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Hi, I'm Brittney, I'm a junior in college. don't ever feel hesitant to ask me a question, I will never judge you. Be completely honest and I will give you the best answer I can give, 100% of the time. A fun fact about me- I'm a triplet!

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Why do guys always seem to cheat? I just don't understand it. You give them everything they could possibly want and then you find them flirting with other women and junk. What am I doing wrong? It's like nobody can be faithful anymore

Its truely not you, its them. Any guy that is unfaithful to you isn't right for you, is a jerk, and is most definately not meant to be. Ask guys you date first if they are commited and into having a long term relationship, most guys that say yes without hesitating will be around alottttt longer. :-)
Good luck!!!!

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hi, i am a girl and i was with my friend / gf today. we are lesbians i guess. her parents know but mine didnt. and then my idiot asshole friend, who is a boy, sent me a txt msg talkin about me and my gf. my dad decided to read my txts. he saw it. now im flippin out and so r my parents!!!! my gf and i fear we will never be able to see each other again. MY FUCKING FRIENDS SUCK!!!! what do i do? my gf and i are hysterical and idk wat to do. plz help me :(!!!!

Its going to be okay, try to calm down. Im not sure how old you are, but if you are old enough and allowed to date than you have nothing to worry about. You need to sit down with your parents and tell them the truth, they will support you no matter what, but it might take some time for them to get used to the idea of your sexuality. Just stay true to who you are, and most of all delete your texts for now on haha! Dont blame your friend, in the end it will be better this way and easier too. It probably would have been alot more akward for you to tell your parents yourself.
Good luck!!!
Everything will be okay, dont worry! Im here if you want to talk :-)
xosodapopx3

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17/f

i have always just bought coach purses, but my mom said she is sick of buying me new 400 dollar coach purses all the time, and that i need to realize not everyone has money like my family does, and to appreciate what we have, & so on....

so she is being really annoying and saying if i want a new purse, i have to find one like 75ishh or something. :( maybe even cheaper? i mean i have a lot of purses, but i love them! & since i've never really gotten a purse besides coach.. i don't even know who makes cute affordable purses. anybody know of any? :) i like the betseyville or however its spelled ones, but the one i want is like 130. & i like bigger bags. :)

any ideas?

T.J max and marshalls has amazing selection of bags. I just went to macys and got my juicy couture bag on sale for 75ish. DSW has cute bags too.
Good luck!

ps
if you get a job, you can buy all the coach bags you want. Maybe you and your parents can split the money for more expensive bags? And for the record, your mom isnt exactaly annoying for telling you she doesnt want to spend 400 dollars on your purses...you said you have alot too, add it up. :-)

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I really feel like im going to kill myself because I am never happy anymore. And I'm just a 13 years old girl. I want to change to a online school because I figure I won't get teased as much, but they are already closed for the school year. I can't go to my school and I don't want to run away. Maybe I'm a coward but I really do need help. Can someone tell me where I could find an online school for ninth grade so I won't have to go to my high school Because I know that ending your life is not such a good idea?

Well I wish you would specify what exactaly you are getting teased about. Kids are cruel, I have been teased, my friends have been teased, my family, etc. Its rough, I completely understand, and as hard as it is to do, you have to try to look past what you think everyone else sees, and focus on the bright, talented girl you are. You are only 13 sweety! You have your entire life ahead of you, keep dreaming, past the stars and past the moon. Don't ever let anyone else bring you down, ever. You are unique for who you are, its hard to do, but try to be more confident, find friends that like you for you. Join clubs that you like, join a sport, volunteer at a local library, or go to a soup kitchen to volunteer. Right now it just seems like school is bad, and life too, but just try to fucus on the possitive. Look in the mirror, and tell yourself how beautiful you are. Exercise and stay active and you will feel so much better, please trust me. Invite that friend over, if your parents let you, get that pet that you have always wanted!
If you ever need to talk, Im here for you :-)
Good luck!!!!
xosodapopx3

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My fiance took a hepatitis shot today and I am not sure what is in it. Is it anything like the flu shot where they put the flu in you to keep you from getting it? How will this shot effect my body when we are ready to have children? Will it go into me or the children at all through his semen? No Oppinions please just facts and experience. I would love to hear from people who have taken the shot and how they feel about it and how it is working with them and their mate. Thank you.

