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My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.


I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

chat it up yo.


ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)

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there is this guy at my church that i've liked for a long time and he just recently asked me out to the movies , and he held my hand but when i saw him again he acted like nothing happened and i dont know if he likes me now

Talk to him. Don't just sit back and do the same thing he's doing. That's pointless.


Tell him you had a good time, but you're wondering why he's acting like nothing happened. Ask him if he likes you. Maybe [I'm sorry to say] he doesn't like you like that. But it's ok if he doesn't, because there are plenty of other fish in the sea ;]


-Laura. (16-f)

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How do you get a background for a document? Like a bunch of butterflies or whatever. I really don't know how to describe it though. But if you know or have any suggestions that'd be great :D. I DO RATE HIGH 5 star promise :) thanks.

Click Format.
Scroll down to "Background".
Click the tab that says "Fill Effects".
Click the "Picture" tab.
Hit "Select Picture" and choose a picture.


-Laura. (16-f)

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im 17 and a male and im a junior in high school, im actually really good looking but i rarely open my heart to girls, a few weeks a go i started going out with a freshmen, it just kinda happened but once it did i REALLY liked her and she supposedly liked me a lot too, i never had a girlfriend before, she was my first one and we gave hugs and walked around school and gave a few kisses here and there, i was starting to move a little deeper and once we were going out for a month i was going to hang out with her and tell her how much i really "loved" her, i already told her how much i liked her and stuff. one day we were talking on phone and randomly she says " i need to talk to you" so im like ok what and shes like " i dont really want a boyfriend right now" and she told me how she didnt want me to be mad and she still wanted to be friends...and i dont understand why she didnt want a boyfriend cause i was perfect for her, her friends liked me and her mom liked me and i didnt do anything wrong i always asked her to go places with me and we had a lot of fun together and i didnt drag her away from her friends i always told her to do what she wanted with them and that she didnt have to be with me all the time unless she wanted to..and then she just ended it and i dont know why, i think there is more to it then "i dont really want a boyfriend right now" but im not sure and it really hurts me cause i thought she really liked me and thats what everyone told me. and im just sad :( does anyone have any ideas why she did this to me?

We're not her, so we can't tell you the exact reason why she broke up with you, but I can spitball some ideas?


- She likes somebody else.
- She's too busy for a boyfriend.
- She felt like the 2 of you got too serious.
- She honestly, just doesn't want a boyfriend.


But don't worry, you have your entire life ahead of you for relationships. They really aren't even all that great 80 percent of the time. And the first break up is always the hardest, but don't worry, it'll get better with time.


-Laura. (16-f)

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There are voices inside my head. What can i do?

If it's becoming a serious issue, I'd strongly reccomend seeing a doctor. We, here on Advicenators, cannot diagnose you or give you treatment the way a medical professional can.


-Laura. (16-f)

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REVIEWS ON THE BlackBerry Pearl 8110 PHONE PLEASE!!!!

My bestest friend has the Blackberry Peal 8100 [which is extremely similar] and she LOVES it. She does a lot of texting, and it's really good for that. But, like I said, she likes it a whole lot =]


-Laura. (16-f)

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hey ok so i babysit my neighbor and she is like 9 and her older brother is like 13 and im 14 but almost 15 and her older brother always has his friends over when im babysitting.. and one of his friends is REALLY tall and kinda cute(he kinda looks like he could pass for a sophmore or junior in high school).. would that be totally weird to like a guy thats like 2 grades lower than me? im a freshman in highschool and hes in 7th grade . thanks

It's totally fine! Like Jack said below, age is nothing but a number and when you're older, 2 grades lower is nothing.


-Laura. (16-f)

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"you were the only one that i liked,
you were the only one that wanted,
but you walked away from me,
I had to put up with my god damn life,
while you were gone and i was haunted,
I miss you come back, wont you please?"

you left that as an answer to a question about lyrics about wanting someone you can't have or something. what song is it from? because i can't find it anywhere. thanks.

Are you sure it isn't just a quote? It sounds like it might just be a quote, but I have no idea what question you're talknig about...


