages back and forth talking about the party, or a funny story from that night, you can ask him to hang out , go to a school game together, etc. like i said earlier, go ahead and flirt! comment his pics, be talkative, ask questions, be yourself! and if he isnt interested , then let it go but you have nothing to lose!

you should definitely add thhis guy! you have nothing to lose at all. you can add him along with sending him a message saying hey whats up i think i saw you at that party. and get some small talk convo going on and eventually you two might hang out and who knwos there can be something there! i have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, and for 6 months we were just random friends on myspace who didnt talkk until we started talking and decided to hang out! :) so you just never know..

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Lately my gf has been telling me about these dreams she has about other guys forcing her to hook up with them and she told me that "you shouldn't struggle, you should just go along with it". She also sort of admitted that this is a fantasy of hers. What I'm wondering is, if someone started kissing her and she kissed him back, wouldn't that be cheating regardless of how the kissing started? Couldn't she just use being forced as an excuse, especially if its a fantasy of hers? In my opinion, if someone holds her and starts kissing her, she should push him away rather than kiss him back. We are in a committed relationship by the way.

i do agree with you and i think her response about "you should go with the flow" is very strange. just bring it up to her and show your concerns. everyone has their fantasies, its totally normal. i bet you have fantasies too. its completely ok to have them, as long as you dont ACT on those fantasies and actually carry them out. you told us here in your question that you think she should push the person away, not go with it. talk to her about that and your feelings. any issues in a commited relationship should definitely be talked about. hopefully you can clear things up with her. just remember, fantasies are ok and normal, as long as she doesnt act them out or cheat.
-melissa

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well my ex and i are talking again somewhat but he goes back out with one of hus exs and my kind of friends. So we were talking about how we used to go out and stuff and i liek him still what should i do?.. Tell him i like him and that i wish we could go out. Or just keep it quiet?. or give little hints?. i really dont know.!>. please be specific

EDIT: afterr reading one of the columnists answers, i thought i would clarify something. i do not beleive in breaking people up, because i have been through that, girls coming between me and someone i was serious with. HOWEVER, I do feel it is ok to let someone know how you feel, because you will live with regret
not knowing what would have happened if you let him know.
there is nothing wrong with telling someone how you feel. i do not agree with constant flirting and trying to convince the person to break it off with their bf or gf. like i said before, letting someone know you still have feelings isnt a terrible thing. just let it be known, and let him make his choice
you can drop some hints such as asking him..

-do you ever think about getting back together?
-do you think it was a mistake breaking up?

and just talking about the good memories or cute times might spark somethin between you two.
if you want to make things really clear, you can tell him you think it was a mistake breaking up with him and you have been thinking about him a lot.

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So you've probably all heard about jamie lynn spears being pregnant

But I'm curious to hear every ones opinion on this .

Good or bad what are your opinions on jamie lynn spears being pregnant at 16 do you all think its a bad influence on youngsters? What do you all think ?

Jessica Martinez, - Seventeen Magazine

I was shocked when I heard the news, but I do feel sympathy for her. So many girls are getting pregnant as teens, she is in the spotlight and it must be very difficult for her to deal with. Of course its a bad influence, but parents should teach children to not look up to celebrities so much. I was reading someones response to an article about it, and she claims "at least my 11 year old still has miley to look up to" I think parents should be encouraging children to be independant, not copy celebrities, and teach them good morals. thats my opinion

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i'm 15, and yes im going to be having sex with my boyfriend in the next week. the problem is, i cant even imagine a penis going into my vagina because, well the hole is so small. no, i have the right hole. when i finger myself, i can barely get two fingers in! how is a penis supposed to fit? i need to know, so please help!

dont worry, its the same for many girls, including me. i couldnt even get 2 fingers up there..but i lost my virginity to my bf two years ago, and yes it hurt but it felt good as we kept doing it. its meant to fit, just have him be gentle the first few times until you feel comfortable

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13/Female


ok
so i am having a new years eve party atmy house

it is from 9 - 12:30 am


so i need party ideas
♥order pizza
♥listen to music
♥buy confettii and blasters and stuff
♥bring out board games

there will only be like 2 boys there
so no spin the bottle or 7minutes in heaven or anything like that

also no drinking... i am only 13

please please please give me some ideas


i will rate and comment

everyone knows to have chips and soda..but some ACTIVITIES you can do is..

