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confusing boy!
okay so i met this kid anthony at my friends graduation party in june & we hooked up..nothing serious though. after the party we hung out at two other parties and started talking a little bit. my friend told me that he likes me & i have a crush on him. the only thing is that he hooks up with so many girls. so i don't want to be like just another girl he hooks up with. i don't want a relationship but i don't want him to only think of me as a hook up partner. how do i get to talk to him more & figure out what's going on in his mind. he's so confusing! thanks!
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you said that you dont want a relationship... so why did you even hook up with him? isnt that what a hookup partner does? think about that...
anyways, have you seen the movie john tucker must die? well i think this might be related to a scenario from that movie. john tucker is a big player and lies to get girls, but then he meets Kate who does not like him and tries to destroy his heart. Anthony might be like john tucker because even if he is a big player, he still might fall for that one girl. so maybe right now hes thinking that girl is you.
if you do want to go further with him, you need to sit him down and talk to him and say "am i just another one of those girls you hook up with?" theres probably a 95% chance he will say no because no guy will say "yes, you are just like those other girls who i hook up with just for fun and nothing serious" i honestly dont think a guy would have the guts to say something like that to a girl unless they want to be slapped in the face.
Trust is the main key here. if you really like this guy, you have to be able to trust him that he will not cheat on you. now heres one thing that i DO NOT want you to do. DO NOT SPY ON HIM. dont read his text messages, or emails or listen in on phone calls or read mail. how would you feel if he did the same thing??? you want to earn his trust, not destroy it. if he catches you, which could happen dont think it wont, he will think that you dont deserve his trust and he will leave you.
i hope i helped
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If he's hooking up with other girls, I'm sure you're just one of them. You probably don't mean anything to him, and as much as it kills me to say this, he doesn't care about you. Sure, he talked to you, but that was probably just to make it look like he's not just trying to hook up, which he's doing with other girls.
I'm not sure what your definition of "hooking up" is, but if it involves anything sexual, the possible transfer of STDs can come back to haunt you.
If you decide to just keep hooking up with him, make sure you're safe.
--Jack
(16/m)
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