|
Fight between my mom and I
So for an English party in school, I asked my mom to make a cake for me. Shes really talented in baking cakes! In school, I was waiting until lunch time so I could pick up the cake my mom made this morning for the party. When I went to pick the cake, I found out that it wasn't wrapped..but it was a box from the store. When I opened it, I noticed that it was a cake brought from the store! Just a plan cake which is very common around here. I don't really like those cakes. I got very angry.. and questions kept running in my mind "why didn't my mom make the cake? and why did she bring this crappy one?" I got tears in my eyes. Even though I got a cake, I knew people wouldn't like it. So during the party...guess what happened? NO ONE...not a single person! ate the cake.. :'( I did nothing but cry to myself. My dad payed lots of money.. it was a pretty huge cake! Not even my English teacher ate the cake.. I think my friends saw me crying. So 5 of my friends took a piece of the cake. But still, its embarrassing. Carrying a huge cake around with no one eating it. When I went home, I yelled at my mom. This was wrong. But I couldn't help it. I got very very angry. She said she couldn't make the cake..but its not my fault! :( I WAS Embarrassed. I yelled at her pretty badly.. that I don't trust her anymore and stuff like that. She got so mad, she threw a whole glass bowl on the floor, and it broke into pieces. I did the same, I banged the telephone on the table..now it doesn't even work. What do you think of this?? I know I made a mistake, but I couldn't control my anger since I was embarrassed.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Families?
Of course you were embarrassed, you wanted a nice flashy home made cake you could take in to show off your mothers good skills. After all, baking is more of a science than cooking- one mistake and its a disaster. However, i know it may be hard, but imagine you were your mother. Now, you cant make the cake in time. What options do you have:
1. Forget it all- you dont have time, so theres nothing else to do, or you cant be bothered to do anything.
2. Buy a cake- buy a big cake, thats quite expensive, because even though you cant make one, the single best option is to buy one.
Whcih sounds more considerate in the cirumstances? Number 2 yes? Obviousely you were angry because you didnt get what you want, but your mother can only do whatever is possible. Atleast she got you a cake, which is less embarrassing than not having a cake at all!
Now what do i think? Your behavious was selfish, because you did not consider your mothers point of view. You can only learn from your mistakes. Learn from this- Next time something happens, think about it. Imagine you are them. Then take a breath, and relax. Being embarrassed is not as bad as ruining a relationship with someone you love yes?
Hope i helped :)
]
Well first of all, you were wrong when you shouted at your mom, i mean, there are many other ways that you could express your anger and hurt from what she did, and if you had talked in a better way, maybe then she could've felt guilty and saw that your right, but now you are so not right, cause you wasted your right by being wrong and shouting at her and throwing objects on the floor, you can never do that to your parents, there should always be respect.
And yes your mom might have been wrong about not doing the cake, but you really never know what she had, or what her reasons are, or maybe she really was busy, and maybe if you knew her reasons, you would've understood. And them not eating the cake its basically their loss and its good enough that you even brought anything for this party and shared something, and its only low of them if they don't appreciate it, no matter what the cake's type is, i mean, its still cake, and its an English party.
So my advice here, is to completely forget about the party incident, and maybe next time you'll have the cake you want and it will be a much better party, but this time you didn't and it was bad and embarassing, but don't embarassing moments happen all the time to all people? Like someone who throws a birthday party with the best 'cakes' ever, but then not ONE person shows up, it has nothing to do with the party or the cake or the host, it has to do with the people, and how they're too stuck up and low that they didn't come.
So apologize to your mother, tell her that you really crossed the line, and that your very sorry,and that you don't care about any cake or party,and try to ask about her reasons, maybe there is something, and it would be nice for you to be there for her, and then thank your dad for the cake, and for all the money he put in it to get it for you and make you happy. And hey, parents don't usually understand what we need or how we feel, or how that affects us in school or embarasses us, they think they're doing something good, and they have good intentions, but they don't know that they are really actually embarassing us. So be grateful to them and thank them.
Its just a fight and there are probably many fights yet to come, i mean, who doesn't fight with his parents, but you can't cross the line again or do like what you did this time.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me.Best of luck!
]
More Questions: |