When life gives u lemons, make lemonade. Then, throw it in the face of the person who should've gotten you the oranges you orginally asked for.
What we do is determined by what we are. What we are is determined by what we think. What we think is determined by what we experience. What we experience is determined by what we are exposed to and what we do with that exposure.
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Life is like a book with many different chapters. Some tell of tragedy, others of triumph. Some chapters are dull and ordinary, others intense and exciting. The key to being a success in life is to never stop on a difficult page, to never quit on a tough chapter. Champions have the courage to keep turning the pages because they know a better chapter lies ahead.
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Because you're able to do it and because you have the right to do it, doesn't mean it's right to do it.
(Dr.LAURA SCHLESSINGER)
We are born with our eyes closed and our mouths open, and we spend our whole lives trying to reverse that mistake of nature.
(DALE E.TURNER)
You can have anything you want if you want it desperately enough. You must want it with an inner exuberance that erupts through the skin and joins the energy that created the world.
(SHEILAH GRAHAM)
We all have the ability. The difference is how we use it.
(STEVIE WONDER)
Everything is a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
Every great mistake has a halfway moment, a split second when it can be recalled and perhaps remedied.
One person can make a difference and every person should try.
The one thing worse than being alone is not being alone and wishing you were.
Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.
(THEODORE N.VAIL)
The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
(ROBERT C. DODDS)
Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not, but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.
(EPICURUS)
When you look in the mirror, you are looking at the problem, but remember, you are also looking at the solution.
Live your life, so you don't have to hide your diary.
Dream what you dare to dream. Go where you want to go. Be what you want to be.
(CALVIN COOLIDGE)
The first thing of importance is to have confidence in yourself, in your abilities.
(KATHARINE GIBBS)
Become a 'possibilitarian'. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities-always see them, for they are always there.
(NORMAN VINCENT PEALE)
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'The easiest thing in the world is to come up with an excuse not to do something. I found that the most important thing in life is to stop saying,'I wish,' and to start saying,'I will.'
'Before there can be wonders, there must be wonder.'
'Whenever I pursued my dreams, I discovered something astonishing-I discovered myself. My secret has been to consider nothing impossible. Then to treat possibilities as probabilities.'
'Passion is everything.'
'I learned that there were two ways I could live my life: following my dreams or doing something else. Dreams aren't a matter of chance, but a matter of choice. When I dream, I believe I am rehearsing my future.'
Miracles do not happen in contradiction to nature, but only in contradiction to that which is known to us of nature.
(SAINT AUGUSTINE)
The world is composed of givers and takers... the takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better.
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
(ROBERT FROST)
Love is a fruit in season at all times and within reach of every hand.
(MOTHER TERESA)
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Hey there okay never thought Id find myself asking one of theese questions but yea here goes.
Soo this will probably sound extremely stupid in a way but im kinda worried. Basicly I get my period towards the end of the month start of the next The last time I got my period was Jan 26/27th/28th could of been either of theese dates it finished probably like feb 1st now March 15th and I havnt had a period since im usually really on time,as my period previous to the last was the 26th of december.
Anyway I havnt had sex and im a virgin..so obviously I couldnt be pregnant.However a thought occured to me..in between this time me and my boyfriend have fooled around alot..like everything except sex.
So im kind of like stressing now considering im this late that maybe is it possible that if anything from him came in contact with me when we were messing around without realising?
Seems incrediabley stupid I know but I was wondering is that ANYWAY possible?cos im kinda freakin out now.
I know the more I stress that,that can delay them longer but ive relaxed and completely forgot until now.
why am I so late? should I be at all worried?
Thanks for your time :) (link)
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How exactly did you fool around? And did he actually cum or what exactly do you mean by anything from him came in contact with you? Nothing that comes from him except actually cum can cause a possibility of pregnancy, and even that, must come really near to your vagina opening or practically inside, cause sometimes even when cumming near the opening has very low possibility of getting pregnant, if you immediately wash up after it.
So from the sound of it, i think you're just worried, and that nothing actually happened that can cause pregnancy unless 'however way you fooled around' that you haven't mentioned exactly.
