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ask mackenzie





I did not write the book of love,
and I do not claim to be full of wisdom.

I sure do make mistakes,
but I live and learn!

I try to let no one come to me,
without leaving happier. [:



"Exert your talents,
and distinguish yourself.
Don't even think about
retiring from the World,
until the World will be
sorry that you retire!"



advice

♥[?]♥ For Halloween I want to be a person from like the 1800's and I know what I'm going to wear but I want to know make-up to wear. Should I wear like nuetral, brown eyeliner, peach eyeshadow, pink blush? Thanks.
Make up was most certainly not a big to-do back then. I say (for dramatic purposes), a nice 'rose' blush would probably be all you need. And if you think you'd like more than that, try a very very suttle pink lip stick. And as far as eye liner goes, I wouldn't. ;]

♥[?]♥ I caught my friend grabbing his private parts. He was wearing sweat pants. We had just finished hugging. Do you think he was getting an erection?
It's possible. However, don't rule out the possibility that he was 'rearranging' or 'adjusting' his package..

♥[?]♥ Hey Mackenzie. I know that you give wonderful adivce, so I thought I'd come to you for some help with this problem my cousin is having. My cousin's best friend recently just died about 4 days ago. He was her best friend every and she's having a rough time because they grew up together and were extremely close. I don't know what to do, besides be there for her. It's kind of hard when she lives in Boston, though. Anyway, since she's having a rough time she got back into heavy drugs and began to cut herself, again. I'm trying to make her realize that she has to stop all this. I just mean, she has to realize that's he is gone. Nothing can change that. And she can't turn to drugs and ruin her life. She's also really angry towards everyone. Her friends, family, and her crush. He's always telling her that he's there for her and he loves her and she just snaps. What should I do with this problem? Any ideas?
Oh wow, what a heart wrenching situation. =/ I'm really sorrie to hear this..


"I don't know what to do, besides be there for her."


....That's the most important thing you CAN do. And really, it's ALL you can do. You never mentioned her age (which would have been helpful), but she is her own person. All you can do is make suggestions; but you really have no more power than that. Obviously, she's going through a horrendous period in her life, and she's need some support. While she may not ACT like she's appreciative of your love and generousity, I'm telling you she is. Everybody needs a sturdy backbone during a crisis, and I applaud you for standing strong behind her. I pray that you don't give up on her. That would be the absolute worst thing you could possibly do - her feeling like she's lost someone else won't help things. She might live in Boston, but you can still stay connected through the telephone and internet. Stress to her that this is a very personal and individual struggle, but she doesn't have to go through it alone.


Is she under 18? Does she live with her parents and/or guardians? Do they know she's turned to such drastic measures? When you say "heavy drugs", I assume you're not just talkin' about cigarettes here. Remind her that what she's doing is illegal. Tell her that you won't go straight to the authorities, but you refuse to sit back and watch her destory herself. Let her know that you're on her side, ONLY if she's willing to help YOU help HERSELF!!



I've looked online for some websites I think you should check out. They offer facts, support, treatment centers, free 24 hour hotlines, and tips on talking to those in need.
- http://www.narconon.org/ [this one is good, and it can surely provide more help than I can]
- http://www.allaboutcounseling.com/crisis_hotlines.htm
- http://www.drug-rehabs.com/
- http://www.recoveryconnection.org/
- http://www.selfinjury.com/sifacts.html
- http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/mental_health/cutting.html


I'm sorrie if I haven't been the best of help here. I've never been in this situation. I hope you can find some comfort in those links. I'm here if you'd like more opinions, and feel free to message me on AIM if you need. I may not be of the MOST assistance, but I will surely TRY.


