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Hmm.. What kind of advice can I give? Any kind you'd like. Advice on relationships (all types) Getting out of trouble(my specialty) Sarcasim is always fun.
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what does the song echo by trapt talking about it? what is the story behind it? like what is the point of it what does it mean....
It's basically saying that he needs to let go of the girl he lost, but he doesn't understand why, so he keeps asking it. He's doesn't want to let her go, but eventually he let's go, and trys to let everything pass him by. I also think he's saying that he said some things that he regrets and he wants to get rid of thinking about them in his head. Like when he says "Do I expect to change The past I hold inside With all the words I say Repeating over in my mind Some things you can't erase no matter how hard you try an exit to escape is all there is left to find." ect. It's pretty much about him missing his girl.
well my dad and me where never close and when my parents spilt up i went with my mom i want to see my dad agian but i dont know how to act around him should i hate him or should i be nice? He told me he never loved me and i dont understand how you cant love your child..
One, your father more than likley regrets ever saying such cruel things to you. Don't hate him for it either, it would be like... in a sense doing what he did. In alot of cases after this, the problem might not get solved, because men, specially men who are older like your father, are too proud to admit when they've done something wrong, or said something they shouldn't have. So you wil have to be the one to take action adn try to win him back. It will be a slow slow process, but ultimatly in the end, worth it.
Am i considered fat if i am 5 foot 4 and i weigh 195 lbs? i know i dont look it and i do have a lot of muscle in ym arms and legs from playing sports. Am i considered over wieght or not?
techinally, yes, that is over weight. But if you're really muscular then i'm sure that accounts for alot of the weight. If you think you don't look over weight, then don't even worry bout it... it's what you think,that's what counts.
I have a stepmother, her name is anne. She's only 15 years older than me, and my dad is 17 years older than her! I hate her, but i'm still nice to her...She's bothering me!!!! She pretends to be my mom, and i dont want people to think that! I wana tell my dad that he should divorce her, but how? I also have to say that she doesn't know how to drive, and only earns $14 dollars per hour at her new job! And my dad only married her bcus he was alone at the house (I was with my mom) and was afraid if something happened to him, no1 would call the police.
Well, don't tell your dad you want him to get a divorce just because you don't like her. But tell him how she makes you feel. Tell him that she's not your mother and you don't really want her to treat you as "her child." This is probably going to hurt her feelings no matter what you do.. if I knew how old you were and how old she was then it would help out a little bit more.But really, he more than likley won't divorce his new wife because you told him he should. i know you're his kid, but things just don't work out that way sometimes.If she makes him feel more secure about himself, then you should just let him be happy... not to take away your happiness of course, try and make sacrifices, talk it over with BOTH of them.
My best friends ex likes me. He has asked me to have phone sex with him and he has told me and loves me and wishes I was his girl. I have told him a thousand times that we can only stay friends since he is my best friends ex and i do not like him at all. He is a perverted just like every other guy but much worse. All he talks about is girld having sex with him. He even has sadi that he'd rape me! I was really scared and he was serious. I don't know what to do and I can't tell my friend. I've told her we've talked and she was happy but I didn't tell her what he said. I need advice ASAP!! HELP PLEASE!!!
Signed,
Fed Up
I know you don't want to, but TELL HER. She might be the only one who can do something about it. I mean not saying that the guy would listen to her, but maybe if she was the one who told him to back off, maybe he'd listen? And it's good that she knows, if she were to find out later on, she'd probably think you were trying to hide something from her, like you wanted to be with him or something like that. And if the guy is threating to even rape you, then do something about that! I wouldn't go run immediatly to an adult or something like that, but put on an act when he says something like that... make him think you're gonna get his sorry ass in trouble for even threatning such a thing. Start ignoring his calls, try avodiing him at all costs. And you SHOULD TELL YOUR BEST FRIEND... cause like i said, if she were to find out about it later on, and you didn't tell her what was going on.. she might think something different of the situation...
15-f...I'm not happy at all, and I don't know how to change that. Me and my boyfriend broke up a while ago but I'm okay with it now its just that I don't really have anyone now. I have a few friends, I'm just a shy person. It just seems like once I think I'm happy something comes and ruins it. My mom and I get along, but she just makes me so mad. I know all parents are like that. But then it all builds up and I don't know how to handle it all. One time I cute myself and I know it was stupid, but now everytime I get upset thats what I think about...I don't know how to handle my emotions...I just want to be happy....