So try to relax, it might be just period irregularities, and this happens to anyone even people who've been regular in their period since its start.
So right now all i can tell you is to relax and wait a few more days, it might be just late cause your stressed and stuff, or i can ask you to explain the fooling around part if you want, and what exactly you did with your boyfriend, so i can advice you better, but that's up to you. Please be free to contact me at any time.
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For starters, I am fifteen and female. I'm one of those girls that has a guy best friend. I trust him with my life, he's always there for me, he helps me with homework, he plays songs on his guitar when I'm down because he knows I like that, and he never ceases to put a smile on my face. Well, he has an.. let's call her an obsessor. She's all over him all the time, she asks for hugs and he's to nice to tell her no so he does. With that said, he's to nice to tell her he doesn't feel the same, so being his friend, he asked me to do it. My friend (a girl) and I were together when he texted me and asked if I could do this for him, so we texted his obsessor from my friend's phone because they don't talk so they don't have each others numbers. We told her to lay off that he doesn't feel the same and she said she'll cut off all contact with him if we are that upset about it, so that's what she did. Now, you know how most storied turn out, the best friends get together, get married, have children and live happily ever after? Yep, my friends think that will be my guy friend and I. They say he looks at me like he likes me, that he looks at me like he adores me. That they wish they could find a guy that looks at them the way he looks at me. He supposedly looks at me when I'm not looking. We don't hang out outside of school but we talk just about everyday on the phone, talking about homework or just our days. He knows everything about me and he tells me things he doesn't even tell his guy best friend. But, his dick friend started a rumor that we liked each other and now everybody calls him my "future husband" and I would text him and tell him some of the things that people were saying about us to maybe get a good laugh (rumors never used to bother him) but he doesn't laugh, he kinda gets snappy, saying he doesn't want to hear what people said. I was just wondering if you think he likes me. (link)
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Well first of all, him liking you or not has nothing to do with the obsesser story, so i'm not gonna talk about this part.
Second of all, yes its possible that he likes you, and that's probably why he gets all defensive when he sees you not taking the things that are said seriously,and that your upset about what people say as if you hate that if what they say could be true, so its as if your telling him that there is no way on earth that you could like him this way, while he possibly secretly likes you. And if he does look at you in a way and everyone agrees that there is something and you yourself think that there might be something, then there probably is something, but maybe he's not sure of it yet or is not sure how to tell you or maybe he's afraid that if he tells you, you'd reject him, and then he'd have lost you as both a friend and a lover.
I don't advice you to talk to him about it, cause that obviously might make things worse. And about people talking, let them talk, just ignore it, don't even put it in your mind, and don't even tell him what people say, just act like you don't know whats going on, and just act normally with him and with people, and for now, he's your best friend and everything is the same, till he actually says something or majorly hints around about it.
Hope i helped :D If you need anything else, or if there are any updates, please be free to contact me. Best of luck!
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Ive noticed, while int he shower, that the skin under my pubic hair is brown/black. I dont know what is going on! It is weird when parts of my body start turning black. (link)
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Hey, you didn't give much details to be able to identify this, and we can't give you a medical diagnosis from here, so i suggest you consult a doctor, and let him see it, maybe its something that can be treated with simple medications, or maybe its nothing at all. So you should definitely see a doctor to be on the safe side.
If you need anything else, or if there are any updates, please be free to contact me. Best of luck!
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I have this friend she's a very good friend till know we were hanging out then out. Of nowhere she said that she has problems. Because of that she doesn't get what she wants cause of me and that she hates how I talk to every one I just don't get it what's wronge with her not to be mad i'm just saying she can't go blaming. People for her problems were no longer talking should I be the one to say something first even if I think I had all the right to get mad right I don't know what to do I'm lost (link)
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Hey, first of all, please try to use full stops next time loool, I had trouble reading that. Mmm Well it seems to me that your friend is jealous, maybe not jealous in the bad meaning of the word, but just upset and she feels left out, cause you know more people, or you have a better social life, and that is not your fault, you're probably the outgoing social type of person, and she probably is not so good in socializing.