Hope all goes well,
♥ Mackenzie ♥

♥[?]♥ ok so now you can change your top 8 which is coooll...but for some reason i cant drag people to change the top 8...help me pleeease
Not to come off as rude, but are you sure you're doing it right? Are you sure you clicked the "CHANGE MY 'TOP 8'" link, and not the "VIEW ALL OF MY FRIENDS" or "EDIT MY FRIENDS" link?? I did that once - frustrating! :P

♥[?]♥ i've never had a problem with my boyfriend looking at porn but today i found out that he sent a message to some girl on myspace ((i have his password cause he gave it to me but i think maybe he forgot?)) asking for pictures of her "down below" is this ok? should i say something to him about it? what should i do? it was some girl that was not from around here.. and you know how like there's a lot of girls on myspace that only have like naughty pictures on there? it was one of those girls. i don't know what to think :-/ it was just some random girl.. not anyone he knows or talks too. also, this girl was a little on the heavy side and NOT pretty at all.. so that makes no sense lol. not to be conceited or anything, but i know that i'm pretty because he tells me that i am all the time & also that i have a great body. so why would he be interested in this girls body when her body isn't even all that great? i'm confused.
I'd like to thank you, first of all.. for making this question somewhat 'enjoyable', if that's the right word? I just liked your style of writing; it was clear, flowed smoothly, and made perfect sense.


Now, to throw in my opinion, I'm really sorrie this happened. I believe you have every right to be hurt by this; I would be ENRAGED!! I STRONGLY suggest bringing this up to him. If you don't, it's only saying that you approve of his disgusting behavior, when you clearly do not. And think of this: if you keep your mouth shut, it's not helping the situation at all. He'll never know there was a problem, so he'll naturally continue this behavior, if he finds a good chance; and YOU'LL be the one suffering for it!


And is this at all possible: if he knows you have his AIM password, wouldn't he assume you could have his MySpace one, also?? Maybe he thinks that you've ALREADY seen it, and since you never brought it up, he feels he can go off and do whatever he wants, because he'll ASSUME you'll always be there with open arms, ready and willing to take his unfair crap..


Bottom line, relationships are based on trust. If you CLEARLY can not trust him... what is there to hold onto?? So, bring it up to him. If you can't TALK with your partner... how do you ever expect to keep a respectable and fair relationship with them??


And if not for the sake of the relationship, do it for yourself! You're a human being - one with feelings, one that deserves to be treated with love and respect. This is obviously a major respect issue.


"Love" (whether the term is used lightly or not) is reciprocal; meaning, it's NOT just one-sided. I've always believed that if one truly holds an interest in another, they wouldn't WANT anyone else... because no one else in the WORLD would be able to even come CLOSE to COMPARING to them, and to what they have together, make sense?


Let me purpose a question: what's the point in giving your heart away to someone who isn't willing to give you theirs?


"No man is worth your tears, and the one that is won't make you cry."


I wish you the best of luck - hopefully I've been of some assistance here! Know that you can come to me if you ever need a second opinion.
♥ Mackenzie ♥

♥[?]♥ is it a dis to have your screen name be "tragicly beautiful" ??
I don't think it would make for a bad screen name, no. What I think when I read the lyrics is that they're saying this girl is very beautiful, and they find that to be a shame... because she's confined to a wheel chair. So it's saying she's ALMOST 'perfect', but she never will be... and that's a tradegy.. Make sense? I think so. :]

♥[?]♥ me and my friends are each going to be one color for halloween... i am going to be blue. Does anyone here know where i can get like blue fake nails...blue lipstick... and blue fake eye lashes? does target have it?
Pharmacies and Walmart will have exactly what you're looking for. You can actually find those items all year, when it comes to Walmart. Your most difficult challenge would be finding fake blue nails, though I'm shore it's doable. And if you can't seem to find it.. you could always apply 'regular' fake nails, and simply paint them.. :]

♥[?]♥ how long should a tampon be in ur body? like if i am at school from 7:00 to 3:10 which would be 9 hrs!!! du i need to change my tampon in skool...probably but i am not sure! pleese help i rate high!

oxo * oxo
I wouldn't suggest leaving it in for much more than 3-5 hours. I'd recommend changing it at lunch, and then again once you get home. [:

♥[?]♥ Is there any way on aim you can sign on more than one screen name at a time?? If yes, how??
Thankss
Ill rate 5's
HELP
Yep! On your buddylist, go to:

"MY AIM"
"MANAGE LINKED SCREEN NAMES"
"LINK/UNLINK SCREEN NAMES"

and take it from there. It's really simple. I'm shore you'll find no difficulties! :D

♥[?]♥ Hey! do you know how to add a pic to a comment on myspace?
Yep! :D It's easy:


If this image is one you found online, right click it, go to "PROPERTIES", and copy all of it's "ADDRESS(URL)". What you've just copied is the URL to the image.


