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Hey Mackenzie. I know that you give wonderful adivce, so I thought I'd come to you for some help with this problem my cousin is having. My cousin's best friend recently just died about 4 days ago. He was her best friend every and she's having a rough time because they grew up together and were extremely close. I don't know what to do, besides be there for her. It's kind of hard when she lives in Boston, though. Anyway, since she's having a rough time she got back into heavy drugs and began to cut herself, again. I'm trying to make her realize that she has to stop all this. I just mean, she has to realize that's he is gone. Nothing can change that. And she can't turn to drugs and ruin her life. She's also really angry towards everyone. Her friends, family, and her crush. He's always telling her that he's there for her and he loves her and she just snaps. What should I do with this problem? Any ideas?
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Oh wow, what a heart wrenching situation. =/ I'm really sorrie to hear this..
"I don't know what to do, besides be there for her."
....That's the most important thing you CAN do. And really, it's ALL you can do. You never mentioned her age (which would have been helpful), but she is her own person. All you can do is make suggestions; but you really have no more power than that. Obviously, she's going through a horrendous period in her life, and she's need some support. While she may not ACT like she's appreciative of your love and generousity, I'm telling you she is. Everybody needs a sturdy backbone during a crisis, and I applaud you for standing strong behind her. I pray that you don't give up on her. That would be the absolute worst thing you could possibly do - her feeling like she's lost someone else won't help things. She might live in Boston, but you can still stay connected through the telephone and internet. Stress to her that this is a very personal and individual struggle, but she doesn't have to go through it alone.
Is she under 18? Does she live with her parents and/or guardians? Do they know she's turned to such drastic measures? When you say "heavy drugs", I assume you're not just talkin' about cigarettes here. Remind her that what she's doing is illegal. Tell her that you won't go straight to the authorities, but you refuse to sit back and watch her destory herself. Let her know that you're on her side, ONLY if she's willing to help YOU help HERSELF!!
I've looked online for some websites I think you should check out. They offer facts, support, treatment centers, free 24 hour hotlines, and tips on talking to those in need.
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I'm sorrie if I haven't been the best of help here. I've never been in this situation. I hope you can find some comfort in those links. I'm here if you'd like more opinions, and feel free to message me on AIM if you need. I may not be of the MOST assistance, but I will surely TRY.
Hope all goes well,
♥ Mackenzie ♥
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