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Losing a friend
Okay, here goes. My best friend and I have been friends for 14 years (We're both 19 now). We've always been there for eachother, always were together, etc. But about 3 months ago, I introduced her to one of my other friends, and then she completely changed her lifestyle and appearance (as in the way she dresses, acts, and stuff) to be just like that person and she's not the person I used to know anymore. Our friendship started getting weaker, so I changed my style to be like hers, and our friendship got to the way it used to be again. But about a month ago, I didn't like my "new lifestyle" so I changed back to my old on, and now our friendship got weaker. I've tried as much as I can to bring it back, I talk to her and try to fix our friendship, but it's not working, she gives me the "sorry attitude" and then blows me off. Now we're hanging on by a thread and it seems the more I talk to her, the farther we grow. I know this is because I introduced her to that person (her new best friend), and I'm starting to regret that deeply. They're inseparable now, and I'm feeling so awful because I just lost my best friend of 14 years to this. Now they spend every waking hour together and I mean nothing anymore.
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Friendship gets really hard when your older. Dont blame yourself for introducing her to her new "bestfriend". If she doesnt want to listen to you about how you think you should fix your friendship then your better off without her. I know it will be really hard to, but you might want to make a new friend, and she will be sad that she lost a great friend like you!
~Brina~
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i think that u need 2 get it clear 2 her wat is happin i kno u've tried talkin 2 her. tha new style she has now is so bad that u can't be that. i kno itz not u but u gotta think . and try talkin 2 her friendz see if yall all can hang out and do sumthin just don't blow offher group kuz u don't wanna be like them. how yall work dis out
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I know you want to fit in with them, but you shouldn't have changed yourself just for them. It's hard to give a friendship away .. but when it comes down to it .. I think it's something you should try to do. You can find a new best friend and just leave the one that didn't like you for you anymore alone .. I don't mean to seem harsh but it's seriously her loss. You can go on now, be a better person without having to change yourself for her. It may be tough, but I think you can do it.
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Confront her about the situation. Explain to her you miss the old times & that the way she is now isn't helping the friendship. Tell her that you wouldn't wna see ya'lls relationship go down the drain just bc of one new friend you introduced to her. Not telling her how you feel is gna make the situation worse, but by telling her at least she'll know their are some problems in ya'lls friendship. Sort out the whole ordeal :0)
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Almost everyone drifts apart. One of the painful lessons in life. Ties are broken after highschool/college, people change. I think your friend would have changed even if you didn't introduce her to the other girl. The best thing to do is to move on, get absorbed into school/work, and just be casual friends. My best friend whom i've known since 1st grade (I start my second year of college in the fall) started changing after highschool. he started becoming more like a prep, and we hardly ever speak anymore.
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