No one should be mad here, she has probably been upset about it for a long time now, and when she finally opened up to tell you about it ,she expressed it in this way,so sudden and out of the blue, but she didn't mean to hurt you i'm sure. I think that you should try to involve her more with the people you know, try to introduce her to the people you meet, make her be friends with your friends and the people you know, so she would feel like she's a part of this, not left on the sidelines and totally ignored while you talk to everyone else.
You didn't do anything wrong and you don't have bad intentions i know, but its just that sometimes one person's personality shadows over another person, so taking the spotlight and being the center of attention, unconsciously and then she'd be left alone, no one caring about her or directing any interest in her, and that's exactly how she feels, cause i've been there and done that, and it doesn't feel good. And the problem is that she's not the type to start a conversation or socialize easily, she needs someone to talk to her first, ask her something, introduce her, and that's where you come in. Give her a bit of your spotlight, share it with her, but this is nothing to fight about at all.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me :D Best of luck!
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What are some really good dares to give during a game of Truth or Dare? For both guys and girls (link)
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Dare to:
Kiss someone
slap someone
Play a prank on someone
Make a guy put on makeup or dress like a girl
To spank one of the players
Exchange an article of clothing with one of the players
Tell your darkest deepest secret
Lick the floor
Lol Hope i helped!
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Could you wear a tampon in a tanning bed? (link)
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Yes sure you can wear a tampon, it's just like a piece of clothing that might create a tan line down there though.
Hope i helped, feel free to contact me if you need anything else.
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So for an English party in school, I asked my mom to make a cake for me. Shes really talented in baking cakes! In school, I was waiting until lunch time so I could pick up the cake my mom made this morning for the party. When I went to pick the cake, I found out that it wasn't wrapped..but it was a box from the store. When I opened it, I noticed that it was a cake brought from the store! Just a plan cake which is very common around here. I don't really like those cakes. I got very angry.. and questions kept running in my mind "why didn't my mom make the cake? and why did she bring this crappy one?" I got tears in my eyes. Even though I got a cake, I knew people wouldn't like it. So during the party...guess what happened? NO ONE...not a single person! ate the cake.. :'( I did nothing but cry to myself. My dad payed lots of money.. it was a pretty huge cake! Not even my English teacher ate the cake.. I think my friends saw me crying. So 5 of my friends took a piece of the cake. But still, its embarrassing. Carrying a huge cake around with no one eating it. When I went home, I yelled at my mom. This was wrong. But I couldn't help it. I got very very angry. She said she couldn't make the cake..but its not my fault! :( I WAS Embarrassed. I yelled at her pretty badly.. that I don't trust her anymore and stuff like that. She got so mad, she threw a whole glass bowl on the floor, and it broke into pieces. I did the same, I banged the telephone on the table..now it doesn't even work. What do you think of this?? I know I made a mistake, but I couldn't control my anger since I was embarrassed. (link)
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Well first of all, you were wrong when you shouted at your mom, i mean, there are many other ways that you could express your anger and hurt from what she did, and if you had talked in a better way, maybe then she could've felt guilty and saw that your right, but now you are so not right, cause you wasted your right by being wrong and shouting at her and throwing objects on the floor, you can never do that to your parents, there should always be respect.
And yes your mom might have been wrong about not doing the cake, but you really never know what she had, or what her reasons are, or maybe she really was busy, and maybe if you knew her reasons, you would've understood. And them not eating the cake its basically their loss and its good enough that you even brought anything for this party and shared something, and its only low of them if they don't appreciate it, no matter what the cake's type is, i mean, its still cake, and its an English party.
So my advice here, is to completely forget about the party incident, and maybe next time you'll have the cake you want and it will be a much better party, but this time you didn't and it was bad and embarassing, but don't embarassing moments happen all the time to all people? Like someone who throws a birthday party with the best 'cakes' ever, but then not ONE person shows up, it has nothing to do with the party or the cake or the host, it has to do with the people, and how they're too stuck up and low that they didn't come.
