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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






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I wanna make a new screen name ,but I don't know what it should be.. please help!

Something that describes you in some way.
I don't know you, so I can't tell you what it should be.

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i have a bf, but he lives a little more then 1 hour awy. nd i relleeee like him, more than nething. but theres this kid at my school that i like, and i think he could possbly like me 2. what should i doo!!!?

You choose who you like MORE. That is all there is to it. I know, you probably already figured that out. If you did, you are right.

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So you couldn't call me the most social active person. People actually call me quiet (even my friends) and its harder for me to talk to people I don't know really well and make new friends. Its even hard for me to have fun sometimes, I always seem to have my guard up. I'm not even sure if I want to be accepted by these people sometimes, but maybe it would be good to make some new friends. I, or at least I think, have progressed a lot over the years when it comes to talking, being comfortable with myself, and things like that, but when I'm away from a friend and with people I don't know that all goes down hill. Its almost like nothing has changed at all. I hardly know what to say and when I get attention from a boy or someone making a joking about me or someone making a sort of "rude" comment its like their looking down on me. These borders are hurting me and its taking me on a sort of emotional roller coaster. What do you think would help me talk to people and maybe make some new friends? :)

Yah. I'm just like you. I don't know if I can help you totally, but I'll try to help you the best I can.

As for people joking about you or making rude comments about you- you don't want their friendship to begin with. Who wants friends who make you into a joke or say rude things to you? You deserve better friends than that.

As for what I do when around new people: When someone tries to talk to me, though it is hard, I at least try to find something to make small talk about. I mean, you don't know the person at all to discuss common interests, so small talking is a good way to feel around for a subject you both have an interest in, in turn, giving you something more to talk about.

When you are with your friends, you have to let your guard down. I know, it's hard to do, but it is necessary to allow a true friendship to mature.

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I just bought Secret's Clinical Strengh deoderant. First question,does it really work with perscription strengh, and is it invisible? I'm black, so I constantly face the issue of white clumps under my arms. I sweat alot, and I usually have to reapply deoderant. Ive tried Michium, regular Secret, Degree Spray, power stripe,teen spirit stick, lady spirit stick,and dove, and all of them werent good because they either werent invisible, left weird color marks on my clothes or turned the armpits of my clothes a nasty color, I had to reapply them all the time, it smelled weird after you sweat or it just smelled plain weird, or it would make me sneeze. Next, my new deoderant says to apply at bedtime for best results. I shower in the mornings, and sometimes I shower twice a day, after practice around 7 or 8 pm. Though I will wash off the deoderant in the morning, should I still use it at night? Is doing that a waste, or will it make me sweat less in the afternoon? Should I just wear less than 2 clicks at night? I know I will wear it after I wake up and shower, and after Phys Ed, and before games and during practice, so I'll be wearing it alot. Sorry this is long but thanks for the help!

Here is a link of someone who has tried it. Seems they aren't that pleased with the product:
http://www.notmartha.org/archives/2007/04/17/strong-like-woman-follow-up/

According to the Secret website, you apply at night, but can put another application in the morning. They claim the plug-things won't wash out in a 24 hour period of time.

However, I found absolutely NOTHING saying it is clear. It claims to make plugs in your pores, or something on that order. It may leave white clumps, but I don't know. They aren't going to say the product leaves clumps, for certain. (I fully understand not wanting that- I'm white and it looks stupid on me, too, having them there like armpit dingle-balls. It's embarrassing.)

Maybe try it when you don't have somewhere to be the next day? Like on a weekend or something, so you can know for sure what it's going to look like before you go to school.

Another prescription strength deodorant is Certain-Dri, if you haven't tried that. Other than that, you may have to talk to your doctor and see if they can prescribe you something that will work and go on clear.

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i usually like steam my face, then pop any like blackheads on my nose, but when I do, they get all red and little puddles on oil come out, even when i am not even touching them. how do i make the oil go away? i already use an oil-free moisturizer, an oil-free anti-bacterial wash, and clean and clear benzoyl peroxide for the individual zits.

Have you tried a clay mask? Usually they are called firming masks, because they do make your skin feel more firm. Anyhow, they are deep cleansing, and they do well to keep my face from being oily AND cleaning my pores.
Worth a shot, anyhow.

