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Miscarried
my bf and I have been together for 6 months he is 18 and in the army and I am 17 still in school. I ended up pregnant and was about 2 months [mind you I got pregnant off our first time having sex so it was kinda hard on us] then I ended up in the hospital for stomach pains and found out I miss carried. Now I am in a deep depression for the last week [that's when we found out] and he has been depressed to. We haven't seen each other since the weekend before i found out and only my mom knows out of our parents I miss carried. We have been fighting a lot and I spend most of my time crying and we haven't been talking as much as we use to. How long will this take and how can I help the process so we stay close and don't brake up but at the same time morn for our baby?
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I'm not sure how long it will take honestly seeing as everyone mourns differently it's alright to cry let it all out you shouldn't feel ashamed to do that or feel afraid it would be bad if you kept everything your feeling to yourself that isn't good to do i think you can help the process by being there for your boyfriend he needs you now more then ever and i don't think he'd be able to go through it alone with the stress of being in the military too i think you should talk to one another not talking would be bad you two being apart you need to depend on one another for strength you can't go through this alone without him don't blame yourself for the miscarriage it was one of those things that just happened unexpectly which you had no control over it wasn't like you knew before hand you were going to have a miscarriage it happens to some girls who are pregnant you aren't alone you have every right to be depressed & to be crying seeing as what your situation is
I'm sorry for your loss my friend recently lost
one of her babies too
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Hi,
I'm sorry about your baby. There is no way in knowing how long this will take. Everybody and every situation is different. To help the process, you have to communicate with your boyfriend on a regular basis. Let him know that you love him and that you will both be able to love your baby even if he/she is in a better place. If you concentrate on the future and not so much on the past, you will be able to work things out easier. To mourn for your baby, you could plant a special tree in its memory. Then water it and visit it as you would with your child. Remember your baby through it and watch it grow. If you are strong for your boyfriend, he will have strength in you and you both will make it through. Never lose hope <3
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