I've been in your exact situation, many times. Just keep in mind that "you have a few friends" When you become depressed, or it least I thnk that's defiantly what you're feeling. You forget who matters most in life. You don't think about all the good things you actually have to hold onto. And I think alot of people go through the stage as to if they want to cut themselves, I've been there a few times, acted on it a few times as well. Cutting yourself won't help... at the time I think you may actually feel better but the same old feelings wont leave you even so. Think about the main reasons you're depressed, what you think the source of it is coming from. And try in any way you can to solve that issue. Just don't forget that you're NOT alone in this. You have freinds and it doesn't matter how many you have, just as long as they're good enough to be there for you when you need someone. I REALLY REALLY hope everything turns out good for you in the end.
Hey!I am 14 almost 15(august 17)and me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2months.And he says i am perfect and like the "one".And says that we will be together forever.And i feel the exact same way too.And he asked me to marry him and i said yes!But we are not going to get married till we are out of school!But did i do the right thing about saying yes???ill rate you if u answer!~Kristen~
Well, honestly I think ya'll are somewhat too young to be talking about getting married at the age you're at. I have had alot of freinds in the past who've though they were going to be with their boyfriends forever, and at the age of 15 and 16. But two months AT THE AGE you're at, is too young to tell anything. I would re-vise your awnser to that a little bit. More than likley this is the point ya'll are just getting started in a long-term relationship, which is AWESOME. But I would hold out talking about marrige so soon.
okay. there is this kid that has been in love with me for like 3 years. he constantly used to bother me at school and on the internet and stuff. not to be superficial or anything like that but this kid smells so bad you can't breathe around him - no lie. two summers ago, he told me he loved me and i said " ew" and he threw a glass bottle at me. after that i didn't talk to him for a while. then i decided i was too mean and decided to talk to him again.. but his obsession with me got HORRIBLE. finally at the end of my junior year he was pestering me and i couldnt take it anymore and i screamed at him to leave me alone. then after school i was walking to work, and i saw him in my field on the way there. i freaked out and didnt know what to do so i let him talk and after that i didnt want anything to do with him because seriously this kid is MESSED UP ( like OCD and anxiety disorder). i just dont know what to do when i go back to school and have to see him again. hellllpppp!
Tell someone about it. Let someone who can do something about it know. If the kid is seriously that messed up then he needs to be stopped. It doesn't seem like this kid is all right in the head. If you're in your jr. year already and the kid hasn't learned about deoderant, then that should indicate something right there. But if he's becoming like that, it could get serious. Tell someone who will be able to do something about it, and let friends know, tell them to watch out for him when you're around. And if possible, try to avoid walking alone.. I mean if you realize he's becoming that serious
I have medium-long super straight blonde hair. i was going to go super hippie and grow it out to my butt, but lately i have been wanting to cut it really short.. any opinions?
Maybe get it cut and layered, use a curling iron to style it out, if you do cut it, only to about the shoulders. Maybe if you're able to get some sort of highlights.
ok.. like 3 years ago i decided to decorate my room with posters and pictures from all the musicians i liked. well this was in 7th grade and i liked britney spears and all that, but i hate that kind of music now.
i want to take all those posters down and put up new ones with good bands (thursday, dashboard, NOFX, ataris, new found glory.. etc.) does anyone kow of any magizines that have these kinds of bands in them, instead of the teen mags that have justin timberlake and chingy..
i really appreciate your help!!
hugs and kisses,
~simplysweetstar~
It's hard to find just picturesof those people in magizines, but sometimes if you go on the computer you can print out good size pictures of them..and, every so often in Teen People they have bands like Dashboard, or Good Charlotte, you just have to look at the cover and read them before you actually buy them.
Agh my parents are REALLY overprotective! And it sucks cause I can hardly go anywhere with my friends. I mean I can go out to like the mall and shops but idk and another thing is like i have NO way to get me to places my mom doesnt drive my dad works frum 630 am - 530 pm..and i can never have friends over..it just sucks cause shes ruining my life..im only 14 but i hate always havin my parents around.And everytime I talk to her about it she laughs she doesnt take me seriously. what can i do? And also its summer time here ->* What are sum fun things to do in the summer time with friends?
With your mom, gain her trust, tell her what you're doing and what time you'll be b ack, and then even while you're there call and check in just to let her know what you're doing. Now getting there is a little more difficult. Maybe find someone who can drive and set something up with them, like tell them if they can take you some places sometimes you'll pay her/him money to drive you places. Something like that, or have friends pick you up.
