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Ive liked my friend for a while now, he lives in England, while I'm here in america. He told me about a month ago that he has truely loved me for a while now and how he'd love it if we were together. When I bring up that we should date he says no, but he stays single for me. I know long distance realtionships dont usually work well but he comes here for vacations, and might move here soon with his uncle. How do I tell him I'm really serious about this and i think we should date?

tell him...its not that difficult. I mean tell him, he likes you, but he probably dont want a long distance relationship..you are in different countries...
-hayley

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17/F/JUNIOR

Okay, so I posted a question about my ex yesterday (May 21, 2008). That was very interesting, if you want to answer it, go right ahead. And just to add on to my previous question... I never had sex with my ex.


ANYWAYS, so my story now is...
So I know that my ex's mom did do the shit she did... all the clues just added up to her. Anyways, so now the other day I asked my friends Kelly and Josh (they are dating and good friends of ex and his family) if they told anything to him AND/OR his mom. Well basically, my friend Kelly kept studdering and Josh is just an ass. Well, I found out that they told her EVERYTHING. Well Kelly and I have been friends ever since we were about 6 years old... so my question is... WHY IN THE HELL WOULD SHE BACKSTAB ME? Is she too far up Josh's ass to even think or trying to help my ex and his mom be psycho?

So then last night Kelly sent me a message on Myspace saying "Aren't I one of your friends anymore on Myspace?" Well I sent her back a message basically saying that I can't trust anyone and I don't want to keep getting stalked by my psycho of an ex and his mother... and then I guess she never got it. So now I'm at school in fourth period and I'm going to confront her about this next period (5th) and ask her why in hell would she lie to face?? I thought I had friends, but now I can't trust anyone anymore and I can't wait until School's over (June 3rd is our last day) and to get over this fucking drama thats stupid and childish... I don't start the drama (besides breaking up with the ex)... I just end it.

So give me any advice you've got because this is pretty ridiculous that some of my good friends have turned on me... to make me look like the bad guy... Which I'm not... I did absolutely NOTHING wrong besides break up with my freaking ex.

Thanks in Advance.
-Ginger.

okay get better friends...tell your ex and his mom to suck it persay and leave you alone...and tell josh to stop being an ass....and know that you are not the bad guy...i hate backstabbing friends and there are people out there who are waay better friends than that...and do not just not trust anyone...just dont trust them or anyone associated with them..
-hayley

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i had a super tampon in today for around 8 hours and today was my last day of my period so i had very little blood. am i at a high risk of toxic shock syndrome? if i took the tampon out around 7:30, how long would it be until the symptoms started to show (if i had tss)?

everyone has that risk, if you wear a tampon.
but if you get:
-a sudden fever
-vomiting
-diherrea
-fainting
-dizzy
-something that looks like a sunburn
then you need to go to the doctor asap..

http://www.kotex.com/na/info/period/tss.asp

-hayley

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Okay


I have this guy friend I really like! We have so much in common and we get along great but I told him I am currently in a relationship that I am trying to get out of. I just wanted to be friends for now and maybe in the future we could possibly become more but he calls me everyday at least 10 times maybe more! and he is extremely pushy..trying to get me to say "I love you" by saying "I know you love me!" "You know you want to say it" etc.. and I feel highly uncomfortable and I've told him before but he seems to keep on pressuring me and I don't want to block his number or tell him to go away because I could be missing out on something for the future and he is VERY Stubborn and he continues to keep asking me all kinds of personal questions including "marriage, kids etc"

What should I do?! I'm going crazy!

-BahaiMa22

your being waay too nice...you say you dont want to keep your current boyfriend and in the future you become maybe slightly more with your friend that you really like but he makes you uncomfortable. We cant tell you what you want. All we can tell you is do you want to keep your boyfriend or not. If so, tell the one dude how it is. Hard. And if not you know someone will love you.
-hayley

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i have brown eyes but don't let that influence you that i can't be blonde or have light colored hair because there are many blondes with brown eyes.
i also have naturally dark brown hair
right now my hair has many blonde highlights in it
so what color do you think i should dye it because i want it all to be the same color (i dont want to dye it black because i did that before and it was such a pain in the butt to get out)
thanks for your suggestions :)

i would get maybe like a light brown on top with a darker brown underneath and golden blonde highlights...that would look really good...
-hayley

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Thank you for you kind words my friend.

yeah umm what was your question?? like how you said thanks?? what are you thanking me for?? haha sorry i dont remember...

