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okay here's the deal : i'm from a girls sch , about 50 of us have been selected for this programme where we will combine with this all guys school and learn together and stuff . We will be going over to their school . the thing is , there are about 150 students in that boys school under this programme at my level .Even though we won't be going there until next year , this thought still freaks me out cos it's like there are going to be so many guys there , and they're all going to think i'm weird and stuff cos i wear glasses and am going to get braces soon . i heard these guys are pretty mean and they tease girls who aren't gorgeous and make fun of them. I am not that bad looking despite my glasses and stuff and am slim and long-legged .okay so the question is : how to fit in ? how to look better with glasses and braces ? just don't tell me something about being myself and not caring what others think cos everyone knows that thats pure bullshit . (link)
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Being yourself is NOT bullshit. Confidence really DOES equal beauty. Think about it- the gorgeous cheerleader in the stereotypical movie- she thinks she's all that, so everyone else does too. And it's like that in real life, too.
Stand tall, smile, hold your head up high. Be smart, don't let anyone insult you, don't be afraid to speak your mind.
On dealing with guys: Guys are a strange breed. Understanding them is not something that comes easily. Outsmarting them, however, can be done with a little bit of skill and smoothness.
1) jokes. Guys love funny stuff.
2) interests. Most guys are into sports and video games. (it's a stereotype, and any guy worth your time will also have other interests, but it's a good starting point)
3) the ultimate secret: most guys don't give a fuck about how much effort you put into making your hair, makeup, outfit absolutely perfect. Most guys are more likely to go for the fresh-faced girl with natural beauty and confidence than the barbie-lookalike who giggles too much and tries too hard.
About glasses/braces. Yes, stereotypically, these two features spell awkwardness and geekdom, but that doesn't mean that just because you have them, you'll be labeled as a freak! Be smart about how you choose makeup, clothes, accessories. Use them to compliment your best features. (for example, wear a cute skirt and boots to show off your long legs)
If the rumors prove to be true, and these guys do try to make fun of you- don't let them! Either ignore them, or give a smartass retort. Tell them to shut the fuck up and leave you alone. Stick close to your girl friends and forget about those jerks. Out of 150 guys, not all of them can be that jerky. Look for the good ones, and make friends with them. Forget the jerks, and advise the rest of the girls to do the same.
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I got a prom dress for my Senior Promt his year last year when they were on sale. My mom made me get it a size bigger tha I am thinking I would grow into it over the year but I haven't. So I was wondering how much do you think it would cost to get it taken in about a half a inch. thanx for any help (link)
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Is there someone you or your mom know that can sew and would be willing to do the alteration for you? Yes, going to a professional is an idea, but it would be a lot cheaper to do it yourself, as long as it's not too complicated of an alteration.
My mom had to alter my prom dress last year, too. It was about an inch or so too big in the boobes. She does sew, so she just took it in with her sewing machine.
If your mom doesn't sew, maybe there's a relative (aunt or grandma), someone at church, or a neighbor that does who'd be willing to do it for you.
If it's just hemming the bottom, that's pretty easy, unless it's one of those super poofy skirts, or it has a lot of layers. Taking in the bust or waist is a little more complicated. Another option if it's spaghetti-straps is to shorten the straps to make it fit better on top.
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okay. well i'm 14 years old and my best friend is a guy. and i do have a boyfriend whom i really love. but my best friend recently has been flirting with me and crap. but i only think of him as a friend and my boyfriend is starting to think i'm cheating on him. i want to tell my friend about what he's doing but i still want to keep him as a best friend...what should i do? how can i tell him to lay off? (link)
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It sounds like your best friend just might have developed a crush on you, so when you talk to him, BE GENTLE.
You do need to talk to him. He needs to know that you love your boyfriend, and that his flirting with you is making your boyfriend jealous and suspicious. He needs to know that you care about him, but just as a friend.
If you go about this correctly, you should be able to save the friendship. Just consider his feelings when you talk to your best friend. Make the conversation short and sweet.
He's your best friend, and he cares about you a lot. He should be able to respect you enough to lay off the flirting, since you have a boyfriend.
Look at it from his point of view. You're a gorgeous girl whom he's got a crush on. You're about to tell him that he can't have you. That's going to hurt. But he cares about you. So he'll respect you, and stop flirting. But it'll take a while for him to get over his crush, if it ever goes away.
