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Q: okay so i have this best friend ..well sort of, okay me and him 2 months ago, had a huge fight about how i felt, i stopped feeling as if he loved me like he said he did, and he got extremley mad at me and blocked me online, and got a new sn , pretty much just completley made me get away from him, weve had fights like this before, and hes the type of guy that is always right and can never be wrong...so... i talked to a bunch of my friends, and he really did treat me bad...i was like his dog..and so yeah, i know i deserve better and like my friend says "its not that i miss him, i just miss what we once had* and it was an AMAZING frienship..ive never been so close to soemoen in my life...so yeah, my question is, should i try to call him and say merry christmas? I mean its been 2 months...dont you htink he'd be over it by now...and my sister says he seems as if its totally over, and i shouldnt try,i sent him a x-mas card and didnt hear anything back from him, so :/ I dont know what to do...and this whole thing ended because of one chick that his life revolved around...help me :(

Well maybe you could try and patch things up between him and that girl. But i mean dont let him be the ones that turns your night to day. (center of attention) But just try to be the best person you can be and nothing will be wrong with that! At least you are trying and thats whats important!! Good job! HaPpY hOliDays! (rate me)

Q: my ex bf is bi what shood i do

That can be a problem.. i mean he is your x and all but like.. sometimes that can be hard to deal with. I mean you just have to except him for who he is just like everybody else does.. or should anyways. Sorri. At least he wasnt your current boyfriend. That'd be even wierder and harder! HaPpY hOliDays!

Q: my sister broke up with her bf last night becasue all he did was talk abotu ho upset he was abotu things. tom orrow is christmas and i dont want her to be upset @ christmas usualy she tells me things but right now she won t talk to me what can i do to cheer her up.

Well i would just go talk to her and tell her to try a little bit to forget about that lil fight and break up and if she needs to talk you have 2 ears to listen. Maybe make a lil joke and say you have for sure the whole year to listen :) good luck! Happy holidays Please Rate **trix**

Q: My mouse is obese. I don't know what to do--I put her in an exercise ball and she just sat there (I don't think she knew what to do). I don't want to give her less food because I'm afraid she'll starve. What can I do to make my mouse lose weight? note--I've tried gerbil wheels on other mice, but they sometimes get caught and die so I'm afraid to use it.

Put it on there floor and have it run and put it on diet food. Happy holidays Please Rate **trix**

Q: Okay, well, I'm 13, and two days ago I went to the bathroom and saw some blood in my...well, underwear...and I didn't talk to my mom about it I just waited to see what happened in a little while after I changed. The next day I didn't get any more blood, I just got big amounts of discharge, and this has never ever happened to me before. My face also broke out, and I was craving chocolate and I was really tired. Does this mean I'm going to get my period soon?

Yeah but that could be the start of it and it may not come back for 2 years or something like that. Its just giving ya a heards up that your growing into a young woman. Just talk to you mom because thats what moms are for. I mean its nothing we WANT to talk to them about but we need them there. Plus its a good excuse once a month if your cranky :) while the guys dont have one. Happy holidays Please Rate **trix**

Q: I don't eat. Is that retarded? No. It's not. I'm happy all of the time at school, and then I'm sad and "depressed" at home. I get mad at my parents a lot, I don't smile. At school, I'm happy all the time, people tell me I laugh a lot, and then i just smile all the time. I'm really sensitive: ex) I once saw a homeless man in front of the subway station. I gave him 5 bucks, and he said happy holidays. I turned around and said happy holdidays to you too. then i went into the subway station, saw one of my friends, and started crying into his shoulders. After like, 6 stops, I stopped, and he asked me what was the matter, and I told him everything. Then I said i was sad cause the guy WASN'T going to have a happy holiday. The next day, i went back with my friend and he held my hand and everything, and we gave the homeless man 10 dollars with a post it attached that gave him the address of a nearby soup kitchen. He said bless you. And then I started crying all over again. How messed up am I?

