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i am a female. me and my partner wanted to have sex, so he tired putting it in, but it wouldnt go in that far. is it still considered having sex even though he didnt put it in far?

It still entered you. Doesn't matter if it wasn't all the way, or if it was only for a few seconds. If it was your first time, you're no longer a virgin.. and I, personally count it as sex.

What are some positive choices for me to do after when someone calls you something rude?

Ignore them. Don't retaliate. It just shows you're a stronger, better person. and ignoring will also annoy them. ;)

i jus put a comment box on my page and its not working!!!grrrr!i put it under heroes and it wont work!!!!please help somebody!!!

Make sure the code is 100% correct. One wrong thing and it won't work. Make sure your friend ID is correct too.
It would help if you posted the code, to see if there's anything wrong with it.. or you could go to a website which offers the right code for you. Like whateverlife.com

I enjoy sex. I crave it from my bf. But when we get ready, he seems so tense. We've been going out for a long time now and were definetely ready. What can i do to make him loosen up. How can i seduce him? What do guys enjoy most in sex?

Please help me

You crave it - he might not.
Or you both crave it, but he's not 100% ready.. because if he was, he wouldn't tense up. It doesn't matter how long you've been going out for either, so that's a silly excuse for assuming he's ready.
As for what guys enjoy, everyone's different.. so why don't you ask him personally. At least that way, it might make him ease up a little. Talk to him about it. Make him feel more comfortable. Don't just force it.

I might get this bed set.

http://store.delias.com/browse.do?categoryKey=roomwares.room.heart&splashTrack=room

I'd like to hear your opinions on it. And if I got it what color should I paint my room? On the picture it has green but I'd rather paint it a diffrent color. Any ideas?

Thanks

The good thing about that particular bed set is basically any colour wall will go with it, because it's so "busy"
I reckon ANY pastel colour will go best, especially if you don't your room TOO bright. Light pinks, purples, blues, yellows.. anything.
I also think the bed set is really pretty. Nice choice :)

I've asked this question before, but I never seem to get a real, good answer.

It's about my VAGINA. I'm fourteen and a virgin.

Not the inner workings, but the outer appearence.

My lips, or labia, don't really look like I think they're supposed to. Now, I haven't exactly seen many vaginas but this just doesn't seem normal.

Instead of just being skin colored, my lips are a kind of brownish purple. Instead of just being smooth, my lips are kind of wrinkled, and if I pull them, they extend, but are still wrinkly.

I've seen 'Knocked Up' recently, and I saw the scene where Katherine Heigl has the baby and they showed her vagina. I understand she was crowning so that's not what I should look like, but her lips looked NORMAL. Not purple or brown, not wrinkled - but normal.

So is what I'm describing usual for girls? Does anybody else look like this? Uhm, help?

You haven't got a "good" answer because people don't know what to tell you other than it IS normal.
EVERYONE'S varies in shapes, sizes and colours. Some people will have ones similar to yours, others won't.
Don't worry about it. If it bothers you so much it affects you alot, when you're older, you can get surgery to cut away the excess and make it look "pretty".. but at the end of the day, it's a vagina. Who really cares what they look like. and if you're worried about it because you're unsure of what boys are going to think, you've got it all wrong. If he doesn't like you because of something as ridiculous as not having a "pretty" vagina, he's waste.

well this guy who i think likes me has invited me to go play paintball with him and his friends/family, i like him too, but i dont know if i want to cauz im not one of those girly girls bu tthen again im not a tomboy either, and ive never shot a gun so id probably suck but then again i might have fun. dose anyone give me so help on wat to do??

I'd go if I were you. Paintball is so fun - but you have to be prepared for bruises :)
It doesn't matter if you're not a tomboy or whatever. It's only a game. You do it to have fun - not worry about things like that. and if you aren't sure how to do it, they will more than likely help you. and if you don't go... well, you'd just be left wondering what you missed out on.
It's an experience, so I say go for it.

there's this boy i like and he's in my lunch.What he does is wierd. He bites his food normally then when he starts to chew it he puts his fist in front of his mouth.Is this some sort of mouth insecurity??

