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16. and a mommy.
hi.
okay.
im 16.
im 5 months pregnant.
my boyfriends family and mine want us to keep it.
im very scared.
okay my first question is.
1. can i take the baby to school? or should i leave it at home? cause i really dont wanna leave her.
2. My boyfriend wants me to move in with him. (hes 18) and he wants to get married as soon as the babys born. Should i do it?
3. Im really strating to "pop" do you guys have nay good stores for me to go get cute prenancy clothes?!
thankss.
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For the first question, some schools offer daycare while you are at school and some don't. personally I won't let my daughter go into daycare. I do online schooling at home. You can do it any time of the day and usually you'll end up graduating early. Actually I'll be graduating this decemeber and I'm 17.
The second question, its your choice. Honestly, marriage is a BIG thing. Many people get married young and what they don't understand is that you are still growing up and learning about who you are and who would like to be. Sometimes that changes 5 years from now, and when you thought you wanted to marry him, you really didn't. If you feel rushed, don't do it. and if he cant respect that then tough cookie.
3. Motherhood is okay. They're maternity jeans are really big actually. I couldn't fit into them because I was a size 1 and they don't carry a size 1. But I really liked target's line of liz lange. They have super cute clothes=]
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for one thing i dont think your aloud to take the baby to school. so your going to have to leave it at home unless u drop out which i do not suggest!!!! stay in school girl! and i know you dont want to leave her but in the future when you have a deploma your kid will thank you because you will be able to get a better job and support your kid better. And 2 you seem to young to get married. you only 16. But if you love the guy and he loves you and he is serious about this then go for it. I dont see any harm in it. But if your parents dont want you to then listen to them because it is true that parents no best and they will be able to help you with the baby and they love you. and 3 target had a maternity section and they have cute tops you can wear, even my sister goes over there and buys tops. and i know your scared because right now my 15 year old bestfriend is pregnant but as long as you have your guy helping and your family helping you out you should make it through all this. its gonna be hard no dought about that but im sure everything will be okay in the end. good luck!
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1.you should leave the baby home.
2.if u really like him you should move in with him and for the marrige i think you should wait a couple a years.
3.i dont know where to get pregnacy clothes sorry.
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1. it would be safer to leave the baby at home. i know being away from your baby is scary, but it would be better if someone else took care of her.
2. if you are in love with your boyfriend and ready for such a serious relationship, then yes you should marry him. but i'd say moving in with him first would be a better idea.
3. target has a lot of cute pregnancy clothes. google "cute pregnancy clothes" you'll find something you like.
good luck!
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Hey hun,
1) I really think you shouldnt take the baby to school. Its more appropriate to have a family member, your bf, your parents, his parents, a babysitter to watch the child. I understand you dont want to be away from your baby, so just make time after school to be around the child.
2) I dont think you should marry him so soon..there is no need to rush at all. Stay together for now, and after you go to school and get a solid job so you can support yourself and the baby, and if you and your bf are still in love way down the road, then consider marriage.
3) I think a babyshower is an excellent idea first of all. I recently went to a friends babyshower (shes 18/f) and she got so0o0o0 much stuff for the baby! You can invite your family, his family, and friends from school..
as for the cute clothing stores for babies..heres what i got:
Gymboree
Carters
Macys (a little pricy)
Walmart/Target (babies grow out of clothes so fast, sometimes saving some money is a good idea)
Babies R Us
JcPenny
hope i helped! :)
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1. I would really urge you not to take the baby to school. Find a babysitter, family member or a day care. It would be hard to focus, and one thing you need to do is be able to do is finish high school, go to college if possible, so your child can have a good life! No a days getting a job without a college degree is next to impossible. A community college works just fine.
