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I push people away, HELP ME
Stacy 15 Female,
When I get mad, I go on rampages and mess up my relationships with everybody, and I make sure things cant be fixed, I say things so hurtful and things I bottled up, everything Ive ever hated about tht person. Even if they forgive me, I always DO something to make them hate me. This has happened a couple times before I caught it. I dont even know what question Im asking, Im not even explaining this right. I dont think Im a depressed person but I am, right now just thinking about it. HELP!
Im starting high school with no one I had last year, the only people Ive ever opened up too.
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don't push people way here a saying
lose lot of freinds
lose 1 friends
lose your self
so if you push people way more you push your self way from your self.. try let people who like you like you be nice and enjoy it. if you don't like them let them like you. and learn to like them. like that they like you. maybe they don't want be best freind they probly find you nice or something.
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Honestly the only person that could really help you out is yourself, before saying anything hurtful to anyone you need to control your anger and stop and think about how you might lose them because your angry,everyone gets angry and say stuff we dont mean but sometimes you just need to control your anger, work on it jus try calming down and if your angry just leave the place the person is in so that you wont say anything that may hurt them :)
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At your age, a lot of teens have troubles communicating exactly what it is they feel. Rest assured that your situation is very normal, and there are plenty of people today (even adults) who don't fully understand why they feel the way they do.
Often times we bottle away our frustrations hoping that they will subside or go away--which is never the case. If you never truly deal with something troubling you, it *will* come back again. Bottle enough angst away and eventually you're going to pop. I suspect this is what you do, but only you can determine this.
Teenage years are often the most difficult as it is a radical transition in life; from child to adult. I compare it to a bridge--and in life there are many. We all pass through stages that get us to where we are now, to where we ought to be... try to make this a learning experience. Do some introspection and really identify what it is that bothers you and be aware of it.
You'd be amazed at how much a difference that will make. Simply being cognizant of your actions will help you shy away from those outbursts you've described.
More importantly, don't be hard on yourself. Give yourself a break every once in a while, because if you beat yourself up about it constantly you will end up just hurting yourself more.
If, however, you really do think you may be suffering from depression, I recommend that you maybe take a Depression Test ([Link](Mouse over link to see full location)), or better seek some help with a counselor of some sort. Keep in mind, I got a 5 out of 10, and I'm clinically sound... it is by no means a substitute for the real thing.
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you just need to work on it. work on letting your feelings out, if your upset about something talk about it. highschool is good because you meet a ton of new people
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