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Hey i am 14 and my dad doesnt trust me AT ALL! Is there a way for parents to read what you wrote to other people on aim? If there is, how do I turn it off, or make it so my dad cant read what i am saying? Also, how do i get him to trust me more?? Thanx, eX 0h (link)
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I dealt with the parent-of-a-teen paranoia for all of my teenage years. And it's not over yet. Basically, my dad thinks that anyone I talk to on the internet who's not a friend of mine from school is most likely a 42 year old man with the motive of stalking and molesting me. So to make him ease off and give em a little privacy in my aim conversations, I basically told him that I only talk to my friends, that it's just people I know in real life.
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OK i am going to paris on march 12 for a week with my school and i was just wondering if like anyon new the weather there at that time in march. Is it true that when you go in to the lue that you arnt souspose to show any skin. What time of clothes do they were lyk brown and blacks. Do they were a like pinks and yellow?
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Since you're going with school, ask your teacher/chaperone what to bring... they'll probably have advice and maybe guidlines for you.
When you go to museums and churches and stuff, it is better to wear pants or a long skirt than shorts... but that mostly applies in summer, since you're probably not going to be wearing shorts in march.
Weather is mild, but not overly warm. Think mid-weight jacket, pants, sweatshirts, etc.
Europe tends to be more stylish/trendy than America. So rather than jeans and tennies, they'll wear fashion jeans and heeled boots. But for you, as a tourist, dress for comfort!! Wear what makes you comfortable. Since you're there with school, you'll be around your friends most of the time, and anyone who sees you will probably pick out that you're American anyways, regardless of what you wear. So don't worry about it. Go and have fun.
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Hey...
I was wondering how to get summer-ready when you know that you'll be around guys! I mean everything from the perfect bikini that's sexy but not slutty, the perfect exercises to make me tight and toned, and how to get invited to the best parties...most of my friends are having beach/pool/waterpark parties and I often see *really* hot friends fro school at the local pool, and I want summer love (lack thereof) or a fling or something that can boost my reputation and gain me some friends...aka get me into the popular circle...since I'm friends with like half of the popular people! Anyway, also, if it helps, I'm just under 5 feet am 13 and have an 'A' cup...and I'm thin except for my inner thighs and my abs...I'll rate high...
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Bikini... try a tankini- they cover more, and are flatttering. Especially at your age- there's plenty of time to wear a teeny-weeny bikini when you grow curves. (not to sound condescending, but you did say you don't want to be slutty)
Exercises... sit-ups and exercises for your abs are your best bet. But you need to combine that with cardio. Try running, dancing to music in your room, a sport, pilates, kickboxing, or something else that interests you. For abs- turn on your favorite high energy song and just do sit-ups for the song.
And if your friends are having parties... go to those. Going to parties that you don't know people at doesn't sound like fun. And if these people are your friends, then they'll probably invite you to their parties.
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i've been with my current boyfriend for a long time and he means sooo much to me. but lately, i've become really good friends with my ex. i don't want to give up the bond we've made, but i'm starting to have stronger feelings for him than just friendship and i DON'T want to make a mistake that could hurt my boyfriend who i love! i really need some suggestions on how to clear up any fuzzy boundaries between a friendship and a relationship, please! (link)
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Usually the difference between "friends" and "more" is physical. So if you're set in keeping this relationship with your ex in the friendship zone, you may need to set boundaries for your actions, words, and thoughts about him. You might be okay hugging, other physical contact with other guy friends, but in this case you might have to keep your distance.
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Ok this is a real question i really want to know why do most girls think all guys want is sex it drives me mental because i actually flipped out on someone who asked a question and said anyways dont all guys just want to get laid it drives me mental and i just want to know why they think this cause i know when i get a g/f i actually want a relationship. (link)
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It's all stereotypes: "all guys want is sex" "girls think all that guys want is sex"
So basically, when you meet the right girl, she'll be smart enough to see that you want more out of her than sex.
You can make this happen through your actions: SHOW her that you think of her as a person, not just a piece of ass.
Guys who respect girls gain respect in return.
It's really not that complicated- if you're a nice guy, then nice girls will notice and appreciate you for who you are.
