heyehy i'm ashlee
most people call me ashlee but i personally like ash. i'm 14 and i live in connecticut, i have the most amazing friends ever. i'm not perfect one bit, i have many things about me people don't know, i have anxiety&&depression i was diagnosed with my anxiety when i was about 7 but i had it since 5. my depression was last year and it was so scary, i love to help people with any type of problem they may have. back in 1st grade my best friend and i actually had a fix fight club, when two people were fighting we would help them sort it out haha
E-mail: omgitsashlee3@hotmail.com
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Location: connecticut
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Age: 14
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When i was younger i used to sleepwalk all the time,usually to the bathroom and ide wake up on the floor or on the toilet
when i was 11 i sleepwalked to my closet(though i don't remember doing so)
then i remember waking up to me screaming for my mom and banging the closet trying to get out
inside my head i was thinking why am i in the closet and what am i doing but i couldn't control what i was doing
i eventually busted my closet down and stood in the middle of the floor while my siblings stared at me,but i couldn't talk
eventually i said "get out of my bed",even though it was their bed,they tried to explain it to me but i just fell over them.
i dont remember doing it but i had apparently gotten up right after and walked to my bed
this has happened a few times and i was just wondering about it
i hear most people don't remember,not to mention while doing it and thinking in their head wtf is going on
or screaming (link)
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my sister used to sleepwalk. she just sleeptalks now. but we found out that she sleepwalks when she has sugar right before she goes to sleep!!! and she would not remember ANYTHING the next morning. she one time walked outside the house in the middle of the night. good thing we have an alarm system that woke everyone up when she opened the door!
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Stacy 15 Female,
When I get mad, I go on rampages and mess up my relationships with everybody, and I make sure things cant be fixed, I say things so hurtful and things I bottled up, everything Ive ever hated about tht person. Even if they forgive me, I always DO something to make them hate me. This has happened a couple times before I caught it. I dont even know what question Im asking, Im not even explaining this right. I dont think Im a depressed person but I am, right now just thinking about it. HELP!
Im starting high school with no one I had last year, the only people Ive ever opened up too. (link)
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you just need to work on it. work on letting your feelings out, if your upset about something talk about it. highschool is good because you meet a ton of new people
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15/f
I have been having these weird symptoms for a LONG time now, like 5 or 6 months:
dizziness, extreme fatigue, headaches, shaking hands, numbness, and weird stuff like that.
anyways, the doctors thought it might be anxiety but i was quick to disagree because i wasn't feeling anxious.
Well lately i have been like obsessing over small stuff and my heart has been having irregular beats.
I was reading the symptoms of anxiety online and i'm pretty sure that could describe the reason for all of my symptoms.
I'm scared to tell my mom though. I don't know how to bring it up and i'm nervous about letting her down or something.
help! (link)
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i have had anxiety since i was 4 or 5. mine was so bad that when it was time for bed, i would scream to my mom "your not going downstairs right?" and she would have to stay upstairs!!! i would throw a fight every day on the like minute drive to school and i wouldnt go to birthday parties or sleepovers. i out grew everything except the sleepovers. that im just getting over now. but im on medicine now and it helps but i have the same symptyoms once in a while...anxiety is all in your head, when those symptyoms come on, you can get yourself out of it. you just need to distract yourself, when you get the symptoms try listening to music or deep breathing anything to get your mind off the weird stuff happening. as for telling your mom, there is absoutly nothing to be scared about. its not life threatning. to bring it up be on the computer, pull up the website you had found and be like heyy mom come here and let her read the screen and be like, thats most of the symptoms! she may want you to try counsiling, its not bad at all! i enjoyed it when i went, i mean its an hour talking about you pretty much talking about anything you wwant. dont just say no off the bat, try it a few times dont tell your friends if your embarassed, i told mine and now i joke about it. i just say oh im leaving early today, im going to see my shrink, and just laugh about it haha. but if you dont go to councling, be careful about depression, anxirty and depression run hand in hand and 2 winters ago i had a bit of depression and we never found out why. i felt weird like i didnt want to do anything, i was just mopin around and the last straw was then there was like a little person in my head making me think about killing myself, like not go do it now or stuff like that, it just made me think about it..... it was so weirdddd. well i knew that wasnt the normal me and i got scared so i told my mom and i went to the shrink again (at the time, i had stopped taking my medicine for aboout a year because i felt i didnt need it) but my point is, be aware of depression and if anything like that happens to you, just find the courage to tell someone like i did..it was one of the hardest things i had to do but i did and was better in a few weeks.
if you need any information or someone to talk to, feel free to email me at xoashhx33@hotmail.com
or aim xoashhx33
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I know this sound a little weird, because, like, 90% of the U.S. wears jeans, but I hate jeans. There is nothing that will get me into jeans. So what I want to know, is what to wear as an alternative to jeans. I wear sweat-pants everywhere. I need know this because I'm going to a new school in a week, and I am afraid that I'm going to get teased.
