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my best friend
im 18. im a lady and my best friend is a gay male. he has not been very open about it, even with... ME. but close friends know its true. starting in last october things started happening. herasment. car was keyed multipule times with hate, fag, die, and also perminent marker. keying of his car has happened various times. atleast 5. his tire had been stabbed. trees next to his house were drenched with gas and lit on fire. Various other acts have occured.. (although last june it was keyed but did not think anything of it). he has a very hard time sleeping. he has made police reports, but they dont help much, he has gone to therapy, gone to doctors. finally he came out and open to everyone right before the last car and tree lighting incident. hes always scared. he drinks ALOT now, takes alot of perscription pills for sleep and depression, although he says it doesnt help much. i hardley see him and i dont know what to do. he says he has no idea what i could do, he feels helpless himself. does anybody know anything i could try to help him feel better about himself, have alittle bit more fun, sleep, anything?? i miss him being happy please any help would be appricated
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people are jerks...i say you help him build his esteem and then you. I would like get cameras, and and electric underground fence...if you can do that...maybe he go live with someone or someone live with him...
-hayley
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Having a backyard business during the summer has made me think even more about security. Get someone who is a bit of a do it yourselfer and mount motion sensitive lights around his house and make sure they come on even when a car drives past on the street. Two, I have noticed at Menards a two camera security system for around $300.00 dollars that is also motion sensitive. You will not catch them in the act, but it will stop the harassment. This should go a long way to reclaiming his life, but you and his other friends need to help him through the drink and other problems. Alcohol is a mood enhancer, it is making the depression worse then it is, get rid of that and don't move him out of his place, it may make things worse. A respite, yes, but he may feel like he's running from a fight, it may be worse for him. If anything, find someone who can move in with him, it's easier to help someone if they are in familiar surroundings.
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thats kinda f**ked up he needs to build up his esteam put up cameras let people know he doesnt care catch what are most likely kids my age self defense judo and you got to let him know people care i know how it can be (not that im gay) but that happens he sees a neighboor in giving him looks you say fuck off its not your businese i have a life and you can take it from me head up, headstrong, and live ur life
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this is just over my head but why dont you invite him to stay with you for a while, if you have your own place. he might feel safer with a friend, and i dont think those bastards know where you live.
but it sounds like someone is pretty pissed off at him, and if the police wont help, i dont think anyone really can.
but like i said, if you have your own place, just let him stay with you for a while until he can get out on his own without being paranoid. :)
i hope he gets better. take care!
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