Hey well I am 14 years old, a pretty out-going person, I'm fun, and nice. I have a pretty good perspective on things and that is why I would like to give people advice. So ask away and I'll get back to you.
E-mail: lkoschnas@netscape.net
Gender: Female
Location: Long Island
Occupation: Student/CIT
Age: 14
Member Since: June 26, 2004
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There's this friend at camp who gets ALL the attention from everyone. Everyone always likes her and most of the time doesn't pay any attention to me. Should I just leave it alone or do something? (link)
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Hey , i think you should do something if you want to be friends with this person. Tell her how she is making you feel. But if that "friend" doesnt pay any attention to you then shes not really a good friend.
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Im 16/f and i think im addicted to alcohol...whenever i see it i must have one...its really bad....ive been drinking for abotu two years now...and im always safe about it..i just ALWAYS want it...like if my rents go out for 15 minutes im in the cabinet taking out vodka...i really dont know what to do... (link)
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You definily need to get some help! Its not good for you and it makes you so un-healthy! You have to go to an adult, hopefully it is your parents. You might think that they will go crazy but they might not for being responsible to confront them with this and trying to improve yourself. Dont even try to go to guidence because they are going to have to notify your parents any way. So be responsible tell them you have to get some help to quit, and be responsible for your actions, drinking @ 16! Being an alcoholic changes everything in your life especially in the future. It can also get you killed. If you respect yourself you will do something about and if you respect the people around you, you will do something about it. You have already done enough damage at such a young age.Do the right thing!
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me and my bf were talking last night and he kept saying i hate my brother i wish aron was my bro (thats his cousin) and he kept saying it and saying it and like i hate him i wish he wasnt my brother and i said im glad your bro is your bro and he said why do you always stick up for him? and i said cuz.. i have my reasons and he said he hated his bro more and more and kept going on and on i got really mad b-cuz i love my brother and my brother is dead so out of that i said at least your bro didnt fricken die... was saying that totally wrong? i mean he kept going on and on and i wanted my point across and i've never told him it b4 but now he knows (link)
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I definitly don't think you were out of line! You wanted to make your point across, show him that he should appreciate his brother. And i think that it is good that he knows now because it might change his view. And i'm really sorry about your brother.
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ok surfer hair is in style for the boys.. but wut kinda hair is in for the girls? answer asap! thanks (link)
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Well the stlye that is in for girls would be lots of layers depending on length and volume of your hair. Also i think long hair is in, do anything pass your chin definitly. Maybe you should add some waves to your hair too or keep it pin straight.
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i hate my whole family, they are so annoying and ignorant. i feel like im gonna commit suicide because of them. i have a brother, whos always punching me, and i wish he would die, and another brother who is so ignorant, that he blames me for not paying for his movie ticket. im like WHAT THE HELL, im ur lil bro, and you work, and u get money, so you should pay for ME! I also hate my parents, and they hate me too. They are annoying, and make me do everything i hate. They think Im someone im not. I hate them. Please help me before I kill myself!
signed,
anonymous (link)
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Hey well i definitly dont think you should kill your self or even think that way. They are so many people that care about you,especially me and you know that. I'm sure your parents dont hate you! They love you! and for you brothers there just being annoying, and they will pick on you thats what brothers are for. But i really think you should talk to your family, because its not good that you feel this way. Family is always suppose to be there for you and support you. You should show them who you really are rather than the person they want you to be. If you need any more advice i'm here! Good luck
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My best friend is a guy. We both like each other and say I love you and stuff like that. We talk on the phone all the time, but here comes the tough stuff he lives 2 hours away and he has a girlfriend who is one of my friends. See the truth is we are so close, even though this will sound dumb because i am only 13, I can see myself marrying him. Please tell me what i should do. PLEASE!!!!!!! (link)
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Hey well i think since you like this guy you should make plans with him and talk to him as much as possible. But dont go over board because you dont want to lose a friend(the person he is going out with). Eventually things with break off and you'll have your chance. I wouldn't worry about it too much because you are only 13!!!As long as you stay close friends with this guy things will eventually work out.
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I feel like my friends don't give a damn about me. If I have a great time with someone [which doesn't happen too often] I like to tell that experience to people. I've been talking and talking about my experiences with this team I'm on. They don't seem intrested at all. I need advice badly. But, I see that you've told people to confront their problems and I really don't want to do that. It's awkward for me to just walk up to my friends and say "Hey. How are you? Do you care about me at all?". Thanks, bye. (link)
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Hey well i have told alot of people to confront there problems because its true! You don't just have to walk up to them and say, "hey. how are you? Do you care about me at all" and feel awkward about it. You can plan something to make you feel comfortable talk ing about how your friends are making you feel. If you confront your problem head on then you quickly see both sides of this problem. It seems to me that you want a friend that is a good listener and maybe your friends havent gotten to that point yet. If your not willing to talk to them make more friends! Spread it out a little bit. There are so many more people out there that you can be friends with than the same people that you hang out with all of the time who don't make you happy. This doesn't mean that you have to dump your friends.But if you do decide to confront this problem and you friends don't even listen to you than they are not worth it! Find a friend willing to listen to you and have lots of fun with.