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omg my hair is sooo frizzy and i dont know what to do about it! i've tried many products but nothing seems to work!
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Use a extra-moisturizing conditioner designed for dry hair or one designed for curly hair, like Pantene. I like Pantene smooth and sleek (or the Suave look-a-like- it's cheaper and works just as good). Try only washing your hair every other day.
Do you live in a humid climate? I know my hair is always more frizzy when it's humid. On humid days, I just say "screw it" and wear a pony tail or a hat. Then on good days I make the attempt to have good hair. (sometimes it works, other days it doesn't)
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i like two guys but i only told one of them i lliked them and the other is my ex but he thinks i dont like him ne more. and the guy i told that i liked him im starting to not like him no more. and i want to have my ex back realli badly but hes gotta gf.plz help. from 15/female/new jersey (link)
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You've got to respect the fact that your ex has moved on. He's got a new girlfriend. So until they break up (if they break up) he's off limits.
As for this other guy- if you're starting to not like him anymore, make sure you're not leading him on in your actions. Especially if he's acting like he likes you back. If he doesn't like you, then it's easy- just let the chemistry fizzle out.
Bottom line: It's OKAY to be SINGLE! Crushes are called crushes for a reason- they're supposed to hurt. They're not meant to be easy- they can be damn confusing at times. But that's normal.
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Okay well Im going out with this kid Lucas... he is a year younger then me... Im 13 hes 12... I have never made out with anyone... & I am really ashamed of that kinda... idk... so yea weve been goin out for 3 weeks today... and hes on my bus n all my friends are stupid n they are always tryin to get us to make out n stuff... n I just feel like weird especially on the bus where everyone can see us... I dont know if he has ever made out with anyone... I think he has because his last g/f he went out wit he was with for almost a year... also in the back of my mind I keep thinking that he doesnt really like me and i cant help but be paranoid... n Ive been ignoring sitting with him on the bus n stuff just to avoid kissing n stuff... idk..
So I guess im just asking for advice on what to do about kissing and how to stop being so paranoid! any help you can give would be great!!
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You're right- your friends are stupid.
Kissing just because other people are telling you to is NOT the right reason to kiss someone- especially someone you care about, and even more so someone you don't care about. Which is why I never got games like Spin the Bottle and 7 minutes in Heaven.
So tell your friends to shut up and leave you alone.
Talk to Lucas- he needs to know that you're not ignoring him because you don't like him, but because your friends are making you feel uncomfortable and stuff.
Maybe you and Lucas can come up with a plan to completely freak out your friends- play a practical joke of sorts on them or something. I don't have any really brilliant suggestions for you, but perhaps you can think of something. For example, next time a friend bugs you to kiss Lucas, turn and kiss them instead (not necessarily on the lips- you'd probably shock them even with a cheek kiss).
When you do kiss Lucas, or any other boy, it should be because YOU want to, and it should (ideally) be special.
Also- don't be ashamed at never having made out at age 13. I was still "never been kissed" at age 18. (this has since changed, and making out is one of my favorite things to do in private with my bf, but still something I do not do in public!)
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ok well i like this guy and i dont' know if he likes me back, well he's been flirting with me here lately and he always talks to me and stuff.
me and him used to fight all the time and then we started to be friends. when we have lunch he sits beside me , but he used to date on of my best friends, but they broke up about a month ago.they are still friends but they hardley talk to each other anymore. so i actually have have two quesitons do you think he likes me and if he does do you think that his x-girlfriend and my friend will be mad at me if i ask him out.
please help me (i rate high)
thanx***
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I'd say there's a pretty good chance he likes you, since he's paying you special attention and going out of his way to be near you and stuff.
My advice? Talk to your friend about him. Does she know you like him? How does she feel about you dating him? Why did she break up with him? that sort of thing. If she's supportive of you asking him out, then go for it!
However, if your friend thinks you shouldn't ask him out, you probably shouldn't. ALWAYS put friendship before ANY guy. But on the other hand, you don't want to miss out on dating a great guy just because your friend dated him first.
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I'm in my 2nd semester at a jr college and was going to go to SDSU, but now I really don't wanna go there anymore. I wanna go out of state or upstate. Also I could stay at the jc for another year. I have no idea what I should do. I'd like to hear some ideas and please no rude comments.