Maybe you could see some counsolars. I go to Youth works it works well. And i can really understand where you are coming from. With him not having a really good holiday but he was thankful for what you did and he is going to make the best of that and that will give him a good holiday! Hun what you did was so thoughtful and so non-selfish. You did a very nice thing for him! Im proud of you! Keep that up its people like that makes the world go round and a better place!! My mom and my auntie used to work at a homeless shelter and me and my cousin would go down there and we would watch them eat just bread and a bowl of soup and that would smiles on there faces. It was awesome to see that the littlest things could bring a smileon there face. But once again good for you! To maybe let you help more you could join a team like we have on thats called Hero.. and you help the poor. Or you could go to the Dorthy Day house and help get food for the needy. Or you could go to a old folks home and help them out play a game of checkers with them. You know. I totally gapped out on the hole not eating thing. I did that for like 2 weeks my mom got extremely worried brought me in and it wasnt to good. Eat. its good for you and if you are really worried about then you should tell your mom about it so you can fix that and get better and healthier. I hate to see you go thru it because it could kill you and you dont want that!! Im always here if you need to talk or whatever. I dont care if you dont make sense when your talking because ill always be here to try and help! Some of my friends can barely talk thru all the tears and i do my best. So just know that i am here for you! Happy holidays Please Rate **trix**

Q: Hey, I'm 13, and my bf wants to take it to the next level. I'm not sure what to say, I want to, but my parents would kill me. Pleaz help....

Well dont tell your parents no matter what. I mean c'mon would you want to know that stuff about your kid? I wouldnt but yet i would but still. Anyways your only 13 and you shouldnt be going to far. Maybe kissing and thats about it. I am 15 and havent had sex. Im waiting for that. Just tell him you dont want to and if he doesnt except that then dump him because you deserve a bf that respects your choices! Happy holidays Please Rate **trix**

Q: I've got only a few real actual *zits*, but I've got red marks all over my face, kinda like zits that have no 3rd dimension. I think those are called blemishes. Also, I have huge pores on either side of my nose, on the inside of my cheeks. Anyone have these problems/know how to maintain them? I'm tired of wearing foundation, it's bad for you plus it can make it worse.

Make up could help but get nose strips that works well. And use clean n clear morning burst. Happy holidays Please Rate **trix**

Q: gosh i really hate reading and i have to take these tests and read books before the end of the quarter at skool and i have none!!! is there a way i can be encouraged to read!!!
indeed2

find a good book to read. read TTYL its pretty good or among the hidden or among the barons.. those are real good books! or if you dont wanan read then find a book that has a movie. but keep in mind that books arent always teh same to the movies they are sometimes a little bit diff. Happy holidays Please Rate **trix**

Q: Ok, well, right now, i'm in 7th grade. Well, a couple of weeks ago, i got bored and well, i fingered myself...i kno pretty desprit, eh? Well, anyway, me and my boyfriend r ready to go to the next step, and he wants to finger me. Well, see the only thing that's stopping me is that I don't know if there is any transmitted disease i can get. Id there any transmitted disease i can get or can i get hurt in any kind of way?

thnx for the help>> roxy

Your in 7th grade? You shouldnt be doing stuff like that. Exspeacially if you dont know what you can get or how to prevent it. At least you are asking though thats the important thing. No you cant get STD's thats why its safier rather then going other ways and going all the way. But he may want to wash his hands because you can get a infection and have him trim his nails because that'd hurt you. And i guess you could take your own expierence for an example. Happy holidays Please Rate **trix**

Q: has anyone tried those crest whitestrips? i was wondering when you put the whitestrip on top of your teeth, how does the bleach stay on w/o your tongue getting it off? and PLEASE tell me the truth: are they really effective? how much do they whiten?

