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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.

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Laura!

--Jack

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Ok, well...A friend of mine has an obsession with always being with a guy. No, it is not me. My friend. She says that she always needs a boyfriend all the time. The longest she's been single for 2 years has been around one week long or so. I myself couldn't care. Sure I like guys and all but I'm only Fifteen and so is my friend. Why do it all now when I have a whole life ahead of me. But, I'm justing wondering what I should do. It's kind of making me a bit angery at her. She doesn't get it that you DON'T need to alwyas have a man in her life. How should I tell her this? She doesn't seem to be listening.

Just let her do what she does. I know it can be irritating, and I have friends like that too, but I'm like you in that I would rather just wait for the right person. I've had too many relationships fail that it just isn't worth it.

Eventually she'll realize that she doesn't need a guy. Maybe try sitting her down one time and explaining your feelings to her. If she doesn't understand, just let her be on her way and she'll stop eventually.

--Jack
(16/m)

what are the latest jewelry trends for this summer/fall? thank you!! :)

http://www.squidoo.com/diamondgirl

From there:

We all expect to see warm tones in jewelry designs as the year nears its conclusion, but what may surprise many jewelry lovers is that some of the old favorite jewel tones will be a must-have for the upcoming fall and winter season.

As with me, alot of ladies favorite color is blue. The fall & winter 2007-2008 color trends suggest that this popular shade will remain in style, which means blue topaz, aquamarine, sapphire, and tanzanite will be a staple for every jewelry wardrobe. Try Iolite if beautiful tanzanite is a bit out of your budget.

Among the other favorites are shades of purple and pink, which means amethyst and pink topaz or their cubic zirconia substitutes will be hot picks for fall and winter. ~Pink is hot!~ It's dramatic and fun! Whether it is clothing, shoes, bags, jewelry, accessories, or even home décor—pink in all its wonderful nuances and color depths is sizzling and sassy, fresh as spring, and so today.

You don't know how much it pains me to have to answer this question.

--Jack
(16/m)

recently this group of immigrants from africa came over and i was to show them around school...a couple of them were girls and i ended up dating and having lots of unprotected sex with them...they were about 17 so theyve deffinetly have had sex in africa...i always puilled out in time but do u think i might have AIDS or HIV? what should i do i dont want my parents or anyone else to know.

Your chances are very high. Africa is well-known for its intense amount of AIDS and HIV-infected people.

The only way to know for sure is to take an STD test, and unfortunately you may come up positive.

In the future, please think about protection against STDs. Obviously there is nothing you can do now but hope that you didn't get one.

--Jack
(16/m)

i lost my confidence the summer before 7th grade. right now this is the summer before i go into 11th grade. i really want my confidence back. i lost it when a couple of people called me ugly and i really let it get to me because i agreed with it. but before that summer before 7th grade, i had tons of friends and alot of guys liked me. the thing i miss the most is me, the old me when i acted myself in public. now i have to step out of my shell after hiding for so long. im really scared, please help.

For those people that call you ugly or demean you in any way- tell them to SHOVE IT! Once they see that it affects you, they will keep doing it. Show them that you don't give a crap what they say. Does it REALLY matter what they think? You won't even have contact with these people in less than two years after you graduate. If you can hold it out until then, when you are exposed to college [a new beginning], and just disregard what is said about you, then, and only then will you have confidence. There's no secret to confidence other than to just get over what people say about you. You do what you have to do and ignore those who get in your way.

--Jack
(16/m)

