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What should I get my boyfriend for his birthday (he'll be 16)? I know what he likes, but he's already got a billion of those things already. I wanted it to be different and unique. My friend had the idea of getting him like a build-a-bear that i make with a birthday outfit and stuff. Does that sound totally cheesy or is it a cute idea? I wasn't sure.. But if you have any other good ideas, please help me!

no its a good idea! I read about someone on here who was going to give their friend an empty pizza box and inside there were pictures of them..she got her a pizza and had the empty one under it so when she went for the other pizza,there was the creative present. So something like that might be a good idea. Maybe you guys can spend the evening watching tv/movies , cuddling.. then get the pizza.
-melissa-

Hey my parents are going away for a few days and I want to have a proper big house party. Any tips? And I mean like music, like alcohol, like CLEANING UP afterwards, and how many people is too many! Thanks (I have a couple weeks yet)
I rate high

OK the amount of people you should invite depends on the size of your house and if you want the party to be both indoors and outdoors. A good tip to keep in mind:
-DONT invite the whole school..only inviite your friends. Your friends will be more considerate to your house and might help you clean up after..people who are just there for the party wont care if your house falls down...just as long as it falls down after they leave.

Things to think about is:
-Do i live in a neighborhood with a good amount of neigbors?
If you do, i would make my party smaller with little amounts of alcohol..because big parties get loud, and neighbors will complain, leaving the police to bust your party. If theres no alcohol your ok..but if theres alcohol, you would get in some trouble.
If you live on a country road like me, with few neighbors ..and your house size was decent, you can invite more people and bring more alcohol.

As for music:
Just keep it going. maybe get a friend to make a few mixed CDs, this way you dont have to be changing the Cds constantly. Music volume..louder if there are fewer neighbors..the more neighbors you have, the more careful you have to be.

And then the fun part; cleaning up.
Hopefully you have a few good friends who wouldnt mind staying for an hour to help out with the cleaning. Its going to seem overwhelming, but just take it one room at a time..remember..one beer can you didnt find..will result in your parents finding it..getting you in some major trouble. You have a few days which is pretty awesome..a lot of times people have to clean up by the next day or even that night. So i think you'll be fine.
TIP:
-All your valuables,lamps,breakables,china,etc. put them in a seperate room, basement,somewhere! You def dont want anything breaking.
Have a blast,,i wish i was lucky like you..man a few days alone? your gooing to have a blast
-melissa-

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When you are having intercourse, does it matter if the girl is on the bottom or the top? What positions are are best for the guy and the girl? Me and my girlfriend have decided (after going out a year) to have sex and I don't want to mess up or hurt her. I've heard sex hurts the girl. Will she bleed? Also, does sex hurt the guy? I sound stupid, but the doesn't mean I'm not ready. I love her and that's as ready as I can be. I just want to know how to give her my best. -MB-

I dont agree with the person who said to let the girl go on top. For the first time..definately not a good diea. I know girls who are very sexually active and one told me when on top..it hurts more because the penis is going in verically..shes bouncing around up there..and its just more painful..save that stuff for when you do it more and more and shes becomes looser.
For the first time..you take the top..but go gentle because yes it hurts..every girl who has told me about their first time says it hurts. Your breaking her hymen when you take her virginty. the hymen is a piece of skin that goes from one side of the vagina to the other..hard to explain but it hurts when it breaks. SO be gentle..save the faster stuff for later on down the road when your comfortable.
there are lots of positions to try after shes lose and you've been doing it for awhile.
a)her on top
b) her laying down...you kneeling an wrapping her legs around her waist..having sex with her that way
c) you sitting..her on top
d) you can fold her legs back and have sex with her from that angle
If both of you are comfortable with anal sex you can try that..but again, go gentle because the anal area is sensitive.
a) you can be sitting and she can be sitting on your penis having anal sex this way 9save it for when you've dont it a few times
b) you can go on the bed, she can get on all fours, and you can have anal sex that way
c) you can go behind her..both of you laying down ..and do it that way
To make it great..remember the foreplay..the oral sex, the kissing, the touching..dont just strip and have sex with her..the foreplay will make it a lot better..
I know way too much for a virgin..but im a very knowledgable virgin i guess..i get that from my friends talking to me..and from the talk show talksexwithsuejohanson.com the show is called talk sex..
Hope i helped and you'll be great dont worry
-meliss

