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Hello! My name is Fiona I am 12 years old and have a problem!
When I am waiting for the school bus all the other girls around my aqe are mean to for no reason. I've already asked 2 of 5 of them why they do it. They're answere was: person 1: You're annoying, you are weird. person 2: You look ugly and you're gross sometimes.( Sh e didn't get to finish all she wanted to say.) i'll a agree that I'm a very energetic but I'm generly very friendly. Please help me!

Fiona

You need to stick up for yourself and defend yourself you should never allow anyone to treat
you that way & call you names you don't deserve to be treated like that let alone anyone elese you need to tell those girls you'd like for them to leave you alone and to stop calling you names make sure they know your serious so they don't take it lightly or as a joke or if your not comfortable doing it yourself have your mother get involved and tell them they need to stop what their doing is wrong and you need to make them realize that so they stop saying mean things to you your not alone i know what it's like to be called names & i'm sure others do too don't try & fight with them you'll make things worst violence isn't the answer & won't
solve anything :)

I have recently been removed out of my moms house because her wife doesnt want me. How do I get back in her life? for me to feel whole again? for her to help me raise my baby . Im only 15 i feel neglected, i love my mom but i dnt know how to do this anymore, someone please help!!

I think you need to find someway to talk to your mom & her wife and tell them that you feel neglected and you want your mom to help you raise your baby tell them you think it's unfair that you've been removed from the house just because her wife doesn't want you tell them you don't think that that's a good enough reason to be removed especially if you've done nothing wrong say you think you've been treated unfairly and you'd like to come back home your only 15 & you aren't able to raise your baby by yourself and you need your mom's help they won't know unless you tell them how you feel speak up and stand up for yourself also tell them that you think that both your mom & her wife should of agreed on you being removed & not just her wife making the decision alone seeing as it was your mom's house & not her wife's :)

15f

Am I too young for love? Is it bad that im only 15 and think i found the one? I love my boyfriend . He makes mee sooo hapy but my grandma doesnt agree with me. maybe because he got me pregnant. what am I to do PLEASE HELP!

No i don't think your to young to be in love i think
you should do whatever makes you happy & if your boyfriend makes you happy then you should stay with
him for your sake & your child's sake i'm sure you
want either your son or daughter to have a father in
their life & for your boyfriend to help raise the
child once it's born your grandma is entitled to her
own opinion if your curious to why she doesn't agree
with you then i think you should ask her so you'll have a answer and won't have to keep guessing :)

I'm 25/f.
My boyfriend physically and emotionally abused me after knowing one another for years as friends, then dating for months before moving in together. The last thing he did to me before I left was pick me up by my throat. His biggest problem was always that he couldn't control himself, and I thought he was going to kill me...This kind of abuse escalated from fights during which he would come within inches of my face and scream at me. In response to this, I once slapped him, and I felt terrible, and kept apologizing...does this mean I'm abusive, too? Did I bring this upon myself by responding that way?
I got a protection order against him, but true to character, he's denying that he abused me, and got a hearing to try to get the order lifted. It's coming up, we both have lawyers, but I'm so nervous I can barely function. I'm terrified to be in the same room as him.
Does anyone have any thoughts? Any advice?

-Thanks :(

Iv'e never been physically abused but i do get
verbally abused by my parents no it doesn't mean that your abusive too just because you slapped him
you shouldn't have to apologize to him he doesn't
apologize to you for emotionally and physically abusing you putting you through what he did you don't deserve to be treated like that let alone anyone elese by slapping him you were standing
up for yourself defending yourself it was one of those things that just happened you didn't bring it upon yourself it's your word aganist his & by him denying that he isn't abusing you he's lying you've got to prove that he has abused you and is lieing get evidence proof you want to try & not get the protection order aganist him lifted only you know the truth and you've got to speak up and make sure your heard so the truth is told tell the judge everything that happened don't leave anything out when it does happen stay in your area near your lawyer and he'll stay near his stay strong remember you aren't alone there's others who have gone through what your going through this isn't your fault you did nothing wrong your the victim here not him you should
never allow any man to treat you how you've been
treated :)

Hello.