- rent a kareoke machine, if a friend has one use theirs, etc. and play new years idol! 3 people at the party can be judges, the others can be contestants, and give away a prize for the best performer.
-DDR, Guitar Hero, Rock Band, are all good interactive competitve games that would be a hit at your party.

Games which involve dancing are also very popular on New Year's Eve. One game which is a lot of fun is similar to a game played by children. It involves periodically stopping the music while guests are dancing. Each time the music stops, the guests are supposed to freeze in their current position at that moment.

One person is designated as the judge and each time the music stops, the judge eliminates the last guest to realize the music has stopped and to freeze in their position. The last guest remaining is declared the winner of the game.


have fun!

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My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half now. Things were very well in the beginning of course, until up to 6 months ago. He's been acting really mean to me and always accusing me of cheating on him.

My boyfriend and I took some time apart in the month of November due to us constantly going at each other’s throats. I actually thought I was going to be alone for thanksgiving, since my family was not going to be in town. A good friend of mine invited me over to his family house for thanksgiving but I ended up canceling because my boyfriend called and asked if I would go spend time with him and his family. It was short notice but of course I'm going to drop everything to be with him, he's my man. Later that night, I guess my BF checked my phone because he started yelling at me about having a backup plan for thanksgiving. He read the text message I sent my friend thanking him for the invite but that I was going to cancel. I've known this friend for a long time and there's never been anything between us, so I saw nothing wrong with the picture.

Anyway, since thanksgiving things have not seem to change. Just a week ago I texted my BF in the morning asking if he was awake yet (my exact words: Are you awake baby?). Well I would guess that the text message never went through because the following day he ended receiving the text. He received it when I was at the house with him. And oh boy did he go off on me. He was constantly asking me whom I was supposed to be sending that text to?

Now the latest thing is Christmas day. I guess he was trying to test me, he called my phone restricted and said nothing to me. I answered it (I had no idea it was him) and said hello about 4 times until I went to hang the phone up, but right when I hung the phone up, you could hear a mans voice say hello. I figured if it was important they would call back. Well he yelled at me today for it. He told me that it was him that called my phone, and that it was so ironic that I would hang the phone up as soon as I heard a man's voice. He said that if I were not cheating on him, I would have spoke to that person.

I don't understand why he's playing these games with me, I've never cheated on him and I would never dream of cheating on him. I do everything for this man, and I love him unconditionally. Please I need some advice; I don't know what to do. I really don't want our relationship to end, but all this fighting that's going on is hurting me emotionally and physically; my body can't take this stress anymore. Please, fill me in with your thoughts.


Thank You =)

Well, I think this is wrong and he needs to understand your not cheating on him . But he needs to trust you, there is nothing you can do. It sounds like this can continue forever. I know you dont want it to end, but he needs to calm down. If this doesnt stop soon I would leave him. I think its better to be single, than in a relationship and constantly stressed out and feeling helpless about the situation. There really isnt anything you can do, you cant MAKE him trust you. I know it sucks, but if your man doesnt come around soon, leave him. Who knows, maybe if you dump him...maybe in a couple months he will have his head on straight and will not accuse you of cheating. good luck with everything

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im just curious buttt ;
what are your new years traditions. i know everyone does something different. i'm having a small party and i need some ideas. no drinkingg and all that cause none of my friends are into it. ideas?

- play twister
- take turns talkin about your funniest,saddest,cutest moments of the year
- new years resolutions
-pictures
-watch the ball drop
-chips,pizza,
- guirar hero if anyone has it
-dancing
- have everyone bring some food,
-prank phone calls, just not too wild
haha
have fun!

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ok , i know this may seem dumb but i have to ask .
Ok me and my boyfriend have had sex plenty of times and i moan AL0T [ is that normal ] ?

- also girls skeet to right ? because i never notice when i do but sometimes either when me and my boyfriend are having sex or he's fingering me white stuff comes out . more when he's fingering me .

can someone explain that ?

You and your bf have sex a lot, there is no problem with it as long as you feel there is more to the relationship than just sex. There is nothing wrongg with having sex withh hhim often, every couple is diffent and people have different sex drives. if you and your bf have pretty equal sex drives thats a great thing actually because this way one person is wanting it more than the other.

-yes, girls cum too. when he fingers you he is hitting your clitoris probably which is very sensitive. he can move his fingers around in different ways, a penis cant do that really. it slides in and out, yes it feels good but the fingers can twist around in there more, so that is why you notice it more when he fingers you. its all normal :)

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I live in Tennessee and I'm getting my license. Well hoping to. My friends have told me that it's fairly easy and you drive in a circle for a few minutes. But can anyone tell me specifically what you do? If they talk to you and tell you to do anything? AHHH I'm freaking out! How long does it go on? Do you have to parallel park or anything? Please help me.

