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annoying mother
My mother has been annoying me very much, lately. My question is about something that happened today, however. My mom makes me clean every Saturday. One of the things she tells me to clean is a coffee table with a lower level. On the lower level is a apple-shaped baking pan with a Christmas ordiment in it. Well every week the thing bounces around when you move it the slightest bit. So today while I was cleaning it broke. Now my mom is screaming at me for her lack of common sense. She is also making me tell my ill-tempered brother (it's his ordiment) that I broke it and is making me pay for it. Any person with common sense would know not to put a breakable item in a place where it would break. Do I have any right to be mad? If you don't think I do please explain.
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You have every right to feel annoyed. No one can tell you how to feel. They are not you. However, the same goes for your mom. I think that you both responded to the situation in an entirely natural way. She had every right to be annoyed that something broke. Sometimes parents take it out on their children because they feel stressed. Just leave her alone for awhile and tell her ONCE that you are sorry in a very sincere way. Maybe you can try to ask her about how the situation made her feel. If the conversation starts getting tense or you think it may turn into an argument, it is best to leave. An argument just adds more tension to the relationship and increases the chance that you will feel annoyed with her and she will yell at you again. Many kids often feel that their parents are being unfair to them. It is the parents' job to make sure their child grows up in the best way possible, and it is the child's responsibility to try not to make this job any harder than it needs to be. An outburst every now and then is ok, but usually if you just accept your punishment as if you feel it is fair, everyone will feel better about the whole thing.
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To be completely honest with you, I think that you have absolutely NO reason to be mad.
If you clean that spot every week, and you know that the ornament moves around every week, and you know that it's fragile... then you should know enough to be more careful while cleaning there. You should have moved the ornament.
It's your responsibility to accept the concequences of your actions. Just because this was an accident, doesn't meant that your not responsible for it.
The concequences of breaking your brother's ornament is to tell him it was your fault and to pay for it. Why is that so unreasonable?
Your mother is not screaming at your for her lack of common sense. In my humble opinion it is your lack of common sense for not moving the ornament in the first place. This question sounds like a prime example of a complaint from a spoiled teenager.
sorry if you find my response rude, I just hate it when people bitch about petty problems with such disrespect to their parents.
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I think you do. If it meant so much to your brother he should have put it up.
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yep, you have a right to be furious, now march down to your gun room and pick your favorite.
-hitler
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Many things are breakable, and most things are in a place where they can be bumped. It's the nature of living in a world of figurines, ornaments, etc.
I don't think your mother or brother has made a bad choice by keeping the ornament there; after all, pretty things are meant to be seen. But they have to accept that there was a risk of it breaking when it was in a vulnerable place.
At the very least, accidents happen. You've not committed a major sin by breaking this thing, but if it makes other people feel better offering some money is a good thing to do.
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Yes you definately have a right to be mad! I would be extremely mad also..so dont worry i think everyone would be mad.
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yes, i think that you have a right to be mad. your brother shouldnt put breakable things were they can break. and if your mom is yelling at you for your accident in breaking the thing then she shouldnt be. you shouldnt have to pay for the ordiment.that is a really gay reason. and it is not your fault that it broke, it is your brothers. you shouldnt have to pay for a broken ordiment that you broke on ACCIDENT!....and your mother shouldnt try to make you. you are 100% in the right to be mad!
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signed:~Des~
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