about

hi, im marissa, and im HXC, and im a hippie, and im opinionated, and im fucking crazy. and i have gone through alot of shit in my life, so i have answers to some problems from personal expirence. im almost 16, but i want out of my house. im in a relationship, and its been going on for over a year. he means the world to me. i love my life, and i cherish it. but i do live on the edge, and i like to go fast. i know breaking laws is bad, but its like an addiction to me. i am the treasurer of my schools gay straight aliance, and i get alot of shit for it. but it dosent affect me. i havee alot of friends. and im with them 24'7. and i would not have it any other way. im always faced with tough decisions and fears... long story. but im a pretty interesting person.

advice

What is a good fast way to gain muscle mass?

in the arms :: push ups
in the legs :: swimming
there are other things you can do, but i find those the easiest.
hope i helped.

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ok well i have a huge problem and its that me and my gurl have been dateing for about 5 months now and we are really close i love her more than anything and we are 15 i know i know people say that you cant fall in love when your as younge as us but personally i think thats a bunch of bull shi* but the problem is we are thinking about a kid and we are both really wanting to like BAD so what do you think i should do PLEASE HELP ::..Thanx..::

hey. aww you guys sound totally in love. i wish i had a love life lol. but anyways. a kid is a big thing. i would wait alittle. since you have only been together 5 months and all. if you want a kid, go ahead... im just saying my friend got pregnant last year and it was hell for her. she could not stand right, she could not sit in certain seats, people made fun of her. she ended up having a abortion. i would if i were you wait like another month, maybe 2, and then rethink it. its up to you. if you do have a kid, i think you should name it after me lol, just kidding. hope i helped.



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my names marissa =] lol. your welcome, im always here if you need advice.

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this boy used to call me like everynight and IM me and stuff and then at school be MEAN and like really rude in front of his friends. Than this weekend , he called me to hangout with him and his friend.... I couldnt because I was going somewhere. Than that night at like 2 am he called me twice.
The next day, I went for a walk and he saw me and screamed my name out of the car window and called me like right after that , and then i went for another walk and i saw him and his friend and he like talked to me for like a split second and then kinda ignored me.
Then that night, I IMed him [i never really IM him] and I said "hey is it raining where you live"
He says " Did I say you could IM me?"
I said "ugh no?"
He says "then dont talk to me"
then he says
"haha jk, but yeah its raining"
and i felt like shit.
Whats going on??


[by the way he has a girlfriend and im 13]

wow. he seems like a ass. he A. likes you but is embarassed by you. B. he likes you as more then a friend and dosent want his friends knowing/ and or he likes you and doesnt know how to act. C. his friends hate you, so he just does what they do.
it could be any of those or something else. dont talk to him about it, unless you feel like its nessacary. hope i helped

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There's this girl I'm interested in annd I plan on taking her out on a date buut I dont know where to go! I want to take her to dinner and go do something that is interactive, which allows us to talk and get to know eachother (unlike a movie where you just sit there...).


I want to make our first date incredible and I really want to impress her. I met this girl in first grade and when we graduated into Jr. High our paths went seperate directions. we've seen eachother a few times randomly over the years but it wasnt untill this year that she transfered to my highschool that we've truly reconnected. I dont know why I care so much about impressing her, its weird because Im normally not that way.



Any and all ideas/suggestiosn would be greatly abpprecitaed!

hey! aww thatss so sweet. i really hope i help with this. i would say maybe ice skating. or minni golfing, i know its kiddy but its a sweet thing to do. another kinda kiddy thing is bowling. or if you live in like the city.. go walking around the city. or maybe ask her what she might wanna do/go, then indorpartate(sp?) it with your ideas.

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After I straighten my hair it goes wavy after like 10min. Then I straighten it again, and it gets better. Still I want it straight the first time, does anybody now any tips I could use?


*Thanks

my hair does thee same thing. go to like a store like target or something and get like a spritzer for your hair. it helps so then when you straighten your hair it will not burn as badly. and it helps you get your hair straighter. hope i helped.

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I'm in nineth grade and I write songs and poetry.
I want to read a poem I wrote about my ex boyfriend in front of the whole school.

But the problem is, I get nervous easily.
I read it for my mom and I kept running out of breath and stopping. and when I was done reading, I was shaking.
If I can't read it in front of my mom, how can I read it to 3,000 people?

any advice on how I can overcome this?
I have always wanted to do this but I'm scared.
And I don't want to mess this up in front of everyone.

i get nervous uber easily. just think about it this way... you could mess up, or theres a 50% chance you can do it perfectly. practice it around other people. see how that works. =] hope i helped

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hey one more question . sorry .. lol you know the movie mean girls ? and janis the emo/goth girl ? i LOVE her makeup . anyone know how to do it like that ?! you could go on google and do images and search it if you forgot how it looked .. but yeah . thank you so much i wanted to do my makeup like that tonight for a date with this emo boy that i love lol so if you answer this questionnn soooooooooon thatd be great and id appreciate it a lot . thank you ..


hanna

its a simple heavy black eyeliner put on her inner lid of the bottom set of lashes. and then like blush lighter then her skin. hope that helps. oh ps. if it dosnt seem right, dont blame me, i just got that instruction thing from a website. lol

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im 14 and about 5`3-5`4 and 110 pounds and my waist is like 31 inches so I'm wondering would I fit into a size 2 mini skirt at abercrombie and fitch? or what size fits me because I'm buying the skirt on ebay and i dont know what size i am.

hey. uhm some edvice. im 115 same height... and i just fit into a size 4, if i were you, get a size up. like a 4. k hope i helped.