So my dream is to become a vet or vet tech.But I hear you have to have a 90 % average in almost everything ! ( especally math and science) And I am really good at science, but not smart at math,.. AT ALL. And I am wondering,.. do I give up my dream and go for something more relistic or go with it ?! I'm not even really old enough to be stressing but.. i am sadly. And I really need help! And if you also have any tips for me about how to be better in math, PLEASE HELP ME!

No i don't think you should give up on your dream
i think you should go with it you can do anything if
you put your mind to it if you want to become a vet
or vet tech that badly you'll do whatever it takes to make that dream become real and you won't allow anyone to stop you or tell you that you can't do it & stand in your way you've got to believe in yourself and have confidence thinking negatively won't get you anywhere think you can achieve it some tips are pay attention in math & if you don't understand something ask the teacher for help or get someone to tutor you that way you'll understand what your unsure of more never underestimate yourself you don't know what your capable of doing you maybe surprised at how things turn out :)

There was this guy i met my freshmen yr of college. I'd like to think that we hit it off. when we met we spent that whole day together. i was living in providence at the time and he in Boston. he was only suppose to be down there for the day so when he invited me to go back with him i was pleasantly surprised and i accepted. that night we did engage in some sexual activity but i stopped it before we could go all the way, it was more like four [lay. anyway i spent the entire next day with him and left that night because of school. i was suppose to get in touch with him the following week because i was suppose to return the following week but unfortunately my phone broke erasing all of my contacts including his. i haven't see or spoken to him since, it's been about a year and a half. But i recently found out some information that would give me the opportunity to get in touch with him. My question is should i use it?Considering he was my first for a lot of things. I am debating with myself on whether i should reach out or not because it seem like i kind of blew him off. HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yes i do think you should get in touch with him and use the information to your advantage you didn't blow him off you had no control over your phone breaking & erasing all your contacts it was one of
those things that happened unexpectly it's not like
you knew it was going to break beforehand you didn't
blow him off on purpose you had a reason why you did
i think if you do get in touch with him again you can explain to him what happened and apologize
make up for lost times if you don't use the information you might end up regretting it and wishing you did :)

my bf and I have been together for 6 months he is 18 and in the army and I am 17 still in school. I ended up pregnant and was about 2 months [mind you I got pregnant off our first time having sex so it was kinda hard on us] then I ended up in the hospital for stomach pains and found out I miss carried. Now I am in a deep depression for the last week [that's when we found out] and he has been depressed to. We haven't seen each other since the weekend before i found out and only my mom knows out of our parents I miss carried. We have been fighting a lot and I spend most of my time crying and we haven't been talking as much as we use to. How long will this take and how can I help the process so we stay close and don't brake up but at the same time morn for our baby?

I'm not sure how long it will take honestly seeing as everyone mourns differently it's alright to cry let it all out you shouldn't feel ashamed to do that or feel afraid it would be bad if you kept everything your feeling to yourself that isn't good to do i think you can help the process by being there for your boyfriend he needs you now more then ever and i don't think he'd be able to go through it alone with the stress of being in the military too i think you should talk to one another not talking would be bad you two being apart you need to depend on one another for strength you can't go through this alone without him don't blame yourself for the miscarriage it was one of those things that just happened unexpectly which you had no control over it wasn't like you knew before hand you were going to have a miscarriage it happens to some girls who are pregnant you aren't alone you have every right to be depressed & to be crying seeing as what your situation is

I'm sorry for your loss my friend recently lost
one of her babies too

18-f
ok this might sound a little gross, but im starting to worry ? yesterday, i went to the bathroom and my stools were like flat out green..? i thought it was a little weird and was like whatever. tonight, i just went to the bathrom and the same thing happened? that is not normal i dont think. does anyone know what caused this or anything? thanks!