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okay well, i have liked this kid lets call him alex and im pretty sure he likes me too, he's always flirting with me, always iming me, always waiting after class for me we sort of have a thing. except none of us are really brave to admit it. i dont EXACTLY know if he likes me though which is kinda annoying, maybe he just thinks we are really good friends.
anyway in english i sit at a table with JUST him and his friend chad. well alex didnt come to english today and stuff and i knew he was in band and they made an announcement saying they were gonna be late so i was just like oh okay.. so i was just sitting there with chad (we are really good friends) and one of the student teachers was like "wheres alex?" and i was like, "oh i think he is at band" and out of no where chad goes "oooooohh you know his shecdule" and i was like "actually he told me he had band?" and then like i kept looking at the door cause he wasnt there and i was getting kind of nervouss haha so chad goes again "awww getting kind of nervouss?!" whicih is totally weird, he never ever made comments like this before. Then when alex finally came and sat down at our table stupid Chad goes "awww your baby is backk! you like him so much" luckily for me, i had sunburn and you couldnt see my face turning bright red so i was just like "you know what chad, i dont like him, your a retard and can you shutup for once in your life?" and he said sorry and stuff, i dont know if alex heard me or not though.. cause he seemed like he wasnt paying attention but the rest of the period he was REALLY upset and he didn't even talk AT ALL ,or flirt like usual. But like i didn't know what else to do! i couldnt just admit to everyone i really do like him so i just said i didnt. i just think this is kinda weird tho! cause chad never ever ever talks to me about liking him EVER and me and alex have been
"flirting" for a long time now! why would he chose now to do it? does maybe alex like me?

im guessing alex likes you and maybe chad was doing that stuff because alex told him too..maybe he just now got up the guts...and i say go get your man
-hayley

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Im going to high school next year and ive never had a boyfriend. Im the kind of girl that is friends with a lot of people and a lot of guys. I really need someone to love me im becoming very depressed. Im bipolar and I just don’t think there is any hope for me. My best friend and I used to like eachother then everything went wrong and we hated eachother but now its back to just friends although we never even talk anymore. He says I scare him because I get really close to guys and flirt with them a lot, but I don’t notice I do that and nobody thinks I do “that” much other than him. He broke my heart and I fell for him so hard I don’t trust anybody guys or girls at all and I don’t like guys as in love or crush or whatever their still friends. Im love sick with nobody to go to. Ill be loosing all my friends none of them are going to my highschool. What do I do :/ ?

okay down there below me..gilbertmar..he is a GREAT columnist...and although his answers are confusing once you figure them out they are like a rescue boat in the middle of shark infested waters...

i would just be yourself and start over new...who knows what will happen
-hayley

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I am deeply in love with a girl. She happens to be my class mate nd we are pretty close friends. I told her how i felt cos i couldnt keep it inside any longer and I thought it was best to tell her. Well she doesnt love me the way i love her for now (Thats wat she said). She says that I am a great guy and all. She just wants to be my friend for now (thats what she said exactly).So I asked her if anything could happen between us in the future (A pretty stupid move i think) and she said probably not. That hurt a lot and it still does.One of my our friend also asked her (when i was not around) if she thinks anything could happen between us in the future. She told him that she doesnt know. she likes me as a friend for now and would like to know me more. And she keeps saying i am a great guy and stuff. The problem is that I cant stop loving her. What am i supposed to do? Does anyone think I stand a chance.
we've known each other for the past 5-6 months only..

you just got to give her time. But get to know her. I mean respect it. You dont have to stop loving her, you just have to love her enough to give her time.
-hayley

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13/f
so this is a classic story of im in love with my best friendd...with a huge twist.

ok so my best friend(we'll call him 1.) is an amazikng guy. i am in love with him and have been for a while now. my problem is that my friend told him i liked him and he said he only thought of me as a friend. that hurt me really bad. so i tried to accept it but i am having some troubles with it. he acts like he likes me too. and he is not like this with anyone but me. here are some examples

he plays with my hair
he says my name more than anyone i know
he finds anyway possible to touch me
he looks me straight in the eye
he tries his hardest to make me laugh
^which is pretty easy for him
he gets his head REALLY close too mine when he can
he tries to impress me
he will try to find a way to be beside me a class


ok so yea...does he like me or not?

HERE IS THE TWIST.
about 3 months ago i started talking to a guy online. he is really nice and can easily comfort me and make me feel better. well as soon as we started talking he asked me if we could date. being excited i said yes. so it ended after about 2 1/2 weeks(i ended it). i told him i didnt know him enough and we took it too fast. he understood. so we have been talking for a long time now as friends.well i realized that he is a WONDERFUL guy and i have feelings for him. not love but something like idk i would date him and see where it goes. so i told him this and he said he still liked me too. so i asked him if this meant we were dating again or what. he said it was completely up to me. so i told him that i wasnt sure what to do because of this other guy.and if i did date him i would feel kinda guilty because i like another guy. he said that if dating him was going to make me feel guilty he didnt want me to feel that way because of him. i told him i would feel bad because i wouldnt feel 100% true to him. he said that it was my decision and the ball was in my court. i told him that yes i wanted to date him.