Now, if this image is something on your computer, you need to HOST it. You "host" something by going to: http://www.photobucket.com and SIGNING UP for a FREE account.


Then the page will refresh, and you should see a new page with an option to click on "BROWSE". Next, search your computer for the picture(s), and click "SUBMIT". Then the page will refresh yet again. You will see all/any images you happen to have on the new screen. Simply find the picture you want, and copy the PROVIDED URL in the top white slot.


However you went about getting the URL to the image, insert the URL where I instruct you to within the following HTML code:
< img src="URL OF THE PICTURE HERE" >
Then you simply delete the TWO EMPTY spaces that separate the < and > from the rest of the code, make sense?


To get pictures to show up in a comment, simply paste that IMG SRC code into the comment box, with the rest of your message!


I know it seems difficult, but I assure you that this is actually very easy. And with my step-by-step directions, you will find that this is really a piece of cake!


I'm really great at MySpace, so if you need anything else.. don't be afraid to come back!
♥ Mackenzie ♥

♥[?]♥ myspace isnt working for me and i just wanted to know whether it was my computer being crappy or if there was an error with the site. thanks a bunch
No, it's not just you. Tom never has that thing right. There's always problems of some sort. I, too, have a MySpace, but sometimes I feel like it's more trouble than it's worth..

♥[?]♥ does anybody no where i can get recent hott music for myspace...i tried www.musicfeet.com but it doesnt have any songs i like
You can find codes at all of the following:
- http://www.xanga.com/xanga_music
- http://www.xanga.com/music_galore
- http://www.xanga.com/no_shit_just_music
- http://www.xanga.com/musicurl
- http://www.xanga.com/XxAaNnGaA_MUSIC
- http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=Beyond_Amazing_Music
- http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=XxX_MUSIC_4_U_XxX

♥[?]♥ I need to know how to make a hickie less noticible in the next 3-4 days. I don't own a turtle neck and I don't like wearing htem. Thanks.
I think you'll find this site helpful:
http://www.ehow.com/tips_3556.html :)

♥[?]♥ this is'nt a random wirdo but i could,nt find anything in this area. im a 13m and i have a little problem. my friends keep laughing at me about my eyebows. and i dont know what to do, ya see if i pulk my eyebows im a fag but if i dont do anything, im a freak, so how can i get rid of my bushy unabrow without being judged.
Any "friends" of yours who find it acceptable to make fun of you seem like "friends" who need a sturdy punch in the face, if you ask me. Tell me, BEFORE they started flappin' their gums, how did YOU feel about your eye brows?? If you never thought anything about it, then you shouldn't have to DO anything about it. Who cares what anybody else thinks?? If you're content with yourself, then that's all that matter. You shouldn't let anybody (especially your "friends") bring you down, ever! But.. if you feel you MUST do something about your brows, I suggest plucking. And if you decide that plucking is right for you, and you would like more information, I'm able to provide - just let me know.. :)

♥[?]♥ Any tips so i could look,well,prettier?
i have fair skin,big brown eyes, long eyelashes,kinda bushy eyebrows :(,medium sized nose,oval face,brown hair,I want a WHOLE make over this summer! but until then,could someone give me tips? thank you!
Wow, do I have A LOT to say here... Make up is my passion; I take it very seriously! :D Now, I have fairly tan skin, huge brown eyes and dark brown hair..(just so ya know)




****FOR FOUNDATION:

I use Covergirl, and I couldn't be more satisfied with it!! It's great, at a good price, and comes in 3958625869 shades, so you're BOUND to find one to fit your skin tone!!!


Here's a link of my exact product:
http://www.walgreens.com/store/pickcolor.jsp?CATID=100293&navAction=push&navCount=4&id=prod1354553&skuid=sku1354563


Now, that's kind of a bad example as far as the shades go. I use the "Natural Biege", but it's NOWHERE NEAR as dark as it is in the photo.



