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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






advice

16/f.

I absolutely hate when people touch me. Like, just hugging...I get all weird about it. I hate when my own dad touches me...like slaps my butt playfully. I start getting really scared like he's going to rape me or something. (I don't know why) I'm really insecure about it...and I'm worried that I may never get a boyfriend because of it. When guys put their hands around me...I get FREAKED out...I get all jumpy and start squealing if they poke me or something. I just hate it......I get a wrong feeling from me.

What can I do to change this and is this normal?

I'm not a touchy-feely person either. I'm a girl who likes her space.
Keep in mind that you will find a guy you are comfortable with. It will just take you a little longer to find that guy than other girls.
I don't know how you can change it since it is an issue in your head. I suppose therapy? Either that or get used to the idea of taking relationships at a slow pace.

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I need help losing weight at a good, healthy pace.
Recently, I was diagnosed with PCOS and I read that losing weight could help with the negative symptoms (i.e. diabetes, acne, infertility).
I have don't have any motivation besides that since the whole thing depresses me.
Can anyone think of a good workout plan for me please? I really need this.

This guy will give you the best advice. He is a Certified Fitness Trainer:
http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=Evolution

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can i delete the comments that people give me on youtube whn i dnt like it? or theyre sippose to delete it?

You should be able to delete it if it is your video.

(Reply) (Remove) (Block User) (Spam)

That is listed next to each comment on your videos. If you click 'remove' it should remove the comment from the list.

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There's this guy in my class and we were really good freidns which surprised me because i'm really anti-social and didn't think that i would make a lot of friends when I go to highschool, but i did.

And I always give him guna nd he's so nice but I ran out of money for two weeks and couldn't get gum anymore.

Then he's like "You're not my friend anymore" which REALLY hurt me!

Then I bougth him chocolate and he's like i love you again friend =]

Is it worth it? I don't know, i just don't liek it when someone doesnt' like me because i get hurt easily but he's so nice and everything. Is he a friend? or not?

Over gum? He was surely just messing with you.
But if he is really just your friend because you give him gum, then he isn't really a friend at all.

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omg when i go to parties i NEVER dance i know i can dance.[trust me] but i get so nervous. that i dont dance at all then when i get home i'm like 'man i should have danced' its horrible
someone please help me i need to get over this. im just so afraid that the boys i dance on will be like 'she can...NOT dance' help please

brianna(15 yrs)

You need to get that negative idea out of your head or you will always come home wishing you had danced and enjoyed yourself.
Go with the idea that you are going to "let your hair down" and have a good time, no matter what anyone else thinks of it.
No one will know how good of a dancer you are unless you loosen up and just go with it.
Maybe dance with some friends at first before moving on to dancing with the boys. Boys make girls nervous, and you don't need anymore nerves. Right?

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about 4 years ago, i got a dog for my birthday. a chihuahua. a male.

it was really nice as a puppy and everything was fine. now, he's a fucking retarded aggressive shit.
he bites me and barks at me for no fucking reason, at MY house. IN MY FUCKING HOUSE. I can't even go in my room without it barking at me.

it doesn't bark at my mom and my dad and my sister. but it bites and hurts and scratches me whenever I pass by.

we can't even touch it without it growling. it just does NOT let you touch it. and ITS SO SMALL! and the worst part, is that this insignificant little piece of shit has to have a MUZZLE on whenever we take it to the vet! It's fucking WILD

I don't know what to do.

My parents protect it. they're like...all defensive towards it. I don't think it's right that I have to live in a house and constantly be harassed and bitten by a dog that I CHOSE that I BOUGHT AND SAVED with my OWN money.

hell, my cats are nicer than him...

what the hell am I supposed to do?

I'm 16/f. My finger's throbbing right now from trying to get through to my OWN yard and my dog bit me.

And when you hit him and discipline him, he barks and bites back!
I don't know WHAT to do. Advice please?
I asked my parents to put him to sleep, but then the defensive shit kicks in...

I mean, I love animals. Please don't get me wrong. But this one's just abusive.

No, no, no. Don't let him out to bite neighbors, as the other columnist says. Not only will he have to be put to sleep, but your parents will get sued. Most importantly, that means someone would get hurt, maybe even a small child. Bad idea.