OKay my i need 2 get my g/f a pair of pants for her birthday. So I need to know how girl sizes go. Like 12,14,16_,_,_,_,_ ect. Thanks a bunch. P.S i rate high

Unless she asked you specifically, i wouldnt get her pants. Girls can get really sensitive..if you buy the wrong size..like 3 sizes too big she will think your calling her fat or something. If you buy it 3 sizes too small..she will think your saying "your too big..i want you to be this size."Yeah i know,crazy rigght..but we definately are crazy at times.
Teens wear juniors sizes..which go from 00,1,3,5,7,9,11,13,15
If shes a little big i would get her misses sizes which go 2,4,6,8,10,12,14,16,18
Pants is definately a strange gift..the best way to go is to get her a gift certificate to her favorite store..this way she can pick it out and stuff. Just my opinion..
-melissa-

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yeah what moderator allowed this question through i wonder..dont post websites anymore k?

ok, i know this is kind of a dumb thing to want advice for, but hhave you ever gotten so mad at someone either because of embarrassment getting you in trouble or just because they suck? well, i have...and i want revenge. (no, not like killing them or stalking or whatever, just fun and clean but absolutely effective revenge!) what are some good sites to go on just to plan or get necessary help for getting revenge on someone? i'll even rate you a 5 if you come up with a good prank or something too (but it'll be hard because i won't tell you what they did to me to get me so mad, but still.) oh and please don't say google because i already checked. i'll rate 4 or 5 to ANYONE who helps!!! an remember, it's just supposed to be fun.... but oh so satisfying!!! thankz in advance!!

Ah yes,revenge :) I have no websites,but i have some of my own ideas

-One time me and my friends wrote a professional letter (typed it) addressed to my other friends parents. In it we wrote how their son/daughter has been accused of possessing drugs in school and in the letter we requested a meeting. Well, we printed it out and claimed to our friend we found the letter in the main office laying on the desk. It got her so worried and angry for 5 minutes..then we told the truth.it was pretty funny

- If you ReeaLLy wanna get your friend, get someones mom/dad involved.When you get a parent involved they are more likely to fall for it. Maybe get your friends parents,yours,someone whos friends with you guys..get their parents..and have them take your friend aside saying your spending the night with them because:
a) your friends parents are in jail
b) your friends parents got a call that your friend is accused of having drugs and they are too mad for him/her to come home
play with that idea, many reasons

Maybe make planns to come over. About 1/2-45 minutes before your expected to arrive..actually be at her houe..dressed in all black..everything covered so she cant tell who you are..kind of snoop around her yard,get her scared..dont do this for too long or she might call the cops. Maybe knock on her door and ask to use the phone..give her a little scare.

In my school we can give birthday shoutouts and the people who usually say the announcements will read what we write..so maybe say "and a happy 18th birthday to (your friend) Say 18 if she/he is really like 16 or under. It will get her teachers to ask her if shes 18..maybe think she failed..cause some minor embarassment.

- make a prank phone call to her. One time a few years ago in JR High, me and my friend called this girl and when she answered we played the introduction music to Who Wants To Be A Millionaire ( i had the handheld game) and then we gave our best adult voice and said "you've just won a million dollars how do you feel? if you cant disguise your voice, use a tape recorder and play it into the phone ..put the speed on extra slow. So a prank call..nothing like "im gonna beat you up..or something serious where your friend might call the police

Maybe have a friends mom/dad/aunt/older friend whos pretty cool and would come to school and pull your friend out of class,tell her your a talent agent, and get all this info from her like her phone number, etc. When she asks how he found her say a teacher or friend entered her in a contest. That night have the "talent agent" call her and tell her it was joke

Maybe have one of her family members..mom,dad,brother sister,etc. lay out empty beer cans in her room or in the basement..then ask her where it came from..accuse her of drinking it.

im a fourteen year old gurl. i have alot of freinds but ive never had a boyfreind and i think its becuase of my weight i dont understand why guys dont like me just becuase of that one thing im a good person and really does hurt. what should i do to help me?