15/f
theres this kid that i've been hanging out with recently. (i posted a question about him about a month ago about whether he liked me or not. things have changed since then. we met in like the beginning of june when we went to a lake with mutual friends. he was flirting with me and held my hand when we went through the woods, and afterwards he told our friend he was interested and wanted to hang out soon. i was so exited because he's a year older than me and i never even thought i would get to know him, he always seemed unattainable. we hung out a few times after that, but he seemed to put less effort into talking to me or whatever, but i was really starting to like him.
but when i saw him last night at this carnival. at first when he drove by i waved to him and he smiled then his friend looked back at me then at him then like raised his eyebrows and nodded which seemed to be a good sign. later he was being friendly and flirting with me, complimenting me and stuff. then we hung out tonight with more people and he barely even talked to me. he seemed so uninterested. my sister's friends with him and she said he's really unreliable and is ADD with like, everything in his life and to forget about him. it's not that easy though, because i really like him and want things to work out but it's not going anywhere. ughh he keeps sending me mixed signals and i'm getting so aggrivated. i rarely find a guy that i actually like, so it's really hard to just forget about him because there's no other guy right now that i'm even romotely interested in. i really don't get many chances to meet new guys for some reason. it sucks soo bad because i think about how exited i was when i found out he liked me and i had hopes that it would work out, and now it's basically gone to shit. adfjb whattt do i do?

Don't listen to what other people say about him. YOU talk to him and figure out what is going on. Tell him this:

"Look, you're giving me mixed signals and I would really just like to know if you like me or not,"

Be blunt about it, but try not to be too harsh. If he is worth being with, he will be honest and let you know what he really wants.

--Jack
(16/m)

i didnt get my period this month! and i know im not pregnant bc i never had sex. i only use a vibrator. why didnt i get my period? should i be worried???

thanx in advanced :]

For teenage girls, their periods are hardly ever regular. It may come in a week or so, but stressing about it will probably delay it more ;].

Like Laura said, if it doesn't come for more than 4 months, I would talk to your doctor.

--Jack
(16/m)

what are the symptons of an anxiety attack aka panic attack?

http://www.panic-anxiety.com/panic/attacks/symptoms/

From there:

Common symptoms of panic attacks:

* Rapid heart beat, pounding heart or palpitations
* Sweating
* Shaking visibly or inside
* Choking sensations or lump in throat
* Smothering or shortness of breath sensations
* Chest pain or discomfort
* Nausea, bloating, indigestion or abdominal discomfort
* Dizziness or unsteadiness
* Feeling light-headed
* Derealisation (feeling unreal or dreamy)
* Depersonalisation (feeling outside yourself or like you don't exist)
* Fear of losing control or going crazy
* Paresthesias (numbness or tingling sensations) in face, extremities or body
* Chills or hot flushes
* Skin losing colour
* Blushing or skin blotches
* Urgently needing to urinate or defecate

--Jack
(16/m)

Ive heard this song on the radio twice and i like it and i have no clue what its called. the only lyrics i know are:

tonight will be the night that i will fall for you, over again.

and thats all i know any help anyone?

It is in fact, Fall For You by Secondhand Serenade.

Here are the lyrics:

The best thing about tonight's that we're not fighting
Could it be that we have been this way before
I know you don't think that I am trying
I know you're wearing thin down to the core

But hold your breath
Because tonight will be the night that I will fall for you
Over again
Don't make me change my mind
Or I won't live to see another day
I swear it's true
Because a girl like you is impossible to find
You're impossible to find

This is not what I intended
I always swore to you I'd never fall apart
You always thought that I was stronger
I may have failed
But I have loved you from the start
Ohhhh

But hold your breath
Because tonight will be the night that I will fall for you
Over again
Don't make me change my mind
Or I won't live to see another day
I swear it's true
Because a girl like you is impossible to find
It's impossible

So breathe in so deep
Breathe me in
I'm yours to keep
And hold onto your words
'Cause talk is cheap
And remember me tonight
When you're asleep

Because tonight will be the night that I will fall for you
Over again
Don't make me change my mind
Or I won't live to see another day
I swear it's true
Because a girl like you is impossible to find

Tonight will be the night that I will fall for you
Over again
Don't make me change my mind
Or I won't live to see another day
I swear it's true
Because a girl like you is impossible to find
You're impossible to find

--Jack
(16/m)

I cant decide which color I like better, so, could someone help me?

They're all me, by the way..

BLONDISH..
1)

http://i261.photobucket.com/albums/ii68/xocrystalox99/125.jpg

2)
http://i261.photobucket.com/albums/ii68/xocrystalox99/SANY-1.jpg

DARKER BROWN...
3)
http://i261.photobucket.com/albums/ii68/xocrystalox99/Untitled5.jpg

4)
http://i261.photobucket.com/albums/ii68/xocrystalox99/crystalandjenn12.jpg

on the left^

If you guys dont like those colors and would like to suggest a different color, that'd be good too! I'm trying to figure out what hair style i want before I head back to school, so thank you!