Best thing I can tell you to do in your situation is to save up some money and send him to a dog obedience trainer. I say you, because you are the one who got him in the first place- technically he is your dog. However, since your parents seem to really care about this little guy, you should talk to them about meeting you halfway in the cost.

Since I'm sure your vet knows how he is, I would ask them for a referral to a good trainer.

Not only is it not fair to you that he is mean to you, but it is not fair to him that he feels he needs to act so defensive towards you, his master. Obedience training can help you both.

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So I have not been getting my period regularly (15 f) and I got it in January regularly, 4 days in march, and 7 days in July i think thats the pattern...I havent gotten it since and there is just discharge. I am extremely shy about this and my mom told me she is making me an appointment immediently at the gyno...does she have to be in the room with me while i get examined?! I am crying hysterically over this, what's going to happen?????? PLEASE I NEED AN ANSWER BY TODAY FOR TOMORROW!!!!

Typically you would be in the room with a doctor and nurse only.
If you wanted her in there with you, she can be in there, but that would be at your request.

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Ive really liked this guy ever since he came to my school in October.
Okkay, We have gotten real close like friend wise and he told me I was his best friend.

He sent me a text asking me if I had feelings for him, and I told him I didnt want to disrespect his girlfriend & then he replyed Well I dont want to be with her.

Then he broke up with his girlfriend.

Well the other night at the movie, we were all cuddled and holding hands and what not, and he has been leading me on way before this.

I asked his friend to ask him if he likes me or not, because if he doesnt, I didnt want to waste my time anymore, & he said that he didnt want to do that with his best friend.

I was really heart broken, because I was really starting to like him. Part of me wants to let it go because I know that he doesnt like me like that. But I still have feelings for him.

I dont know what to do.

Don't involve a middle-man. If you want to know if he likes you, you need to ask him yourself.

I would say chances are highly in favor that he does like you, considering he asked about your feelings toward him, broke up with his girlfriend after that, then was cuddling, etc. at the movies.

I don't think he could make himself much clearer about it.

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I think I have xerostomia. My tongue is always dry, and it's completely dry in the mornings when I wake up. Its like that about 70% of the day.

This is really ruining my self confidence: I won't make out with my boyfriend, sometimes its really hard to talk.

Drinking water doesn't seem to help.

I swim, so I bet the chlorine is what's making my mouth so dry (if it dries out skin and hair, why not your mouth?)

Are there any products I can buy over the counter to make this condition better? And what about home remedies?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Xerostomia Check out this link for info.

I looked and looked and the only home remedy I come across is drinking plenty of water and sugarless fluids daily.

It seems you have a bad case and are pretty miserable, so your best bet would be to go to your doctor about it.
I didn't read anything about chlorine, but it is possible, yet there may be something else causing the problem that your doctor needs to diagnose and treat, such as certain medications you may be taking, anxiety, or even salivary gland trauma. You can get prescriptions, such as a saliva substitute, that will alleviate your problem.

I know that isn't what you are looking for, but that is your best option. Either that or keep chugging that water and hope for the best.

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i was thinking of getting a flypen for x-mas but i want to know if you can use the pen on normal theme paper like the one u use for school? from RjRamos

http://www.flyworld.com/howitworks/index.html

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ok this dude likes me ALOT my friends tell me that he does but he's a gangster and im sorta preppy and stuff but i think i like him i do like him
but he is like really experince and im not like i have'nt had my 1st kiss and i mean he's made out and stuff
but i dont want him to be my 1st kiss but i like him again and im not allwoed to have a bf and i have'nt had on [well i did but they were'nt really real like we did'nt do anything]so yea and i dont like to dissapoint my parent bc my mom trustest me alot and i just cant look at my mom the same way again if i get a bf im really weird i guess
so can some one help me

CONFUSED

I wouldn't go out with him against your mother's wishes. That is nothing but trouble for you. You're parents' trust is the last trust you want to lose.
Your best bet is to wait until your older and your mom will allow you to have a boyfriend and then consider it.
In the meantime, there is nothing wrong with liking him and daydreaming. :)

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Alright, well this might seem a little strange but i think i MIGHT be deppressed, like when I'm with my friends I'm uswally very loud and happy. When I get home .. its just like wow. I get really sad and i want to cry but can't its really strange and i just dont know if i am or not !


please help thanks .
lalalindsay

Personally, I don't think it sounds like you are depressed, or else why would you be happy when you are out and about?
You need to find things at home to be happy about so you are glad to be there.