im a 16/f and ive been a big person all my life...its hard and it hurts, but i try my best to be optimistic about it. I think to myself "if a boy likes me ..then i know he really likes me because if he wanted a skinny girl, there are tons of them"..so i would know that the guy likes me for who i am. Yeah many guys seem to judge girls on looks when looking for a gf. that will change as they mature and find out all the skinny girls dont always have what they are looking for..like a greeat personality,etc. Ittts very hard at times, ut we just got to wait it out until the guy who sees us for who we are comes along..i've only had one real relationship..but thats ok..i'll take the wait instead of getting played by guys who just date a girl for her looks.
hang in there...you arent alone! the boys will come to you eventually..for now..BE YOURSELF :)
-melissa-

I had a bf and he admited 2 me.. that he loves my best friend! So i dumped him yesterday! Well my ex-bf helped me the whole way threw it and He tells me im his BFFL all the time and i tell him that too. He's serious and so am i. well i love him again but everytime i start to like him again and i tell him.. we start drifting apart and arn't that close of friends anymore! Should I confess? Or wait for him to come 2 me (if he ever does) i DONT want to ruin our friendship.. but i love him soo much!

If you've told him and several times yuo have drifted apart because of it, i wouldnt tell him. Just be really flirty and he can figure it out for himself and then decide if he wants to make the move.I would be so afraid to lose a great friendship lik that..i would wait a few months ..and if he didnt say anything then i would confess because lets face it..feelings are feelings and bottling them up is not good.

Today my friend Liam invited me to his 18th birthday party. I was rather shocked because I don't really know Liam, but I guess he likes my quirkiness. So I was really excited until I realized that I don't really know any of Liam's friends besides the people he talks to in art class, and only one of them is really a friend. Her name is Rachel. Sometimes I talk to them about things in the art room where I know them from. They're both very open about themselves and have said that they're into drugs among other things. So I'm worried about going to this party tomorrow because I don't want to get caught up in drugs, but I also want to be friends with Liam and Rachel because they're nice people who talk on my level and care about the things I care about.

so should I go or should I stay home and be perfectly safe? and if I go and there are drugs, how can I stay away from them and not come home smelling suspicious?

In my opinion, drugs are everywhere and you shouldnt shelter yourself. I think if your very serious about not doing drugs, then you wont..but if you feel like you may be tempted and you really want to stay away from it, dont go i guess. There are positives and negatives to each side..it might not be fun hangign around people who are high while you arent. I think other people who are there will feel pressured to try drugs..maybe if they see you arent doing it, they will hang around you. I bet there are a lot of kids who are invited to this party and arent so sure if they are going to use drugs or not. If they see you not using them..they would probably stick around you.
If i was in your place, i would ask the guy if you could bring one of your friends who arent into drugs either..just say you forgot she was supposed to sleep over that night.
As for staying away from the smell..just dont hang around them while they are smoking pot..even if you do start to smell a little, sprays and washing your hands will take care of it. Trust me , ive smoked weed before to try it, and spray took care of me just fine

we were having foreplay..n wen i blowjobin he suddenly couldn resist it n he splashed around..n while he was cleaning up his sperm he got it some to his hands n soon he wiped off wit his handkerchief..then after a while he finger penetrated my vagina..will tis cause pregnancy..im 20 n his 19..

Its very unlikely because semen die verry quickly when exposed to air. They need a warm wet environment..such as the vagina to surrvive. So if there was some chance of you being pregnent, he would have to ejaculate on his hands and stick is fingers right into your vagina..almost purposely trying to get his semen in there..even if he did that..its not the same as the chance of becoming pregnent from sex. When you have sex, he ejaculates inside you and it has force; little traces of ejaculation that arent "shot" up there arent likely to swim to the egg and surrvive. So i wouldnt worry..its all ok.

My mother has been annoying me very much, lately. My question is about something that happened today, however. My mom makes me clean every Saturday. One of the things she tells me to clean is a coffee table with a lower level. On the lower level is a apple-shaped baking pan with a Christmas ordiment in it. Well every week the thing bounces around when you move it the slightest bit. So today while I was cleaning it broke. Now my mom is screaming at me for her lack of common sense. She is also making me tell my ill-tempered brother (it's his ordiment) that I broke it and is making me pay for it. Any person with common sense would know not to put a breakable item in a place where it would break. Do I have any right to be mad? If you don't think I do please explain.