I looked up your problem seeing as i'm unsure and
found out that green vegetables such as spanich and
broccoli foods containing green food coloring such as Kool aid or popsicles iron supplements food posioning medications irritable bowel syndrome laxatives are some of the reasons why that maybe
happening to you if your concerned and it's making
you feel uncomfortable then you should go visit your
doctor they'll probably be able to give you a better
answer :)

I really don't know if I should stay with the guy im with right now. None of my family really like him. He's going to college while I chose to stay here and work, so he lives 5 hours away. I've been with him for a year and 3 months, so I do love him. I know he loves me, and he has never cheated or done anything to make me want to break up. I guess the new feeling is just fading, He's really invested in the two of us while im sort of doing what makes me happy at the time, if that makes sense. What I'm wondering is should I just wait this unsure feeling out or cut to the chase and end it? He's my first real relationship, so i just don't know what to do. Give me your thoughts and advice on this.

Thanks.

You've got to do what makes you happy if feel like
you should end it then you should you've got to think are you going to be willing to travel 5 hours to see him? Both ways traveling there then coming back long distance relationships usually don't work out it's better to see the person your dating face to face and in person instead of being distant from them and being apart that isn't good for the relationship if you do end up staying you might end up regretting it because you might not like the fact that you'll be away from him and having to travel to go see him it's easier if he was near you if you aren't happy in the relationship there's no point in staying in it...it's best if you got out then you'll be happier and you'll be able to move on you don't know if the unsure feeling will go away it may or may not if your wanting to end it then end it do
what makes you happy in the end that's the main thing that truely counts if you aren't happy then it's probably not worth it(:

I really like this boy that I have been talking to and I was thinking about having sex for the first time with him do you think I should do it or am I moving to fast

Well i think you should continue talking to him and
get to know him better see how you and him talking goes sex is something you should enjoy you don't want it to be rushed otherwise you won't be able to
enjoy it and he won't be able to either so yes i do
think you are moving fast maybe once the two of you
get to know one another better and you become more
comfortable around him then you can do it..it might be awkward if it's rushed take things slow there's
no need to rush(:

I'm 16/female.
I broke up with my ex boyfriend 3 weeks ago because hes going through family drama. And he didnt have time to be in a relationship. His parents are getting a divorce and its straight up drama. I thought it would of been the best decision to end us, but I feel horrible and i told him that I should of been by his side and not have quit on him. He said we could try this next year until all of his family drama is over. And it was going to be our 10 month anniversary this month. He was my first love and i truly believe that if i havent broken up with him we could of been together for a very long time.. And now we still talk and he admitted he still loved me and I told him I loved him also and that I would wait for him untill he is ready to be in a serious relationship.. I was his first serious relationship. and I think in the time between us not being together he's going to want to date other girls. And i respect that because i'm the second relationship that hes been. Do you think I should keep waiting on him? What should i do if he goes out with someone else? My apologies that this was long, but I really need some input. He's 16. I love him so much and I would be anything to stay by his side and help him through the hard times.. Please give me your input I would really appreciate. Thank you

I think you should keep waiting on him seeing as
you said you'd wait until he's ready to be in a serious relationship if you love him like you say you do then you'll wait you can't say to him you'll wait then back down and change your mind if you wait for him your not quitting on him your sticking by what you said to him and even though the two of you are broken up you'd still be there for him somewhat you'd be staying true to what you said i don't think there's much you can do if he decides to date other girls it's his decision his choice i think the only thing you can do is respect what he decides to do and be happy for him if it does happen that will be something that you have no control over i don't think he'd tell you he loved you if he didn't truely mean
it he wouldn't say it for the sake of saying it he
wouldn't lie to you so yes i do think you should wait for him right now he needs your support even
though the two of you aren't together anymore you
could still be there for somewhat and help him the
tough times he's going through(:

For my birthday i was looking forward to seeing my loved one and spending time with him and of course wondering what kind of gift he would buy me. However unfortunately we couldnt meet up on the day of my birthday because in the afternoon he had people from the town coming in to follow up on the taxes for his business. And in the night i was busy and went out of state. So the next day he calls me up and says he wants to meet up saying he felt bad for not being able to see each other yesterday. So we agreed on 3:30 pm it was around 1 pm at the time, he usually arrives in an hour and a half, but he said he had to stop by somewhere first. I'm thinking maybe he has to get a present so i didnt ask where. So its 3:30 and he calls me up and tells me that he's only 1 exit from where he started. So i tell him you were supposed to be here now but you only went 1 exit in 2 hours thats crazy. He told me yeah there was contruction they blocked the road. ok I'm sorry but thats bs no amount of traffic can make you go only 1 exit in 2 hours, anyway so i ask him why are you so late is it because of where you had to stop off. He says yeah i had to pick up something but i'm on my way i'll be there- which i know will be another 2 hrs and i was upset anyway at everything so i told him to just forget it and we'll try another day. Because after 6:30 i had to get going i had to be somewhere and i told him that. Then he starts argueing with me and we proabably kept calling each other back.. me telling him to turn back and that he would be coming for such a short time and him telling me that he is coming anyway. So finally at 6 he calls me and says i'm here and jokes and says are you going to beat me up. I went in the car, still trying to act nice to him. And he says im sorry im so late and that i couldnt be here yesterday, and he says happy birthday and says i got you something and reaches to the back of the car to get the present. And he pulls out half a dozen roses. I'm still waiting there when i finally realized that that was it. And i just said its very nice thank you. But in my head im thinking flowers, thats it just flowers? they were a bit wilted too, ok wheres the rest, even a card, after all he that he did. I'm thinking someone else would have just taken those flowers and smashed it on his head for not showing up yesterday, being late 3 hrs not telling me why, argueing with me on the phone, and after all that.. 6 wilted roses. I really feel bad for thinking like this but it would have been nice to get some real heartfelt gifts after that. And after about half an hour the date had to come to an end since we ran out of time, now im thinking maybe he planned it like that to meet for just a short time. I just dont know, questions keep popping up in my head. My friends tell me their boyfriend brought them jewelery and other high end quality gifts, which i find hard to believe since they've only been seeing each other for not that long of a time, but now im wondering what kind of presents do guys really buy their girlfriends for their birthdays and why have i alwayss received such small shabby gifts. My boyfriend and i have been seeing each other for 8/9 months now, it was my first birthday with him. Also he owns a business dont you think he can do better, he can definately afford better. He's 33, im thinking he would have some experience on buying birthday gifts and making a partner feel happy. I dont know like i said i feel bad for thinking like this but i also feel bad about what happened, not just the flowers. What do you think, how would you feel and what would you do if you were in my situation? Im sorry i wrote so much. Thank you so much in advance.

Even though he got you flowers as a present it's the thought that counts he could of gotten you nothing flowers are better then getting nothing i'd feel happy if the person i was dating got me flowers as a birthday present at least he thought of you i don't think he planned it if he said there was construction and that the road was blocked you should believe what he said he wouldn't of said it if it wasn't true or for the sake of saying it i don't think he'd lie to you i could see if the reason was far fetched or was out there but it wasn't it was a realistic reason it was one of those things that you had no control over you can't control there being construction or the road being blocked your boyfriend can't either if i were in your situation i'd accept the flowers he gave you after all it was a present it was a nice gesture you can't throw them away be thankful he got you something even though it was something small and not what you expected he could of gotten you only flowers because he didn't have enough time to get you something more plus he was in the car coming to see you maybe he has something planned and he'll end up making it up to you in the future you never know anything can happen he could catch you off guard and surprise you when you least expect it(:

I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.

I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?

Sorry if this is too long!

