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Heartbreake help
so i am a 16 year old boy living in Massachusetts. So i had a friend who lived next door to me from like age 10-13, and we were BEST FRIENDS. We did everything together, and i really looked up to him. He moved away when i was 13, but then visited me when i was 15. We kind of fell in love, or at least i fell in love with him. Then this last April i visited him, and we kinda hooked up, but it was purely me doing things to him, but like he asked for them. After that the only thing he ever said to me is "i hate you, never speak to me again. Your a sick fag, get out of my life.". I don't know how to get over this, its crushing me. I was absolutely in love with him.
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NinjaNeer is basically right. Your friend might not be gay, but he's at least bi to some degree. The thing is, some bi guys can't fall in love with other guys - they only like to have sex with them. Some people call this being a "straight-identified" bisexual. That might be what your friend is. But it doesn't excuse him being a dick to you. The important thing is, he doesn't reciprocate your feelings, and that sucks, but there's nothing you can do about it. Just tell him that he had no right to be so rude to you, and you need some time away from him. Hopefully you two can manage to be friends again in a few months - maybe even a year or more - when things cool down. In the meantime, meet new people and just be yourself. Don't let this guy or anyone else make you ashamed of who you are.
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This is a guy who can't come to terms with his own sexuality.
It sounds to me like you're okay with being gay. That's fantastic! However, some people just aren't so lucky. They spend their life living in shame and lies because they refuse to accept that they're gay. It might be because of family, their religion, or society.
It's awful that you got caught up in his insecurity. I would suggest that you wait a while before attempting communication. He needs to grow as a person before he can confront that side of him, but it's not worth destroying an amazing friendship over.
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wait what? im confused so he told you to do things with him bt he didnt really want you too? he just wanted to see if you really liked him? and what he said thats dirty shaking my head why would he say something like that?? but anyways to get over the break up there are a couple things you can do
1 dont think about what happend jus think about all the good times you guys have had togehter.
2dont b sad be happy because it happend
3 live for the moment dnt live in the past im sure that you will find some one who will treat you right =] ! you have your whole life your only 16 ! your young just because you "thought" you loved him doesnt mean it was actually love. you know sometimes our minds play with us we dont really no what love is when we are young and until you find the right person mr right is out there somewhere for you keep your head up k i have hope in you hope i helpedd =]]] !
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