-Laura. (16-f)

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1. Money makes me happy
2. Money enables me to help others.
3. Money is the most important thing in life.
4. Love is more important than money.
5. We need beauty in our lives.

Do you agree with it? Why?

1. No.
- The best things in life are free. Love, happiness, health, trust, everything that truly matters, doesn't cost a penny.
2. Yes and no.
- You can literally help others, by donating to charity and such, but the money isn't what's actually "enabling" you, exactly. It's what you feel inside that is driving you to help them, the money is just assisting, if that makes sense?
3. No.
- There are MUCH more important things, such as relationships with family and friends, and things that aren't material.
4. Yes.
- Love beats money, period. I would rather be living in a box with the person I love than be alone my entire life with millions of dollars.
5. No and yes.
- No, because we don't need physical beauty. Yes, because we need internal beauty and we need to believe that we are beautiful.



-Laura. (16-f)

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Thank you so much, Laura.

She said yes. And it turns out that she's coming to Mass. next week for about a month because she has family here!

(:

I know this wasn't a question. I just wanted to thank you so much!

Well, my day has been made ;]


And you're so welcome.
I'm so glad she said yes.


Have fun with you girlfriend next week! =]


-Laura.

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Okay. So bear with me, this might be a little confusing. So i Have this picture of me on Photobucket. I want to get it on my myspace. How would i do that. I cant figure it out.Any help would be great, Il return the favor. (: THANKS.

Click the picture on Photobucket.
Right click the picture.
Click "Save Picture As..."
Save it to somewhere you will remember, like "My Pictures."
Upload it onto Myspace!


If you have any trouble, let me know =]


-Laura. (16-f)

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If she says yes, what do we do after we start going out? Because obviously we can't just hang out or go to the movies?

Well, I don't know that much would be different [as bad as that almost sounds?] but it depends on the two of you.


I'm sure you'll talk on the phone more, and start text messaging more. You can even try and visit each other, especially since it's summer.


You can send each other stuff, maybe? Like presents for her birthday, or just send her flowers to be nice =]


Or, if you really want to, maybe you can get webcams [if you don't have them already] and talk to each other using those. I know somebody who had a friend move to Arizona [we live in Illinois] and that's what they did. They really liked it =]


-Laura.




EDIT:
Thanks for the feedback! Let me know what she says ;]

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Okay, so how should I ask her out? Should I like compliment her or something?

I don't even know if she likes me. How can I tell?

Thanks, you've been really helpful. (:

You're so welcome! Thanks for having good grammar and spelling and making me WANT to answer your questions ;]


So, how to tell if she likes you. I answered this question before:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=532578


But since the 2 of you live farther away, I'm guessing you text and IM a lot. So, here are some hints based on text messages and IMs:

- She uses a lot of smileys. =D
- She asks how your day went, and it interested in talking about you.
- She compliments you, and says things like "You're awesome." a lot.
- She tells you things that are more personal, and doesn't only answer your questions with "Yes" or "No".


And now, how to ask her out. Start off by asking how she's doing and whatnot, like a regular conversation. Then, let her know how you feel! Tell her what you like about her [like you told me she is pretty and nice], and then tell her you would like to take your relationship to the next level. Tell her that you really enjoyed spending time with her at camp, and you've been thinknig about how you really like her. Hopefully, she feels the same way! =]


Again, good luck!


-Laura.

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I'm sorry, I've got another question.

Should I text her, call her, or what? Because you've convinced me to ask her out.

I think calling would be a lot better than texting, just because the 2 of you are literally talking to one another and it's more personal.


And I'm so glad you're taking a chance! I really hope she says yes =]


-Laura.

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I know it's only a few states, but like what's the limit? Two? Three? Four?

So you're okay with long-distance?

Well, I'm personally kind of, a sucker for love, so I don't know that I think there is a limit =X


I think that the only "limit" or something of that nature in my mind for long distance relationships, are if you've never met somebody face to face and they're from another country or something. You've gtta draw the line somewhere...