Does anyone know where I can get music from for my picturetrail in MIDI File for free with actual singing in it??
the Xanga.com/xanga_music one as of lately hasn't been working for my picture trail, there's no longer any music in it, or it eventually has left.. If I find another place i'll let you know
ok i am a little differnt in school. i like it and all. But last year people got the impresioni was gothic, but really i just like to be wearing somthing differnt than all the others. I am so confused. also i just wanto to breack down and cry but i know no 1 will understand!!!
signed, GRL who isnt gothic!
It's good to be yourself! Be different and don't give a shit what those other people think. If you like what you wear then that's what matters. And if you really don't want them to think that then maybe dress into a different type of clothes, like punk type. But really it shouldn't matter, don't try and dress like something you're not just for them, if anything go all out and just have fun with your clothes and being you. I admire the whole wanting to be different thing. Keep up what you're doing and don't think or worry about what others will say, they're not you and so who are they to say what you are or what you should wear to make you who you are.
Okay I will try to keep this short.
I have a friend lets call her lana, well I met lana at camp one time and we sorta became friends because we were not liked that well and so I mean I thought she was a great friend and all that and not about 2 years lata to me hse is like SO boring and just like a fly that I can't get ot go away. she constitaly calls me and she became friends with my "So Called Friends" and they are always making up lies to lana about me and well lana is sorta someone that will beleive that you can walk upside down if you tell her that. and so she beleive all these friends say about me and I don't know how to tell I don't want to be friedns with her anymore because I just can't stand her. I mean she isn;t that pretty and that doen't matter but she follows me around and acts like a lost dog. she says her mother likes me because I'm the only firned that hasn't been mean to her. I'm a nice person and I just canpt find the guts to tell her that she drives me batty! I have a really good friend and lana gets SO upset that i spend more time with her and I that I don't like her that well. I like her but I just don't like..;... HELP ME!!! I don't know what to do!
signed,
to nice of friend
Well, maybe don't tell her you don't want to be friends with her, instead, tell her that ya'll need space. That you feel overwhelmed by her and need time to do different things with different people for a while. It's going to hurt her no matter what you do. Tell her that she's getting on your nerves and how... try to be as nice as possible when saying it too. If you don't want to her hurt but you want her to leave you alone, make your point clear, but try and be nice about it. Really there's no way you CAN be nice, but try to lay it down for her as easy as possible.
Hey,
My names Dawn and im 15
I live in New York
ive never had a boyfriend, and ive fallen in love with this dude online
He's names Mark and he lives in Cali, he's 17
We talk on the phone all the time
and we are kinda bf and gf
but lately ive had second thoughts, i mean he does live like really far away, BUT I STILL LOVE HIM
should i break up with him? or what??????
PLEASE HELP ME~!!!
The same thing happend with my good frined. She dated a guy all the way in London when we live in Texas. It went on for three years, he would never come to visit her so they ended it. If you really love him, then you could fight for it. Wait until he's 18 and can come see you in New York. Ask him if he's ready for a full commitment and if when he does turn 18 that he'd be willing to be with you and see you in New York. I could go on about what happend to my friend but it's quite long so you coudl ask me in my advice column sometime and i would get back to you.... He lives far away, but if you love him.. make sure it won't go anywhere before you break it off.
i babysit for this young couple, and they have 2 kids, the guy is like 21 and he is sooooooooo cute, and ive become friends with him, and the other night we were talking and he leaned in to kiss me, so we kissed and then he like got up and said it was time he took me home, he isnt happily married, he only married her cuz she was pregnant and i have a crush on him, im 17 by the way, what should i do???????......Alisha
You may have a crush on him, but it'sbest if you back off of him. You wouldn't want your husband to do that... I mean, they may not be happily married but by cheating with him, it basically loses their shots at saving their marrige. I would hold off your feelings for him until they separate or get a divorce or something... it might not be the easy choice but it would be a right one. If there's anymore to this story or anythign else let me know in my column and i would be more than happy to help you, or give the best adivce possible.
me and *sally* are reall y great friends. she might annoy me at some times. but we have started talking again.. and shes had a boyfriend for the past 7 months which i've known him since he was in 4th grade. theyre both really nice. well. she now is wanting to have sex with him. and he said no b.c he knows shes not ready . but other than that i've found out that he wants to break up with her. or proably has bene thinking about it. she tells him that she loves him and he says it back. but i know it's not true. and he has said that he doesn't hich is totally understandable. since we're in high school. wel she hasn't tld her parents. since whe they met him it was a bad impression. and they know that he's a pothead. she likes him alot.. but now i dont know what to tell her... he wants her parents to know!