Yes you definately have a right to be mad! I would be extremely mad also..so dont worry i think everyone would be mad.

This is the second time i have posted this.. maybe someone will remember me from the first time. I am not 16 years old and i would say that i have felt insecure for as long as i can remember but it has worsened over the past year. I dont feel im a "normal" teenager, my mother has even said so a couple times. I dont like to go out, i actually dont like to do anything. I hate the way i look and im very insecure about my body. (actually im insecure about everything about myself) I no that its "normal" for a girl to be insecure about her looks but theres more. I have so much doubt and regret that im drowning in it. For the past couple of months ive been thinking that its possible im depressed, like clinically. Im not suicidal but i feel so sad all the time and spend alot of the time crying and begging God to take away all this pain. So far my prayers have not been answered. I havent told my parents for a number of reasons. I know that i can tell them anything but im scared. Im afraid they wont take me seriously and im embarrased. I also dont want them to feel like its their fault or anything because i do have a pretty good life, which actually causes me to feel really guilty. Im just really scared and its been sooo long that i have felt this way and havent told them i dont want them to be mad and i just dont know what it will be like afterwards. Im also scared to see a doctor but i also really want to stop feeling like this way. Tonight, after having a good cry i thought about telling them again but i dont think i can get through it without crying like a baby. So i decided to write a letter and give it to them but im afraid im not brave enough. I did start the letter though. Please someone tell me what i should do. I mean.. what if im just being dramtic and looking for attention and i tell them and they take me to a doctor and its nothing, i will feel so embarrassed. I dont want people to feel bad for meand if i tell my parents i wont be able to take it back. But i just dont no and im sick of wishing i could run away and start over with a new life. I sick of wanting more. Everyday is just like the one before it and i cant handle it. I feel like im going to fall apart. Ok i think this is long enough.. what im asking of you is that u tell me if u think this is depression or am i just being overly dramatic and also do i tell my parents and if so how.. was the letter a good idea?? PLEASE HELP!!!

Yes the letter is a very good idea. You dont even have to give it to them personally..leave it on the table for them or something..(ever see riding in cars with boys..that movie with Drew Barymore,she did that letter idea to tell her parents shes pregnent.)
No your not being a drama queen or anything..dont think its nothing..i dont think its notihng because from what you said, it sounds like something to me. I know if i wrote that letter to my parents expressing myself, they would suppport me nd get me the help i need.
im so glad you want to get help..but part of getting help is admitting to a doctor and your parents that your feeling this way.
Dont be ashamed!! a mental illness doesnt mean your insane,dangerous,suicidal, it just means you have a mental illness and theres treatment out there! One of the things that upsets me is when people talk about someone with a mental illness like they are crazy,its their fault, etc..but its not! someone with a mental illness should be treated just like someone with a heart condition..there should be support..but much of society doesnt see this. In health we talked about mental illness and she said that 1 in 4 people will develop a mental illness sometime in their life..and only 1 in 4 people with a mental illness seaks treatment. Dont be embarassed..a mental illness is mostly temporary..so write the letter,get all the feelings out, then you can get started on seeing a physcologyst, and your going to start feeling a lot better!

Me and my friend were walking up to her house, we got round the corner near the lampost and we were like 20 metres away from her house. As we got round the corner there was a tall white van parked and a man standing there with his door open, I saw his arm moving so i looked down to see him wanking!! It was groose and he smerk at us.
I told my friend and she looked down to quickly we walked up to her house, when outside the house she shouted "MUM!!" as we climbed over her fence, he looked up at us quickly jumped in his van and drove off at the speed of light. He now knows where she lives and she cant sleep at night. Her mum didnt believe us and we told everyone in the neighbour hood to keep an eye out.

Im scared for life when anyone metions the words, wanking, penis, white van. I hate it so much i went white as a ghost when i saw him doing it.

I was shaking all day we tried to get her mum to report it to the police but she said "He might have just been goin for a piss" but i know he wasnt or piss would be comeing out of his dick.. not spunk. and he wouldnt exactly point it right at us..