so here is my other question... did i make the right chioce or did i make a bad choice because i am in love with another guy? help please!!

umm okay do you know this guy like personally on the internet?? like you have seen him in person?? you didnt just chat in a chat room or something??

sorry you didnt give that much info...

i think you should wait on this boy because it sounds like he might like you but he just isnt sure how to take it considering he might be afraid of falling for his best friend...yeah

or you could date the guy on the internet..BUT ONLY IF YOU KNOW HIM PERSONALLY i cannot stress that enough...i mean kids die from this stuff...i dont want him to take you...im pretty sure you dont either. He could be some old horny guy with nothing better to do except talk to 13 year old girls...

im not going to tell you you are too young to fall in love because i believe that you can fall in love at any age...its just whatever your heart tells you to do..

all i can say is look over the facts and over your feelings...the rest is in your hands...
-hayley

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ever since me and my last boyfriend broke up people wont date me because they think im a whore but ive only dated 3 guys this year do you think im a whore or whats up

i think that he started a rumor because he got mad that you guys broke up and no your not a whore. 3 guys--whoop dee freaking doo..(not directed to you)..i mean your not a whore, a whore sleeps with guys, she/he plays them like little puppets... And if they wont date you because of a stupid rumor then screw them they are immature. They just need to stop basing their lives on what others say. You can do better and find better. You are woman. Hear you roar. haha
-hayley

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me and my boyfriend broke up last night and he says its because of who i am...that im just a messed up person...our arguements are so dumb and when we get to a point were we are going to break up over them it just kills me and all of our arguments i dont ever have a say so...i dont ever get to explain my self...its always him pointing me out that im wrong for this and that and im just a shady person...and when i do try to explain myself he tells o just shut up those are just excuses and for me to just keep it real...I FEEL LIKE IM BEING LOOKED AT AS A LITTLE KID THAT CANT TALK BACK TO THERE PARENT... OUR LAST ARGUEMENT WAS OVER CLOTHES.... WE WERE SUPPOSE TO GO TO A WATER PARK WITH MY FAMILY AND WE WERE TALKIN ABOUT HOW I HOPE THERES GOING TO BE NICE WEATHER AS SOON I SAID THAT HE SAID, WHY WHAT YOU GOING TO WEAR? I TOLD HIM I DONT KNOW YET ME AND MY MOM ARE SUPPOSED TO GO SHOPPING FOR SOME CLOTHES BEFORE WE GO TO THE WATER PARK. HE GOT MAD AND SAID, MAN WHY DO ALWAYS TRY TO GO AROUND THE BUSH I SAID HOW? HE SAID YOU KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING TO WEAR DONT ACT DUMB THATS WHAT YOU ALWAYS DO YOU TRY TO TELL ME SOMETHING GOOD TO WERE YOU CAN GET AWAY WITH WHAT YOU WANT TO WEAR. I TOLD HIM THAT WHAT ARE YOU TALKIN ABOUT I JUST TOLD YOU I DONT KNOW YET ME AND MOM ARE SUPPOSE TO SHOP FOR SOME CLOTHES. HE JUST KEPT GETTTING MAD AT ME AND TELLIN ME IM A LIAR THAT I DO KNOW WHAT IM GOING TO WEAR AND THAT I JUST WANT TO NOT TELL HIM BECAUSE I KNOW HES GOING TO GET MAD OF WHAT IM GONIG TO WEAR HE ALSO SAID THAT I JUST WANT TO WEAR WHAT I WANT AND SHOW OFF IN FRONT OF EVERYBODY AND THAT IF I LIKE LOOKING GOOD FOR EVERYONE ELS THEN I SHOULD BE A MODEL AND POSE FOR EVERYONE. THAT REALLY HURT MY FEELINGS BECAUSE THATS NOT WHAT I DO I JUST GET DRESSED BECAUSE I LIKE TO LOOOK CUTE...I JUST KEPT TELLING HIM I HATE WHEN YOU ACT LIKE THIS....AM I WRONG?? OR IS HE THE THATS WRONG...WHAT SHOULD I DO?