So if you have an alternate for jeans, and sweats, It would be must appreciated.
Thanks, please help. :) (link)
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they dont just make jeans, go to stores like american eagle, they are good quality clothes, i still have clothes from there from a few years ago! and they are pretty decent prices for the most part. they have a section of jeans but if you look around, they have other types of pants. look on their website, go to google and type in american eagle outfitters
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im 13 years old i weigh 108 pounds. but i eat alot of food i loss weight fast but i want to stop eating soo much! any advice? (link)
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just be strict.
no eating an hour and a half before bed.
no seconds on a decent sized dinner.
or, if possible
eat breakfast at like 11 and a good sized lunch at like 2:30 that will hold you over till dinner and have a small snack of crackers or graham crackers an hour and a half before bed.
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14/f-I havent gotten my period yet, and i was wondering if there are like any warning signs before i get it, b/c i dont want to get it during school. thanks so much! (link)
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cramping for everyone is different. my best friend has cramps really bad, like she doesnt move off the couch for her entire period. where as i on the other hand, i get cramps the same day as i get my period or the day before and they last only that one day and sometimes i get sick well not throwing up but just not feeling good that first day. so keep your mind open when you think its just a stomach ache. also when your vaginal discharge gets thick that could be a sign, i heard that somewhere. but if your scared, just make it a point everyday in school to go to the bathroom like twice a day and just check, its a pain but your first period id think will be thatt heavy so it doesnt soak through that fast depending on what your wearing. and keep a pad on you at all times.
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15/f
Okay, well i went to a party about two weeks ago and this guy i didn't know but thought was cute told one of my friends he thought i was cute and we started texting and he said i was pretty and cute and all that but he saw me from a distance and i usually don't get boyfriends because i mean i'm not the most prettiest girl in the world but i'm not the worst either but i think that once i see him again he won't think i'm pretty because he saw me from a distance and he is a really popular guy and i can't believe he would like me. So i don't know what to do. Also, i haven't kissed a guy before and i didn't want him to know that but one of my friends told him. I don't want the cutest guy in school to think i am unexpierienced. I mean i am but i found out from his best friend that he was talking about that to him, not bad about it but just talking about it. I mean, i am really shy but and i just don't want him to know that. Once, he sees me up close, i don't think he will like me...what should i do? (link)
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develop a solid relationship. either bf&gf or just as good friends. when you have this solid friendship then he will be more understanding about you being unexperienced.
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My sister and I used to be close back when we were kids, but now...well...I try to do stuff with her, like go out on Saturday nights, but she always says, "I hate you!" and she's been saying this for years. I mean, not out of the blue, but...sometimes I'm just so sad that I want to break down and cry, and sometimes I do.
She's 18 and I'm thirteen, and this all started when I was eleven. I have no clue what I've done wrong to upset her! She's like this to only ME! To everyone else, she's a sweety pie.
Last year was her last year of highschool, and when she left for college, she didnt even say "goodbye" to me or hug me, she just hugged my parents goodbye and drove off, ignoring me. Whenever she comes home with her boyfriends to meet us or visit, she doesn't talk to me. I try really, really hard to make her accept me. And whenvever I ask my mom for help, she just says, "Oh, all sisters fight!" But this has gone on forever!
I'm so depressed. I don't understand why all my friends who fought with their sisters long ago are now like, BFFs with them, while me and my sister aren't. (link)
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my best friend jamie and her sister laura are kinda the same way. just not as bad, they have an age difference of 5 years also. laura is like my big sister and like one time when she came home from college hher and i sat in her room and talked for an hour but her and jamie dont get along, like laura will rat out jamie all the time about stupid stuff and i never understood why jamie would tell me she hates laura. i think your best bet would be to write your sister a letter telling her how close you used to be back when you were kids and then she just started to make you invisible. and say something like all girls want and need someone in their life like an older sister, and right now is the time i need you the most. do not at all make her upset like oh your such a bad sister you always tell me you hate me blah blah blah. if she is coming home from college soon i wold write it and leave it in her room or something because if you send it to her at her college. who knows when she will read it and her roommate could like throw it away or something. and if its at home then she might be touched by the letter and understand and come talk to you.
best of luck
please let me know how it turns out.
email-xoashhx33@hotmail.com
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so.