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Does everyone have some people that hate them?I was just wondering.

Yes. I'm QUITE sure I do.
But you want to know what?
I don't give two shits about it.
Why?
If they hate me, they obviously aren't worth my time of day or waste of my breath.
I know I'm better than all that. If they don't know that, it's their own too bad- their loss, not mine.
Remember: You are not above anyone, but you CAN strive to be above their actions.

Make sense?

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I've lost respect from this guy and his friends because I tried to have sex with him and most of his friends and his friends would but he hates me and now they hate me. What do I do to gain their respect back or should i just leave them alone because I think I should?

I would just leave them alone. I mean, really, this doesn't look good at all. Not being mean, just being honest.

To regain someone's respect, you have to EARN it. I can't tell you how, it is just something you have to figure out and do on your own. :(

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14/f, 15 in ten days, if that matters.

so, my boyfriend broke up with me on thursday.
we werent dating for a long time, but it seemed like we were, because we started acting like a couple like a month before he asked me out.
at first, i thought it was no big deal, we would still be best friends, and everything would be great.
and when we hung out at school, it was, there wasnt really a difference other than not holding hands.
but today, i was on facebook, and i saw under the notifications that he changed his status from ina relationsip to single, and for some reason, it really really hurt. i felt so sick, and upset, and all these other emotions i cant begin to describe.
i just feel so awful now, and i know that i still like him.
i know i dont love him, and we're too young for that, so please dont lecture me that other boys will come, because i already know they will, but i need to know what to do for now.

i need to know how to deal with the present, and please dont say just get over it, because i really doubt i can "just get over it".

sorry for the lengh.

I know it is hard to get over, but I PROMISE that you will, in due time, do just that. I know, that doesn't help.

You have to realize that by changing his status to single, he is only being honest. I know, I know, that doesn't help either.

Avoid looking at his stuff on facebook (I don't know how to say it other than that because I don't even know what facebook is... I assume like myspace?)

Try to steer clear of him all together for a while. You need to allow yourself some time and space away from him until the pain stops, or at least lessens to where it isn't stabbing your heart and what not.

Try to avoid talking to him, IM, facebook, myspace, texting, or whatever all it is kids do to talk to one another these days. If he happens to ask why you are avoiding him, tell him it is just because you need some time to get yourself back in order. He may not seem like it, but I'm sure he is equally as effected.

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is there a website where you can upload a photo of your self, and it will show you what it will look like when you become an adult?

DONT SAY LOOK AT WHAT YOUR PARENTS LOOK LIKE

I don't know if this will help:
http://www.graphic-design.com/Waldron/AgingPhotos.html

Or:

only search advicenators.com


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P.S. Most of these places cost money, but you can add free into the search and see what you come up with.

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what is the name of this song? its the first one that plays in the video.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cCAijM9d840&mode=related&search=

Video comment by addict4drammatics:
"The first one is Freezepop-Get Ready to Rock
The second one is Cute is What We Aim for-Curse of Curves"

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Ah, shoot. Sorry. LM must have answered while I was looking into it. :P

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I have mental problems or so I think I do. Sometimes I just want to give up because it seems easier to just freak out and let it go. I really don't know what to do though. I just feel like everyone is happier than me and there's not one person out there that's as sad as me. I think my mom wants to move away but that will just cause problems that means I have to start over. Which my fear is that nobody will like me and I'll have to be sad and stuff. Guys are really mean to me and I don't really understand why it's not like I hurt them in any kind of way. I don't want to move I just want a happy life.

Trust me. There ARE people out there who are even sadder than you are. So now you know you are not alone.

Have you considered that a fresh start may be just what you need? Guys are mean where you are, they may not be at your new place. You may just have that happy life. Make sense?

As for getting help, the first step is telling your mom what is going on and that you feel you need help. THEN choose a therapist. If you don't know who to chose, ask your family doctor for a referral.
Or, you can find a support group online. Here is a link that directs you to a group of your choice if you want to do online support:
http://psychcentral.com/resources/Depression/Support_Groups/


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i had one breif attack of pancreatitis 3 months ago, and scince then i have not had one drop of alchohol. i was wondering when/if it is safe for me to drink again.

