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PEOPLE just dont understand
ok i am a little differnt in school. i like it and all. But last year people got the impresioni was gothic, but really i just like to be wearing somthing differnt than all the others. I am so confused. also i just wanto to breack down and cry but i know no 1 will understand!!!
signed, GRL who isnt gothic!
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I know, i had that same thing happen to me, and i'm more of a punk. but anyhoo, let them think what they wanna think, if they don't have the balls to talk to you and figure out what you're about and get to know you, forget it! i know exactly how you feel. I went to a predominantly black school ( i, too am black), and i'm little miss "Punky Grungy", yeah, i had kinda a hard time fitting in, but i did make friends. I applaud the fact that you know who you are, most people don't. you have already figured out that you don't wanna be like everyone else. be th black sheep, and continue to blossom and grow in that area ( in a good) way, and people will always remember you, cuz you're unique.
Much Love,
Victoria
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Just wear what you want just try to wear more happier colors though-trix
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hey ummm it isnt a bad thing to be a gothic person. but instead of being gothic just go punk. it is a lot better. ooo and gothic ppl rock ! ! ! ! they r so different i mean i am not gothic but i have plenty of friends that r. but i am punk and it freaking rocks. have fun and just turn punk.
hope i helped
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Tell them what you told us and if they dont understand they kinda messed up say you just like difference and thats about it-trix
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People are going to think what they want, regardless of what you say or do. People have thought and still think that I'm "punk" or "goth" or "punk-goth". The truth is, I just wear what I like and put clothes on in the morning- it's not like I think about what style I look like. Go ahead and be different, don't change yourself just because they don't understand it. Eventually, you'll meet some really interesting, cool people because of it. Be yourself and let them worry about who you are- that doesn't concern you. As long as you know who you are and are secure with that, none of those people's thoughts matter.
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hey u shouldnt let ppl get u down ...if u dont dress in all blak like the hair and all like lipstick and makeup all being blak then ur not goth but if u do then u prolly are goth .....theres nuthing wrong with dressing different its making a statement and ppl need to relize that i dress in these funky shirts that have weird prints on them and ppl have actually copyed me but even if they didnt like it to fricken bad i wasnt gunna change for them and neither shud u ! dont cry cuz if they have nuthing better to do then tease sumone whos different then they arent worth ur time
hope i helped
Kate
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I've had people think I was Gothic before, and it never bothered me. When people ask you if you're a goth, just shrug and tell them that you just like to wear black.
If they persist in bugging you about being goth, it's best not to get too angry at them. If you make them feel a little stupid, though, they deserve it.
If it REALLY bothers you, dress differently for a short time, or do an every-other-day program where you dress how you want to dress one day, then just wear jeans and a tee shirt the next day. Do this for a while, until people get the message, at which point you can go back to your normal clothing preferences.
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I have that same problem.....but I've figured out that really it doesn't matter.Dress how you want not how others want you to.Tell the people that label you to go fu-.........I think you get my drift.And after a while when they start to see that you don't care what they think people will stop questioning you about the way you dress and will start to think that you don't care what anybody thinks.....at least that's what happenen-
ed in my case and people start to respect you a whole lot more.
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As long as u like it , then it shouldn't matter what the others think of u or what u wear .And people love to talk about things accusing them of things that aren't true when they don't have their facts straight . Just keep your head up and cool . They're just jealous because, they see competition when they see you . I bet your wondering why . Well, u said it yourself , you're different and they want to make u feel bad because it make them self's feel better about not plucking up the courage 4 not really expressing themselves because they want to a-crats all the time . So don't sweat it . You are the only one who knows that your not gothic, and your being true to yourself . So don't let it bother u . Being content with who you really are is a important factor that should be learned very early in life today because, of the trials and tribulations we go through . By, and have a nice day !!!
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It's good to be yourself! Be different and don't give a shit what those other people think. If you like what you wear then that's what matters. And if you really don't want them to think that then maybe dress into a different type of clothes, like punk type. But really it shouldn't matter, don't try and dress like something you're not just for them, if anything go all out and just have fun with your clothes and being you. I admire the whole wanting to be different thing. Keep up what you're doing and don't think or worry about what others will say, they're not you and so who are they to say what you are or what you should wear to make you who you are.
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Well if you dont like people thinking your gothic..try wearing less black.If you like your style than i think you should keep it.Go ahead and let people think what they want.
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If you really want to be so different that you let people think bad of you, go ahead. Personally I don't think that it is worth the trouble. Go out and buy other things. Try something new so that people won't think you're gothic if you aren't.
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yea i dont like it wen ppl "judge a book by its cover" if ya no wat i mean.... just try to talk to some ppl and let ppl see that ur not gothic and that ur just "normal"... if u do ppl will probably understand.... if u need nemore help just im me
Tommy
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Trust me, I know were you are coming from! My personal opinion, where what you like, and try not to care how low self-esteem people try to put you down so they can feel better about themselfs. Often, people care so much about fitting in that they make these social groups and classes. Trust me, all that aside, you will be alot happier if you wear, act, and do what you want, rather than trying to fit in. Not only will you have the best years of your life this way, but people will like you for you, and if they still don't, then screw them, most football captins of today are the burger jockies of tomorrow! Lol. Hope I've helped.
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Ignore everyone else's comments. When dealing with yourself, the only person whose opinion matters is yours. You've gotta learn to love yourself and live with everyone else. Let them think you're goth. You know you aren't, so that's all that matters. I can understand the "like to be wearing something different than all the others" thing. I'm like that. Just be you and ignore the people out there who are too insecure to be themselves. Think about it. THEY are the ones that conform and look the same. Because of their massive insecurity, they feel the need to put down the person who's secure enough to be a real person.
Just stay you, don't conform, and ignore what they say. =)
-Siren =)
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People get placed into social catagories by other's all the time. I never really did see why. I understand what your going through though, my friends go through something similar. At least school doesn't last forever, right? All of these people labelling you are ignorant. I'm sorry your treated this way, you don't deserve it.
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Tell people that they shouldnt judge and obviosly are upset about there pathetic lives so they are making fun of yours to make them feel better. Say woow, i never new you were so interested in my life! Stick up for yourself! It doesnt matter what others think of you but whatyou think of yourself. Hope i helped
melissa
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Definitly dont listen to what everyone says. Be your self, an individual, as you get older people will accept you for that and respect you for it too. People may just say things to make them feel better than you are but it isn't true. Individuality is a great thing that many people dont have so stick with your stlye!
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