How can my friend get over the fact that he knows where she lives?

sorry for it being so long lush me x

If her mom doesnt want to report it, then you guys need to. The police station is right by the elementary school where i have softball practice, so if it were me i would just walk to the station and talk to the police myself. trust me they would keep an eye out, maybe do extra patrolling around your neighborhood..and if the guy in the van has the nerve to come back, the police will scare him off. He probably is assuming you guys told,that her mom called the police, and that he better watch out..so i think he will stop. Just in case,talk to the police either in person or even call them..and they will do something about it. Tell her that..and then follow the plan, i think this will make you guys feel a lot better.
-meliss

i think i might have genital herpes... i have never had sex so how could i get it!? its like a ton of little bumps on my penis and i want to know how to get rid of it. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE tell me! i need to know, im so embarassed! ill rate 5's! and i also want to know if girls will still like me if they know i have it.. im guessing no. this sucks so bad so please help me out. and if it isnt herpes then please tell me what it is.. im too embarassed to tell my parents or a doctor. if you have ANY information at all, please tell me

You cant get an STD unless your sexually active (oral sex,sex) , sharing needles, by birth,sharing body fluids,mixing blood. If you havent done any of these, dont worry. I know you might be embarassed, and thats normal, but just keep in mind your parents are here to help you and they might know what it is.
Do you get sports physicals for sports? When your with the doc one on one, talk to him..around this time of year they usually have a doctor come in to do physicals. I would take care of it because you dont want it to get worse, right? Maybe even talking to other guys,close friend,uncle, some guy that you can trust.
And no..i totally wouldnt not like a guy just because of little red bumps on his penis. I know there are a lot of shallow girls out there..but i dont think im one of them when it comes to who i like..i dont judge people by that because little red bumps on your penis doesnt change who you are..i like a guy for who he is..so if you were a good guy , i wouldnt automatically not like you because of that.
-melissa- :)

My friend and I were making fun of our French teacher in class yesterday. Well, we didn't notice but our teacher was walking by and she kind of stopped for a second. We only thought she heard us but, today she was being extreamly mean to us. And just us. So know we know she heard us. My friend doesn't care that she heard becasue she hates her but I do. I feel really bad about all of it. I don't blame her for being mean and I don't know what to do. Should I just drop it?

I wouldnt. As much as we all like to make fun of teachers (i do it too i wont lie) they have feelings too and it really must have hurt her feelings. I would go up to her and say your sorry . It will show character and make your teacher feel a lot better. yes its awkward..but its the "adult" thing to do..if your friend doesnt feel the same way, thats up to her, but your your own person..and thats somethng i would consider doing.
-melissa-

i really am so ready for sex and my bf and i already have it all planned out...the thing is, im not very self-confident when it comes to my body. my legs are slim, which all my friends envy, but i feel so wierd! my hands get clamy ALL the time...is there anything i can do about that? and finally, i am really self-consious about the hair on my body...like on my lower back, a tiny bit around my belly, and 'downstairs'. i dont want to shave these regions, but im just worried about what he'll think...and i dont want to be all high-maintenance about my body, but i dont know what im supposed to do! please help

sex is a big step and if your ready you go for it..part of sex is being comfortable with your body and his. I dont know if thiss is what you think..but if i was self conscious about what my bf would think..before thinking about it any further i know i wouldnt be ready for sex. What fun is sex if you arent comfortable with yourself? im sure your bf will love you just the way you are. Your right..dont shave because it will make things worse. Be yourself and feel comfortable..this is one of the key points in having sex..feeling comfortable.
So what are you supposed to do you ask? try and realize your bf loves you just the way you are and to relax and enjoy sex, because its supposed to be enjoyable!
-melissa -

ok this is a stupid thing to say but yeah, i've been under alot of stress here lately for the past year or so now.I've been starting to think about cutting I have once before but dont know if I want to again last time I did my parents found out and said they were going to put me in a hospital if i ever did it again.But I can't think of any other ways to relieve my feelings in a way only I can control.