(Thanks for the Q)
Possibly. Maybe he doesn't like people watching him eat, or he's afraid of making a mess and is being polite.
I used to do it, because I was really shy and didn't really feel comfortable eating in public. Weird, I know.

OMG!!!!! am like DYing[SEriously}! okya my question is:
Whata' is a Heating PAd.... were can i get one?! PLease i really need one!!!!!!!

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heat_pad
That will explain what a heat pad is.
and you can get them at chemists.. and places which sell plasters and bandages. Ask in stores.

Is there any way I can get on blocked websites at school? There's something called proxy? But I really do not understand what that is..

Here are some examples:
You basically just enter the website into the space provided.

http://www.pr0xysurf.com/
http://www.pr0xy.com/

"You can use our server to hide your IP address and bypass your work, or school's web filter, firewalls, and blocks with ease."

There are tonnes more if you Google it... but schools are aware of these, so they may not work.

What do I tell people who keep bugging me about whether I got into my early decision college? I don't think it's nice for people to know about the fact that I applied because I eventually got rejected.. as I knew I would.. :`(

It's nothing to be embarrassed about. If you don't want them to know, just tell them you haven't heard anything yet, or you've changed your mind about going to that college - this way, they won't be as disappointed for you and they'll still be none the wiser.
I'm sorry you got rejected too. Hopefully you'll find one just as good you want to attend.

(female) i'm really tight if you know what i mean. how do i loosen myself up fast and efficiently? my boy and me tried to have sex but it wouldnt fit.

Why don't you have him finger you first.. and increase the amount of fingers gradually.
Also, use lube if you don't already. It'll make it alot easier.

i reveal some things i shouldn't have said to someone cause im affraid he might tell his girlfriend which i totally hate, what do you think its best to do to kind of make what i said sound less important so he will think like oh its something that doesn't even matter ?

It would have been extremely helpful to know what you said, because there isn't really a way to cover it up without knowing.
If he brings it up, just tell him it was no big deal. But I wouldn't bring it up yourself, because;
1) He may have forgotten about it already.
2) Talking about it alot will give you the opposite effect and make it seem like it IS important.

14/f
I've been having nosebleeds since I was little, but just recently in the past few weeks i've started to get them daily. Sometimes I'll get them in the shower, sometimes I'll get them when I'm just walking around my house. I'll put pressure on my nose, lean foward, put an ice pack on the bridge of my nose, but it takes about 20 minutes for them to stop. And I always have to blow my nose during it because I feel the mucus dripping down my throat. When I blow my nose, it'll be a big clump of bloody mucus. Sometimes it gets into my mouth and I'll have to spit it out.

Are these serious? Should I call my doctor? Thank you.

The majority of nosebleeds aren't serious, but you said yours take around 20 minutes to stop. That is a rather long time, not to mention you get them every day. I remember reading if they are frequent and last over 15 minutes, you need to see a doctor.
Make an appointment asap to rule out WHY you get them and to get the necessary treatment. Best of luck.

is confidence really sexy to a guy?, like cause i don't think i'm super attractive, but my personality is pretty good, but i just wanna know if guys like a girl whos confident?
&other ways to know if a guy is into you.

thankss.

There are different ways to be confident. There are good ways and bad ways. What it mainly means is not pointing out all your flaws and moaning about yourself. "I'm so ugly!" "My legs are so fat" .. No guy wants to hear that. and it's most likely to turn them off than attract them. Same with girls - you can be attracted to someone by looking at them but if you get to know them and find out they constantly put themselves down and have very low self esteem, it's quite the turn off isn't it?
Just be yourself and don't put yourself down.
There are plenty of sites to help you with your last question. Like this for example:
http://www.wikihow.com/Know-if-a-Guy-Likes-You

me and my girlfriend were doing stuff and she gave me a blow job and swallowed most of it but there was some left on the tip of my penis so when i put it back in my pants could it have got on my hand and when i fingered her got her pregnant.

btw there was like a 2 to 3 minutes inbetween me putting it in my pants and then me fingering her

It is very, very unlikely your girlfriend will become pregnant.
Just follow the regular precautions next time, by washing your hands, just to be 100%.

