about

If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.

[9/2/08] [5/7/08] [16/7/08] [23/9/09] [28/5/10] [29/5/10] [3/6/10]

Laura/22/England



Facebook
Forum

advice

I was at a party last night....
There was this kid there that I didnt actually talk to but I was talking to his friend. The reason I didnt talk to him because I guess I was shy or whatever, I dont know but man I dont know If I should add him on myspace or not. Because the thing is, I havent ever spoken to him before... and maybe he'll think like "who is this girl?" but then again... what's the wrong thing that could happen, right? I keep trying to tell myself that but I can't seem to get the courage to do so. He goes to my school and he's older and stuff, and I definately don't talk to him there because one, I barely see him and two, Im shy :/

Just do it. and afterwards start a conversation saying you saw him at the party and asked if he had a good time. The worst thing is he won't accept your request.. and if so, who cares, right? No biggy.

[view]

im about to be 16 my voice has changed and everything and puberty is hitting me hard...how do i get my dick to grow??

You can't. and don't fall for the pills, penis enlargers etc.
Be happy with what you have. It's not a bad thing.
Who knows.. maybe you will still grow. Time will tell.

[view]

whats some new positions that are good that me and my gf can

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex_positions

[view]

Alright well , my friend wants to know if having sex at the age of 15 is ok.. but if she knows shes in love with them and she knows shes loved by him..What do you think?
Thank you , betty

Personally, I think anyone who is underage should wait. If they are so "in love" with them, they won't mind waiting because they know they will still be together when they're old enough. Not to mention if the boy is older, he could get into serious trouble if anyone found out.
What's so bad about waiting these days?

[view]

Well.... I asked the guy if he wanted to go to the movies again and he was like ''duh lol'' but we dont really talk.. should i keep on talkin to him.. i mean if i dotn talk he doesnt.. is he shy? or whats the deal here?
THANK YOU , BETTY

If "duh lol" was his response, he must have enjoyed himself and your company the time before. Who knows, he could be shy. If you don't know, we don't know!
Keep talking to him and see what happens. He might come out of his shell a little more.

[view]

What's a skeeze or a skeezer?
My friend keeps saying that word and I have no idea what it means :[

Skeeze:
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=skeeze

Skeezer:
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=skeezer

[view]

So I'm having difficulty naming my grey female kitty. I've narrowed it down to a few names. I trust your opinions so let me know which one you like the best:
Pandora
Tabitha
Mabel
Scarlett
Paloma (Spanish for 'peace')
Stella

If you have any suggestions, that would be nice too. Thanks a lot!

I prefer Tabitha and Stella.

[view]

do girls get more horny when they have their period?

Some do, some don't.
It's totally normal if you do, though.

"Some women seem to feel strong arousal two weeks before their period (about the time they are ovulating or releasing an egg). Others, feel it most intensely at the time of menses. Some women don’t notice any particular pattern. Everyone is unique, and in the realm of sexuality whatever you learn about your own feelings is important and valuable for you."

[view]

my boyfriend and i dry hump...well id most likely call it having sex with clothes on.. and last night i had underwear on, and he had boxers and athletic shorts...well i was wet down there and he was a little too and i just dont want to be worried about this. (and from now on were going to use something like a condom just incase) but he could have gone in me a little bit even with the layers on.. (not far in at all)
Am I overthinking this?
Should I be worried?

The chance of you being pregnant is so tiny. Don't worry about it, especially since both of you had underwear on AND he had athletic shorts over.
Just take a little extra care next time :)

[view]

i quit smoking and i don't drink caffeine what so ever.. my teeth are a bit yellow and i really want to whiten them.. what is the best way? i have a couple of fillings at the back that don't really show. and my teeth are generally in good health. any recommendations? oh and i just moved cities so i don't have a fixed dentist i am going to visit cosmetic dental clinics until i get one...