I like dark brown better, especially since the blond didn't really show up in the pictures.

Usually we aren't supposed to ask questions for opinions on hair style, etc., but I'm assuming this is one of your first questions ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

my friends on myspace dont comment my photos unless i comment theres first, you know when they say pc4pc. and i just wonder what would get there attention to my photo and comment it without me commenting on there photo first. Bc i always comment back on people who comment my photo.

thanx

Maybe post a bulletin saying "Hey I've got a new picture" or something and don't force people to comment it, but maybe say "I would really appreciate any comments, and I'll comment some of yours =]".

Just be polite about the bulletin =].

--Jack
(16/m)

I have the LG Chocolate vx8550. I heard it's going to be discontinued soon since the LG Chocolate 3 came out. The speaker in my phone is slowly beginning to wear out. If for some reason it needs to be replaced and it is discontinued, will they have the same model in stock? What happens if it's discontinued? Thanks!!

I'm not sure what their policy is on that. I would go to the store and ask them. If they say they discontinue the parts, I would go ahead and get the parts replaced now while you still can.

--Jack
(16/m)

wat is the difference between a lemon and a lime

Limes are green and sweet.
Lemons are yellow and sour.

Both have the same shape, though.

--Jack
(16/m)

I graduate from college and i cannot pick a tattoo design that will symbolize me graduating and heading to the future. I am married with 3 kids so i am not all that young. i am 29 going on 30 but I really need some tips on making the right choice.

Maybe get the hat and the tassel with the colleges colors.

Maybe get the school's logo or mascot? Or something about your major/minor?

If you graduated with any friends, ask them for their suggestions. =]

--Jack
(16/m)

Me and my friend really like each other. (We have told one another) And we know that each of does. But she recently had her heart broken. I want to make her a CD with songs that:

-Tell her that I'm here for her
-Tell her that I want to be more than friends

And I want a song that would sum how we were friends and now we like each other.

I want something along the lines of Yellowcard's Light Up The Sky.

I prefer the songs to be acoustic, new wave, electronic, alternative, some hip-hop is okay; but she really doesn't like hip-hop.

Please help. Thanks.

I won't be able to give you enough to fill a CD, but I'll give you some that are definitely worth it ;].

"So Much Love" -The Rocket Summer
"I Need You" -Relient K
"Must Have Done Something Right" -Relient K
"Run To You" -The Rocket Summer
"The Best Thing" -Relient K
"I'm Taking You With Me" -Relient K
"My Girl's Ex-Boyfriend" -Relient K
"Getting Into You" -Relient K
"You'll Always Be My Best Friend" -Relient K
"At Least We Made It This Far" -Relient K
"Nothing Without You" -Relient K
"Who I Am Hates Who I've Been" -Relient K

And basically anything by Maroon 5. Those are all love songs. =]

Yes, I realize this is only from three bands, but they are the most amazing ever. I promise you'll love them =]. These are soft rock, generally.

--Jack
(16/m)

okay so i met this kid anthony at my friends graduation party in june & we hooked up..nothing serious though. after the party we hung out at two other parties and started talking a little bit. my friend told me that he likes me & i have a crush on him. the only thing is that he hooks up with so many girls. so i don't want to be like just another girl he hooks up with. i don't want a relationship but i don't want him to only think of me as a hook up partner. how do i get to talk to him more & figure out what's going on in his mind. he's so confusing! thanks!

If he's hooking up with other girls, I'm sure you're just one of them. You probably don't mean anything to him, and as much as it kills me to say this, he doesn't care about you. Sure, he talked to you, but that was probably just to make it look like he's not just trying to hook up, which he's doing with other girls.

I'm not sure what your definition of "hooking up" is, but if it involves anything sexual, the possible transfer of STDs can come back to haunt you.

If you decide to just keep hooking up with him, make sure you're safe.

