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Boyfriend's birthday present
For my birthday i was looking forward to seeing my loved one and spending time with him and of course wondering what kind of gift he would buy me. However unfortunately we couldnt meet up on the day of my birthday because in the afternoon he had people from the town coming in to follow up on the taxes for his business. And in the night i was busy and went out of state. So the next day he calls me up and says he wants to meet up saying he felt bad for not being able to see each other yesterday. So we agreed on 3:30 pm it was around 1 pm at the time, he usually arrives in an hour and a half, but he said he had to stop by somewhere first. I'm thinking maybe he has to get a present so i didnt ask where. So its 3:30 and he calls me up and tells me that he's only 1 exit from where he started. So i tell him you were supposed to be here now but you only went 1 exit in 2 hours thats crazy. He told me yeah there was contruction they blocked the road. ok I'm sorry but thats bs no amount of traffic can make you go only 1 exit in 2 hours, anyway so i ask him why are you so late is it because of where you had to stop off. He says yeah i had to pick up something but i'm on my way i'll be there- which i know will be another 2 hrs and i was upset anyway at everything so i told him to just forget it and we'll try another day. Because after 6:30 i had to get going i had to be somewhere and i told him that. Then he starts argueing with me and we proabably kept calling each other back.. me telling him to turn back and that he would be coming for such a short time and him telling me that he is coming anyway. So finally at 6 he calls me and says i'm here and jokes and says are you going to beat me up. I went in the car, still trying to act nice to him. And he says im sorry im so late and that i couldnt be here yesterday, and he says happy birthday and says i got you something and reaches to the back of the car to get the present. And he pulls out half a dozen roses. I'm still waiting there when i finally realized that that was it. And i just said its very nice thank you. But in my head im thinking flowers, thats it just flowers? they were a bit wilted too, ok wheres the rest, even a card, after all he that he did. I'm thinking someone else would have just taken those flowers and smashed it on his head for not showing up yesterday, being late 3 hrs not telling me why, argueing with me on the phone, and after all that.. 6 wilted roses. I really feel bad for thinking like this but it would have been nice to get some real heartfelt gifts after that. And after about half an hour the date had to come to an end since we ran out of time, now im thinking maybe he planned it like that to meet for just a short time. I just dont know, questions keep popping up in my head. My friends tell me their boyfriend brought them jewelery and other high end quality gifts, which i find hard to believe since they've only been seeing each other for not that long of a time, but now im wondering what kind of presents do guys really buy their girlfriends for their birthdays and why have i alwayss received such small shabby gifts. My boyfriend and i have been seeing each other for 8/9 months now, it was my first birthday with him. Also he owns a business dont you think he can do better, he can definately afford better. He's 33, im thinking he would have some experience on buying birthday gifts and making a partner feel happy. I dont know like i said i feel bad for thinking like this but i also feel bad about what happened, not just the flowers. What do you think, how would you feel and what would you do if you were in my situation? Im sorry i wrote so much. Thank you so much in advance.
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Even though he got you flowers as a present it's the thought that counts he could of gotten you nothing flowers are better then getting nothing i'd feel happy if the person i was dating got me flowers as a birthday present at least he thought of you i don't think he planned it if he said there was construction and that the road was blocked you should believe what he said he wouldn't of said it if it wasn't true or for the sake of saying it i don't think he'd lie to you i could see if the reason was far fetched or was out there but it wasn't it was a realistic reason it was one of those things that you had no control over you can't control there being construction or the road being blocked your boyfriend can't either if i were in your situation i'd accept the flowers he gave you after all it was a present it was a nice gesture you can't throw them away be thankful he got you something even though it was something small and not what you expected he could of gotten you only flowers because he didn't have enough time to get you something more plus he was in the car coming to see you maybe he has something planned and he'll end up making it up to you in the future you never know anything can happen he could catch you off guard and surprise you when you least expect it(:
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Well let's start with the most obvious thing - yes, its sounds extremely shallow to begrudge your bf's gift as "cheap". Yes, he owns a business, but business owners are usually the last to be paid. It costs a LOT to run ANY type of business, plus taxes and the bad economy...perhaps he can't really afford nice things for you and is too embarrassed to tell you. However, I really don't think you are that shallow and I don't think that's what you're really mad about. The point is, he made it sound like he was late because he had something "special" to get for you, then shows up with roses that looked like they'd been sitting for a while. And the whole thing with him leaving late... it does sound weird. Listen, don't compare what he does to other guys, that's never a productive thing. Everyone is different. But DO look at what he's been like recently. Do you have cause to be suspicious? Has he "disappeared" like that before? Has he made up excuses not to see you? In other words, do you have good reason to think he did all that on purpose? If yes, perhaps its time for a heart to heart with him to see where you both stand. If not, you're being too sensitive and you should let this one go. But I have a feeling there's a bit more to this story than you were able to say. Don't hold this in. Talk to him openly (and CALMLY, no TEARS! Guys hate that) and ask him just what the heck all that was about! You can base your next move on what you do or don't hear from him. Good luck! Hope this helped a bit.
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