Here is a better link of the shades it offers:
http://covergirl.com/cgcollection/face/foundation/clean1.jhtml






****EYE SHADOWS:


I always pick my eye shadow according to my outfit. I tend to go with a lot of light purples, mellow yellows, suttle pinks, and *TONS* of white; then I like to apply lots and lots of black eyeliner -- I find that really appreciates brown eyes. Here's a tip: to get your eyeshadow to last alllllllllll day, put some body lotion, or Petroleum Jelly on first, THEN apply the shadow. Also, there's this technique I ALWAYS do, called "Shadowing". It creates this AWESOME smokey affect!! You simply put on the color eye shadow you wish to wear, then using a bristle brush, dab a bit of gray eye shadow over it!! It's gorgeous; I *NEVER* leave the house without it!! And as for what BRAND of eye shadow, I've noticed any is fine, but Maybelline is best! ;D




****FOR MASCARA:


I recommend Maybelline's '3XL' - most amazing mascara I've ever come upon!! It adds GREAT volume, and REALLY lifts to curl! Another good one I use, is Maybelline's 'Sky High Curves'!






****FOR EYELINER:


When it comes to liquid eye liner or pencil eye liner, it's just a personal preference as to which we use. Certain things suit certain people. However, if you ask... chances are that most people will tell you that pencil is a better choice for them. It's a great start for a beginner who is just getting used to it. If you mess up, pencil is A WHOLE LOT easier to clean up and re-do than liquid is. Also, if you plan on carrying it around in a purse or pocket.. you risk the chance that the liquid may ruin [though I don't suggest carrying eye liner in your pocket]. If you DO mess it up, just take a tissue and slowly run it along the rim of your eye lid.. it'll come right up.


Now, the desired effect of eye liner is to create the illusion of darkness just above the lashline to enhance the look of the lashes. To apply it, gently hold your eye lid down, and start at the inner part of the lid [closest to your nose]. Then just simply draw a thin line smoothly and evenly along the top and bottom lid, getting as close to the lashes as possible. If it looks like there is a space between the liner and your lashes, then I guess you just have to thicken the line a bit. Or, if you'd rather have a very thin line, I guess you just have to try again. One last thing, make shore you draw the line all the way to the outside corner.


If you're still experiencing difficulties, don't get discourage. It will probably take some practice -- it took me a while at first too. Now, I have it down incredibly well!!


And as for products, I think the two best brands of eye liner out there are "Meryl Norman" and "Beautique". "Meryl Norman", which can only be purchased at "The Meryl Norman Cosmetic Studios", is pricey [typically $8.50 - $15.00], but it REALLY IS good stuff. It goes on wonderfully, and stays on all day! On the other hand... I happen to think that "Beautique" is INCREDIBLE!! However, I've ONLY seen "Beautique" at "Sally's". Good news though, it's only .99 cents. TRUST ME.. I would NEVER EVER EVER buy crap make up!!! I get only the best, so please, please, please, please DON'T let this dollar price throw you off - you'd be cheating yourself out of the best product out there!! I'd *PREFER* "Beautique" out of ANY other brand of eye liner on the market!! I could easily go out and buy a $15.00 pencil, but I'd RATHER get "Beautique"! "Beautique" glides on smoothly and REALLY LASTS ALLLLL DAY!!! I CAN NOT promote this item enough!! And if you still have doubts... for only .99 cents.. it's worth a shot!! [:




As for your other question, I think eye brows like JoJo's would like fine on a more oval face. [:



Anyhow, I'm sorrie for the long reply. I get too into these make up questions, but if you'd like further assistance, don't hesitate to ask! Goodluck! :D

♥[?]♥ I just got contacts and you can see my dark circles under my eye REALLY bad. Makeup won't cover them up does anyone have any idea what I can do to get rid of them or cover them up with makeup? I will rate high!
Well, getting an appropriate amount of sleep is an important thing, and be shore to drink plenty of water. Also, try applying cool cucumber slices or cool tea bags to the under-eye area, which helps to reduce swelling. I've also heard that placing a frozen spoon under your eye will minimize the dark circles. Personally, I've never done this, but I have seen it on movies, so you might as well give it a shot. To avoid drawing attention to your under-eye area, perhaps you should avoid the use of eye liner or mascara to your lower lashes. :D

♥[?]♥ my cramps have been so bad all day its horrible i cant focus on my homework. what can i do/take. i dont rlly have ne special stuff like midol. but like advil nd tylonal type of stuff ;).

thank you. i rate. bye
I realize you asked this a good three weeks ago, and I'm sorrie for the delayed response. I figured I would throw my two cents in, for future aches. :)