I was forced to have the hepatitis shot haha. It kind of hurt, but thats also because I hate shots. Its for your body only, it most definately will not transfer over, its just like any other shot (such as the flu as you mentioned.) If you get the shot while you are in fact pregnant..then it might effect the baby but Im not 100% sure on that. But I do know for a fact that it wont effect anyones body except for the injectee :-)
I wondered the same thing by the way haha.
Hope that helped!!!

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So, my boyfriend is on probation, for drugs. I am seventeen and he is nineteen and we have been together off/on scince i was fourteen and he was sixteen. Well weve both always sorta done pot but him on a much more extreme level then me. When he gets off probation which is in like jan. He plans on spending over a thousand dollars on drugs and booze. I dont like that at all b/c i stick to weed and he does like everything. I dont want him to get addicted to anything. Thats not the kind of life that I want for us. How can i tell him that with out sounding bitchy i feel like i always bitch cause ill be like are you gonna pass your drug test? so yea...

First off, your not a bitch for wanting your boyfriend to stop taking drugs. You need to tell him its you, or the drugs. Its just not fair to you to have to deal with not only the possiblility of him being on probation again, but also him being killed or seriously hurt. Its also a waste of money at that, wouldn't he rather spend that money on you?
If hes not going to change or get help, I urge you to re-evaluate your relationship with him, is it really worth it? If you have a possible future with him then you want to make sure your kids (if you plan on having any) don't catch his habbits.
Good Luck!!!

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i dnt knw how to keep my boyfriend intrested cuz all we do is txt an we been only goin out for 3 mnths an we cant really go on dates becus im not aloud to so we're just talkn on the fone an txtn but i go bck to school in 5 days an i really wanna make him go like (damn im lucky to hav dis gurl) an i want him to be the one who i have my first kiss with ( an yes i havent had it yet ) but its not like hes my 1st bf an i dnt wanna make the same mistakes frm past relationships

If you aren't allowed to go on dates yet, then you probably shouldn't have a boyfriend until you are older and allowed. :-)
Just be yourself, theres not much you can do considering you can't see him in person except for in school. You both have been going out with each other for 3 months already, which means he already knows he is lucky to have you.
As for mistakes you made from past relationships, what kind of mistakes? If you mean cheating, thats pretty simple to avoid, just don't get together with anyone else.
Good luck!

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I live in massachusetts and I have such bad problems at my highschool thhat I just cannot go back (dnt tell me to suck it up lol) and I want to go to another school in a different town. I called the next town overs highschool and they won't let me='( ..are they jus saying tat? Ks there ANY way I can get into that school without living in that town?!?!

One of my friends is litterally a house away from our town (she lives on the cutoff.) She commutes to my high school, but she doesnt get bussed and she has to pay for the schooling. My ex boyfriend did too, but he lived almost 45 minutes away. Talk to your parents about it, or whoever is your gaurdian. They will have to pay for it, and have to give you rides every day to and from school. Good luck!!!!

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i dont really know how to explain myself.
i feel im rude to people.
when im not trying to be,
it could be cause im jsut having a crappy day, but its hurting other peoples feelings.
im very confused at this whole situation and the rest of my life.
please help.

Sometimes things happen, if you find yourself in a situation where you feel like you were rude, tell the person you were rude too that your sorry because your having a bad day. It happens to the best of us, dont worry. :-)
Good luck!