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I have a best friend named Jonathan, and we're really close. We know everything about eachother and we do everything together.
Last weekend, we were hanging out at my house and we started making out. and it lead to sex.
But his penis was too big. and it hurt so we stopped.

It was so embarrassing. what do I do? we still hang out like old times. but I feel awkward. and how can I get over my 'little' problem?

hey =]. i would not worry about it. if it feels like its awkward between you two, talk about it. or make little jokes about it. just try and like work things so its back to like how it was before. hope i helped.

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I am bulimic. Does God hate me for it?
It's a sin.

hey. i dont know what God is thinking but if he hates you, one of the people he created, then he hates me to. im a suffering anorexic. i look at it this way. God might not be real to some people. but if he has a problem with what im/your doing he can send us to hell. i would not worry about it. =]

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im not sure where this really belongs... i was told that i was anorexic... by a doc. so now i think it is time to face the facts... but i dont know what to do... people tell me that i should just eat .. but its so much harder than that... people keep telling me its all in my head... but idk... they are scaring me.. i dont know if im ready to get over this yet... or even where to start... and the worst thing is... i have no suport... family and friends... i already tryed... my nutricionist... all aginst me... and my counsolor.. she just acts like its a one step process... i really dont know what to do... can some one help me??
thanks bunches!
xoxoxoxo

hi.
i have been suffering from a on and off case of anorexia for about a little over a year now. i know exactly what your going through. it is all in your mind though. anorexia is ussauly caused by a feeling of not being able to controll anything. when anorexia had started for me, i was somewhere i did not want to be, my dads mind was going, i had lost my best friend, everything was messed up. i could not controll any of it. its still hard for me sometimes to even get food into my mouth. this might be hard to do, but i would go to rehab or check yourself into a clinic asap. hope i helped.

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At the beginning of summer, I started developing an eating disorder. I didn't know why I wouldn't eat and I didn't understand why it was happening but it scared me and the rest of my family. My mom wanted to take me to the doctor but I kept telling her that I was fine and everything was okay. Not long after, I was volunteering at the hospital and passed out. My mom then decided that she was going to take me to the doc. By the time she took me, things were starting to get better for me and I was eating normal again. The doctor took blood work and told me that the blood work was fine. I've figured out why I haven't been eating. When things get bad for me or something happens that just makes me really upset, I don't eat and it's something I can control. Other things happen to me that I can't control but food is the one thing that only I can control. When I'm happy and life is good, I can eat like a pig. What should I do to stop this?

hey.
i have been suffering from anorexia that goes and comes at random times for about a year and a half. try and maintain your stress level, stress can deff. put you in moods that might make you angry and sad, which ussauly is when anorexia/eating disorders start to kick in hard. get a good amount of sleep. try and make your self as happy as possible. there not much i can do to help you. but i hope i helped.

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okay, so my girlfriend and i have known each other for only over a year, and we dated for 5 months, then broke up (terrible for both of us) and she cut herself, now we are back together for 3 months and she still does it every so often... is there anything i can do to help her, becuase i know that she wants to stop, and every time she does it, she feels so terrible about it, it nearly makes her sick, and all of this is absolutly killing me, what can i do to help her?? please i only want good answers...

hi.
i use to cut. its something you need to get her help with. this might be hard to do. and she might resent you for this. but i would have to say try and get her into theropy or rehab. theres not much else you can do.

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My girlfriend of 10 months recently broke up with me because of the way I treated her. She is already messing around with someone else. We were madly in love. How do I get her back?

hey. wow that sucks. i would not beilive any of the stuff coming out of her mouth. only an idiot would think there "just friends." i know this might be really hard to do, but go flirt with other girls. make her jelous( iknow my spelling sucks, ignor it lol =] ) make her see what she is missing. but if your the kind of guy that would not do that. try something like this : talk to her, mantian a friendship with her. talk to her friends, find out what they do together. i was in a long relationship at a young age, we broke up after 8 months, i know thats not as long as your relationship. but i know, its extremly hard getting over it. i hope i helped.

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Me and my best guy friend talk all the time on AIM. Mainly every night before school. But I have 2 classes with him, and he RARELY talks to me in class. Is there a reason for this? It kind of makes me upset.

hey.
guys can be complete jack offs sometimes. like my ex bf for exaplme.. great when it was just me and him. but around his friends he use to ignore me. guys do that alot. he might be embarrassed by you. he might just be really nervouse around you in person when there other people around. i say that last part because, he might have told other people in those classes stuff about you. and maybe he dosnt want you finding out. i would talk to him about it.

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Me and my boyfriend want to have sex 14/f. i am a virgin, and i dont know where we will have it. please dont say im too young, im really ready, but i just dont know where to do it.

so i was wondering if you could share stories from your first time

hey.
i dont think your too young at all. but dont say your ready cause once virginty is gone... its gone. think about these questions, do you really love him? would you die for him? if he jumped off a cliff would you jump to?
its up to you what you choose to do. just think about it this way... virginty is like a bubble once its gone, its gone.
im a virgin, and i choose to be... maybe its because im not ready, or maybe its becuase i dont want to have a boyfriend.
okay so, i hope everything works out. and i hope i helped. have fun with whatever happens. use a condom =] bye

ps. certain condoms make your mouth numb. lol




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im editing my answer. i was just trying to help. if you dont know where to do it, then you might not be ready. sorry if i dident help.

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