I live in NY, but im pretty sure it will mostly be the same. Here is how my driving test went:

- The instructor enters the car with a clipboard. You sign something, he gets his papers ready.
-he/shhe will then tell you to pull away from the side of the road when you are ready.

((**You should be sure to check your mirrors, look in the side mirror and the rearview mirror,put your blinker on, and begin to drive.**))

-The instructor will tell you where to turn. He or she might say "make the next right" . Just be sure to put your blinker on.
((**another tip: my drivers ed teacher always taught me to look in your rearview mirror while ur blinker is on. he says its because if someone is too close to you and tailgating you, to not make the turn**))

-Yes, tere will be a parallel park and a K turn. In NY there is, and im pretty sure all states would be similar.

- The instructor will tell you to make a K turn. You must be sure to put your signal on, stop the car, turn the wheel all the way after checking your mirrors to be sure nobody will be going around you. Before you back up, look to your right or left to be sure nobody is trying to go aroiund you once again, then proceeed to back up, and turn around.

**Basically, always check your mirrors, and BLINDSPOTS (you must do thihs by turnin your head)

basically just practice drivingg and pretend its your friend in the front seat. i was terribly nervous too, te instructor was prettyy cool and told me to relax.and i did excellent! almost perfect.

*thhey definitely talk to you..they tell you where to turn, when to parallel park and where, they tell you all the instructions..tey just dont tell you how . they observe, take notes, etc.

*always remember come to a full complete stop at stop signs.

**do nottt go over the speed limit on your driving test

** check your mirrors and blindspots, just shhow tem you are a good driver!

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I recently got a 360 and I just beat Halo 3, got all the sculls, and did a bunch of requirements. But I never had Live. When I signed up for Live it made a new profile, so now I dont have any of the requirements on Halo. How do I get my profile to have the same gamerscore as my offline account.

if you changed your username, you wont be able to have your game saved. You should have used your same username and password when you joined XBOX live. My brother is an XBOX 360 fanatic so im pretty confident he knows what he was talking about. :/ Sorry

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i'm a junior and im already soooo nervous about college! not applying and getting in, but im nervous about like living there and all the new people. i have really close friends, but im not a partier and i actually like living in my house with my family. im not allowed to live at home, but im so scared and its still like 2 years away! calm my nerves!!!

You have nothin to be nervous about. I go to a local college for right now, but most of my good friends went away to college. Trust me, all of them were nervous to leave and was nervous about making friends..but tey are all back for break and they love collegge! they all made friends but at te same time we are all still close and when they come home for weekends we hang out, and we make trips to their colleges for the weekend. you dont HAVE to party at college..and im sure if you are only a couple hours away you can come home a couple weekends a month . dont worry about it right now, just enjoy high school because it will go by so quick! concentrate on having fun, and getting good grades to get into college :)

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Hey guys this might end up a little long sorry ok to start of im goth my parents divorced i get bad grades in school i cutt im anorexic (the next one is strage really strange) when ever i get hurt or i should say soposed to get hurt i dont do anything like one time i feel out of the car when i was 12 and i almost got run over by another car all i did was im ok im not hurt so i dont get hurt i dont have any friends i live with my mom that hates me all the girls at school tease me i just want to know what to do im 14/F please help my life just gets worse and worse everyday

The other columnists did a great job at giving you advice..something i just wanted to add was this:

Think about it, you are only 14! The best thing you can do for yourself now is to do very well in school, join sports,etc becuase this is your life and you can make a great future for yourself. Do well in high school then move on to college and figure out what you want to do with your life.You have so many great things ahead of you! Life might be rough now, but keep focused on the future because one day you will be able to run your own life with your own job and a family of your own.

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i want to talk to my boyfriend dirty next time we have sex, because we were talking about things that he was into and he said that that is hot and i want to be as hot as possible to him.

but i really dont know what to say besides "fuck me"

can someone help me out, like seriously?

i dont want to sound stupid. soo if your experienced thatd be even better.

thanks in advance!

i just wanted to add a suggestion that hasnt been said yet, maybe watch pornos so you can pick up what the girls say and how they act. I know watching porn might not be your thing, but if you think about it..its what guys jerk off to and fantasize about, so picking up some tips from there could be a great idea.

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