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Stepmother
I have a stepmother, her name is anne. She's only 15 years older than me, and my dad is 17 years older than her! I hate her, but i'm still nice to her...She's bothering me!!!! She pretends to be my mom, and i dont want people to think that! I wana tell my dad that he should divorce her, but how? I also have to say that she doesn't know how to drive, and only earns $14 dollars per hour at her new job! And my dad only married her bcus he was alone at the house (I was with my mom) and was afraid if something happened to him, no1 would call the police.
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okay. i am a step mom I am only 22 and my oldest step child is 14! I know I will never be his mom. I know that when younger steps are older they will feel the same way you do. It is hard to be a step mom. But you know you can take this as an advantage and have her as your friend. tell her hey you will never be my mom you are just going to be a friend. IT sucks I know to have someone barely older than you are telling you what to do. but your dad and her have made a commitment and you should honor that. I hope it works out.
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um.. hoo cares how much she makes? but.. i thynk u shuud just tell ut padre what u thynk and that u dont want her takin over... tell him u dont need a new mum and ur there with him now.. he shuud understand
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hi, well have a talk wit ur dad see how he feels bout her...if he loves her dont u want ur dad to be happy? i mean ur not wit him all da time are u? he needs someone in his life to look after him...so just try to think a lil more bout dis...i understand that u dont like her and everything but dont b selfish think bout ur dad 2...i mean if she loves ur dad..n ur dad loves her...n they happy together i think u should respect that...n live wit it:) xoxo effy
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First, try to get to know her. See her less as your "very young stepmom" and more as a relative who has come into you life. Try to go to the movies with her, and do some fun stuff.
If still hate her, try to figure out why. Here is where you have to be very objective with yourself. Do you hate her because she's married you dad or because she's just a nasty person? If it's the first one, then jope you get used to her, because your dad deserves his happiness. If it's the second one, there's not much you can do except home they eventually get sick of each other.
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Wow, complicated sitch. I know exactly how you feel. You need to be up front with your dad and Anne. What to say:
To Anne: "Anne, I know you mean well, and you're a great person. But lately it seems like you've been trying to be too much like my mother. I really like you, but it bothers me."
If the convo goes well, you might not even have to involve your dad.
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hmm.. maybe you should talk to your dad about the situation.. im sure he'll help you out through all of this!!
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Maybe you should try to see your stepmother in a different light, like try seeing her as an older sister then a stepmom. Also, do something together like that, like if you watch stepmom with her, she might even be nicer. Movies have a big effect on people like that
Lizzy
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Well, don't tell your dad you want him to get a divorce just because you don't like her. But tell him how she makes you feel. Tell him that she's not your mother and you don't really want her to treat you as "her child." This is probably going to hurt her feelings no matter what you do.. if I knew how old you were and how old she was then it would help out a little bit more.But really, he more than likley won't divorce his new wife because you told him he should. i know you're his kid, but things just don't work out that way sometimes.If she makes him feel more secure about himself, then you should just let him be happy... not to take away your happiness of course, try and make sacrifices, talk it over with BOTH of them.
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