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My mother has been acting noticeably different for the past few months...she has a shorter fuse when it comes to things she would normally be very patient with. She is also forgetting things very easily anymore. I can't seem to ask her for help with anything anymore (something small, like "Have you seen this?" or something like that) without her getting irritated with me and saying hurtful things to me. She is constantly belittling me and making me feel like someone who is just invalid and an annoyance to her. I feel this coldness between the two of us, like she resents me somehow, and it's like I don't know her anymore, and it's hurting me more than you can imagine. I'm crying right now even as I type this, but quietly, because I'm afraid if she see's me crying she's going to get irritated at me and lecture me. This isn't some angry "nobody understands me" teenage rant. If it were something stupid like her grounding me, I wouldn't be asking for advice. I am at wits end, and I miss my mother so much...

I completely understand what you are going through, my mom went through and episode like your mom is too. It could be a sign of something, but just give it some more time, luckily it wasnt anything too bad for my mom. It got to a point where I just broke down, and I was angry at her so I shut her down by ignoring her and keeping to myself, which took even more on of a toll on me because I missed who she was and who I was. This sounds completely ridiculous but the only time she listened to me was when I sat her down and had a serious conversation with her, and I cried. I told her everything, and there was so much emotion involved. You need to talk to your mom, and bring to attention what your view is of what is going on. Start the conversation with, "mom, are you okay lately? Is there something on you mind?" Something like that to open up conversation. My mom said no. Your mom will mostlikely say no too, thats when the emotions hit you and when you try to explain you just start to cry, and thats completely okay. Let your mom know that you have been noticing a change lately, how you feel like there is more tension, and perhaps maybe she is more iritable, make sure you dont accuse her, talk to her calmly and caringly. Tell her how much you love her. Provide some examples if she is in a little bit of denial, this way she can see what is going on. It will be okay, its normal for parents to get at their wits ends too, everyone does sometime. Let me know if you need to talk, Im here for you 100%.
xosodapopx3

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hello i'm 17 year old woman and i'm pregnant and don't know if i should get an abortion or not both me and my boyfriend havent told our parents and i'm scared of there reaction because my parents are very religous Catholics and would kill me if they found out if i did anything like this i'm leaning more towards getting an aborting because i can't take care of a baby and i have a career to look forward to this is my senior year in high school and me and my boyfriend have a very good chance of getting noticed for sports and a baby would heavily destroy that so what should i do?

Nobody on advicenators can tell you to keep your baby or not, you can always put it up for adoption. All Im going to say is that you would have never been born if your mom had an abortion. Im not against abortions, but Im not pro abortion either.
abstinance or having safer sex would have prevented this situation from happening, but now that it did happen, you should tell your parents regardless of your decision. Maybe they can help you decide. I know you dont think that they will react well, what parent would under the circumstances? But they will get over it, and accept it, and Im sure they will support you. If you are responsible enough to have sex, then you should be responsible enough to handle the possible consequences that go along with it.
Good luck!! Im sorry if I seem like Im nagging, I really do feel for you.

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My high school spirit day is Friday and the whole nest week is spirit week. Our colors are green and yellow. I was thinking it would be cool if I put some bright green highlights in it.
Maybe some strips of bleach on my bangs an upper layers of my hair and the green on the bottom.
What are some good quality hair dyes/bleaches?
And if you have any ideas of what I should do for hair please feel free to tell.
(my hair is cholcolate brown and about and inch below my shoulders. It's very thin on the bottom with a TON of shorter layers on the top)
Also, I need some clothing ideas and why would be crazy and fun to wear. Any ideas I'm open to. My wardrode is huge so I can do a lot of things.
Thanks :)

Dying your hair would be sick!!! Party city has spray can hair dye, those work really well. Also, some bright colored beads (yellow and green) would look cute. Maybe wear some sofie shorts and and high socks that are crazy colors with sneakers, sounds wierd, yes, but it looks really cute. Face paint is good too, also, I have this glitter stick thing, the brand is Fantasy Makers (in small print it says from the creators of wet n wild, but I dont know if that makes a difference) anyway the glitter lasts all day, and is really cute, and its not liquidy, its litterally like this pen-type thing, its cool.
I wouldnt bleach your hair though, bleaching is permanent, one of my friends learned that the hard way haha.
Good luck, and have fun!!!!!
Oh yeah, bright color headbands are cute, also painting your nails would be cute.