While you're waiting for a dentist, try out whitening toothpastes. Also there's a powder for smokers (even though you don't smoke anymore).
People gave Crest white strips good feedback, so it could be worth a try.
Google also has many methods you can try from things around your home. Like this for example:
http://nv.essortment.com/whitenyourteet_pry.htm
Good luck. :)

[view]

Hi! Well I'm looking for a new perfume to get now that my current one is running out. I was thinking either Vera Wang Princess or Miss Dior Cherie. Which one smells better? any other perfume suggestions?

Thanks!!!

I tried Princess and I was quite surprised how nice it smelt.
Other suggestions;
I'm absolutely loving DKNYs Delicious range at the moment. Red and Green ones smell fresh, fruity and are long lasting.
Just a tip.. before you buy, ask to try the testers. :)

[view]

i'm 15, and yes im going to be having sex with my boyfriend in the next week. the problem is, i cant even imagine a penis going into my vagina because, well the hole is so small. no, i have the right hole. when i finger myself, i can barely get two fingers in! how is a penis supposed to fit? i need to know, so please help!

It WILL fit. If a vagina can accommodate a baby, a penis will be a doddle.
I won't bother saying not to have sex, despite that being right for many reasons.. because you're probably going to do it anyway.
Here's 3 tips.
1. Have him finger you, inserting more each time to "loosen you up".
2. Use LUBE.
3. Relax.

[view]

heyy ok i really like this boy and he likes me but wants to keep it a secret for now...also he says it might become something more but he doesnt know what he wants yet. since new years is coming up should i give him until then to make up his mind and start frsh or just keep waiting. it hurts soo much to wait but i really really like this boy. please help!
thank you
jess

No girl should ever have to wait around for a guy like that. Vice versa.
If he likes you and has every intention of being with you but just needs a LITTLE bit of time, fair enough - give him that time.
but the worrying thing here is he wants to keep it a secret. Why? There's more to this than you think.
If I were you, I'd give him an ultimatum. Tell him you're willing to wait until new year, or whenever you feel comfortable with. After that if he hasn't come up with a decision, yes it's obviously going to be hard, but you need to do the decent thing and move on, because it sounds like he has no idea what he wants. You shouldn't be stuck in the middle because of that.
I hope things work out how you want them to, though.

[view]

okayy i'm 14 & i just seem to have met this great guy he's 18 and he's really nice to me and really a major cutieeee :) hes not a virgin / i still i am though. do you think he might just want to be using me for sex or what? should i trust him yet?

The only thing that concerns me are your ages.
Just say you did "trust him" and got a little carried away, he could get into serious trouble because you are underage, because doing things sexually with a minor is illegal.
You can trust him and have a good friendship with him, possibly even be a couple if things do get that far.. but anything sexual, I'll say it again, is illegal.

[view]

ok well i have braces and i havnt kissed a guy yet but i really want to im just scared to because of the braces and its going to be different or those stupid stories about them...is there really any difference???

No. I've kissed with fixed braces. and I've kissed people with fixed braces.
The guy will probably be able to feel it, but it won't necessarily make a difference..
You won't get stuck.. Well, it's VERY rare at least.
No worries!

[view]

I think I might have a concussion.

It happened last night, I was playing tetris all day on the computer, then I stood up suddenly, got very dizzy, blacked out, heard moaning/breathing, then I opened my eyes and the first few seconds I couldn't understand what happened. Then I felt a huge pain on my head. I got really scared, but my mom was there and she comforted me, but I was still pretty upset and was crying for the next ten or so minutes. My mom said that I got a head rush, blacked out, fell, and bumped my head on the door. I had a pretty big lump on my head, but I iced it a little, and its gone down, although it still hurts to the touch.

When I calmed down, I felt more or less normal. I went to bed, and fell asleep almost immediately, at around 11pm. Or 10, I don't really remember, I'm not sure if I looked at the clock or not. I woke up at around ten, but I still felt very tired and still wanted to go back to sleep. I woke up a few times during the night because I kept on sleeping on my lump which really hurt.