You have many options here: It's well known that regular physical activity helps reduce the cramping in some women, so there's an idea. You could also try taking a warm bath and using aromatherapy. Applying a heating pad on your lower abdomen or back should do wonders. If you don't have a heating pad, you can make one by simply filling a sock with rice and heating it in the microwave for a few minutes [must sound silly, but if the cramps get bad enough, it just might be worth it]. Also, many women start taking pills around the clock from the time their cycle starts, until it ends. Any pain killer will do, but I reccommend Ibuprofen, Extra StRength Advil or Midol -- it's also best to take medication will a meal, that way the risk of stomach discomfort is slimmed. [:

♥[?]♥ Hey Mackenzie!! How are you hun? Well anyways, you give excellent advice so I thought that I'd come to you. My boyfriend & I's 6 months anniversary is coming up in a couple of weeks.. and I wanted to do something really special for him! Do you have any ideas of what I could do or what I could give him? Just something sweet & romantic, haha!! Thank you.
Hey there! :D


If you're interested in getting him a store bought gift, try keepin' it simple. Spring for some posters, a leather jacket, nice cologne, a gift card, a nintendo system, or some DVD's.


Another possible suggestion... you could always make him a poster or a photo album. You could deck it out with markers, photographs, quotes and so on.


How about making him some sort of little quilt with protective clear pockets that you can insert pictures into, and take them out to wash easily?


You never mentioned any type of a budget, so perhaps you could take him to a fancy dinner?


Another option... you could MAKE him dinner!! If you're up to the challenge, you could try stuffed chicken breasts with potatoes of some sort with a fresh garden salad and sundaes for dessert! Ooooh, or LASAGNA!!


And if you wanna get creative, how 'bout you just go to the park?? Bring a blanket and some music! And pack a picnic lunch, which doesn't have to be difficult. It can consist of turkey sandwiches on slice bread, grapes, watermelon, pretzels, twinkies etc. And make shore you bring a crap load of bread to feed the duckies!!


And if not the park, how about some of these:
- Laserquest.
- Paintballing. [not heavily romantic, but still lighthearted and enjoyable - I find this idea to be very accetable.]
- Fair.
- Bowling would be awesome!!
- Roller skating.
- Ice Skating, is a nice twist on roller skating.
- Go-Karting.
- Mini-Golf - or even just the driving range would be super cool.
- Don't forget the ever popular and never out of style "catching a flick" at your closest cinema!!
- Beach.


(Just in case you were interested in preparing a meal for him, here is a page of a BUNCH of QUICK and EASY meals which can ALL be prepared in 30 minutes or LESS guaranteed!!!


http://www.foodnetwork.com/food/show_tm/text/0,1976,FOOD_9997_12135,00.html
This lady is my all time inspiration!!! I wouldn't suggest her if she wasn't fabulous!)


*It's important to remember that it's the thought that counts with these things. Exspense doesn't measure love, so whatever you do I'm shore he'll love!! Just be creative and have fun!! :D
♥ Mackenzie ♥

♥[?]♥ im feeling really kinky what can i do to solve this problem? Sorry for such a weird ?
Masturbate? There's a good suggestion, I think..

♥[?]♥ HELP!! A few summers ago I grew a few inches and gained a significant amount of weight, and now I have so many stretch marks, and they're making me SO Self concious!! My boyfriend of 6 months always wants to run his hands up my shirt to tickle me, and I always make him stop and blame it on tickeling.. but it's really I just don't want him to see my stretch marks!! They're on the front of my stomache, my sides, even on the sides of my breasts.. and I don't know what to do to get rid of them. I've read about them and they're caused from the lack of cologen or something like that, when your skin stretches, so it makes the marks. Does anyone have any home remedies or products that work efficiantly and aren't that expensive??? PLEASE HELP ME!
They never disappear; they lighten though. And yes, there are some products that promise to lessen the visibility of stretch marks. There is a product called Strivectin, HOWEVER, it is VERY expensive, we're talking $115.00+. You can find more information about that at:
http://www.skinstore.com/store/category.asp?catID=1621 But if you're looking for something a bit LESS pricey, try Coco Butter Cream, which can be purchased at stores like Walgreens, Walmart and so on for under $3-7.00, depending on the size of the bottle.


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