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I'm on the volleyball team at my high school and this will be my senior year. The coach (let's call him "Coach A") has been the head coach for only a year, this year being his second. The coach before him was awesome and respectful to every girl on the team and never once did I feel like I wanted to stop playing the sport i loved. Now 'Coach A' constantly reminds us that he doesn't care about our feelings or opinions. I know that the coach is the leader but shouldn't he atleast value the opinions of his players? He treats the seniors, juniors and sophmores like we are nothing but robots to win games and build his image with the coaches at the other schools. This is "his" team not "our" team so he thinks. I've been playing for 10 years and can't stand aside any longer while he doesn't give me the respect of a person, let alone a player. ALL of the seniors feel this way and we make up the majority of the team. I've brought his actions to him by myself but he simply tells me that if I don't like the way he runs it I should quit. This is last year and I refuse to give into an idiot. Should I talk to the principal?

Thanks,
niknaxx

First off, let me just say that volleyball rules and is an absolutely amazing sport.

Back on topic:
I know exactaly what you are dealing with. You should have a private group discussion with your team, maybe talk about how you could sit down with your coach and talk to them about how ALL of you feel. If they are not all comfortable with that, then you can definately talk to the principal, it would help if you had a petition or paper signed with the signatures of the other players who feel the exact same way. Im not sure how involved the players parents are, but last time we had a disrespectful coach, the parents all got together with our coach and talked to her themselves.
Good Luck!!!!

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My hair is naturally straight. Litteraly. I get up in the morning and don't have to do anything with it because it is so straight. But sometimes I really want to do wavy curls but if I try it never seems to stay in my hair. I've tried different products but nothing seems to work. I really want my hair to look like this:

http://www.megansafox.com/gallery/displayimage.php?album=137&pos=166

Does anyone know of any good products that could make my hair look like her's and hold well? Thanks!

Using a 1 1/2'' culing iron would work with those curls.
I use ausie gel and after i get out of the shower and towel dry my hair i put just a glop on my hand and scrunch my hair. The gel doesnt make my hair hard. :-)
Curlers work too, if you get them you should use the ones with a velvet lining, so it holds and stays in your hair without the clips

Good luck!!!

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Hey guys i have been getting like 3 big pimples above my lip and im really sick of it. iv tried the shaving cream remedie and tbe toothpaste one too. they dont work. i need something that actually works. or even a acne ointment that WORKS. thanks. btw im 13
ashkon

theres proactive that might work for you, but that can get kind of pricey, so me and my brother and sister use clearasil (you know the commercial that says "we are clean, clear, and under control) haha, well it really works. Theres a ton of clearasil products, pick which ever one best applies to you :-) they have face washes, or they have facials, or they have face wipes you can use. Good luck!!!

I like the scrub wash better than the wipes, I feel like it cleans you better and it has micro bead betanicals that remove dirt, dry skin, and moisturize. Wipes are better for when you are out and you want to wash your face to freshen up. :-) I have seen people use just wipes, and just scrub.

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I need to know a great body wash that stays on and doesnt go away after an hour or 2. i really need a good one that will stay on.
Ashkon/m/13

my brother smells amazing all the time, he uses axe, anyone of axes body products smell amazing, so just choose whichever one you like best, You will be the best smelling kid around! :-) Also, I would purchase the same scent in body spray (like spray deoderant by axe) as in the body wash, this way you can be extra fresh!
Good Luck!!!

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there is this boy i really really like at my school and he knows i like him but every time i speek to him on msn he never reply's how can i get him to like me? lots of people have said to just tell him how you feel about him but i am scared he will just laugh at me. wot should i do ?

you should talk to him and get to know him more, when you arent at school talk to him on msn, but when you are at school talk to him in person. If he is into you and you are into him then he will let you know, just give it time :-)
Good Luck!!!!