No i don't think you should stay with him if he's not going to be honest with you and he hides things plus lies you don't deserve to have that done to you or to be treated like that nobody does i think he hid it when you found out because he knew he was lieing to you & he said he had no secrets but yet he did he denied everything and wasn't honest that's a possiblity i don't think you should give him chances he doesn't deserve them you deserve another boy who's going to treat you with respect who won't lie or hide things from you that's not what two people in a relationship are suppose to do their suppose to be truthful & honest with one another i think your best option is to dump him so you'll be happier and won't have to deal with the problems he's caused you'll be free he's not worth your time it's his own fault he chose to create that group & wasn't honest with you like he should of been from the start when you confronted him nobody's fault but his own he brought it upon himself you did nothing wrong(:

Okay I was dating this guy for 7 months. We dated 3, almost 4 years ago and we broke up because his mom said our maturity levels were completely different. I was 14 and he was 17.

Now Im 17 & hes 20.

The day after we broke up, he made me a pinky promise that he would propose to me on my graduation day in 2011.

A couple of months ago, he came by to see my family because while we dated, my family got really attached to him. When he came over, I got butterflies, and I felt as if my knees could colopase. Its been 3 years, and yet he still gets to me. The way he says my name made my heart skip beats like crazy, and the way he smells just gives me chills. Butt we was sitting in his truck and he was bringin back old memories that I barely remembered, and that made me happy because he didnt forget. He told me once again that the pinky promise he made me was still going to happen, and that he was going to ask me back out when I was 18 because of the age thing. He cried, and he said he was still in love with me, and it scares him because he has got over all the girls he has dated, but not me.

Why do I still have feelings for him? Are my feelings real, or was I just excited and nervous to see him? And how do I know if he's being serious? He broke my heart once, I dont want it to happen again.

Yes i do think your feelings are real i think you
still have feelings for him because you didn't get over him fully even though it's been 3 years
it could of been also because you were excited and
nervous that's a possiblity he wouldn't of said that he was going to propose to you or he would ask you back out again if it wasn't true i think he plans on keeping his promise i don't think he'd go back on his word & break the promise after he already made it and told you there's nothing you two can do about the age difference expect wait until your legal he's serious because he said that he's still in love with you and he never got over you he wouldn't say it for the sake of saying it..it seems like he meant it yes he broke your heart but there was nothing you or him could do about the age difference at the time it was one of those things that you had no control over he deserves another chance to prove
to you that you can trust him and that things will change and the past won't repeat itself(:

i know this is kinda long but if you help me out thank you soo much.
18/f
so me and my ex broke up about 2 months ago (we dated 3 months). he just blew up at me and made me feel like shit so i said i don't need this and ended things with him. a few weeks later he messeged me telling me that he can't stop thinking about me and cried over me and really wants to get back with me and blahblah. i won't get back with him for a few reasons: 1. i can't forget the reason why we broke up and how miserable he made me feel. 2. he doesn't drive and he doesn't have a job so he never can afford to take me anywhere, i don't even think we've been on an actually date. and i have to drive EVERYWHERE 3. he's a year younger than me (i know this is a bad reason but i just feel that the maturity level is different) 4. i have a bad past about giving second chances to guys. i told him that i wouldn't get back with him because i rushed into a relationship with him too soon that i wasn't ready for. however, we've still been talking and hooking up, he's been alot better since we broke up, but i have a feeling he's the kind of guy that wants what he can't have. i like hooking up with him, like he's really cute and everything but i can't picture myself with him.

now i just met this guy at my friends party. he is everything i want in a relationship. he has a job, a license, a car, an amazing personality, athletic, he knows how to have a good time and i just think everything about him is attractive. i really want to date him but what do i tell my ex? i can always just stop talking to my ex but i like him as a friend and i wanna stay good friends so i don't wanna go down that path. soo any advice about this whole situation? thanks soo much

I wouldn't stop talking to your ex completely seeing
as that could hurt him more then he already is i would just tell him that you like him as a friend and you want to continue to be friends with him tell him the truth you'd be giving him a explaination which he deserves i think you should
choose the boy who you met at the party seeing as
you seem confident about him and your ex you seem
unsure and not comfortable with him you've got to do
what makes you happy that's the main thing that counts in the end is your happiness also who you can
see yourself with and who you'd get along with better and have more in common with do what's right
for you(:

Female. 15. 10th grade.