2. You are still young, yes the baby makes a difference in your life, but you are still young. You may think you love your boyfriend now, but i urge you to wait. I thought I loved the guy I was with at 16 and i've been through 3 other boyfriends since then. I'm now 20 and in college and there are so many guys. If he loves you, he can wait. As for moving in with him, I would advoid it, it wouldn't help you finish school and could lead you having yet another child before leaving high school. Your family can be a great help esp. if they are telling you to keep the baby, it means they care!! let them HELP!
3. there are tons of stores in the malls now a days that have cute pregnancy clothes. Check out any maternity store in the mall!
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Hi.
I'm 29.
I'm 27 weeks pregnant. With my second child.
(Your OB will go by weeks, not months. If you are 20 weeks pregnant, you are 5 months.)
I won't congratulate you.
I highly doubt you really feel congrats are in order. I'm sure you already realize the rough road you have ahead of you.
1. No. Plain and simple. Having a baby at school is too much of a distraction to you and your fellow students. Won't happen.
You should try to graduate high school. Yah, that baby is your responsibility, I know.
HOWEVER you having a high school diploma is in the best interest of your child. Zero education means working minimum wage for the rest of your life. Nah. No good.
Finish high school somehow. If that is impossible, get your GED. When your child starts Kindergarten, you will be 21? No reason you can't get a college education then.
And you should.
Remember- your education is important to that baby as well as to you.
2. I can't tell you whether or not to get married. That is a decision that is solely between you and the baby's father.
I do highly suggest that you try to make a two-parent home for the baby because it deserves one. Even if you just live together.
You are 16, so you can get married if your parents sign consent. That is a law in most states if not all.
3. You are going to have to have clothes that fit. Yes, indeed.
I know you want cute maternity clothes, but I'm telling you right now, comfortable clothes are more important that fashion at this point.
I promise you that sweat pants and anything else roomy with elastic bands will be your best friends in the clothing category.
Like I said, I'm pregnant too, so feel free to ask me any related questions. I'll be glad to try to help in any way I can.
Here is a link to a website that I found to be EXTREMELY helpful and informative about pregnancy, what your baby is doing, and what your body is doing throughout every week of pregnancy.
I highly recommend it:
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
ygs-29/f
P.S. I just wanted to add that children of ALL ages are a lot of work. They start out sleeping all the time and only waking to eat and be changed. Once they get on the move, however... Well, you'll find out.
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1. Unless you go to some strange school, you won't be allowed to take the baby to school. In fact, you will probably have to drop out because taking care of a baby is a full time job.
2. Do you love him? Are you willing to spend the rest of your life with him? Will your parents give you consent to marry him? You are the only one who can answer that question.
3. Shouldn't you be more worried about saving money to take care of the baby, not to buy cute maternal clothes? If you have a steady job, and so does your boyfriend, I would still be saving my money for the baby, not for clothes, unless your parents are willing to support you financially, but I wouldn't depend on them because you are the one who got yourself in this situation.
~Maria, 16
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you should probably ask your school. is there anybody else at school that has a child? they might have some tips for you too. it kind of depends on school policy though. a girl that i know had a child right at the beginning of school, so she only went to half of her classes, and she was "homeschooled" for the other half so that she could stay home and take care of her baby. you might inquire about that if they won't let you take your child to school. as for getting married to your boyfriend, i think you should wait a few years at least. having a child is going to be a major experience for you, and it seems like getting married all at the same time would be like stress overload.
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wellll first::
Congratulations! :]] .
as far as taking your baby to school with you;
you're not going to want to have the baby at school until she is somewhat independant (ex. can roll over or crawl - around 5-8 months old) because newborns are a lot of work and you won't get anything accomplished at school with a newborn. Also, depending on the school, they may not even allow it.
next, if he is stable (has a job, a good place to live, etc.) and can help support you and your baby and your family is okay with it, go ahead! But you may not be able to get married right away (depending on your state laws) because most states require you to be 18 to get married. Check it out first.
Last but not least, I know there is this really cute store in the mall that my sister shopped at when she was pregnant (also 16!) called Other Mothers. You should see if there is one around you!
Good Luck :]]
~Topaz
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