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Friend trouble
Okay I will try to keep this short.
I have a friend lets call her lana, well I met lana at camp one time and we sorta became friends because we were not liked that well and so I mean I thought she was a great friend and all that and not about 2 years lata to me hse is like SO boring and just like a fly that I can't get ot go away. she constitaly calls me and she became friends with my "So Called Friends" and they are always making up lies to lana about me and well lana is sorta someone that will beleive that you can walk upside down if you tell her that. and so she beleive all these friends say about me and I don't know how to tell I don't want to be friedns with her anymore because I just can't stand her. I mean she isn;t that pretty and that doen't matter but she follows me around and acts like a lost dog. she says her mother likes me because I'm the only firned that hasn't been mean to her. I'm a nice person and I just canpt find the guts to tell her that she drives me batty! I have a really good friend and lana gets SO upset that i spend more time with her and I that I don't like her that well. I like her but I just don't like..;... HELP ME!!! I don't know what to do!
signed,
to nice of friend
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'Lana' can't help that she wants to be friends with you. Like you said yourself, you are a nice person. A nice person, in my opinion, lets a new friend into their life. She may be annoying, you say, but who cares? Everyone is annoying sometime. Get to know 'Lana,' Who knows; you guys could become great friends.
Talk to 'Lana' about how the rumors your 'friends' are saying aren't true. She should believe you if she really does want to become your friend and likes you as a person.
Explain to 'Lana' calmly that you have other friends, and can't always hang out with her.
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It might hurt her feelings but if she buggs u that much u have to tell her if i were u i would still be her friend i mean she has no other friends just try talking to her tell her u need ur space but that every now and then u two can get together dont just stop being friends with her because she bugs u all friends start to annoy u after awhile but just give her time
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Dear Nice Friend,
I've had friends like that before too, and it also left me guilty with the thought of being mean to them, but I think you should talk to her [she might not be pleased, but she'll have to accept it]. You deserve your space, and no one can take that right away from you.
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keep your distance
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I would zone her out. Ignore her calls, keep conversations with her to a minimum, etc. She almost sounds obsessed with you.
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Well, maybe don't tell her you don't want to be friends with her, instead, tell her that ya'll need space. That you feel overwhelmed by her and need time to do different things with different people for a while. It's going to hurt her no matter what you do. Tell her that she's getting on your nerves and how... try to be as nice as possible when saying it too. If you don't want to her hurt but you want her to leave you alone, make your point clear, but try and be nice about it. Really there's no way you CAN be nice, but try to lay it down for her as easy as possible.
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You need to talk with Lana and let her know how you feel. Tell her that you wouldnt mind having her as a friend if she would let you have some space once in a while. to do things with other friends and do to other things you want to do.
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