I felt really weird throughout the day. I really want to fall back asleep again, although I'm not necessarily tired or sleepy. I haven't yawned once, for instance. My eyelids feel kind of heavy, but my vision isn't blurry. The part of my brain where I bumped my head feels a little numb and wierd, and I'll get some pain in other parts of my head. Sometimes my eyes hurt, too. None of this is extreme. I walk just fine, but carefully because I feel a little dizzy. I would not feel safe driving a car for instance. I don't think my ability to think is very good right now. I just feel like blah right now in my head area.

Do I need to see a doctor? Or should I wait a while to see if I get better. I don't think I have any memory loss, except I don't remember how I fell and I have no idea how long I was blacked out for. My mom was there, and she didn't seem too concerned, so I'm guessing I wasn't blacked out for too long, probably as I fell, and maybe a little after I hit my head. I don't feel comfortable to take a shower, either, but I could be paranoid.

It is the right side of my brain.

Please tell me what I should do. Are there any reflexes I could test by myself to see if I had any brain damage?

Thank you, and I'm sorry if this didn't make sense, I'm having trouble thinking straight.

You probably do have concussion. Same thing happened to me and I was tired. Not to mention the pain, dizziness, nausea etc.
I remember the doctor said it was good i kept awake, because you can slip into unconsciousness.
Here is some information on concussions. Read it if you haven't already.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Concussion
My advice to you is to go to a doctor. They will run a few tests to check if everything is okay. Doesn't take long.
It's better to be safe than sorry. Concussions can turn out to be quite serious.. so get checked asap.
Hope you have a speedy recovery.

[view]

does anybody know something i can download to get rid of spyware,viruses and pop-ups? my computers constantly going slow and i have millions of pop-ups saying i have spyware and errors on my computer. but i need something thats free and doesn't include having to register. Something that will scan my computer and get rid of all this junk for free. i really need something to download quick.i'm really getting frusterated. please reply soon. thank you veryy much.

AVG is a great free anti virus program. I have it and it's never failed me. Download it here
http://free.grisoft.com/

Spybot search and destroy is good for spyware etc.
Get it here:
http://www.download.com/3000-8022_4-10743107.html

[view]

I created a website on freewebs.com. I'm trying to put a link to it in my myspace blog (and i know how to make links i do it all the time). I've put lots of different links in my blog, but for some reason when i put in the freewebs one, you click on it and it says "this page cannont be displayed". i am 100% positive i have the correct link, but i dont know why its not working! please help!

Keep checking your code.. there MIGHT be a glitch with it. Post it here if you like so people can double check for you.
If the coding is all fine and it's still not working, it could just be a technical fault and it'll work later on.. or MySpace has blocked the link. Once I tried to have a link to Bebo on my MySpace profile and of course, MySpace blocked Bebo links, so it didn't work. They may have blocked freewebs too?

[view]

So I have a huge tickling fetish. I absolutely love it. I want to tell my friends about it but Im not how they will respond. I have another friend who has a different fetish and everyone makes fun of her. I really want to tell my friends but i dont want them to think im weird.

So don't tell them?
If you do, who really cares what they think anyway. You're telling them in confidence and the thanks you get is them laughing at you and thinking you're weird? Lovely.
If you do tell them and they find whatever you have to say funny, just ignore them. It's your "fetish". Not theirs.

[view]

what do you know about comas?
they can last about a few days
and normaly you go back to normal right?

give me all the info you can on comas
please

& no like reallly hard stuff to understand

like i wana know if yu can get one from gettin in a car accident by hitting ur head on the windshield

its a health project i need to do.

PLEASE HELP

"Comas generally last a few days to a few weeks, rarely more than 2 to 5 weeks. After this time, some patients gradually come out of the coma, some progress to a vegetative state, and others die."

Yes, you can get them from a car accident as you described.

For more info on comas, visit this link. It tells you EVERYTHING.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coma

[view]

<<< Previous Advice Column
Next Advice Column >>>
humorist-workshop
eXTReMe Tracker