You should definatly tell her to let her parent's know. If I were him i'd be sick of having to go behiend the parent's back for 7 months too! They've had a bad first impression, it happens, she shouldn't continue to make him wait. If they're planning on being together then her parent's need to know. But also as a friend, you should kinda let her in on what's up with the whole situation... like about how he want's to possibly break up with her and stuff like that. It's something that would be hard to tell a friend, but it would help her out alot. She needs to know that in order to keep this relationship she's going to have to make some sacrifices and suck it upa nd tell her parent's. I hope things work out for her!
i found our my friend has been smoking weed. idk what to tel. i know it's ok to try it but now shes spending her money one it?
Try letting her know how it makes you feel. Although they say that it's been proven that weed is no longer considered a gateway drug, i'm sure it can still help you lead to to others. Try your best and help her now, while it's still early and not too late. Tell her what it's going to do to her, what it's already done to her, and help her find some way to stop. If it doesn't work, and you are too late, then it would be your choice to leave her as a friend, or continue remaining friends with her. The only thing after that that you could really do is tell someone with higher power to get something done. Which wouldn't be bad, but i'm sure your friend would have some hard feelings about the whole thing...
Recently i got kicked out of my house for not wanted to stay home and i am claimed to not do much for my family.. I believe i help out a little bit but everything that i have ever done has never been enuff for them.But i dont wanna get "kicked out" again. I must also note that i am under age and not old enuff to get kicked out. I wanna be able to go out and have fun but my parents dont understand that and i wanna make a compromise.. i jus dont know what to do!
Well these situations are difficult because in these cases it's often the parent's who aren't listening. Maybe go out of your way to do something for them. Spotless up the entire house and let them know with actions that you want to be there. Tell them that by doing this, going out for a while shouldn't be a problem, and let them earn your trust to go out. Tell them when, where, who's there what time you'll be home ect.The more of their trust you have, the better off you are to do the things you want. If that doesn't work then your parent's are probably trying to make your life a living hell and they're doing quite nicley at it. But for a week or so just go all out and push to gain some respect by your parent's.
MY FRIEND ALISA IS A 34 YEAR OLD SINGLE MOTHER OF 3 YOUNG GIRLS. ALISA HAS BEEN GOING DOWN HILL FOR SOME TIME NOW, HER HOUSE IS ALWAYS DIRTY AND SHE SPENDS MOST OF HER TIME LOCK INSIDE HER BATHROOM
SMOKING CRANK. 3 WEEKS AGO SHE GOT A VISIT FROM CPS AND THEY GAVE HER A DRUG TEST - SHE FAILED SO HER CHILDREN WERE SENT TO LIVE WITH ALISA'S DAD AND STEP MOM UNTILL SHE CAN GET ENROLLED INTO A YEAR LONG REHAB PROGRAM. THE PROBLEM IS SHE NOW HAS THE FREEDOM TO RUN THE STREETS WITH OUT DRAGGING HER KIDS ALONG - THATS ALWAYS EASYER TO DO. SHE HASN'T EVEN TRIED TO FIND A PROGRAM YET AND WHEN I ASK HER ANYTHING ABOUT HER PLANS SHE SAYS SHE DOSN'T HAVE A PROBLEM WITH DRUGS AND DOSN'T FEEL SHE NEEDS REHAB. SHE SAYS SHE LOVES HER GIRLS AND THAT SHE WILL GO JUST BECAUSE SHE'LL NEVER GET THE KIDS BACK IF SHE DOSN'T.
EVERY WEEK FOR 3 WEEKS SHE HAS PROMISED THAT COME NEXT MONDAY SHE'LL TRUN HER SELF IN TO A CENTER - YET SHE IS STILL NOT THERE.
I'M SO VERY DISAPPOINTED IN HER , IF SHE DECIDES TO JUST LET THE KIDS GO AND STAYS IN THE SHAPE SHE IS IN RIGHT NOW THEN I WANT NOTHING MORE TO DO WITH HER !
WHAT DO YOU THINK I COULD DO TO HELP HER MAKE A WISE DECISION ?
Man this is a difficult one. Babe really there's nothing you can do. In the end this is her choice. You're doing the right thing now by telling her she should be getting some help, and needs to do something about it. Unfortunatlly, it's ultimatly her desision as to whether she wants to get help or not. The best thing you can do in a time like this is let her know what she's losing and what's going to happen to her if she carrys on the road she's going down. I wouldn't reccomend abandoning her just yet. Yes i'm sure it's difficult to take and you don't want to deal with her anymore, but she needs someone to be there for her. You seem like the type of person she needs to be around.. in ceartain cases I think if you and her family got together you could have a court hearing to force her to go get help, although I think it's just a temporary deal and she can get herself out quickly. But where is her family in this, and what do they have to say about the situation?