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i've been going out with this guy (we're both 14) for the past three months and we recently broke up cuz my mom was absolutely against it...but the thing is its just been a few days since we broke up and already i'm missing him soooo much. everytime i see him in school i catch him looking at me and my friends say that behind my back he cant take my eyes off of me!!! none of us wanted to break up and i miss everything i used to do with him...you know all the holding hands, kissing and hugging stuff...and im just so sad now...i know we cant be in a proper relationship because my mom is really unnecesarily strict about these things...she's forbidden me from TALKINg to him...but i love him so much oh god and i know he loves me too...i know there isnt anyway we can be together unless we do what my friend and HER bf were doing which is basically that they managed to stay apart a whole month and then got together for one day every month...it worked for them but im really scared of my mom now and no matter how much i tell her i love him she wont listen to me...so do you all think that would work? it sounds kinda kinky to me and i dont think he would agree because he's said this before that he wants all of me and not just bits and parts...but im so scared right now and i also love him so much!!! I know there's no way out of this but i guess i just need some reassurance...please help me!!

Well, your mom doesn't like it because of your age. You are only 14.
If you guys really love each other, then you will wait for each other for the time to be right.
I know you miss each other now and what not, but wouldn't it be easier to think how this situation won't last forever?
I know a couple years SEEMS like forever, but by then your mom will probably be more relaxed about the whole idea.

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Okay well I've been with, my now ex, on anf off since 7th grade ( now in 9th ). Well we broke up about 3 weeks ago and I thought that i had lost my feelings for him and began liking this other kid. Well it was all going great, me and this new kid were really starting to lik eachother, that is till i saw my ex.. I DONT KNOW what it was but when I saw him, i just missed him so much and i wanted him back..

I REALLY REALLLY LIKE this new kid,
but I REALLY REALLY miss me ex.
I dont know if i should drop the new kid and try it with my ex, or forget and move on !?

SOME ONE HELP !

I don't know who you should pick, but I'll give you a little something to keep in mind:
You should experience different guys while you are still young. Otherwise, how are you really going to know what kind of man you want to spend the rest of your life with?
Make sense?

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I'm a girl And Aged 14. Around two months ago me and my boyrfriend had sex. I had decided I was ready and although a little scared, went through with it and everything was okay. I had a pregnancy scare after the third or so time however. I went to the chemist and got the morning after pill then about a week after that i had my period. I was please cos it was a sign i wasn't pregnant. Me and my boyfriend then on continued to have sex. two weeks or so after my period I started having blood come out.. I'm still iregular but usually my periods are separated with big gaps. I am worried that the reason i was bleeding a little was because i was too young and the sex caused it.. but then i thought it could be the tablet i took for my pregnancy scare. Is it normal to bleed in the middle of your period like this after having sex? Or should I be worried.. HELP?

Not to sound like a jerk here, but in order to stop these scares you need to be responsible enough to protect yourself by using some form of birth control.
I mean, really, a 14 year old girl who feels she is responsible enough to have sex needs to be responsible enough to protect herself against the consequences- pregnancy and STDs.
Safe sex is something you and your boyfriend both need to get into the habit of practicing from the FIRST time. Condoms are the only thing that protects against STDs, so you should ALWAYS use them, even if you are taking birth control. It is for your own protection.

Personally, I think sex at 14 is way too young, but your age most likely doesn't have anything to do with your irregular bleeding. It is most likely due to the fact that you are so young your menstrual cycle isn't anywhere near regulated. If it is a big worry, you should set an appointment with your doctor.

As for the effects of the morning after pill and questions concerning if it is causing your irregular bleeding you need to ask the pharmacist who sold it to you. Knowing medicines and what they do to your body is their job.

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I was thinking about doing something homemade or something from cafepress.com, but that's not helping me out. By Christmas, we'll be going out for about two months and a week. Any ideas? =]

Since it has only been 2 months, I would do something like make him a gift basket of his favorite cookies and/or candies. You can ask his mom or siblings or friends what he most enjoys. (Best option is his mom.)
I mean, I may sound like a dud or something, but I just don't see much sense in going out and buying nice things when your relationship is still just getting started.
That and making something you know he will enjoy, such as a favorite treat (homemade if at all possible), will mean a lot to him. It is a gift you put a lot of work, thought and effort into doing just for him.