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Hey katie. I need help because my friend and i were very good friends for a long long time [like since kindy garden!] and ever since i became friends with this other girl 2 years ago, we sort of grew apart and totally stopped talking, which is only normal. but now i dont want her to think that i hate her or anything and we have soo much history and its sort of hard to leave that but i feel like she acts different twards me now and i don't want her to because i'll always love her reguardless of who else i'm friends with. I just wanted to like hang out with her again without it being weird... (link)
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Hey, i think that you should call her on the phone or make a plan with her and talk to her and tell her how you feel, like the things you told me. You should tell her that you can always have more than one friend. Remind her of the history that you guys have had. If she is a special friend than she will listen, and hang out with you without it being weird. But also tell her that you don't like it when she acts differently towards you.
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this guy, chris, is someone that i really like.. but theres one thing inbetween us... his "soon to be girlfriend". he used to like me when i liked him but i was too shy to admit it to him. now i feel like a jerk because he kind of got the hint that i like him and everything. so now, he's going to ask this girl out and i'm going to get jelious and i'm going to take it out on me because i didnt tell him that i liked him... what should i do???
signed, female,14 (link)
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Well, i think that you should hang out with him alot and then maybe he will get to know you alot more. He could realize that this "soon to be girlfriend" isn't right for him. And if you really feel comfortable talking to him you should tell him that you like him so he definitly knows.
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I am really worried about my friend. she has been so depressed lately, but she won't tell me what's wrong! How should I deal with this? (link)
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Hey i think you should invite your friend over and talk to her. Tell her that your are you friend and that you really care about her. But if she still doesn't talk give her some time, something might be going on in her life that she isn't ready to talk about yet, but make sure you let her know that you are always there for her to talk to.
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Hi. I'm a very shy person who just can't seem to overcome that and approach people when making new friends. It's very difficult for me to make new friends because my shyness gets in the way of everything, and I HATE that! I want to become more friendly and out-going so that it will be easy to be making new friends instead of a struggle. If you have any suggestions about how I can be more friendly and out-going then answer this question please, or give me any resources on how to overcome my shyness when making friends-anythings fine with me. I really need your help on this, so please take the time out and answer this question. THANX!!! (link)
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Hey dont worry about this. You just have to let go a little and gain some confidence. When making a new friend make sure this person is nice, and outgoing because then she or he can rub this confidence off on you. A good person will reconize that your a shy person but really nice too, and this person will try to get you out of that shell. Hey i am 14 and i use to be realllyyyyy shy and quiet but when you meet the right person like i did you become a whole new person! Good Luck!
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my friends boy friend wont stop saying hes gonna kill himself but i dunno wat to do ,my friend doesnt know he told me so i was wondering wat do i do???? i mean i dont wanna tell her cuz it will like kill her so if i tell neone else then they will like report him to a mental place so i dunno wat to do!!!!wat do i do?????
thx~~
~*RiSs*~ (link)
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Well this is serious. First you have to talk to your friend in private. Then you should go to your parents, because this kid really needs serious help. And if he gets sent to a "Mental Place" than its for his own good because he will get the right help for his problem. But you have to address this to somebody soon, dont wait or you will regret it!
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hey i have this friend, lets say her name is allie, well me n "allie" are supposed to be good friends, but now that we've grown older, i've matured just a bit more, im not into the stuff she likes any more, like she's more of a tom boy, and i like sports n stuff, but like at the movies and the mall, she HATES goin into stores like claires and forever 21, and anything wit too much "girl" stuff, but i go into stuff i dont like as in spencers and K B toys, she refuses to go where i wanna go, but i go where she wants to just to be a good fair friend,we've kind of split up when it cumz to interest, and i dont wanna be her friend, cuz we agree on almost nuttin, the problem is i live rite behind her in a manner of speaking me n "allie" "share" backyards, and when we start high skool next year, all of our church groups will be help at her house, and if im not her friend, i'd feel awkward, what should i do
also im a soon to be 14 yr old, and her n my sis and her n my bro are GOOD friends, and i just dont want her to get upset because she considers me her Best Friend
sry i've written so much, and if its confusin lemme kno and ill try to edit it!
Confused in Concord (link)
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Hey well this is a problem but i think we can fix this. You should talk to her and tell her how you feel about this, and find some new common interest or just try to compromise with each other since your going to be seeing each other alot.And if she is your friend she wont get upset with for saying how you feel.
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ok i am a little differnt in school. i like it and all. But last year people got the impresioni was gothic, but really i just like to be wearing somthing differnt than all the others. I am so confused. also i just wanto to breack down and cry but i know no 1 will understand!!!
signed, GRL who isnt gothic! (link)
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Definitly dont listen to what everyone says. Be your self, an individual, as you get older people will accept you for that and respect you for it too. People may just say things to make them feel better than you are but it isn't true. Individuality is a great thing that many people dont have so stick with your stlye!
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i have a friend, lets say her name is "alyssa" well me n alyssa have been best friends for about a year, now weer goin to dif high skools, and i think she's tryin to tell me that she doesn't wanna be BFF just friends, and i mean thats aight wit me, but i just wish she'd say it, instead of beating around the bust
should i just wait for her to make it clear
is she just actin weird
should i say sumthin to her
idk
plz help me!!
im a 14 year old gal if that makes any difference (link)
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Hey! Well I think you should talk to "Alyssa" and confront her about how you feel about your friendship. She is your best friend which means you guys can talk about anything. And if "Alyssa" doesnt want to be your friend then its her loss. But you should get through it.
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