I'm not sure if this is in the right category.
I have this infected toe. Whenever I touch it it hurts. My mom set an appointment to get it removed....the toenail. Now I'm scared! I've been through this already once and it didn't go well. I screamed and shouted rejecting that I didn't want the two shots(I hate needles!) It's humiliating but I don't know if I can control it. What could I think in my mind while hugging my mom totally distract me from the shots? Please hurry!!!It's next week!!

Lots of people are afraid of needles.
It's really nothing to worry about though. Here's a few tips to help you with that part:
*Tell the doctor you are afraid of needles. He/she will reassure you everything is going to be fine and help you to relax.
*Try not to think about it. Remember good memories.
*Do not watch as the needle goes in.
*Remember, the needles are going to help you, so it's best you have them done.
*Breathe. Relax. Keep still.
*Maybe even have someone talk to you and keep the conversation flowing.
It will all be over before you know it.
The quicker you have it done, the quicker your toe will heal.
Don't worry. You're going to be fine.

okay well yesterday i was messing around at my friends basketball yesterday.
i played some defence.
and so yeah i was defending and i was running with the person and i i dont know how to explain it.
like my ankel gave out and i fell really hard.
adn when i did this my ankel snapped.
it made a really loud noise.
my boyfriend took me to his house.
and had his dad look at it.
his dad said it was perfectly fine.
but it still hurts really bad.
like i can barely walk.
and that also worries me cause im pregnant (2 months and 11 days.)
it hurts very bad.
like i cant stand the pain.
and when i try to walk my ankel like cracks and snaps.
im very worried.
so my question is what should i do.
and does anyone have any idea what i did?

It's best to get a doctors opinion, to rule out any fractures etc. You could have just badly sprained it.
For now, RICE:
Rest
Ice
Compression
Elevation
I hope you have a speedy recovery!

k so my period didn't come this month but i've gotten it since the last time i had sex. I just got my new depo shot so maybe that causes u to like skip a period..i did gain like two pounds and i'd rather not have pediphiles examin me down there with cold things unless i have to...advice?

It could very well be from the shot. and if you've had your period since the last time you had sex, you should be okay. Although it wouldn't hurt to take a pregnancy test just to be on the safe side.
Also, they're not paedophiles. They're there to help ;)

me and my boyfriend had sex last weekend.
so it went like it normally do. but when he had it in, it felt like he ''cumed'' so i kept saying take it out take it out i think you cumed and he was like no keep it in, it feels good, but i was like YOU CUMED and he said no i didnt i would know now lets keep going. now i was trusting him. so i kept going believeing him. so 10 minutes later he took it out but it was halfway in and felt like he really did cumed. so i was like i think you cumed and he said baby i didnt and he starting kissing on me, and he kept going down like he was trying to eat me out. so i left his head back up and we started tongue kissing again, my perious was suppose to come this week, but it didnt, and my tummy has been a little puffy from usual, what do i do?
should i break up with him? we been together for 2 years. && both madly in love, but then again i always had iiregular period, should i be worried?
oh if it helps 13/f, im in 8th grade
i wear a 34 b, && my body is pretty mature, && im 5'7 or 5'8,

I'll keep this short.
You could be pregnant. Take a test.
If you insist on having sex (even though you shouldn't because you are only 13), WEAR PROTECTION. It will save you all this hassle and worry.
and if I were in your position right now, yes I'd break up with him for the following reasons:
*He ejaculated when he said he didn't
*Something serious like that isn't something which should be lied about
*He wanted to carry on because it "felt good" and didn't sound like he respected what you had to say
*He's obviously not mature enough to handle it - neither are you.

I'm not judging you or trying to sound mean by the way. I just find it highly irritating when young teens barely having started puberty get themselves into dodgy situations like this when they can be prevented.

SO to conclude:
Get a pregnancy test. and in the mean time, try not to worry. You can even go to the doctors for a test and they won't tell your parents because it's confidential.

Best of luck. and remember not to get yourself into that situation again.

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