--Jack
(16/m)

what is the average weight for a 15 yr old girl who is 5'7''

Well 120-150 is a healthy weight for your height, but I would say around 130-140 is probably fine since you're a little taller than most girls ;]

--Jack
(16/m)

theres a song called love and i dont know who its by. Its on my friends myspace. the lyrics are:

ooh love love love. mhmmmm love. mmmm you from the hood, and thats all you know, when your home its good? and its time to go, living life of crime its your only line? and you know its wrong but the moneys right. praying for the day to come when all your husband....find a girl and fall in love a special someone that you know you can trust but you aint got time to show when you know you fight when you know that someday, you'll pay the price so i hope you choose who that been you kingdom, i know what thats been. i hope you see that someone loves you changing life never, tries to hurt you. made your heart ache, wont desert you. all you need is love, love love. all you ever need love love love, its good to be in love love now a new life has begun and sometimes its rough.

i may have gotten some lyrics wrong, but thats all i could understand. i just need to know who its by. thanks :]

Found it!

http://www.lyrics007.com/Little%20Bit%20Lyrics/Love%20Lyrics.html

Something you should know about Love Lyrics

Title: Little Bit - Love lyrics

Artist: Little Bit Lyrics

Visitors: 77 visitors have hited Love Lyrics since May 27, 2008.

Print: Little Bit - Love Lyrics print version

Complimentary "Love" Ringtone

Ohhh love...
Ohhh love...
Hmm
Said you from the hood and that's all you know
When your homies called
Then it's time to go live a life of drama
That's your only crime and you know it's wrong
But the money's right
Praying for the day to come when all your hustlin' days are done
Then find a girl and fall in love
A special someone that you know you can trust
But you ain't got time
It's your way of life
And you know that one day
You'll pay the price
So, hope you choose life over death and live your dream
Don't learn the lesson hope you see that someone loves you
Change your life never try to hurt you
Mend your heart and won't desert you
Don't you think you're ever asking too much
All you need is love, love, love
All you ever need is love, love, love
And it's good to be in love, love, love
Now a new life has begun
And sometimes it may get rough
But I promise I'll be there to give you all my love
All that I want you to see is
Misery lusts company and all your friends
They ain't your friends and
Something go wrong
Who can you depend on
When you crying out
Someone will save me
They'll looking at you like you're crazy
How much love will you have for the hood
When they ain't have your back like they said they would
You need to see who's on your side
And who wants a better life for you
Think with your head, not with your pride
Deep down you really know that truth
Nobody wants to see you cry
I know just what you've been through (oh)
Cause it can be good (cause it can be good)
Or it can be bad
All you need is love, love, love
All you ever need is love, love, love
And it's good to be in love, love, love
Now a new life has begun
And sometimes it may get rough
But I promise I'll be there to give you all my love
Life is only as hard as you make it
If you are in control, you can break it
You gotta know that your life is worth saving
Trust in your heart
See, I know times get rough
I do
And you think of all things that brought you down
But if you look up, you can get up
Trust in yourself
And I promise it will be okay
I promise, all you need is love
What you need is love, love, love
All you ever need is love, love, love
And it's good to be in love, ooh love, love
And a new life has begun
*Sometimes* it gets rough
I promise I'll be there to give you all my love, love, love
All you ever need is love, love, love
And it's good to be in love, ooh love, ooh love
And a new life has begun
And sometimes it gets rough
I promise I'll be there to give you all my love

--Jack
(16/m)

Okay So I have an out break of acne on my forehead, right. Well I hate it . IT's everywhere. It's SO embarresing I've tried all the products that say will work like the "wave" clearisill, neutrogena, etc. Is there any house hold products that'll work

LIKE some people have suggested lemon juice will that help it go away, or irritate it? 17 days till school gotta get these zitz gone. asap

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=507367

From there:

Hey. I know it sounds weird, odd, strange, etc., but what it ACTUALLY works:

Get some lemon juice. You got the lemon juice? Alright- now take the lemon juice- and take a Q-tip and dab some lemon juice onto your zit with the lemon juice. Just a thin layer- not the whole bottle, silly! =D

Alright- so doing this at night is the best thing to do- it will really reduce the size and shape of the zit- and you won't know it was there in a few days.