Geez you should already know the answer to this one. But sometimes when it is under our noses we cant smell it...metaphorically of course ;]

bottom line:
hes a jerk
its his fault
hes insecure
dump him
move on
you dont deserve it
hes just a prick

-hayley

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what is the hours/days you work part time at marshalls for a casheir and how much do you make an hour?

part time is probably about 20-25 hours a week. And minimum wage. I dont know if it went up where you live but now its like 7 dollars or something here. It was like 6 something.
-hayley

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im 18. im a lady and my best friend is a gay male. he has not been very open about it, even with... ME. but close friends know its true. starting in last october things started happening. herasment. car was keyed multipule times with hate, fag, die, and also perminent marker. keying of his car has happened various times. atleast 5. his tire had been stabbed. trees next to his house were drenched with gas and lit on fire. Various other acts have occured.. (although last june it was keyed but did not think anything of it). he has a very hard time sleeping. he has made police reports, but they dont help much, he has gone to therapy, gone to doctors. finally he came out and open to everyone right before the last car and tree lighting incident. hes always scared. he drinks ALOT now, takes alot of perscription pills for sleep and depression, although he says it doesnt help much. i hardley see him and i dont know what to do. he says he has no idea what i could do, he feels helpless himself. does anybody know anything i could try to help him feel better about himself, have alittle bit more fun, sleep, anything?? i miss him being happy please any help would be appricated

people are jerks...i say you help him build his esteem and then you. I would like get cameras, and and electric underground fence...if you can do that...maybe he go live with someone or someone live with him...
-hayley

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I have dated one guys for 5 years now an he has cheated on me 17 times. I moved out from his house an now i live with someone i really get along with. Everytime i try to break up with the other guy he begs me not to do it that he will change. Please i need so advice on how to tell him i dnt want him no more

Okay, umm dump the one that cheated on you. A he cheated on you 17 times and 2 he is a player....
i am telling you, stop listening to the dummy and do what you want to..only what you want!! he doesnt matter. Just ignore him, dump him and ignore him
-hayley

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Ok so I heard this song and I really liked it. The problem is that I didn't catch the name or the artist, and I only know some of the words. The only part I remember is "elvis will you teach me how to play? Jesus will you teach me how to pray?" And even then I'm not sure if those are even right!! I'm really sorry if it will be hard to find but I greatly appreciate any answers as to who sings it and what it is called. Thanks so muchh!!

born too late-the clarks
-hayley

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im 15/f and lately i've been feeling distant from my parents. we're never on the same page about anything. and i made a little mistake when school let out and now they dont trust me at all. and my sisters and i are always fighting. and they both wanna copy everything i do. one of them is a brat and future slut and the other is completely behind on EVERYTHING in life. shes almost 13 and she refuses to shave, wear deodorant, and wear bras. and they are always bugging me and never leave me alone. and i just wish they'd leave me alone.

i know they love me, but i dont think i love them the way i used to. i mean i dont HATE them, but i dont love them. i know this is really bad and i cant talk to my rents about it. my friends understand where im getting at but if i try to explain to my parents they'll just get upset and hurt and i dont wanna hurt them.

i used to be really close with my dad. i used to be able to tell him everything. but now that im older and getting into a lot more stuff like smoking/drinking/heated situations and stuff? YOU CANT TELL YOUR DAD THAT. i just dont know what to do anymore! i wouldnt mind if my parents just sent me to england to live for eternity because i wouldnt miss my family at all.

Your a teenager, it happens..its like one of newtons laws or something.. Its just a stage you will grow out of it. And just earn their trust back, i mean i dont know how because that pretty much ranges on what you did and your parents limits...and your sisters are going to be a pain. They are looking up to you therefore want to be just like you. I know it sucks i have a 12 year old brother. But siblings will fight its life..Its just a phase it will end
-hayley

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Unfortunately, i found that i was suffered from upper limb neuropraxia. Due to the accidental attack of a person to my left shoulder: weakness, pain and diminished sensation are found on my elbow and upper arm (upper limb).

1. May i know the detail and vaiation about the injury and how it will affect me in my future life?
2. Do i need to take an operation to repair the nerve?
3. How long do i take to recover?
4. And an Electromyography (EMG) was taken few days ago. i would like to ask also about the effectiveness of the test evaluating the physiologic properties of muscles. Any factor(s) affect the effectiveness / efficiency of the test? Since i doubt about it.
Thank you so much for your help!!!

Go to a doctor...it sounds serious
-hayley

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okay so the past three times my bf has fingered me I bleed.. Its really werid I feel no pain I just noticed after there was blood. and the first time I just thought he broke it but then it happend again and it wasn't that much but then the third time there was quite a bit of blood. and I know its not my period I just barley had it lke 2 weeks ago and so Im just wondering why this is happening. and if I should make him stop.

he is probably just "popping your cherry"...the first time and second time he probably just tore it a little but the third time he tore it all off..but the bleeding should only last about 15-20 minutes..if it lasts longer go to the doctor
-hayley

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how do i start to get to talk a girl when we both like each other without seeming strange

Just compliment her on something. Or talk about something going on at your school or community. Talk to her like a regular person if you dont want it to be strange.
-hayley

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