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loving your family
im 15/f and lately i've been feeling distant from my parents. we're never on the same page about anything. and i made a little mistake when school let out and now they dont trust me at all. and my sisters and i are always fighting. and they both wanna copy everything i do. one of them is a brat and future slut and the other is completely behind on EVERYTHING in life. shes almost 13 and she refuses to shave, wear deodorant, and wear bras. and they are always bugging me and never leave me alone. and i just wish they'd leave me alone.
i know they love me, but i dont think i love them the way i used to. i mean i dont HATE them, but i dont love them. i know this is really bad and i cant talk to my rents about it. my friends understand where im getting at but if i try to explain to my parents they'll just get upset and hurt and i dont wanna hurt them.
i used to be really close with my dad. i used to be able to tell him everything. but now that im older and getting into a lot more stuff like smoking/drinking/heated situations and stuff? YOU CANT TELL YOUR DAD THAT. i just dont know what to do anymore! i wouldnt mind if my parents just sent me to england to live for eternity because i wouldnt miss my family at all.
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Dear 15 y/o f,
What you are going through is not uncommon for someone your age. The fact that you have posted this question, is testimony that you care a lot about your family. It sounds that you are currently going through a period of self discovery and some of the behaviors you are engaging, will not be condoned by your family, and this is probably why you feel distant from them. The best way for people to thrive over this stage of life, is to reconnect with their parents. Granted you have no desire to tell your father the things you have been doing, but one thing you can do is to ask your parents how they overcame various struggles during their adolescent years. While there obviously will be stark differences in their experiences compared to yours, there will no doubt be similarities you can relate to in some of their experiences, and whether you agree or otherwise with their values and beliefs, understanding where your parents are coming from can help you reestablish that bond.
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Wow..."smile" I am 34 years old. I did the same thing when I was 15 too and I felt the same way, the only difference was that I was an only child and my dad was a preacher. I am going to say this to you.. Listen to your parents, they do love you and want what is best for you. I grew apart from my parents and felt distant too but the truth is that they do know what is best for you. You are 15, your sister is 13. Set goals for yourself to be a role model for your sister and peers. Proms, college, life and future are more important than drinking, smoking, and other things you are experiencing in your life.
I too experienced these things in life and this is what it led to: I got pregnant at 17. I went to my Sr. Prom pregnant. I graduated from highschool Pregnant - even though I was a straight A student. It was embarrassing and humilating. I continued doing the same thing without listening or setting goals, and got pregnant again at 19! I became a gang member. I moved to Atlanta - I started stripping and hanging around the WRONG crowd while my parents raised my children. I had no $, no job, no future - NOTHING! I was lost and should have been dead because of the lifestyle I lived. I learned from it. I graduated from college with 3 degrees, I became a professional, I got married, I have a great job, a great relationship with my children and my parents and I lived to talk to people who are going through the same thing I went through. I know it's hard to listen at your age because we think we know everything at 15, without understanding that there is so much more to be learned, experienced and felt. Please get some hobbies, read, write, listen to different types of music, open your life and mind to new expereinces. If you are doing things that you are doing because of peer pressure - evaulate the people you hang with. I look at the people who I used to affiliate with and they are still in the same situation they were in when we were younger! They are still on welfare assistance, still having children with no fathers to help, getting drunk and complaining about how miserable their life is. Be a role model, enjoy your teenage years, you never get those back.
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Your a teenager, it happens..its like one of newtons laws or something.. Its just a stage you will grow out of it. And just earn their trust back, i mean i dont know how because that pretty much ranges on what you did and your parents limits...and your sisters are going to be a pain. They are looking up to you therefore want to be just like you. I know it sucks i have a 12 year old brother. But siblings will fight its life..Its just a phase it will end
-hayley
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answer to your problem:
your a teenager
easy as that
I bet you once your 20years old it will be the same as it use to be. right now you just feel your parents dont understand you.
EVERY TEENAGER IS LIKE THAT WITH THEIR PARENTS!! i am like that with my dad. just be careful with all the smoking and drinking you were talking about. you can really fuck up your life (and body) with all that poison.
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