Make sure not to touch it with your fingers after you put on the lemon juice- the oils from your fingers will stop the effect.

Relax- everyone gets zits- so you're only normal =D.

And here's a forum discussion from one of my friends on here that talks a lot about acne:

http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutmetopic.php?t=368&userboard_id=35415

From there:

Acne pretty much sucks ass and we all hate them.
I'll pretty much share what I know and my experiences.

So, I used to have really bad acne for like 2 freaking years. It sucked and I hated it. But now I'm better and here are my views on stuff:

Dermatologists are hard to get an appointment with and very pricey. They don't do much except look at you once, then they have their assistants take care of you after the dermatologist her/himself prescribes you acne medicine. It's usually Differin [sp?] and Benzaclin [sp?].

OTC Medicine:
Not all medication work effectively on all people. I've learn that it doesn't work for me or for anyone with sensitive skin. It may work for some people but as soon as they stop the use, acne comes back. Whether it's a cream, gel, or oral medication, they all suck! They dry out your skin, irritate it, increase sunburns/tans, and enlarge your pores. Not your dream skin, huh? And ironically, they sometimes make it worse. And you know what the 'best' part is? They're freakishly expensive! And once you stop the medication, acne comes back and parties like there's not tomorrow. Oral medication also makes your insides bad =/

Acne Products:
Acne face wash, gel, cream, whatever. Proactive seems to be a big one, too. Anywhos, as I've mentioned above, some work for some people while it makes everything worse for other people. It all depends. But most of the time, all those products dry your skin out, irritate it, and/or makes your acne worse. And it enlarges your pores too. Again, not very dreamy. And if they do work, as soon as you stop using them, they come back. Same line second verse.

So what the hell are you suppose to do?
Go the natural, cheap way.

Washing your face:
Wash your face gently only twice a day. Once is okay, I guess. But washing your face when you get up and before you go to bed is a good idea. More than twice a day could irritate your skin. Also, do not scrub your face, wash it gently as if you were washing a baby. Use face friendly products, too. I recommend a brand called Cetaphile. It's gentle on your skin and softens it. PAT your face dry with a clean towel.

Towels and pillow cases:
Try and change them as much as you can. Every day would be PERFECT but hard to do sometimes.

Squeezing:
Not only does that sound disgusting, it is. And it leaves nasty scars. Don't touch your face at all unless you have a slight itch. Don't rest your chin/cheeks in your hands or your arm. Just leave it alone as if it was a $10,000,000 mask that if you touch, you'll get arrested for. Oh, and try to keep your hair out of your face.

Sleeping:
Sleeping plays a big, huge role. Your body starts to renew its skin starting around 10PM and ending around 2AM. So be sure to be sleeping somewhere in between or the entire time. Sleeping early helps, and getting adequate sleep improves your skin and its tone.

Eating:
Milk makes acne worse. It's scientifically proven. Junk foods, sweet, sugars. ALL BAD FOR YOU PERIOD. Avoid/limit them along with sodas even if they're diet. Sports drink contain loads of sugar. Juices, too. Instead, eat healthy foods like veggies and fruits! I've noticed that my skin improve immensely when I turned vegetarian. So maybe give a shot to eating lots of veggies and fruits and other healthy stuff and cut down on meat? Also try and drink green tea [tea bag with no added sugar] or green tea with aloe [again, tea bag with no added sugar].

Masks:
Home made masks are probably the best. Here are few that work and softens your skin:

1. Red ginseng syrupy liquid thing mixed with warm water and a bit of all purpose flour. Make a mask thing with that.

2. Green tea [tea bag] cooled down to room temperature. Splash it on your face for 5min or so. I know it sounds weird but it helps. Or mix it with a little bit of all purpose flour and make a mask.

3. Mix warm milk, honey, and all purpose flour. Make a mask with that.

Only do the mask right after you washed your face. Make sure you don't put on any lotion and what not. Do not leave it on for more than 10-15min because bacteria will become attracted to the mask. Do not laugh, squint, whatever. Just keep your face neutral or you'll get wrinklies. Do not peel the mask off. Slowly wash it off GENTLY with LUKEWARM water. Keyword: GENTLY.

