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i want confidence
i lost my confidence the summer before 7th grade. right now this is the summer before i go into 11th grade. i really want my confidence back. i lost it when a couple of people called me ugly and i really let it get to me because i agreed with it. but before that summer before 7th grade, i had tons of friends and alot of guys liked me. the thing i miss the most is me, the old me when i acted myself in public. now i have to step out of my shell after hiding for so long. im really scared, please help.
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I had the same problem with losing my confidence. You just have to learn not to care what other people say or think and remember that everyone has flaws. Those people that called you ugly most likely have a problem with their self confidence or else they wouldn't have called you ugly and by doing that it makes them feel better about themselves. So next time someone does something like that say think or say something like just because you have no self confidence doesn't mean you should go around putting people down to make yourself feel better. Don't worry about it, I'm sure you are gorgeous on the inside and out. Hope I was some help.
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I'm going into my Senior year & last summer when I was your age...I was really down on myself...I heard of something called "The Law of Attraction". It basically states that you can attract all the goodness into your life. If you believe that something will happen without doubting youself...it will be your's. People will want to be around you when you "attract" them with your personality...this had a huge impact on me...try googling the law and it will forever change your perception on things.
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okay im gaining mine now, and im going into 10th.
i went through my "fat stage" kinda late and it was in 6th grade, great huh? so i got a few inches taller and im okay. but now im only 4'11" im really short so i kinda have this fiesty sense about me. i dont let anything bother me, but in truth, what people say really does bother me but i dont show it to them i act like it doesnt bother me. i dont get mad or cry i laugh it off. then if what they said did really bother me, i talk to my best friend. she will always help me shake it off. you need to surround yourself with people who will always help you and listen. if you dont then try finding people, or even just one person you can go to (i know its hard in high school) but you need them to vent to. eventually, with your friends saying something as simple as "you look cute today" or "i like how you did your hair yesterday" it will bring your confidence up sooo much. and it will all come together. just dont let people know it bothers you (act like you have confidence, head high and good posture, makeup and hair looking good, jelwery) all of that shows you care about how you look and will make people see you differently if you dont already do that
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For those people that call you ugly or demean you in any way- tell them to SHOVE IT! Once they see that it affects you, they will keep doing it. Show them that you don't give a crap what they say. Does it REALLY matter what they think? You won't even have contact with these people in less than two years after you graduate. If you can hold it out until then, when you are exposed to college [a new beginning], and just disregard what is said about you, then, and only then will you have confidence. There's no secret to confidence other than to just get over what people say about you. You do what you have to do and ignore those who get in your way.
--Jack
(16/m)
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