"Abstaining from alcohol may prohibit recurrent acute pancreatitis and reduce pain in chronic pancreatitis. Therefore, all the attempts to decrease alcohol consumption after acute pancreatitis and even after the diagnosis of chronic pancreatitis should be encouraged."

Meaning, if you have pancreatitis now and again, drinking alcohol MAY make it reoccur. If you have chronic, it may cause you pain and misery.

From: http://content.karger.com/ProdukteDB/produkte.asp?Doi=104251

Best person to ask this is your doctor. Only they know your personal condition to tell you if drinking is OK or not.

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When it comes to taking pictures; it's like I can't be captured in a positive way on film...I'm comfortable with the way I look, so that's not an issue. I just don't understand why my skin is so pale no matter the lighting. In general, how could I make my pictures less bland and have more of a presence in my photos? Thank you!

Well, it depends on the type of photo you are talking about.
Mug shots for the school yearbook? Good luck- those always look weird. You aren't the only one. The photographer insists on a pose and a forced smile.

Every day photos? Like taken with a personal camera? Try not to have a forced expression on your face. Make it natural. Don't look directly at the camera lens, so it has a more natural look to it.

Your presence isn't your hair or your make-up. It is your inner beauty coming out by being completely natural and not posed or with forced expression.

I don't know if that helps, but I hope it makes some sort of sense. :)

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When using iron-on letters and numbers, is it still possible to dry the clothing in the dryer?
I'm a little hesitant because they're the kind that you iron face down, and then peel off the paper,
so would the dryer melt them off if they touched the walls of the dryer while drying?

it says washable on the instructions, but
nowhere does it say anything able dryable..

help?

Well, when you wash AND dry, you want to turn the garment inside out, so that the iron-on isn't rubbing on the walls or other clothes.

If they weren't OK to dry, it would specify that in the instructions. So I think it is safe to dry as long as the garment is inside out.

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I am looking to get a college scholarship. My family is middle class and with two children, is in no position to pay for 2 full college educations. I take school very seriously for that simple reason.

I'm in advanced placement (AP) and Honors level classes. Presumabely in the the top 10% of my class.

Participated in extracurricular activities like the yearbook committee (3 years), newspaper club (3 years), student council (3 years), field hockey (3 years), creative writing courses (3years)

Have around 600 hours of community service in hospitals, homeless shelters, state forest clean-ups, etc;

job experience in waitressing, and at a local store for the past 4 years.


Any suggestions to make a better impression upon colleges?
Thanks. Any help is appreciated.

What you should do is go to your school guidance councilor to help you. They can help you figure out what is the right choice for you, personally, and help you apply. Many don't realize that is part of their job, so they don't know to take advantage of their help.

They can tell you what will look great on your college applications, and if you need to do something else for it, they will help you set it up.
Trust me- they WANT you to further your education and will do all they can to see that you do.

Scholarships aren't all there is to pay for college, if you happen to not get one. There are student loans, student grants, financial aide, etc. Like scholarships, you can get grants you don't have to repay. The councilor will help you apply for all of these.

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Does anyone know a way to like become part of a program where you can become sort of like pen pals with a poor or orphan child in other countries? Like where you send letters and pictures back and forth... I know you can sponser children but most say that they cannot write you back and you can only send one letter per year or something.

Here is a link:
http://www.sincerelyyourspenpals.com/home.html

Unless you are home schooled, you need to provide your teacher with this link. They do not connect pen pals on an individual basis.

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I'm a junior in high school and i want to start a big community service project to impress college...any ideas??

I think a good thing to do would be to raise money to donate to St. Jude's Children's Research Hospital. It is a pediatric hospital who treats children with cancer and other terminal illnesses. They treat ALL children, even if their family can't afford to pay for it.

Here is a link to the site: http://www.stjude.org/about

Here is how you donate: http://www.stjude.org/stjude/v/index.jsp?vgnextoid=2edae64c5b470110VgnVCM1000001e0215acRCRD&vgnextchannel=f92b7ff0be118010VgnVCM1000000e2015acRCRD


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ok so yeah, you posted back to one of my questions, and ive heard you give like amazing advice. and i didnt really explain the whole situation, about my friend. if you dont wanna read it then its fine, because it may be a little long.


