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i've never had a problem with my boyfriend looking at porn but today i found out that he sent a message to some girl on myspace ((i have his password cause he gave it to me but i think maybe he forgot?)) asking for pictures of her "down below" is this ok? should i say something to him about it? what should i do? it was some girl that was not from around here.. and you know how like there's a lot of girls on myspace that only have like naughty pictures on there? it was one of those girls. i don't know what to think :-/ it was just some random girl.. not anyone he knows or talks too. also, this girl was a little on the heavy side and NOT pretty at all.. so that makes no sense lol. not to be conceited or anything, but i know that i'm pretty because he tells me that i am all the time & also that i have a great body. so why would he be interested in this girls body when her body isn't even all that great? i'm confused.
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I'd like to thank you, first of all.. for making this question somewhat 'enjoyable', if that's the right word? I just liked your style of writing; it was clear, flowed smoothly, and made perfect sense.
Now, to throw in my opinion, I'm really sorrie this happened. I believe you have every right to be hurt by this; I would be ENRAGED!! I STRONGLY suggest bringing this up to him. If you don't, it's only saying that you approve of his disgusting behavior, when you clearly do not. And think of this: if you keep your mouth shut, it's not helping the situation at all. He'll never know there was a problem, so he'll naturally continue this behavior, if he finds a good chance; and YOU'LL be the one suffering for it!
And is this at all possible: if he knows you have his AIM password, wouldn't he assume you could have his MySpace one, also?? Maybe he thinks that you've ALREADY seen it, and since you never brought it up, he feels he can go off and do whatever he wants, because he'll ASSUME you'll always be there with open arms, ready and willing to take his unfair crap..
Bottom line, relationships are based on trust. If you CLEARLY can not trust him... what is there to hold onto?? So, bring it up to him. If you can't TALK with your partner... how do you ever expect to keep a respectable and fair relationship with them??
And if not for the sake of the relationship, do it for yourself! You're a human being - one with feelings, one that deserves to be treated with love and respect. This is obviously a major respect issue.
"Love" (whether the term is used lightly or not) is reciprocal; meaning, it's NOT just one-sided. I've always believed that if one truly holds an interest in another, they wouldn't WANT anyone else... because no one else in the WORLD would be able to even come CLOSE to COMPARING to them, and to what they have together, make sense?
Let me purpose a question: what's the point in giving your heart away to someone who isn't willing to give you theirs?
"No man is worth your tears, and the one that is won't make you cry."
I wish you the best of luck - hopefully I've been of some assistance here! Know that you can come to me if you ever need a second opinion.
♥ Mackenzie ♥
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