And, I'm ok with long distance if both people are commited, and you trust one another. As long as trust and love are there, it's worth it.


-Laura. (16-f)

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She lives far away like I live in Mass. and she lives in Virginia. We went to camp together. Does that change anything?

I don't think it changes anything. At least it's not like you live in Canada and she lives in Australia. And if the 2 of you have met and got along, there's nothing wrong with a long distance relationship.


-Laura. (16-f)

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I like this girl, but she lives far away. Should I go after her? She's really pretty, nice, etc.

By the way, I'm a guy.

Thanks for inboxing!

Well, I don't know how old you are, but I'm assuming your a teenager?


Anyways, heck yes you should go after her! As I always [literally] say:

"Life is WAY too short to not take chances and risks once in a while. Why sit around wondering what could've been, what would've been and what should've been, when you can answer all of those questions and then some by being honest and telling this girl how you really feel about her?"


Good luck & let me know how it turns out ;]



-Laura. (16-f)

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I wanna be cool but im just too overweight...i have nice clothes and tons of friends but am afraid ill never have a boyfriend because im overweight....i love food.....everything. People make fun of me and i eat healthy but i can just never lose weight...it hurts when people call me fat...and i know it's true...help needed..i wonder what i should do.

First of all, clothes, looks, your body, and such do NOT have as much to do with popularity as you'd think.


The people that I consider popular, are the people that everybody likes for reasons other than appearance. They're the people that are always smiling, the people that make you laugh, the people who are confident with who they are, and the people who don't let others' comments get to them.


So, to be popular, all you really need to do is work on your confidence and how YOU see yourself. The people who call you "fat", are just insecure idiots who have to make fun of others to make themselves feel good. Just ignore them. Remember: what goes around comes around, and they'll get what they deserve.


And don't worry about the boyfriend issue. Boys aren't worth it 80 percent of the time anyways, and you have your whole life ahead of you, which means a ton of time for them later. And don't worry, you WILL find a guy worth your time, who likes you for who you are.


Other than that, just be happy with who you are! You were put on this Earth for a reason, and you are who you are for a reason. Just be happy with what you've been given, and share yourself with others =]



-Laura. (16-f)

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So my boyfriends 18th birthday is coming up soon and I'm not to sure on what to get him this year. We've been together almost two years and I'm stuck on what to get him this time. He told me something unique and special.
he's into:
*TV series
*things from his childhood (power rangers, ninja turtles)
*working out
*country music
*being a guy basically

How about like, a season of Power Rangers [or Ninja Turtles] on DVD? ;]

Or does he have an iPod? If so, you can make him a work out mix cd, with some good pump up songs he can work out to.

Tickets to a concert maybe? A country concert, obviously, might be nice.

A season of his favorite show.


Hope it helps!



-Laura. (16-f)

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my friend _________, 15 went to church camp not too long ago and she met this 18 yr old guy and they became friends and hung out most of the time. they live in different states and they text and stuff. when they were at camp, this 'fortuneteller' told them they were going to get married, they both know he's a joke. but now that guy from church camp texts my friend ________ stuff like 'we should get married', 'i want to come visit you, what's your address?', and other really crazy stuff that she didn't tell me. but she really wants advice because she doesn't like this guy and doesn't want him to visit her or get married but she wants to still be friends. so i need really good advice, because all of her friends have tried and noone could help her, so...

Has SHE tried talking to him?


Her friends won't have any influence over the guy because:
A. He doesn't know them personally.
B. They aren't your friend.
C. He doesn't care what they say.


SHE needs to make it clear to HIM that she doesn't want to get married or whatever creepy things he's saying. If he continues after she talks to him, she should just STOP talking to him. Who wants to be friends with a creep? =/


-Laura. (16-f)

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hi so my mum saw some girls clothes in my room and thinks i have been wareing them (i have not worn them they are my gf's she left here) what do i do or say to my mum

Thanks People

Tell her the truth.


It's not worth it to make up some elaborate lie, have her find out the truth, and then lose the trust and respect she had for you.


-Laura. (16-f)

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