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15/f sophmore
Ok, I'm involved in a lot of extra curricular activities both in and out of school. So many activities appeal to me and I just keep joining things. They're things which I really really enjoy but that you have to make a commitment to, such as a once a week 4 hour orchestra rehearsal, jazz choir, daily cross country practice (which is over now), other clubs here and there, and soon mock trial. On top of that, I have all my schoolwork. Now, I don't mind being busy but what I'd like would be to stick to only a couple of big things and be really good at them. In other words, I want to start making priorities. But the thing is, I can't. I can't decide on what to focus on and what's the best route to take. One dilemma I'm having right now is with mock trial. I want to be a lawyer in the club and last year I didn't really have any parts. But the thing is, there's no 100% guarantee that I will be really good at it. And this is where the other thing comes in: I kind of want to be in the school musical but there's no 100% guarantee that I'll get a good part for that and also, it meets every single day which may be too busy for me. I've always dreamed though, of having a lead role in one of the school plays/musicals and MAYBE if I train hard enough now, that dream will come true some time in the next 2 years. There's no guarantees for anything. If I stick to mock trial I may regret not doing drama, but if I do drama, I might regret not doing mock, which I may be capable of being really good at too. And there millions of other things I want to do as well. I don't know what I have true talent in, though. My mind is all over the place. I don't know what to do with my life!!!

You should try to base your decisions on all activities as being which do you most enjoy. For example, which do you have more fun with, orchestra or jazz?
You will get further in what you have the most fun doing. Folks who have talent for acting LOVE doing it in the first place. Folks with a talent for music LOVE doing it in the first place.

Make sense?
Maybe that can help you decide.

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why is it taking nearly a week for my question to be shown on the site? :[ is there too much traffic? can't the common questions be displayed somewhere since people don't seem to go look at the previous questions? it's really annoying to see all these similar boy problems or tampon/am i pregnant ones.. when it's already been asked and answered.

Actually, the common questions can be found under the Search Questions feature, but folks don't tend to use it, causing all of the same questions over and over.
Even though the questions are asked by several different people, each person feels their situation is unique from the next similar situation.

Like Razhie says, the questions keep piling in and only so many folks to answer them at this time. A lot of columnists are busy with school, jobs, and life in general right now.

I'm sorry your questions are taking so long to reach the pool, but right now I regret to say you just have to be patient for your turn in line. :(

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Okay, a little info on my bff: She's 16 and has major depression. She is on anti-depressants but I don't think they are working.

So, there's this girl that my bff was good friends with. But on Saturday (11/17), the girl died in a car accident. My bff has been really down lately and her family doesn't understand why she's sad (I mean, they know about the death but I don't know...they're not supportive, I guess). I don't know what I can say or do for her because I'm really just clueless as to what to do.

Can anyone give me suggestions? I don't want her hurting herself or thinking about suicide or just depressed overall.

And to put a spin on this: I'm not allowed to see her (so says my mother O.x) but I see her at school and I can e-mail her (although she never checks them) and I can definitely meet her in the morning (6AM ish) at the playground...so that's about all the contact I can have with her.

15/f

Be her shoulder to lean on. Sounds like she really, really needs one right now.
Let her know you are there to listen if she needs to talk about anything.


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i woak at a store where i count money at the end of the night. Well tonight i was counting my draw and i cam across a dollar bill and at first I thought it was fake but then i used the "marker" on it and its real. I looked at the date and its from 1935. I kept the bill and put another one in. Should i put this bill in a safe place? Could someone tell me about this bill? what should i do?

http://i32.photobucket.com/albums/d4/wishexisted/1.jpg


http://i32.photobucket.com/albums/d4/wishexisted/2.jpg

- the bill itself is a lil clearer. its my scanner.

That is a Silver Certificate one dollar bill. It was made back when the paper money was equivalent to that much in silver in the US Treasury.
That dollar should be worth $1.00 in silver.

I don't know what kind of value it actually has- your best bet would be to take it to a coin/money collector for appraisal.

Even if it isn't worth anything, it is still neat, and they aren't something you can find just anywhere these days, so I would definitely keep it.

Besides, something like that would be cool to pass down to one of your children or grandchildren in the future. Just think, by then it will be over 100 years old.

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