So apologize to your mother, tell her that you really crossed the line, and that your very sorry,and that you don't care about any cake or party,and try to ask about her reasons, maybe there is something, and it would be nice for you to be there for her, and then thank your dad for the cake, and for all the money he put in it to get it for you and make you happy. And hey, parents don't usually understand what we need or how we feel, or how that affects us in school or embarasses us, they think they're doing something good, and they have good intentions, but they don't know that they are really actually embarassing us. So be grateful to them and thank them.
Its just a fight and there are probably many fights yet to come, i mean, who doesn't fight with his parents, but you can't cross the line again or do like what you did this time.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me.Best of luck!
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can you have sex when you are on your period? (link)
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Ofcourse you can, it just doesn't usually happen cause some guys get disgusted of the whole blood and smell and stuff,and some girls feel uncomfortable too.
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So since I've been in high school I've been bullied a lot. Usually it's just snide remarks and comments, and although I never retaliate, I'm constantly screaming on the inside. I really don't feel like I don't fit in with the school and I've been reading on this other school that I really want to apply for but the thing is it's quite far away from where I live whereas my current school is literally down the road. And now, my younger brother has got into the same school as me so I don't think my parents would let me move because it only makes sense to have us at the same school and he really likes the school.
My parents know I don't like my school as they have noticed my mood when I come and last year I went through this really awkward self-harming stage, which has stopped, but my parents think it's because I'm getting used to my school.
Moving school is a hard process and I'm not sure I want to put my parents through it all, but I really want to go to the other school.
What should I do? (link)
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how many years are left for you in that school? Listen, I've been there, done that, felt that, got bullied, in much much more ways than remarks and comments, and i stayed in that school for like 6 years, that was in junior and middle school, and then when i went to high school, the same people came with me to the new school, and it was pretty much 3 other years of hell. And after i left, yes it was horrible and there is nothing that would ever make me wanna go back to this place or know these people, but the place i'm in now, the college i'm in, and the people i know, i can't say its worth all what i've been through to be honest, but its a relief and an amazing feeling to be respected and treated well and have friends, so yes, its worth the while. And yes i used to go home crying everyday, and i used to cry in school, and it all affected my grades and everything in my life, and my parents knew about it, and they did switch schools for me, and guess what, the same people followed, or i met new people and i made trouble again or things didn't go well either. So here is the thing, sometimes there is good in where we are, although you might not see it, but if you compare it to something else, it might be better, and just try to focus on your studies and occupy your time, and i'm sure there are good people there, try to make friends even if one or two, and if they're true friends, they might have your back when someone lets you down.
So pretty much, its not the switching schools that's gonna do it for you, believe me, ofcourse it might be better for you, it might have not been good for me, but it might be for you, but don't run away or hide, face it and stand up to it, and ignore it, and don't let them put you down or upset you. And i swear i know what you are talking about, i've been through it all, up till the suicidal phases.
You know, at the end of the day, family is the most important thing ,most important people, and the time you spend with them is the most valuable. Spending time with your family doesn't make you a loser who doesn't have friends ,i used to think that, till i found out that with them i feel safe and happy and they love me and they would never hurt me.And where your family is, is the place you come to everyday after school to find comfort and they're always there for you.
So consider what i said, and if you need any other help, please be free to contact me.Best of luck!
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okay so i was just wondering, but can you get pregnant if sperm or seman or what ever is on the loo seat or any were like that ? thanks (link)
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Possibilities are very much small that it's impossible, sometimes you don't even get pregnant when the semen is on the opening of your vagina or when its externally down there when you wash it off afterwards,so its impossible to get pregnant from the loo seat.
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Hi,
Long story short.. my parents are divorced, I live with my mom whom I do not get along with. I would rather live by myself (not with my dad cuz that would create more conflict with my mom), but just in my own house with myself. I have had kidney failure my whole life so I have to visit the doctor a fair bit.
I've had my share of bad days. I only ever had one true friend.. that ended up using me for my brother. My mom likes this betrayer more than me and she treats my younger sister as the daughter she never had. (theres only two girls, my younger sister and I).