So, my friend and I were at my ex-boyfriends baseball game, awhile back, and I was watching him and my friend sam, was there with me, and she took my phone, and took all the guys numbers in it, she then later IMed them as fake people. She got peoples pictures from photobucket and everything!!! I just found out she did this recently. I'm so embarrassed by the whole thing. Anyways, like I said, shes not very pretty, I mean, I know that sounds mean and all. But, I don't know, anyways, she actually pretends to date these poor guys! I'll look at there myspace, and they'll say in a relationship and everything. So, I talk to everyone as I'm walking down the halls, right.. and I'll be like.. oh this is my friend sam, and i'll turn and she'll be gone. So, its not like she even wants to be friends with the people i'm trying to make friends with. Anyways, I didn't go to homecoming, because my date got sick. And I didn't wanna go with my friends, because, I knew I would have just been walking around stalking these boys. Thats all we ever talk about, is them. Its really annoying. So, then she texted me and shes like oh so what are you doing tonight? And I'm like Jake and my brothers. And shes like ewww jake! hes quiet and an 8th grader. ew your a child molester. I mean, see what I mean, she always says stuff like this to me. And I always just forgive her. But, last night, I didn't. When she said that, it got me really mad. And all the anger from like, everything else shes done, kinda like it all exploded. so, i was being cold to her, and wouldn't talk to her. and im like, well i don't really wanna talk to you right now. [because she was just getting me madder and madder about every litttle thing she said, so i knew i needed a chance to cool off.] and shes like ok whatev. like she doesn't even care, if someones mad at her.

I mean, I don't know about you, but if someone has a problem with me, or is mad at me, I want to fix it. and apologize and all that. she just doesn't. shes even told me before, she said/.."yeah i don't care, if people get mad at me. because they;ll get over it."


so yeah. I really need some advice on what to do. thanks for reading.

Well, it sounds to me like this girl may have some mental issues, actually.
She has crossed the line by taking numbers from your phone. If she wanted those numbers, she should ask those people for them, not steal them from you.

I understand that you want to apologize and make things right if you make someone mad, but you can't really do that if the person is A) getting mad for no reason, B) seems to like being mad or C) said person is really the one who owes apologies.

Since talking to her does absolutely nothing, and trying to help her out does absolutely nothing, the best you can do is tell her it is time to move on from this friendship. Then go find yourself a real friend.
You can't go through life having friends who flip out on you all the time for nothing, and who don't care to resolve it. You can't have friends who invade your privacy in order to play their own twisted mind games, such as stealing numbers from your phone.

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15/f

this is gonna sound way conceited, but i promise, im not trying to be. im much prettier then my friend. i mean, shes like fat and everything, so i mean obviously, guys dont like her much. plus she acts really stupid alot. anyways, since im a freshman, ive made alot of new friends. and so when me and her will be wlaking down the hall, just about every person says hi to me, and i stop and talk and make yano small talk. and she gets mad, and walks away. anyways, whenever i talk about like guys or something, she like finds some way to insult them. and its just really annoying. what should i do?

Maybe since she is your friend you should ask her why she is doing that. It could be because she is jealous, but it could be possible that you are throwing guys in her face, too. You could try to help her find a guy she can connect with.

I mean, come on. You say the girl is fat and guys don't go for her. She probably feels pretty down on herself. If you are really her friend you would try to help her out, here.

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So ive been on YAZ for about 3 months now but i recently just got over my period but it never really ended, it just started all up again.. is that considered '' breakthrough bleeding" or should i call my gyno and be concerned?

"...many users experience breathrough bleeding in the first three cycles of taking the Pill, non-smokers tend to see the bleeding dissipate more quickly than smokers."

From the following link, which wouldn't hurt for you to read: http://www.answers.com/breakthrough+bleeding+definition?gwp=11&ver=2.1.1.521&method=3

If it doesn't stop, it wouldn't hurt to call your gynocologist and ask about it.

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