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confused and lonely
Hey,
My names Dawn and im 15
I live in New York
ive never had a boyfriend, and ive fallen in love with this dude online
He's names Mark and he lives in Cali, he's 17
We talk on the phone all the time
and we are kinda bf and gf
but lately ive had second thoughts, i mean he does live like really far away, BUT I STILL LOVE HIM
should i break up with him? or what??????
PLEASE HELP ME~!!!
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hey dawn ---
well, since he lives on the other side of the country, i doupt things would ever work out. and plus, are you sure you know who this mark guy REALLY is, cause for all you know he could be a 40 yearold man. there was this one girl who met an online "boyfriend" at the mall and he killed her in the back of the mall. doesnt sound so bright, does it? and are you sure that you "love" him, its kinda hard to decide whether you love him, from the internet and phone. goood luck - shelby
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Well that could be a tuffy. Do you to know what eachother looks like? Are you 2 planning on ever meeting? cuz that would be good! but if you love him .. stay with him .. you never know what you have until you lose it. I dont want your risking that is one of the most truest quoets ever. Believe me i learned and it sucked. Dont let long distance get between you guys. If you love each other you guys will make it. Just like you already have! just make a rule where you both are able to flirt sense you guys are so far away from eachother you can flirt with others!
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hi dawn...
ok...even though u "may" love him...yall or on opposite sides of the country...it would be hard 2 have a good relationship...i know that doesnt sound nice but its true...u have never spent any time 2gether so do u really know if ur competible or not??...think about it..i think it would be hard 2 have a relationship like that??....u should do what u think is best but make sure u look at the pros AND the cons!!...:]
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I'm not tryin 2 sound mean but u need somone u can see. for all u kno it could be a 34 year old man. i kno u said u've talked to him but thatz don't mean anything. alot bad thingz happen. so i say u should break up wit him i'm sure u can find somone that u can see all that time. good luck
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:/ that's far. I'm usually okay with long-distance relationships, but not when it's across the country! And you may think that he's faithful to you, but you never know. Plus, you can't be sure if that's REALLY Mark. For all you know, he could be someone totally opposite of what he told you he was. So I say, go with your gut feeling. If you want to break up with him, more power to ya. If not.. then good luck. <3
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WELL U SHOULD THINK BOUT IT RELLY I MEAN NO AFENCE BUT LONG DISTANT RELASTIONSHIPS HARDLEY EVER WORK SO U SHOULD STILL B FRIENDS BUT BFORE U GET YUR HEART RIPPED OUT DO IT HE COULD HAVE A FAMILY AND B MARRIED AND PLAYING A TRICK ON U SO THINK BOUT IT
FALLEN ANGEL
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Seeing that you have never meet eachother, I wouldn't exactly say you are bf & gf. For now just be his friend, and countinue talking, but don't stop yourself from getting out and interacting with boys that are actually where you are.
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Why dont you make things more casual. You may love this guy but tricking yourself into believing that 'some day you'll be together' might make you crazy.
I think you should let things happen however they happen, everyone says long term relationships dont work, and maybe they dont, but that doesnt mean you cant still think about the guy and not forget him.
No matter how far away a person is, they still have an affect on you. And you can't just forget about that. You have feelings for the guy but you're probably scared that loving him is just you fooling yourself into believing that he's really real.
There is no reason you can't be friends, but at the same time, dont limit yuorself to this guy who you may never even see. Let yourself explore guys near you, but dont just cut this other guy out of your life either.
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I would end it. It's more torture staying in this considering you 2 live on opposite sides of the country. You probably never see him in person.
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The same thing happend with my good frined. She dated a guy all the way in London when we live in Texas. It went on for three years, he would never come to visit her so they ended it. If you really love him, then you could fight for it. Wait until he's 18 and can come see you in New York. Ask him if he's ready for a full commitment and if when he does turn 18 that he'd be willing to be with you and see you in New York. I could go on about what happend to my friend but it's quite long so you coudl ask me in my advice column sometime and i would get back to you.... He lives far away, but if you love him.. make sure it won't go anywhere before you break it off.
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hi i might be able to help u out ... having a phone relationship might be fun but then it might be painful and u never kno if the guy might be a stalker or might be lying..just be urself and u might find the right guy in school...dont rush into relationships they will come believe me ~ sexichickxoxo
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