I tried it before and just dont like lick the stip when its on. It worked for my friend. I just didnt continue to use them. No need for me. anyways they work pretty good actually and i remember when i took it off it tasted real gross so i took a wet paper towel and rubbed it off. They whitened pretty good for her so i take it there are pretty good and effective!! Happy holidays Please Rate **trix**

Q: I babysit my 3 year old niece and she gets on my nerves and i don't get paid for it and my sister makes me babysit .
What should i do?

Talk to her about it and tell her you want some money because you could be doing other things rather then babysitting like hanging out with friends or something. I mean you deserve money. Happy holidays Please Rate **trix**

Q: hey, well i am a 16 yr old girl. 2 years ago i was in a bad car accident and fell into a coma. i was in it for 2 years and i woke up a week ago. well, i am kinda out, and well i was wondering, what kind of stuff is in? stores, music, fashion, hair and stuff like that. i am kinda confused! thx!

Gadzooks. Wet seal. Vanity. The buckle. A&F. JC Pennys. Gordmans. Forever 21. Mandys. Kohls. Old navy. Hollister. Almost Famous. The Gap. Aeropostale. thats for stores now.. some good music that is pretty popular is Like Toy Soldiers by eminem or Let me love you by mario.. or soldier by destinys child.. since u been gone by kelly clarkson. You might know of lindsay lohan.. yeah she sings a song now called rumors.. some people like it.. Hilary duff got famous for a bit and i dont hear much of her anymore. Avril lavigne is pretty popular now. she has some good music. Tim mcgraw and nelly sang a song together.. kinda odd if you ask me.. its called over and over.. real good though and theres htis new singer named Ciara.. she sings goodies and 1,2 step which are both pretty good. For fashion i see alot of skirts these days.. mini ones and for hair.. i see half up half down or curly hair or scrunched up hair or straighted thats the majority anyways. Cars.. i see alot of honda's around or celica's. I see the color pink more then anything. So i hope i updated you some!! good to see your doing way better!!! Happy holidays!! Trix!! Please rate me too!!

Q: i'll try to make this short. my brother was overseas in the army for three years. he came back in august. i've only seen him a couple of times since he's been back. the problem is we used to be so close and now he's just so weird. he won't talk to me. i went over for thanksgiving and he ate in a room all by himself. i felt bad and went in there to keep him company and as soon as i sat down he walked out of the room. he wouldn't even say hi to me or the rest of the family for that matter. i have to see him tommorow for christmas. should i ignore him or try to talk to him. he shuts me out everytime i try. any help would be great thanks.

Make him a christmas card. Dont buy one.. make it.. that'll be more touching anyways. Wish him a happy birthday and write a lil letter in there telling him what you wanna say and wanna find out. Maybe something happaned when he was gone like something extremely shocking that he hasnt overcomed. I doubt that happaned but wierd things can happan. Just dont ignore him because that wont get you anywhere. Talk to your mom or dad maybe they know something. I hope everything works out well for you and im sorry about this though!! good luck!! Happy Holidays!! **Please Rate** Trix

Q: ok, i like this guy. lets call him joe. i've liked joe for a few months. and we've become really good friends. and, my friend...lets call her betty...betty and i love to do 3 way calling. so we usually call joe and other people when we do that. but lately, like last night, he just seemed really annoyed or moody or somethin'. but i don't know if it was cuz of me and betty or not. and, lately, joe's been kinda...bleh. and when i was online one night i said hi and he never said anything. i don't know. i'm not sure if its me or not. i mean, is it just a guy thing? or is it me?

thx in advance!

Well maybe he just had a bad day and got annoyed with anybody just wait until christmas and call him and just wish him a merry christmas. And ask him how he is doing. If something is wrong with him and he wants you to know then he will tell you. I mean just be like if somethings wrong just know im here im here to listen if you wanna talk to me. But im gunna go or something just let him know. Or you could just simply talk to him and ask him if he's mad. Think back and see if you did something. Did ya? Hopefully not. Time will pass and you'll be fine. Trust me. Happy Holidays!! **Please Rate** Trix

Q: On tuesday, my boyfriend broke up with me. I was really upset and then today I met up with some friends and he was there. We all decided to go back to my house and my ex and I were flirting quite alot. Then, one of our friends said: "Look, you both obviously fancy each other, go back out." So my ex asked me out and I said yes. The thing is, do you think it is worth giving it another try? The reason he broke up with me was because we didn't really talk enough or anything but can that be fixed? Should I bother trying again?