It's summer now.
annd, I need some cute summer girl clothes.
It's really hard for me to find nice, cute, not tight fitting girls clothes, that I like.
Im extremely picky. annd, well. I suck at shopping.
Usually I wear boy clothes. orr, jeans and hoodies. BUT, it's way to hot to do so now.
so, i'm wondering if someone could recommened some clothes stores.
uhm, Price doesn't matter to me, really. so.
Also, when I do shop for girls stuff I like TNA :]. also, I was thinking of trying american eagle? (link)
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yes american eagle is a great store, and its not OVER girly which is good for you it seems. i only shop there and ive come to love it, let me suggest, if you find that you do like that store, get an all access pass right away, everytime you buy something it add to your points collection, when you hit like 200 points they send you a card for 40% off your purchase. just ask at the register for it. and try everything on!! also ive learned some things might be a little pricy but they are worth it!!! look everywhere in the store too they have great things on clearence and shoved in little spots you wouldnt thing of looking
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i lost my confidence the summer before 7th grade. right now this is the summer before i go into 11th grade. i really want my confidence back. i lost it when a couple of people called me ugly and i really let it get to me because i agreed with it. but before that summer before 7th grade, i had tons of friends and alot of guys liked me. the thing i miss the most is me, the old me when i acted myself in public. now i have to step out of my shell after hiding for so long. im really scared, please help. (link)
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okay im gaining mine now, and im going into 10th.
i went through my "fat stage" kinda late and it was in 6th grade, great huh? so i got a few inches taller and im okay. but now im only 4'11" im really short so i kinda have this fiesty sense about me. i dont let anything bother me, but in truth, what people say really does bother me but i dont show it to them i act like it doesnt bother me. i dont get mad or cry i laugh it off. then if what they said did really bother me, i talk to my best friend. she will always help me shake it off. you need to surround yourself with people who will always help you and listen. if you dont then try finding people, or even just one person you can go to (i know its hard in high school) but you need them to vent to. eventually, with your friends saying something as simple as "you look cute today" or "i like how you did your hair yesterday" it will bring your confidence up sooo much. and it will all come together. just dont let people know it bothers you (act like you have confidence, head high and good posture, makeup and hair looking good, jelwery) all of that shows you care about how you look and will make people see you differently if you dont already do that
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have always been a person who suffers from depression and anxiety i have tried many counsleors , psychologists and nothing seems to help , does anyone know of any natural remedies that might help me? thank you so much (link)
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i suffer from the same problem
i dont know what triggers your anxiety but
i know for me its always been sleepovers, still to this day. when i was little it was movie theaters and buses idk why! but i got over those two. i try breathing. it really works, close your eyes and take deep breaths and count in your head. you can try soothing music, keep a few sounds of the rain or ocean on your ipod. you just need somethiing to keep your mind off whatever is triggering you. ANYTHING to distract you. as for depression, i only suffered for a few months so before i was on my medicine, i would do the same thing as for my anxiety.
if you need anything
my email-xoashhx33@hotmail.com
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or message me on here
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ok, so last year when i fainted and i had to get an IV shot and the doctors like poked me with the needle 7 times in my hand and 3 times in my arm till they finally got it in. and 2mrw i have to get an IV shot and im EXTREMELY scared cuz i absolutely hate shotssss!!! any tips? (link)
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well im sure you already had the iv, hope it went well but... i have the same problem like i need to get 4 shots next time i go and im so scared. so my doctor perscribed this cream to numb the area. you get it and put it on an hour before you go to the doctor and wrap your arm with the cream with saran wrap (it really works) it numbs it for a little while. i also got these pills they are basically tranqulizers they will calm me down when i need to go. have your parents call your doctor and have them talk about the cream. see what they can do. if you need the name, message me back
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So I party a lot and this might sound bad haha but I need some tops that show off the girls. I'm a 34C so their kinda average but I want to accentuate them with my clothes. I want them to look good at parties. What are some good places I can go to get some good tops?
To give you an idea of my style I like stores like Hollister, Abercrombie and Fitch, Pink, American Eagle, and Charlotte Russe mainly, then some stuff at Guess, Delias, Wet Seal, H&M, and Express. I'm probably forgetting some, haha.