I am in grade 12 and I am trying so hard to make it through my classes and my life, but with all the stress of my mom, my older asshole brother, my cheeky younger sister, no friends (except for the 'one' who sleeps with my bro every weekend when he comes home), I don't have anything to hold onto. I just want to get through this year without killing myself (not literally, but inside) and being able to know that when I get on the other side, something greater will be waiting.. and maybe it won't hurt just to touch it.
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No matter how parents treat us or how they sometimes favour one of their children, or how they not seem to care or how your brother seems like an a-hole or how your sister seems cheeky, in the very end, beneath all that, you all love each other, one way or another, and maybe you can't see that, because of all the differences and all what all of you have been through, you all just grew apart and there is anger or very little hatred or jealousy, but there is still love and you all love each other, but things are hard, and your house seems in pretty bad shape and lots of problems.
About your brother, and i know how sometimes its very bad when your best friend hooks up with your brother, but maybe she wasn't 'using' you in the exact meaning of using someone, maybe she liked him and wanted to get to know him through you,because apparently that's the only way,and maybe its not about her sleeping with him, its about they like each other, they're inlove, maybe.
About your cheeky sister, don't let it out on her, its not her fault that your mom favours her, try to be nice to her, get close to her, and try to get close to your brother, try to be cool about your brother and your friend dating, cause maybe when you get closer, you'll see things differently, and maybe then your brother wouldn't be such an a-hole. And maybe if you get closer to your little sister, you'd get closer to your mom, and see that has nothing to do with using your sister, its to do with getting close to someone through someone else. And talk to your mom, be there, maybe she's having a hard time or she's upset or i don't know, you never know. Try to not fight and try to actually get along, hold diplomatic conversations.
And at the very end, studying is the most important thing you have right now, cause its your only ticket out, and away from all this trouble and problems and misery. So focus on your studies and try to occupy your time as much as you can, and just be diplomatic with everyone, stay away from fights and trouble, so no one would hold anything against you, and soon, very soon, you'll be out of there, so there is actually something worth all what you're going through.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me. Best of luck!
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My father's attitude towards me is very negative i
feel like whenever i talk to him he makes negative
comments about me almost as if i'm not good enough it doesn't make me feel very good is there anything
i can do to stop this from happening?
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I know exactly what you're talking about and how you feel and what you're going through, and it's as if he's not interested with anything to do with you, and everytime you say something or do something,he'd always criticize negatively,and he's always disappointing you and putting you down and making you upset. Its a common problem, but its not a very nice problem, and maybe if you talk to him about it, not in a serious way or to have a fight or anything, but just a heart to heart conversation, and maybe if your mother agrees with you about his attitude towards you, and if you have any sisters or brothers and they agree too, so they'd be on your side, so maybe you could tell them to talk to your dad about how he treats you, especially your mom, she should tell him that herself. And if he sees that you all agree together, he'll start reconsidering his attitude and maybe really seeing that he's not being so nice to you.
Hope i helped, feel free to contact me if you need anything. Best of luck!
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Ok, first off I want to say I know I'm very paranoid. I want to end this and never do what i do again. Here are the things I do..
1. I am always looking out the windows in my house, peeking out the blinds, to see if anyone is outside staring up at my window trying to watch me. Or if I'm on the first floor I'll look to see if anyone is sneaking on my porch to watch me through the windows.
2. I check my house for hidden cameras. Sometimes I'll get this feeling like there is a camera in my house and I'll check whatever areas necessary.
3. If I'm in a room with the door closed, i'll open it and peek around and listen for who is possibly in the other rooms
4. I have to have the doors closed and draws all closed. If the door is left open, the crack of darkness creeps me out, making me think that someone is watching me through it.