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im a 13 yr old female and resently a 16 yr old male added me on msn we got talking and i found out he use to go to my school but finished this year. he keeps sending me texts saying i love you but hasn't actually asked me out yet i told a friend about this an she said to just tell him you are not intrested so i did but i dont think he got the message wot shall i do please help me on wot to say thanks :)

There is no reason he should be saying I love you. You need to tell him straight that you dont like him as more than just friends, and that you dont think it is appropriate that he is saying he loves you. If this persists, you need to block him and tell you parents, that would be harrassment.
Good luck!!!

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f/16 Ontario/Canada

Okay well last night (or should I say this morning at 5am), I went downstairs to get a glass of water and my stairs is nearly in front of my front door (with a lacey curtain in the front) and I saw someone in front of my house. At first I thought it was a random person that was going to ring my doorbell for something but when he didn't, I just stood there on the stairs and I saw him touching our car door.

I didn't want him to see me but I wanted to know what he was doing so I sat down on the stairs to watch him and he was trying to open every door of the car! I was deciding whether or not to go grab my camera to report it to the police or use the video version but I couldn't see his face so it would be no use since the police can't do anything without proof.

Eventually he gave up because the doors were locked and he walked away. I quickly walked to the window and carefully moved a bit of the curtain and he continued to walk but didn't go to my neighbour's car. Which is incredibly freaky. And I couldn't help myself since my mom wakes up 30 mins later for work and I told her to check her car for anything. And at first she thought I had a dream or something (I always have dreams that tell me this and that) but I assured her that it wasn't a dream and I regret telling her about it because she was so scared.

Am I overreacting? Should I talk to the police about it anyways? Our street is RIGHT beside my elementary school so I thought that this would be a safe street but obviously not and I'm scared because there are so many kids that live in this neighbourhood too. Also, Someone broke into our house two years ago and the police told us that they/he broke in at the right time so they were probably watching us from afar, which makes me think that maybe it's the same guy because he came to our house 30 mins before my mom wakes up for work.

What do you think? I need advice. And knowing myself, I'll probably go downstairs since I'll constantly think about this so I'll probably get ready to record a video or take a picture in case he does come again. What do I do if he does come again? Am I overreacting or is this probably a normal thing for car jackers/breakers do at night, only that I didn't know about it? (That's why they tell you to lock your car doors right?)

Thanks in advance! I know this was long!

A couple months ago my dads car was broken into and a person luckily just stole all of his change, and left his expensive glasses and wallet in the car. But theres not many theives that will be that generous. I would most definately call the police, granted they wont be able to do much about the situation, they do keep your report on a file, so if anyone else catches him, then they will link your reports. When you call the police, ask them what they advise you do and ask them what actions to take. I live near my elementary school also (how ironic!) Anyway, this needs to be reported for you and your family's safety, also, I would alert the neighbors so the whole neighborhood can make sure their car doors are locked and be more careful. Keep a camera close by the door or window, even if you cant get a face view, use flash or video it because it can be some good evidence for use for height, and weight, things like that. If you have an outdoor light, next time turn it on to scare him away :-) if you have a dog, make sure they arent outside because you dont want them to be hurt. Also, if you can offord it, upgrade your security system, maybe add an extra lock on your door. Good luck!!!! oh and by the way, you are most definately not over reacting, there is no reason why someone, a stranger at that, should EVER be trying to open your car doors. :-)

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well my boyfriend broke up with me because his mom said i was too young for him.. but then last night i talked to him and he told me that there is another reason why he doesn't want to date me.. he said that school was around the corner and that he didn't want people to to talk shit about us because he is small and I'm thick....he tells me he loves me but he doesn't want anything to do with me in public .. does he really love me?

You deserve soooo much more than that. Seriously, he doesn't even deserve you. I would rethink wether or not you really want to be with him, in my opinion, if this guy loved you he wouldn't be embarassed to be with you in public or in private.
Good luck!!

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