Signed,
going nowhere (link)
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Talk to your advisor/people in admissions. Also- check out different colleges just like you would have done as a high schooler. And do it soon! If you don't want to go to SDSU, don't go there. Look at Minnesota colleges, NDU, and wherever else you think interests you. Find out how your credits will transfer, and what the programs are like for the major you're interested in (assuming you have a major- if not, check out programs you might be interested in). Do you have friends from high school who went to different 4 year schools? Talk to them- see how they like the schools they're at. Think about how it would be to be far away from family/friends if you went to an out-of-state school. That would be a huge change- and as a transfer student, adjustment and making new friends would take time.
Also, since it's still your first year at jc, it probably wouldn't hurt to stay there one more year while you figure out what you want to do. Continue to take general classes, and use the rest of this time to make goals and check out different schools.
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I have met this new friend. My bestfriend doesn't like her. I like her. The new friend is mean to my bestfriend but not to me. I want to be friends with both of them. What should i do? (link)
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Spend time with them individually, if you really want to be friends with both.
However, do you really want to be friends with a girl who is mean to people?
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my friend is a senior and wants me to go to prom. well she found us dates and she didnt tell me but they are gay. and both of those guys are goin out. i mean what if he dont wanna go to me and is like all over his boyfriend what should i do? (link)
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Prom is expensive (at least at most schools) I mean, there's the dress, dinner, and ticket, at the very minimum. Most girls also spend $ on hair, makeup, shoes, sometimes nails, pictures, limo, and more. Even if these guys are going to pay for dinner, ticket, limo, pictures (as applicable), it's still not a cheap night. If you're going to be uncomfortable, you won't have a good time, and it isn't worth the money.
My advice? Try to find another date for you and your friend.
Then again, it could be really fun with these guys. Look at it this way- most gay guys are better dancers than straight ones. Many gay guys are hot- nice hair, smell good, will look good in the tux. They'll know how to pick out a tasteful corsage. They'll know to coordinate colors of their tux and the flowers to your dress. You know he's not going to be looking at other girls. It could turn out to be a really fun night! It's just like if your date were one of your guy-friends- no romance, just a fun night. Except this guy isn't straight.
My advice should you choose to stick with the gay guys? Hang out with them a couple times between now and prom to get an idea as to whether or not you and your friend would have fun with them. Go bowling, or to a movie, or shopping (another good thing about gay guys- they can give great fashion advice and make great shopping buddies!)
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Hello!! I hope ya'll can help me! I'm sorr its so long but its a long story!! Okay here is my scenario. My birthday was at the end of January, and my boyfriend had already been planning our Valentine's date. He asked me if it would be alright if he gave me my birthday gift along with my Valentine's gift because it would make it easier on him, so of course i told him yes. Well, On Saturday (which was our Valentine's day because i had to work Monday) he took me to dinner, then he blindfolded me and took me to... a hotel. BUT before you judge, it was very romantic. He had his friends come and light the candles he had set up EVERYWHERE and rosepedals, the whole deal. And we had planned to have sex for our first time, not necessarily then but we had stopped ourselves a couple of times because we wanted to wiat until it would be special. Which this was. Okay, well moving on, besides all of this, he didn't get me like flowers or a bear or even a card. I spent like $70 on him with gifts and whatnot. But i wasn't too mad because i assumed he had sent me a carnation at school (Our school has sales where you can buy a carnation for someone for V-Day and writea message and then we got them on Monday 9*) Well i of course sent him one, and i waited but he never sent me one. I went to his house after work and i brought over peanut butter heart shaped cookies (His fav!) and still nothing. This made me really mad because he didn't even get me a stinkin carnation!! I got pretty upset and left. Now am i overreacting? I mean he did spend money on me but i'm the type of person who appreciates little things like a flower or a box of choc, he didn't have to go buy a hotel or anything, i just wanted a carnation :( Lol, AND he still hasn't given me anything for my birthday!! Shouldi be mad? (link)
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The Saturday night date was probably really expensive for him. In his mind, spending that much money on the hotel WAS the valentine/birthday gift. Guys don't always get that us girls like the traditional sappy gifts.