I think everybody deserves a second chance because sometimes the first time wasn't always ready for it and wasn't how it was suppose to be. Of course that can fixed. Just call eachother more often. And if i were in your spot i would try again. I would maybe even give it 3 times depending on how much i liked the kid. so i think everybody deserves a sencond time around unless they did something the last time that really got to you. Happy Holidays!! **Please Rate** Trix

Q: help....my name is lola and i strip in a strip club. ive been in porn movies and different clubs. i have a hard time finding a guy who can just accept my job and love me for who i am. if i ever do find a guy they turn out to be real asses or just treat me like im a nobody. Just b/c i show my body doesnt mean i dont have feelings. idk it just seems like something needs to happen. porn is the first job i ever had and ive been making good money. should i quit my job and start over or just follow along with porn. if i start over again it would be rlly hard and it would be a long time before i make money again. i dont know what to do anymore i need help...

My friend angel is a stripper and she works in a strip club and has a daughter. She i think had the same prob. but she just dated around for fun then the right person came around and they both loved eachother equally. So you just have to wait. Maybe what you could do is find another job. Like a 2nd hand job. Spare money wouldnt hurt either and you could just let them know thats also your job and that you do have feelings. Happy Holidays!! **Please Rate** Trix

Q: okay i cant handle this anymore. how do you deal with parents that are ALWAYS fighting? i mean they wont separate they talked about it but they wont and it's beginning to tick me off because they will be good one day and then the next you know it they are fighting and it sickens me! i cant handle it anymore i feel like punching them out. please help. THANKS!

Wow. Im sorri! I hope everything works out! I can't really help you out to much with that because I havent been in this place for awhile. Whenever my parents fight i just go out to them and say hey not in front of me.. ok? then one night at dinner i brought it up to them that i was sick and tired of this happaning and if they fight so much it gives me the big impression that they want to break up! So they need to stop! I just pretty much said what was on my mind and i got backed up all the way with the sibs. So try that. Happy Holidays!! **Please Rate** Trix

Q: Hi all well im babysitting 3 girls after xmas can anyone give me some ideas on how to keep them busy so its a bit easyer for me
roxie
ps ill rate any good ideas
have a great xmas everyone

Movie. Play-do. Barbies. Toys. Color crayons. Paints. HaPPy HoLiDaYS! TRiXXie!

Q: My sister has had a pretty tough year, and I think she's finding the festive season a bit overwhelming. She hasn't wanted to get involved with any of the usual things she enjoys this time of year, like decorating the house with lights. I'm nervous that tomorrow on Christmas Day, she'll be really down. How can I cheer her up, given that the normal "festive" things she likes are just depressing her?

I would just kinda be her shadow.. and talk to her about whats going on and see why she is so down. Maybe someone she was hoping to see cant make it this x-mas. HaPPy HoLiDaYS! TRiXXie!

bio

My name is Trix, I am 17. I love pink, and degrassi.

I just recently got out of a relationship of 21 months. I love him still but I'm moving on.

I've been there done that im sure

ex. (with the number of expierences)

-Long term relationships (2)
-Bad expierence with BF's family (1)
-Broken bones (11)
-Stitches (2)
-Seen someone killed (1)
-Loss of family (1)
-Cancer in the family (2)
-Family in Iraq (1)
-Mom had brain surgery (2)
-Loss of pet (4)
-Moved from state to state (5)
-New highschool (2)
-Car accident (3)

Like I said "been there done that"