5. I get nervous and anxious and ready to find someone, but I never do.
I just want to stop all of this. Sometimes I will check out the window like 10x a minute. I know it doesn't make sense, I know no one is watching me, but I cant help but feel this way. (link)
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Hey, you're still young in some way. Me for example, used to think the same way up till 2 years ago when i was 15, i always believed that there is someone somewhere, and i used to be afraid of the dark and of sleeping alone and i got all these feelings and thoughts and i was always scared, and i used to think that if i'd go to the room at the end of my house, there would be someone there, sometimes i even saw shadows, and i always used to check the bathroom,especially the tub i don't know why. But i definitely outgrew it and in a very short time, I still sometimes get some thoughts, but I deal with it maturely. And sometimes it helps if you pray (if you believe in god,and i'm saying this with all do respect) it would make you relaxed and less scared, and maybe you shouldn't watch any horror movies at all or anything that scares you. I think it's normal, completely normal. But to be on the safe side, i think that you should consult a doctor about your situation, and maybe there is something that he can do about it, i don't know what, but maybe talk to someone, a therapist or something, not that i'm saying you're crazy or anything, ofcourse not, but if this situation would grow more serious in the future, then maybe you should be on the safe side and deal with it from now.
If you need anything else, please be free to contact me. Best of luck!
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This is embarrassing but I'd like some advice on it, I suppose. I'm an adult, by the way, not some 10 year old.
Three nights ago I was laying in bed. I was VERY, VERY tired and had really had such a long day. I was so incredibly wore out that I drifted off to sleep within seconds of my head hitting the pillow. Four hours later, when I was deep into my dreamland, something very unhappy happened.
I was dreaming that I had to pee very badly. I was trying to find a toilet in my dream. I was on a boat, rocking back and forth, and there were so many people around. I felt yucky on the boat but I had to GO! I was afraid I was going to wet myself in front of the crew members but, luckily, I found a restroom in the center of the ship. I sat down and began to urinate. On. Myself!
I felt the warmth of the pee on my legs and got scared and woke up from the dream. I thought at first maybe I just got startling THINKING I had peed myself but...the sheets were wet. It's REALLY embarrassing. I'm a grown adult in my 20s. I shouldn't be peeing the bed any more.
I'm not sick. I don't have any bladder problems or urinary tract infections. I haven't had an accident since I was like 8 years old at the oldest. I don't know why I "went" on myself! I don't know if I should see a doctor about it or not since I can't really figure out what may have caused this. I know adults don't do this and I don't know if I could admit it face-to-face to somebody anyway. :\
I'm mortified and now very afraid it's going to happen again!
So, I had an accident on the bed that night but I'm a grown adult now and shouldn't be having issues like that. What's wrong with me?!?! (link)
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Well... you either drank too much before going to bed, or you either wanted to go to the bathroom but you didn't go before you fell asleep, or it either has to do with you being really really really tired that your dream got to you and instead of waking up and feeling that you want to pee and going to pee, you couldn't wake up cause you were so tired ,so you just peed in your sleep, but most apparently, you really wanted to pee, and what is supposed to happen here, is that you should've woken up and felt that you wanted to go to the bathroom, but you didn't wake up, and why didn't you wake up? you should consult a doctor about this, just to be on the safe side, incase there is anything, any problem,you'd be on track with a doctor from start. But here is the thing, alot of people dream that they pee in their dreams but it doesn't usually happen really outside the dream, except maybe with really old people or with children, so with you it was either something that just happened once in a life time, or its something else and that's what you will consult the doctor about, but really don't worry till you consult someone ,and it was probably nothing, i know how bad this must feel.
If you need anything else, please be free to contact me.Best of luck!
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Hello i asked a question about a month ago about my husband leaving for Afghanistan and how i was super emotional. He leaves in a few weeks and I've been noticing we've been not really fighting but arguing a lot more than we usually do, even about little things. I feel like I'm the one disagreeing more and in a sense causing the start of the "fight" Can anybody explain to me why this is happening? I know you don't know our relationship but we've always had a very strong and open one. Its just these past couple weeks everything is building up on me, stress, emotions etc. why am i taking it out on him? I dont want to fight with him as he leaves :( Somebody help! (link)
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Sometimes when people are upset about something or stressed,they deal with it in anger or arguing and they usually take it out on the person who made them upset in the first place. Its completely natural and happens all the time. You're hurting and you will really miss him, and you will have all these responsibilities,and he'll be gone, and you don't know what he'll be doing there away from you,and you'll be worried and alone, its all emotions running through your mind, so making you tense and stressed out. You should try to calm down, i don't know for how long he's gonna be there in Afghanistan, but he'll be back and everything will be back to normal and everything will be okay. So basically, you have to calm down and be responsible and big about this and mature (and i'm saying this with all do respect) so you'd be able to handle all that is yet to come and all the responsibilities you have,so he'd be proud of you when he comes.