I know the stress can be so much...especially at our age..between school,family,deadlines,sports,jobs,clubs, etc. I've been there..felt like i was gona collapse because of all the stress math was giving me. Cutting isnt the answer..it hurts you further, thats the way i look at it. Something like writing in a journal,talking a walk,crying,playing your favorite sport, talking to someone, hitting a pillow/punchingbag are all healthy ways to releive your feelings..plus your in control of it. maybe go to your own secret quiet spot. Maybe a stream,old treehouse,a field, your basement,or even if its just your room or sitting out on the deck..go to your own quiet place and just forget about everything else going on. Blast music,close your eyes, write a story, just hang out with your family..maybe your brothers and just play video games. Blow off the stress. Its not a stupid thign to say because we are all under stress.sometimes it really gets to be just too much and i think we have all been there.
Everyone deals with stress in their own way..but harming yourself isnt the right answer.
I hope my suggestions work
-meliss-

Hey, my twin sisters best friend's boyfriend, Brent committed suicide on April 1st. and so.. this one guy came to school monday (april 4) and was happy that he died and crap, did some horrible stuff and was suspended from school. i guess around the same time i left with cassie (my twin) for her to get glasses. so some IDIOT at school told people that I was hanging out with this guy talking crap about Brent and got suspended with him and said he went to hell. I cant STAND this guy!! See, I'm a christian and this guy is always putting down God and stuff around me and i hate it soo much! so WHY would i be hanging around him? i didnt go yesterday (April 5) cause i had a dentist appointment and i was too afraid to go cause of everything people are saying. and my great grandma died on monday too so i have her funeral friday and Brents were today. one of my teachers talked to me at Brents calling hours yesterday and she told me i really should go to school on thursday but i'm so scared cause all these people hate me for some rumor thats not even true. I'm not suspended!! and i dont think he went to hell! and idk how i'm gonna react when i go to school tomorrow.. i'm so upset and scared!! what do i do!! how can i get out of this mess!?

You cant hide forever so definately go to school and set things straight! it might be frustrating to explain the truth a million times..but at the end of the day you will be so happy everything is ok. Hiding will only make things worse..people will continue to let the rumors get out of control...so have you and your friends get it straight with everyone. Just like a rumor spreads quickly..it can be terminated quickly too.

Hi, I'm a 19/f and I've been with my boyfriend for about three years. Instead of just doing things or getting him gifts only on special occasions, I like to be spontaneous and surprise him on a random day "just cause".

Over the period of these three years, I've done a lot like make him crafty cards, cook for him, and etc, but I feel like I'm running short on ideas!

Keep in mind I am on a budget since most of my money is spent for my college tuition and textbooks. What I'd like to ask is if you all have any good ideas on what I could do to surprise him and remind him of how much I love him that is creative and affordable? My target is to get him something that he'll enjoy and that could possibly be useful (it doesn't have to be romantic), because I've given him a lot of love mementos already.

Here are some of his interests if it helps:

-cars
-computers
-video games
-movies
-food (the guy loves to eat)

Thanks!

i would do something with food..cant go wrong there, plus it fits the budget. Maybe make a cake..(you know, but the cake mix and frosting..nothing fancy) and maybe with some icing write "i love you" on it..or maybe write a pet name of his on there if you have one for him.
this idea works with cupcakes..on each one write a letter to the sentence..one cupcake has i..the next l..the next o...until it spells I love you
Even if you just take cheese doodles and arrange them to spell I love you or something..
food allways works!
Im sure maybe you could find something in the store for cars,computers,movies,but the food idea is easier,fits the budget,and is romantic.
If he likes movies..why not make a home video of you saying something romantic or singing a song..something along those lines.
hope i helped
-melissa-

There is this girl that I REALLY want to ask to prom. But there is one small problem. She says she doesnt really do the school dance thing. We went out to the movies last week, and she said she had a great time. We've been friends for a while, and I finally admitted I have feelings for her, and she said she likes me too. So I dont know, should I ask her, or should I ask someone I dont know as well? And if I should ask her, how should I ask? I am a singer, but I'm not confident about my talent under THAT sort of pressure! Please help!

yeah you should definately ask hr..shes the best person to ask being that you both felt a connection. If you dont want to sing..maybe write her a sing and read it to her? im not sure if you write any songs or poems..but thats a cute way..
another way thats fine is just by asking her straight out..that you would like to take her to the prom!

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