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i'm a pregnant and only 17
hello i'm 17 year old woman and i'm pregnant and don't know if i should get an abortion or not both me and my boyfriend havent told our parents and i'm scared of there reaction because my parents are very religous Catholics and would kill me if they found out if i did anything like this i'm leaning more towards getting an aborting because i can't take care of a baby and i have a career to look forward to this is my senior year in high school and me and my boyfriend have a very good chance of getting noticed for sports and a baby would heavily destroy that so what should i do?
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It all depends on your beliefs and morals. You have to do what's right for you, and even though I am highly against getting an abortion, when it comes down to it, you're going to do what you're going to do. Just remember that an abortion is going to run you a few hundred dollars, and it could possibly haunt you for years to come.
No matter how hard it is, you can make it if you have the baby. Have you looked into adoption at all? Just look at all your options before you make a rash decision. I know it's scary, but you can and will get through this! :]
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I do not think that abortion is the way to go i think it is so wrong killing your own child i think you should keep the child. you made this child you need to take responsiblty for it, There is always adoption to and the sooner you tell your parents the better it is trust me i no what your going through i hope i helped and good luck
Pray for yourself ask god to help you and he will let you know whats best wheather you keep it or give it up for adoption.
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I must say that having an abortion is and will always be up to you. But as a someone who has gone through being pregnant and scared I can relate to what you are going through and can only tell you what the calm after the storm feels like.
Right now my son is 1yr & 5 months old and I wouldn't trade him for all the wealth and riches in the world. And whilst I admit that I have resolved not to have any more kids, I'm so glad that I made the choice to keep him. You see, in this-the 21st century, kids are no longer a valid excuse to not reach your goals & aspirations. They add purpose to your life. My son has definitely added purpose to my life and he has inspired me to stop lagging about and run towards my goals and dreams. Best of all, my eyes have been opened to different avenues through which I can achieve those goals an d dreams. True success in life is success achieved through real adversity.
Yes, your parents may be mad & harsh but soon they'll fall in love with the idea of having a grandchild like most do anyway.
Yes, you may feel like you are not ready to be a parent but nobody can really be ready to be a parent-no amount of books, advice,age or money can make you ready. You learn as you go.
Lastly, why go around for the rest of your life regretting and/or wondering what if? But like in the end it's up to you.
Hope I helped in some way.
Lady Jade
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Nobody on advicenators can tell you to keep your baby or not, you can always put it up for adoption. All Im going to say is that you would have never been born if your mom had an abortion. Im not against abortions, but Im not pro abortion either.
abstinance or having safer sex would have prevented this situation from happening, but now that it did happen, you should tell your parents regardless of your decision. Maybe they can help you decide. I know you dont think that they will react well, what parent would under the circumstances? But they will get over it, and accept it, and Im sure they will support you. If you are responsible enough to have sex, then you should be responsible enough to handle the possible consequences that go along with it.
Good luck!! Im sorry if I seem like Im nagging, I really do feel for you.
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if you really think about it what can your parents do to you. your pregnant they cant ground you thats so dumb your almost legal. and there are other options its called adoption and yes its hard im sure. but you can have an open adoption. where you can se your baby as it grows up. i think you decided to have sex and knew what could happen so you should take responsibility i would. but its also your choice im just telling you my opinion!
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you should be able to take responsibility for your actions. i just told my parents 3 days ago i was pregnant, and i thought theyd be furious and they were actually supportive, and im 16 ! now i can take care of my baby and go to the doctor.
personally, im strongly against abortion because its murder. if anythin, id suggest givin birth to it and givin it up for adoption so you can bring someone else into the world and make someone else happy with a baby ! your parents love you, they wouldnt hate you for somethin like that even though it isnt ideal for them. man up, do what you gotta do.
if you do indeed decide to get an abortion, make it as quick as possible.
x sweeethoney
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First thing, If you are mature enough to have sex, then you need to be mature enough to handle the consequences...
I know its scary, but you HAVE to tell your parents. In most states you cant get an abortion if you are under 18 without parental consent.
you MUST tell your parents. at first, yes, they will be MAD, dissapointed. But they will get over that after abour 30 minutes, and then they will realize that there is nothing that they can do about it, its already done. after they get over the initial shock, they will switch into "mommy mode" and start talking to you about things that need to get done. they will start talking to you about what the best plan of action will be, they will discuss the pros and cons of abortion and if that is the best decision for you.
dont try to get an abortion without consulting your parents first. An abortion can damage your reproductive system if something goes wrong and could ruin your ability to have children later in life. also if there is an infection you could get really sick or worse....
just tell your parents. i know it will be scary but you need to tell them. thats their grandchild in your stomach and they will not be mad for long.
im here for you. if you need to talk about it, email me anytime
stephanie.ellick@gmail.com
hope this helps! =]
stephanie 21
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