My advice? Talk to him about it. If your relationship is serious enough for you to be having sex, you should be able to bring up something like this. Tell him how much you liked Saturday, how special it was, but that you'd have liked a little something special for Valentine's day besides. Make it clear that you DO appreciate all the money he'd spent, and that not every gift he gives you has to be expensive. Besides, the hotel wasn't just for you- he got something out of that one, too ;-)
One caution- this probably isn't the case, but look for signs that he's just using you for sex. There are guys out there like that. Hopefully him not giving you a tangible valentine was just an oversight, but you never know.
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i have to memorize a sonnet for my english class and i am having a horrible time. i've tried making flash cards, recording it and listening to it, but nothing i'm doing seems to work. do y'all have any advice on how to memorize (if you need to see it, it's shakespeare's sonnet #148). thanks so much!! (link)
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Do you have a friend in the class you could practice with and help each other? Or someone at home willing to help you practice?
Flash cards are great. So is memorizing line by line. Another idea- make a flashcard that gives hints only for the first letters of some words.
Write the sonnet over and over. Write it as it's read to you, or copy it from a printed version. Or have someone give you the first part of the line and you finish the rest.
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okay i none this kid Joe for the last 4 years,fell in love with him! i broke up with my boyfriend to go out with joe (but i also broke up with him because i heard he was payed to go out with me!) any way sooo joe asked me out first i said once i break up with my boyfriend,so i did,and then jeo goes "never mind" and his friend robert told me why...because joe thinks i "played" my Ex boyfriend. and he doesn't wanna be played!! i wanna go out with him soo bad! he likes me and all! but how do i get him to beilve i wont play him!
please help i rate high!!
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Give it some time! Continue to be Joe's friend for at while... show him through your actions that you're a decent girl. Try to tone down your flirting when he's around, and always be genuine and truthful.
Joe has a right to be cautious- many girls DO play games, and you did just dump your ex. So it's up to you to show him that you're a sweet, kind girl and would make a great girlfriend.
Friends first is often the best answer... and since you've already known joe for 4 years, you've got a good solid base. Now you just have to prove to him that you dumped your ex because he was a jerk- not because you're a jerk.
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ok... my boyfriend and i really really like eachother... but online i don't no what to say to him... i want to make him laugh and he already knows my hobbies and i already no his... what are some FUNNY topics that will make him laugh... i'll rate 5's for everyone who answers i swear! (link)
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I've got news for you: most guys aren't as big into talking as us girls. So if your boyfriend can't find anything to chat about online with you, don't sweat it. Focus instead on having fun together IN PERSON- it's much more effective in building a relationship.
If you really need conversation starters- try going for deeper stuff. Not just silly jokes. Talk about your childhood- ask questions like "what do you remember most about kindergarten?" "what's the craziest thing you've ever done?" "what was your most memorable birthday?" "who's your most embarassing relative?" "did you prefer swings or sandbox?" "how old were you when you learned to ride a bike?" and other questions like these. Talking about the past usually brings up funny stories for most people- stories like that are easy to tell and fun to hear about.
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okay my friends name is holly and her boyfriend's name is zach. theyve been going out since about december, maybe a little before. i basically set them up because they are honestly the perfect couple. its just that sometimes i feel like she prefers to hang with him over me. i was in the hall talking to her one day and then along comes zach and i was in midsentence. then she just walks away with him. I WAS IN MIDSENTENCE! she didnt say goodbye or anything. its sortof making me wonder. i dont know if its just jealously - but my other friends are noticing it too. honestly - they are perfect for each other. and i dont want them to break up. this past weekend we went to the movies and she asked if she could take him. i wanted it just to be us girls but finally she convinced me that he had to come. she said 'im only over his house today for two hours and i never see him' when she sees him everyday for at least like 2 hours. how can i let her know that she sortof needs to let him go, not break up, but detach herself from him when it comes to going out to the movies or anywhere with FRIENDS? im sorry this was so long, but i rate high! =) thanks so much
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It sounds like Holly and Zach are twitterpated. (if you've never heard the word- go watch Bambi) Twitterpation means that those two lovebirds are so caught up in making goo-goo eyes at each other and enjoying each other's company that they may forget about those aroudn them. You have to not let it bother you too much- go hang out with your other friends. Or invite Holly do do girly activities like makeover nights and watching chick flicks- stuff that Zach would not want to be included in.
Another possibility- find yourself a boyfriend and you can double date! Does Zach have any cool friends?
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