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Loser Friends
A girl considers me her bff, but I haven't talked to her face to face in like 4 months. I use her for my own personal gain when i need her, because she doesn't like her current friends and tries to get in with my friends so she thinks it'll help but she's getting way too annoying and I would keep using her but I cant because she is seriously always there and too annoying, how do i get through to her?
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What a nice friend you are!
Like seriously, it's so nice that you use her for your own personal gain, without even considering that she has feelings too!
While I realize that everyone screws up at one point in their life, how could you possibly overlook the fact that you are using this girl? Do you think that it's okay to use her? Do you think she doesn't mind, that she'd be perfectly fine if you told her you were only her friend so that you could use her?
I don't know you; I have no idea what you value as right and what you value as wrong. I sure as hell don't value using people as right, and I know a lot of people would agree with me. It shocks me that you are completely nonchalant and shameless about the fact that you are using her, and she has no idea.
This girl deserves more. She deserves a real friend, which clearly is not you. Maybe you should consider that the next time you think she is too annoying.
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i somewhat disagree with the other person that answered. personnelly, i wouldnt tell her that you were using her, while the telling the truth is the better route to take, being that bluntly honest to someone could really hurt their feelings not to mention hurt their self esteem. well if you want her to leave you alone, id say definatley stop using her. you using her is giving her attention and makes it seem like you are her friend. when she stops getting that occasional attention from you, maye she'll back off. but if she doesnt, ignore her a little. dont give her the silent treatment because that is really immature and doesnt solve anything. but dont make an effort to talk to her either. if she asks you something answer it, and have as little conversation with her as you can. by doing that she should get the hint. and besides if you're talking to someone who really isnt answering or talking that much, would you want to talk to them again? lol. its worked for me before =]. hope ive helped!!!
<3jenny13!
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Well, you must stop using her. Maybe tellign the truth will be the best idea if the silent treatment doesnt work. Maybe you should openly tell her you used her and you dont really feel the way she does about the friendship. Sometimes, teh truth hurts but its the only way..especially for someone who is always around and annoying as you described. good luck with everything
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