Also, what are some neckline styles that will show off my chest? Like, make it stand out more? (link)
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before you go out, take bronzer or an eye shadow ( 1 or 2 shades darker than your skin)and draw like a heart with the point on the bottom in between your breasts. it should be kinda big and not noticeable like you shouldnt look and see a huge heart, that will just make them look better and will get noticed hopefully
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so i got my hair cut and the lady cut probably 2-3 inches shorter then what i wanted(its now a little below my shoulders). and the lady cut my bangs so wrong. i wanted them at an angle and she didn't do that.
so here are my questions:
1. whats a good way to style my hair to make it look better then it does?
2. is there anything i can buy that will make my hair grow faster then usual? (link)
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well its summer so you can keep your hair back and no one would say anything if they do just say im hot. as for your bangs, put them back in 2 bobby pins or clips its the style right now, just practice on getting it how you like it.
if your bangs are that bad just go to a different hair salon and just tell them it wasnt what you wanted at the last salon and they can fix your bangs or give you tips on what to do. to make your hair grow, just keep the ends trimmed every 4-6 weeks go get just a trim and wash it well
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Hi...let me just start out by saying im a 16/male...I guess ill just go ahead and start babbling now...
I decided, until recently, to be out of the dating game. Recently I've been going out with a girl that I'm absolutely crazy for and she's my first serious girl. I'm very glad that we're going out, but she's had boyfriends before me. I guess what I'm really getting at is that she's kissed before, and I of course, having not been dating, have not. We had our first kiss already but I don't know whether or not I did a very good job. I'm pretty sure it was decent, but of course I wouldn't know. I guess I just want to know if it will make it odd with her after a pretty awkward kiss, though I know she wanted me to kiss her. Basically, I want to know if it's normal to feel like this, like to be worried that things will change.
Thank you very much for any help, I hope it wasn't too much babbling. (link)
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im sure your fine, but there was this guy i dated for a little while and it was like he was gonna suck my face off. after the first time i didnt want to kiss anymore so yeah when we did i cut it short and tried to be into the movie so i wouldnt have to kiss him.
just look for those signs. if theres nothing then your all good. ps you wont get better until you practice and maybe just talking to her would help
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I have already done, I told her I am bi and that I like her. She took it well and of course she doesn’t see me in that way. I felt so uncomfortable because I came out to her and told her I have feeling for her. Which she told me she is sexually confused her; (That was last year). Last week at the ice cream shop, she started to talk to me about her teacher (in college) she told me he came out to the class telling his students he is married to a man and proud of it. She told me in her class the teacher played a movie or show about homosexuality. This made me open up to tell her about movies and shows I watch on logoonline.com a GLBT website. She always watches gay anime, basically what I watch too (which is funny. Never knew that till I found out). I couldn’t believe she will talk to me about that. I always wanted to share with her cause she is my best friend about my sex orientation but to afraid to. I still felt like she will judge me but she doesn’t...
why do I feel that way? why did she talk about that subject?
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if shes a good friend she probably saw right through you and knew thats what you needed. her teacher probably changed something in her, maybe something clicked
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My older sister is working in Alberta this summer for a couple months. I wanted to buy her a Going Away present because I won't get to see her for a couple months. Does anyone have any ideas? (link)
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if you guys are close, you can make a video on like windows media movie maker of you two through the years, i made one for my friends a few years ago when we finished middle school and they loved it and for christmas eve when we got together with my whole family i had made one and they loved it. you can add music to it
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You know in highschool when you get assigned as parents and have to take care of a fake baby? Is that just some fake thing on tv or do you actually have it in school? if so, what class and what grade? (link)
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its sooooooooooooooooo bad. my school gets it for a weekend, friday afternoon till monday morning. it cried for my friend every 2 hours, you have a minute to wave your sensor bracelet above it. for us its only offered to 9th and 10th graders in a class called infants and toddlers
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im 13/f and i weigh about 144 its kind of disgusting because im like 5'1 and i want to loose weight and fast. Is there a diet or something where i can loose it quick and still eat?
please help!!!!
and there is this dance coming up and i want to look really good.
p.s. its not all fat some or most idk is muscle because i work out constantly and i play sports. (link)
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run.everyday, i should but im so lazy and cant get myself to go running. but if you can do it.
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I am seeing a therapist soon, so I know I can ask there... but I was just wondering...
If someone feels depressed for a few weeks, then all the sudden back to happy (seemingly out of nowhere?) is that a symptom of depression? (link)
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yess totally. for me it did at least. im sure its different for everyone.
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