This is a story back from my years in the Jr. High (7th grade to 9th grade). People think my band director and I had a little bit of a strange relationship. I was close to him, everyone has their favorite teacher. He was mine. He was a sweetheart, he cared about his students but he was stern when he needed to be, he wasn't a pushover. I am now in the Sr. High band which is a lot more difficult due to competitions and all of the practices but one thing my Sr. High band director brings up a lot is how we weren't properly trained in Jr. High, which makes me think of my Jr. High band director. I didn't really think much of the way we acted in Jr. High but looking back on it, our relationship was kinda strange.

-In seventh grade I didn't really care what I looked like, so I wore my hair up a lot. When I started wearing it down and making it look pretty like curling it, my teacher noticed and said I looked different, that it was a nice change.

-If I was late for a class, the teacher would tell me to hurry but they would always ask me to do things for them, I would wind up being late but they would never write me a pass because they warned me to hurry. So, I would walk to the band room and my band director would write them for me. Every time.

-If I wanted to skip a class like gym or something, he would excuse me from the class by telling the teacher I needed to practice my instrument, we had a concert coming up or something.

-One day at sectionals, it was me, my close friend and my band director. He sat next to me on the right and my friend sat next to me on the left, two seats over, so it was him-me-empty seat-her. I kept trying this part that I couldn't get down and once I finally got it, I was really excited so I was like "yea yea! woo!" and accidentally put my hand on his thigh, in excitement. I know it was wrong now, thinking about it, I shouldn't have touched any part of him but it wasn't intentional, like trying to make a move, I was in seventh grade.. gimme a break. But he didn't look shocked nor move my hand, I moved it when I actually realized it was there.

-His office is right in the music suite hallway so he always keeps his door shut to keep the noise of the practicing instruments or chattering kids out. I would go into his office to talk with the door shut and the other kids would look in on us.

-He would know when something was wrong with me, because of the way I acted, I'm usually talkative and happy so he knows when something's up with me and he'd always ask or when I wasn't being myself in band, he'd look at me a lot to notify me that he knows I am not okay.

-He always called me my full first and last name and I would always tell him he can just call me by my first name but he never did. So, one day I said that I am going to start calling him by his first name and I did sometimes and he didn't seem to mind, when we were with other kids, though, he would tell me that his name was Mr. ___

-He had since had his first child when I left for the Sr. High and we had always joked that he was going to have a girl and name her after me and she's going to play the same instrument I do and he joked back he would put her up for adoption if she was ever as talkative as me. He doesn't joke around like that with other kids, especially about his family and such.

-He would be walking out of the band suite and I would be walking in to practice and say hello to him and we'd stop in the hallway and talk for a few minutes.

-He let me sit in on his music classes (if you teach band or orchestra you also teach music class) and sit in on his study halls.

-My mom said a few times "if you had this relationship with any other teacher, I would be worried.

Be completely honest, just don't scold me or yell at me if you think we crossed the line. Do you think we passed the student teacher boundaries? Why do you think that we did or didn't? Maybe he just favored me.. do you think he kinda liked me?

Also, he was 27 when I had him. He let me use my phone, when I had my phone out in his class, he would ask what kind it was and what provider then he would take his out. Everyday at lunch he would come over to my table and ask what I thought about the new songs he was picking out for band and asked what I brought for lunch.

I apologize, I know it's long but you seem like a genuine, honest person and I just need a good answer from someone. I know I was in the wrong for some of these but I didn't look at our relationship as anything more than playful, then. Don't get me wrong, he was a cutie, if he would have made a move, I wouldn't complain.

Thanks again!