Try talking to him, apologizing about all the little fights or arguements, tell him how you feel and how you're hurting and upset, and that's why you act this way, and he'll understand i promise, i bet he already knows how you feel, he can feel you and he's probably upset himself and will worry very much about you, so you see, both of you are in this together, so you should stick together and get through this, but fighting and arguements and getting it out on each other is not gonna make things right or any better.
So talk things over and try to make things calm and diplomatic, so it wouldn't end up with him leaving while you are in this huge fight.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please feel free to contact me.Best of luck! And safe trip for your husband!
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Is kissing just a natural thing you're either good at, or not good at? How difficult is it to be a good kisser? (link)
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It comes with feeling, if you have strong feelings for this person and really love him, you'll find yourself really drawn to this person and when your together, you'll be turned on, and you'll just find yourself kissing naturally unconsciously, and you shouldn't even think 'how to do it' or 'how to make it perfect' you just do it, and alot of people usually don't understand that and are not convinced if they haven't tried before. And no one is a bad kisser, if your kissing the person you love and he/she loves you back.
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what does ballin mean (link)
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Ballin is a slang for someone hype.
It could either be one of these :
1) To play basketball.
2) One who is in a state of being extremely rich and likes to show off how rich he is.
3) Living the life.
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Hi I am new to dateing I am 15 and my girlfriend is 14. I trueley and unconditionaly love my girl and I want to do everything to make her happy. She says her last boyfriend was abusive to her and that she was pushed around and beat up (trust me I will get him back for it 10 times worse if I ever get my hands on him). Anyway she says she realy loves me also but every time I put my arm(s) around her she doesent get close to me instead she frezes in her position. She says it's because she's still geting used to me being close to her and she says not to worry. I told her "dont be afraid to get close to me just because I'm new to you" I love it when wer close and when I hold her in my arms. She tells me not to worry and that she will adjust to me and stuff but I wanted to know how I could make her more comfortable in my arms and how I can get her to automaticaly be close to me when ever I'm around her. I am a verry atractive and popular kid and their is no reason I can see why she wouldent want to get close to me. Any advice is verry much apreciated and girls please tell me what you think also. Every bit of advice helps. Thanks. (link)
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The best thing to do, and probably the only thing is to give her time, and as much time as she needs, cause its probably really hard for her and she's been through alot, and i'm sure that if her boyfriend really used to do that to her, than she'll have trouble trusting people and she'll freak everytime some one touches her and stuff, but she's strong, cause some girls tend to just stop dating and have major trust issues and stuff, but seeing that she's with you and she's making an effort, just give her time and understand how hard it is on her, and during this time, be with her and show her how she can trust you by simply understanding her and being their, and just don't rush things, maybe she's not ready to you know, physically touch and stuff, maybe just hold hands,you know. And usually when someone is pressured, cause she's pressured by you, cause she knows that you want to do this and that and take her in your arms and stuff, and she not doing that pressures her, but if you give her space, she'll come to you and she'll act on her own.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please feel free to contact me.Best of luck!
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i dont know if this is in the right category, but anyway... i ve been getting this brown stuff in my underwear lately. does this mean that im starting my period soon??
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Yes it could be your period, or sometimes its stool residues if you haven't washed well after using, or if you had hard stool or constipation or something, but mostly its your period starting, try to tell someone, your mom or something, its no big deal.
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I just started my period and Im scared to use a tampon. Is it ok if i just use a pad for now? (link)
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Yes ofcourse it's okay, some people only use pads. It's another option like tampons.Its more comfortable and less trouble.Don't worry, its okay.
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