Lotions and make ups and what not:
Lotions/Sunblocks have products that won't clog pores, are fragrance and oil free. I suggest you buy from either Neutrogena or...some other renown company. I use Neutrogena's Oil Free Moisturizing Face Lotion and Neutrogena's Oil Free 55 SPF Sunblock. And Aveeno's 50 SPF Sunblcok [oil free] sometimes.

Make up should be limited to only eye and lip make up. No foundation, no concealer, not blush, no powder. Get my drift? Good. If you MUST wear make up, limit it down to special occasions [School does NOT count] and take it off as soon as you can. Whatever you do, do NOT go to bed with make up on!

--Jack
(16/m)

Hello. I am a 14 year old girl. I absolutely hate my family, i cannot help it. They are terrible to me. No one has ever hurt me except my sister and all she does is slap me but...i dont know they act like im the worst thing that has ever happened to them and i ruined their life. I have a mom and dad who think everything i say is retarded and that im stupid and i should be more like my sister. She is 17 and shes terrible. She smokes, she drinks, she drives while under the influence and she is going to hurt someone, maybe even herself. She does acid and everything and even though she always yells at me and slaps me im worried about her i mean she is my older sister. and my parents don't know and i tried to tell them but they don't believe me and they call me a liar and i am scared and i don't know what to do. What can i do to make my parents not hate me? How can i help my sister, because i cant talk to her? I do not want to go into foster care for my sister could hurt herself. HELP!

You need to approach your parents in a serious matter, and ask them to LISTEN to what you have to say and please not interrupt you.

Tell them everything you just told us: about your sister's problems and how you feel like they do not care about you.

If they do not take you seriously, I would call the police or something about your sister. She is endangering her own life, and more importantly the lives of other people. She could end up killing someone when she drinks and drives.

--Jack
(16/m)

16/f
i've been friends with a guy named chris since i first moved here 2 years ago, we went but since i had no prior experiance with guys or my feelings for them, i confused my friendship feelings for something more, so i had to break up with him.
After breaking up it was real auquered for him since he still liked me so i stopped being friends with him all together....
then in january of this year we started talking again, just as friends, it wasnt as aquered as b4 so i decide to be his friend again. ive always liked him in a way, he's one of the kindest and sweetest guys i know.
And wen i thought i mightve been pregnant i talked about it with him, and no one else.
i never even considered of asking him to do this but the next time i saw him, he gave me a pregnancy test....thankfully was neg........
for the longest time i thought he'd gotten over me but since that day i was no longer sure.
Since then ive randomly asked guys if their gf asked em to get em a preg test wat wud they do, not one of em said they wudve bought it.
so ive been thinking well chris wasnt even my bf we had barely started becoming friends again....

from your opinion does he LOVE me?
and if so wat do i do about it? i really like him but not in that way, i wish i cud but so far i havnt been able to....

To be honest I could barely understand what was going on. Chatspeak is hard to read for me.

Here's a list of what guys do when they like/love you:

1. They don't call you "sexy". They call you "beautiful", "gorgeous", "amazing", etc.

2. They make an effort to hug you. They might high-5 instead, but it really depends on the guy in question.

3. They DO find any reason to touch you in some way. Mostly it ISN'T in a sexual way. Its more of just an excuse to remember what you feel like, I guess. Its hard to explain...

4. He is always smiling around you. If you're feeling bad and he's around- he'll be smiling because he knows that he's there to help you- and that's like brownie points for a guy if they can help a girl out. That, like the above, is hard to explain.

5. He'll tell you things about himself that he normally wouldn't tell everyone. He opens up to you. Guys don't get a chance to do that when pressured to "be manly".

6. If you have a feeling that a guy likes you- you're probably right. Guys aren't the best at hiding it- and girls are even better at figuring these type of things out.

I don't know, I think he definitely could like you, but if you want to find out for yourself- ask HIM. His friends can make anything up they want.

--Jack
(16/m)

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