No i don't think you both crossed the student teacher boundaries seeing as he didn't do anything
in appropriate with you like trying to touch you or doing illegal things that he's not suppose to i think he favorited you and you were his favorite student seeing as he didn't give the special attention he gave to you to any of the other students just you he treated you differently he could of liked you it sounds like he did from what you've written that's a possiblity but of course i wouldn't know for sure seeing as i'm not him i don't think you did anything wrong if what was happening got more serious and things started escalating and got worst then you'd have a reason to worry but i see no reason to it's not like both of you had a actual relationship happening or were doing things that you weren't suppose to none of that
was going on so i wouldn't stress over it(:

byfriends sister is a drunk and harassed me she lost her marriage and friends and so on i told my bfriend about this and they no longer talk the problem he says that his mom is afraid of her so he went to stay with mommy but i saw the sister over there many nights he tells me that he has s o much going on with all thaat his sister does that he has to b there for mommy thats fine but wht take it out on me i told him that his sister is destroying family and eventually us her problem are not my problem and it should affect our relationship so i called him wanted to see him and found out that he stayed at a buddys if mommy was so afraid of her why did she spend the nite there andwhy werent you homeso i asked him and said he wont stay there as long as the sister is there he got mad at me and wont talk to me he said its none of my buisness what he does called me nasty names and i havent heard from him we been 2gether 7 yrs ive bent over backwards for him with the dwi the drugs i been ther for him right by his side thru it all and all these years hes done this before walked out when he felt like it i did yell back at him do i call and aploogize for that or wait it outi dont know he tells me that im so good to him and that im always there for him what do i do

I wouldn't sit back and wait if i were you...you should call him and tell him how you feel get every thing all out in the open so he hears what you have to say keeping what your feeling to yourself isn't good to do plus you don't know when he'll call you or if he will you shouldn't have to wait he should call you by himself without having to make you wait tell him that you don't deserve to be shut out or ignored by him and for that matter being called nasty names you aren't a stranger to him your his girlfriend and you deserve to be treated better with respect that you deserve after everything you've done for him in the past and how you were always there when he needed you i think you should apologize for yelling at him people do and say things they don't mean when their angry make him realize that you didn't mean what you did and you'd like for him to accept your apology your only human not perfect you make mistakes just like him it would
be ashame if you lost him seeing as you've been
together for that amount of years(:

How do you download your music? I've always bought everything on iTunes, but honestly I'm not a huge fan of spending hundreds on music. What sites do you recommend for downloading free music? I don't mind spam email, but I don't want to have to respond to offers in order to get the music.

My family and i use a site called Limewire which
we've been using for a while now you don't have to
pay for the music on there...there's also another site called Frostwire which i haven't used but iv'e heard of those are the only two sites i know of(:

what does flat to volume means? i just bought this shampoo and in the front it said "flat to volume" its pantene i love using pantene but i wanted to try a different kind. I appreciate it thanks :)

I looked up the answer seeing as i'm unsure myself
and went onto Pantene's website and read that the
shampoo gently cleanses to give your a style a boost also that the shampoo and conditioner body enhancing system helps you achieve long lasting
volume infused with shine also read that Pantene's flat to volume advanced formula contains micro boosters which prepare your hair structure for volume i tried looking for another definition of the word but was unable to find one(:

http://www.pantene.com/en-US/hair-care-products/product/volumizing-shampoo.aspx

If you'd like to read it for yourself there's the link to the website

So at school there is this girl that I really like. There are no other girls like her. Toward the end of the year, I talked to her more but did not get to ask her out to somewhere. It is summer and I cannot stop thinking about her and I cannot wait until I see her. So for one month I am at a class prep program. This girl that I do not know starts talking to me and being nice, I kind of like her but she's not really my type. It is pretty obvious that she likes me. I am scared that If I really start liking her then I might forget about the girl at my school. I like both but the girl at my school I REALLY like. What should I do? As you can see my name TheLonelySoul, I don't get any attention from girls so I am not used to a girl coming to me and stuff. I am usually the one sitting alone listening to music and not talking. I am, M/15

I think you should choose the girl who you really
like seeing as the other one isn't really your type
and you kind of really her like you seem unsure about her but on the other hand the other girl at your school you really like and feel confident about when choosing you've got to think which girl will make you the happiest and which one you can see yourself with because in the end the main thing that truely counts is that your happy(:

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